Mehn,the hardship is too much people re loosing it on daily basis,who knows what 'll happen if this man eventually wins 2019.

kolawoleibukun:
OP I understand your case. It is normal but a very dangerous phase in life. You are pretty young and at this age you can be prone to divert your sexual orientation. You have sexual assuages that are not met. You need some loving but you cannot commit yourself to a relationship. You have an ego and that makes you picky with girls. You have a moral standing (perhaps) that controls your conscience.

Trust me, it is difficult to explain your situation to anyone because the majority will not understand. They will callously tell you that it is normal and that is it. You need more than that. What you really need is a guide. At his stage, you will not find the correct answers with anyone simply dismissing your case. If you can commit yourself with someone who can be there for you to fill the void in your life, you will feel better.

We all say that we are not gays but the fact is that there are times when you feel inclined to fall on a guy not because you are gay but because mentally he fills a space that no one else does. If you are on the flamboyant side for real (good looking), the few persons that might sound close to anything tangible around you might be seeking to use you to assuage their own cravings. Your case is the reason why many people turn gays. Not that they were born gays but they find completion in things that are material and not for the soul.

I was in your situation and about 80% of the things you wrote was my life. I was the last in the family and the attention started to disappear as I grew up. It all started with the things that you consume mentally and the people that you have around you. As it stands, you do not have a real friend. You are probably left to yourself after the show ends. You are pretty shy to open up and it is sometimes good because people are too busy with their own problems and they will make a mockery of your situation.

A good thing that you open up now because this is one of the the reasons why people turn Psychopaths and get homicidal later in their years when mid life crisis takes the stage. Marriage does not solve a case like this and neither do girls. That is something people do not know.

Firstly, what you need is you, Peter. You need to understand that you need yourself before anyone else in this world. You need to know that you are normal. You need to know that you need to stay alive. You need to know that your life and world is worth exploring. Your mind is larger than the normal minds and that is the space that you need to fill. You must understand that your body craves for something that money cannot buy. It is a powerful machine working actively yet it is so fragile. Look out!

Secondly, as people grow in body mass, naturally they change their wardrobes. It is time for you to shake up your circle of friends. Friends and same old cycle must go. You need a fresh breath (environment, habit and people). Your addiction to porn must end. You must fight to stay clean and healthy. Standing against red light angels (hoes) means that you still have some moral standing. Clean up your circle of friends and start anew. Take a trip if you can. Learn a new skill. Write a book about what you are going through. Reach out to sufferers like you and learn more about this.

Nigerians neglect mental or psychological struggles. We do not believe in it so the average mind will trash your cash. So, reach out to like sufferers and learn of their struggles and success. Pursue your dream and pursue it hard. You need mental development and you need to stay humble.

Girls do not fall for you because you have very low self esteem and confidence and that projects your effort negatively. They do not see you as a good partner. Trust me, girls need protection and you do not have it. They will collect your money and move. You might have a good pick up line but you do not have anything in you to make a conversation linger. You need GROWTH in all ramifications.

Sex is not what you need. Nigerians commenting here are so dull. All they know is sex sex sex. It sucks!

What do you have a passion for?

Mehn! this is the best write up so far,kola can I chat u up privately if u wouldn't mind.

Eh! Money is good can u hear them say mrs halima Buhari -sheriff, & the official physician to the first lady Jamal Mohammed, Both arrived Stuttgart (Germany) today on Bombardier challenger 600.this is not a fit for a common man just to wait for Yusuf 's arrival.(who dash monkey banana)

Very soon the Oshogbo weed wee him take go soon clear for em eyes .

ubunja:

its called Hypergamy. a woman wants the highest status man available around her.unless you force women to accept all men women will choose the few top dogs and crowd around those few best men while avarage dudes go lonely. its Evolution.only the strongest gets to reproduce.just as the strongest sperm gets the egg.so also the strongest man gets the woman.you have seen it at parties.5 avarage dudes crowd around 1 gal trying to impress her. while 5 gals crowd around 1 Alpha top dog all vying for his attention.women only want the Very Best.and they dont mind sharing that Very Best.hence women will fight over 1 man while avarage single lonely guys look on wondering why those women dont drop the cheating guy and come to them.the women cant.the avarage dudes dont have high SMV (sexual market value).they dont have what it takes.
women only find roughly 20% of men sexy.the rest are just walking wallets,ATMs and unpaid body guards.fit to be used and discarded.its the persuit of the 20% that makes women choosy.the 20% are handsome fit & healthy arrogant jerks commonly called Badboys.their sperms are in demand.the 80% of men will only get to marry coz they can financially support a woman NOT coz a woman found them sexy and irresistable.this painful truth is called The Red Pill.
even thou women only find 1/5 of the male population hot, they realise there are not enough top dogs to go around for every woman. so women compromise.they become content to atleast have the 20%'s babies and then get the 80% to raise those babies.its called Cuckoldry. while the 20% provide the sperms, the 80% provide the dollars to raise the babies.thats why dating women with kids is discouraged.coz you are automatically deleting your own sperms to push forward the sperm products of another man. but Single Mothers usually win coz they then offer the step father True Love. ask any man who ever dated a single mother and he'll tell you no woman on this earth loves deeper stronger and sweeter like a Single Mother.its a Single Mother's way of ensuring the offspring of the 20% get good upbringing.

too much information. i hope you find your answer in there.

