anitank:
Yes sire! Note taken

Sweet.gurl:
@Dmcdad... Point taken. Thanks

dmcdad:

We guys Now you are generalizing because it's what you do... I can NEVER do that no matter what. Anyone that is not willing to accept me the way I am, should board the next available flight to HELL... Gosh!!!

D sage: @op, since you're not a male, you cannot know how the men feel when they meet a lady they really love especially beautiful one. It's natural my dear.

Men are not to be blame but those women that often demanded materials things with the aim of paying back by sex.

Suprises: @Op
If spending real money on a sexy gal like u is labelled gold digging then i wil endorse it.Mehn...U luk so pretty,i wil be in brisbane in 3weeks time,wil like to see u then

Sweet.gurl:
Gold digging occurs in every country including western nations. However, it seems like Nigerians have taking it to the EXTREME. For the sake of the post i would focus on Nigeria and my observation.

From my observation from Nollywood movies (? yes...i watch them lol), nairaland and the few Nigerians I know who live there, gold digging is an epidemic in Nigeria, particularly among women (young women to be precise). I notice that on all the threads that i have read to do with relationship on NL gold digging is mentioned. Some men vent their anger and despise of the act and some even go as far as insulting women because they have been hurt and taking advantage of. I must point out that MEN are to be blamed for the increasing rate of female gold diggers in Nigeria. So men, before you insult your ex girlfriend, fiancée, wife or the lady you currently have your eyes set upon but cannot afford, turn to your male friend and blame him for the situation. There are a few reasons why I say its men’s fault. Please read carefully.

1. Men give it free . Why would a girl bother when she can get it free Don’t get me wrong, give her gifts because you want to NOT because she asks. If doesn’t have the money, encourage her to get a job, pay half or make a deal with her of some sort (work out a way for her to pay you back with money NOT sex. You should only pay p.rostitutes for s.ex (unless she is one). Buying her whatever she wants doesn’t help her develop.

2. The meaning of love can be redefined based on experience and familiarity. If the last 3 men your girlfriend had dated or the last 20 men that have chased her have given her material things to show their love for her... she begins to identify materialism and gifts as love, which is why she may expect the same from you if you love her.

3. Men pay to keep. As long a man continues to buy a woman what she want and give her money to keep her, she will continue to expect it and more. She is threatening you, let her go or get her help.

4. Men like to show off. According to Foxnews, “Men would buy a Porsche because they believe it makes them more attractive to women “. Men who use their money to attract women are telling women that they have plenty more where that come from and would be happy to spend it on them. This can be compared to a lady who dresses like a w.hore and flaunts herself to man. She is saying “im available for s.ex”. She’s advertising her body, his advertising his money.

Men, please stop blaming the women and start blaming men for female gold diggers. If they are no males giving ther would be no females expecting. Remember: it all started with one man, and the girl did what most girls would do and spread the word. . If it started with a man giving it can end with a man not giving.

Sweet.gurl:


Thank u for the compliment. You can keep ur money. Wld u be in Brisbane? I'm
in Syd. But will be great to catch up if u are around. PM me.

tny60: to me this is just a symptom of guys reaching above their level.

if an ugly or old man want to date a beautiful or young woman, he has no chance naturally because they are on different levels. the beautifully young woman is not naturally attracted to such an old or ugly man. but when money comes into the equation, it levels the playing field so that the beautiful woman agrees to date the ugly man. money in this case is used as a bribe to woo the lady who wouldn't otherwise be interested.

I'm not saying there is anything wrong with this. In fact, there is a positive in it because it encourages men to work hard. ie. work hard, make money, and you will get the woman of your dreams. type thing. but why the woman is being abused and portrayed as a gold-digger is beyond me.

so the point is:
society is so sexist that we have abuses and derogatory words for women. But no such word exists for a guy.
we have a word for prostitute but no word for a guy that patronizes a prostitute.
we have a name for a gold-digger but where is the word for a guy that's chasing after an arm-candy rather than find true love or date on his level?

a rich man is to a woman what a beautiful woman is to a man. end of story.

usermane:
You see thats is where u r mistaken @dmdcad. I wasn't generalising but i said 'a lot of men' and of course u can bear witness to that. 'A lot' does'nt mean 'all' but a high percentage, >90% in this case.
Also when i mentioned 'we men are too superficial', i wasn't generalising. Believe me, a lot of guys would overlook good character/manners for beauty but will not overlook beauty for good character/manner however @usermane is not that type of guy.

opetiti: Ur gf meets an already made man,u call her a gold digger bt ur sista meets an already made man u say it's a favour frm God. Hummmmmmmm

warrior101:
2. It is rare for a working class lady to date a poor guy. (Unless she is out of date. LOL and even at that she still tries to belong)

mystiqueem: Gold Diggers She be miner? Lol!

On a serious note: lets cast our minds back to the past when women only love for LOVE.
1. She suffers through hardship with him
2. Prays and fast daily for God Almighty to help him find his feet.
3. Sometimes do unmentionable things 'so he can eat, cloth and have transport fare for occasional running around'
4. Gets beaten by him but takes it as frustration
5. Even rebukes her family for telling her to move on and so on

When he lands a contract or a good paying job [probably thru her connections]. How does she get repaid?

She's treated with disrespect and cast aside... replaced with a fresh, younger looking babe!

Truth is guys don't like to be reminded of their past failures...
So they leave the ones that knows the truth about their wealth and
Pick new people that worships them because of it!

Ladies learned from her ancestress mistakes and swore NEVER AGAIN!
.... that's what guys call GOLD DIGGING _ Today!

[size=16pt]MEN ARE TO BLAME![/size]

D sage: @op, since you're not a male, you cannot know how the men feel when they meet a lady they really love especially beautiful one. It's natural my dear.

Men are not to be blame but those women that often demanded materials things with the aim of paying back by sex.

huni_naija:

Hehehe that one too dey? See me thinking it was platinum university of diamonds academy all this while

mystiqueem: Gold Diggers She be miner? Lol!

On a serious note: lets cast our minds back to the past when women only love for LOVE.
1. She suffers through hardship with him
2. Prays and fast daily for God Almighty to help him find his feet.
3. Sometimes do unmentionable things 'so he can eat, cloth and have transport fare for occasional running around'
4. Gets beaten by him but takes it as frustration
5. Even rebukes her family for telling her to move on and so on

When he lands a contract or a good paying job [probably thru her connections]. How does she get repaid?

She's treated with disrespect and cast aside... replaced with a fresh, younger looking babe!

Truth is guys don't like to be reminded of their past failures...
So they leave the ones that knows the truth about their wealth and
Pick new people that worships them because of it!

Ladies learned from her ancestress mistakes and swore NEVER AGAIN!
.... that's what guys call GOLD DIGGING _ Today!

[size=16pt]MEN ARE TO BLAME![/size]

shymexx: Pleep, I'm highly disappointed in you... You're meant to be our most potent anti-feminism foot soldier on the forum, however, you've sold out to become a flip-flopper!!

If men are to be blamed for female gold diggers, perhaps they're also to be blamed for female prostitution then because the two lifestyles are interchangeable...

I've got absolutely no problem whatsoever with female gold diggers as long as they can reciprocate the value of the "gold" they're digging from me/people(my mum never raised no fool)... However, I can't stand the blame game - women need to start taking responsibilities for their own actions!!