U have really quenched my curiosity on this subject, thanks so much for the explanation.

ubunja:

women never do anything without a reason.the reason they say ALL MEN ARE DOGS is so that they avoid taking blame for their sh!tty choice in men.women love the lowest of the low motherfvckers.they say ALL men are low so no one can blame them.if anyone said "woman you cant choose good men for yourself" she will answer "how do you expect me to get a good man when all men are dogs."
and so she avoids blame.something women specialize in.

But why been chossy with whom they give it to (to me that is a very big question waiting for an answer).

ubunja:

your statistics are way off the mark.
remember the majority of guys are in Friendzones.meaning they are not even having sex,let alone cheating.
also factor in the epidemic of masturbation and porn and you'll see that actually a very small percentage of men are getting real regular sex (around just 20% of all men not married).
now the reason it appears to girls like its 90% of guys that cheat etc is that women have what can be called "If-you-are-not-sexy-you-dont-exist" vision. to best explain this selective vision is to take women's popular complaint:" Where have all the men gone?" what does that mean when women say it? does it mean something happened to a huge group of men and they disappeared? no. it simply means : Where are the ELIGIBLE men?. sure, men are everywhere.but where are the DATE-ABLE MEN?.so to women the un-date-able simply dont exist.they are invisible. (like how old and ugly women are invisible to men.a guy will come to a party with dozens of ugly gals and shout :"dude!where are the chicks?!". the chicks are there alright.but to him they dont qualify so they might as well not exist)
back to my example.when women say 90% of men cheat it simply means 90% OF THE MEN THEY ARE FVCKING ARE CHEATING. these same men they are fvcking happen to be just 20% of the entire male population. coz the majority of guys are in friendzones and cant cheat coz first of all they are not dating or having sex.
the 20% gettting regular sex indeed cheat and women see them fvck anything that moves.now, the injustice women commit is to be choosy with who they fvck but very generous with who they blame if it goes sour :it starts with: YOU DONT QUALIFY FOR THIS PVSSY but when it turns sour it turns to : ALL MEN ARE DOGS.
damn.

But why the injustice of women been choosy with who they fvuck but very generous with who they blame if it goes sour to me this is an act of wickedness & insensitivity on their part.

Seen a man diligent in his business he shall stand before kings & not mean men .my nigga carry on with ur hustle

TemmyWon:

She refuses to speak to you and you still think she's after your money? Which money self.
She's probably easing you out due to lack of chemistry or interest.
Every broke dude think girls are after their money these days.

I can imagine kettle calling pot black.

FrenchWay:
...
If only I can get a job of even 'four figures' ...




I'd be dancing unclad every morning

Do u really mean what u said a job of 4 figures stops at #9,999 at most,m not really sure u mean what u just said.

Lol!

Pls I would like mostly Nigerians who have ever lived in Mali or visited mali at one time or the other in their life to share their expriences especially on their economy ,job opportunities, social life & the rest.

sexybbstar:
That's the best thing to use if you have a big joystick. Use the finger first.

Is not fair now where is the sweetness if I use my hand instead my (big) joystick.

erico2k2:

You k now talk is free, make dem wait till dem see landlord wey be trouble maker

U think say na only landlord wee be trouble maker u never see tenant wee be fire.

400billionman:


She is not balling anything

She is just deceiving you.

Venza is N4m. That's Mercedes is roughly N10m all used cars.

How many jobs in Nigeria pay N14m per annum ?

You say ? Remember that yahoo yahoo is not a job.

She herself doesn't have a job. Only seasoned businesspeople can acquire those 2 cars in a day. Or is she an Executive Director of a bank or company ? Year end profit sharing bah ?

Let her tell us.

my guy u have said it all ,I love that phrase were u mentioned 'only seasoned business people' I just can't imagine some people arguing over something that is so glaring for all to see.

LesbianBoy:
They were not the one that fvcked your pvssy. Let the man that fvcked you give you job

Mehn,this is the best quote so far.

funlord:
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My friend shut up your dirty mouth abeg! All this poverty stricken monkeys on romance section that have no level always making noise! You people are all a disgrace to the real men on this forum! Explain this then! I thought you stay in VI? Fool...

Bros u re too much I was about doing what u did,u beat me to it,keep the good work on bro.

Alwaysking:
Park well abeg, we all know who's the poverty stricken fellow BTW us, and you can never be in my level.

Is like u have nothing to yearn again let me just let u be for the mean time. don't ever try quoting me again u slowpoke.

Alwaysking:
So much stupidity from a broke nigga claiming of making 400k monthly, look at how tattered and unkempt you are, please just shut up, and for your information i don't beg, people beg me, I earn up to $1000 to $2000 working online as a email copywriter,affiliate marketer and email marketer. and I do this part time. I'm not even talking of other lucrative business I just recently started. swerve please.

Is like poverty has blinded ur eyes,do u really know what the word tattered means who cares about whatu do or what u don't do,even with all the mouth making u still have nothing to show for it,m really sorry for u.

2sexycom:
you ended up like them. You salary is someones monthly dog food.

Bros it depends on the kind of dog.there re species of dogs that cosume up to half a million in a month if that is the range of my salary, I don't think m doing badly, or what do u think.

Alwaysking:
You earn such amount and you still look unkempt, Tell me it's a lie.

Broke niggas every where look at how u re disgracing ursef & family in a public forum begging for money ,go to my dp & see the calibre of person u re talking to ,is like u really need a job from the way u re sounding come may I employ u,make u no go die,mind u the nigga u re defending u won't get a penny from him.(put up ur pics in ur dp if u know u wought a penny, let' see how u look like)..U not ashamed of ur se
f exchanging words in a public forum with a bitch.

So b/cos of 350 -400k that is why some niggas re making fun of themselves here, to be precise that is my one month salary. I cast out every spirit of poverty from niggas in this forum.

Atiku Abubukar is really chopping money,'see hostel'

DeRay98:


The banks are one of the real enemies of Nig. If they were investigating in our economy and supporting businesses our economy will not just depend on govt spending alone.

Ah! Oyibo(supu)' investigating in our economy.'

[color=#550000][/color][/size]take m easy.

Blackfyre:


I was just pulling your legs ooo.........that oral part got me confused.

I think she is just pissed that she dropped her guard and he took advantage of her....a lesson to guys except if you don't have a future....dont go banging babes with no future ambition...

That's why ordinary nude pic I no dey ask till I am sure the relationship is heading somewhere....wouldn't want one chick scoring cheap points on me....

k

BiggyB242:


Not everyone has to be an entrepreneur. You prefer to be a third class candidate and be an employer of labour while others might prefer to be first class graduate and be employed in one of the multinationals.

U really think is in ur power to get a job in a multinational With ur first-class,if u look around u care fully u 'll see a lot of first-class graduate that are roaming the street without any succour from any where,my dear we all hope for the best but nature will always take it's course, u better start to know what to do with ur life in terms of entrepreneurship & remove that nonsense job (entitlement) mentality from ur head.

IamaNigerianGuy:


And so ?
He is either good at business or lucky; she is good at academics.
I don't see your point.

In other words u want to be good in academics with nothing to show for it.I rather be a third class graduate & be an employer of labour than to be a first class graduate & be roaming the street with no hope .

Jman06:
The rate at which ladies are outshining guys these days is quite alarming! Just yesterday we read the news about four ladies from mcpherson university that finished first class and now this .
What is happening to our guys nowadays? If you ask them now they will claim they are "hustling" in school, yet nothing to show for all "hustling".

Congrats girl!

U must be ashamed of ur self if really u are what ur moniker says u re a (m) I guess. U think it is easy to hustle & pay for ones accommodation & school fees if that is the only thing they were able to achieve in this terrible economy of ours ,when majority of our parents re drifting away from their responsibilities on daily bases,all they re after is once ur struggle (hustle) start paying off they will start telling everyone that cares to listen to them,'my son/daughter is a medical doctor,lawyer this,that.let the guys have enough time like the ladies do to themselves & know whether we won't come out in flying colors.

savvy12:

if I were in d girl's shoe,I would cry too.
The fact that they once knew each other before is enough to cry.
people cry even when their distant relation dies,talk more of ex.
unless your heart is made of rocks.
At least,the present bf is not contending with the dead ex.

How can u compare a relation whether distant or not to an ex,some people mentality tho!

faridaije:
this marriage wil never succeeed in jesus name

Bad belle.

U can work in shoprite.

divicode:


You don't need to believe it. If it was before he died, I would have asked to visit Omoku if you will ever get to the town before you are kidnapped on the trip
I don't live in Rivers state by proxy, I am fully on ground

U mean someone can be kidnapped on his way to Omoku,mehn! this is serious,how secure is the life of a young lady in that town if i may ask.