put attributes asides, some girl are chronic slut. trust me, you would be better off without this one. when the same action is repeated, it is no longer a mistake but a choice. move on.

InvertedHammer:

All women don't cheat...just that most women do!

Just like most men do too.
For the knowing, any woman that cheat, cheated wt a man....she didn't do it alone

@Op: you always believe women cheat in rltnships, yet ur complainin abt urs? Work on ur belief system first, like minds attract.

Becacia_Barbie: Op seriously?
Dump that girl! Do it now!!! Forgive her bt do not ve anythn to do with her anymore! She wont stop cheating on u, until she clocks 40.

^^^ experience is speaking here.

pavorikoko:
Just like most men do too.
For the knowing, any woman that cheat, cheated wt a man....she didn't do it alone

Abi o!

butta: shaking my head for the kind of mama u will become baby mama....iShhh

don't mind dat shediot.

abifoluwa: is she a pisces? born in febuary? those girls cheat a lot

I disagree with you...scorpio are deadly

berem: are you better than her Miss Innocentie? mtscheeew!
Can the op also prove to us that he has never cheated too? When a man cheats, it's a man's world. When a woman cheats she gets crucified. Abeg marry her sharp sharp and stop complaining joor!

good joke. tell it again.

mbourie:
I disagree with you...scorpio are deadly

you think so? i know pisces cheats a lot, didnt know about scorpio, you know one personally?

OCTAVO: OP,your girl is an adept cheater! leave her!!!

For the records, replace 'cheater' with 'cheat'.

I have no opinion on your commnt otherwise than stated above. Cheers

@op. It's really a sticky situation. My advice is that you act not based on emotions but logical reasoning. There's no guarantee that the next girl you find won't cheat on you. You stated that girls you have dated in the past also cheated on you so you need to step your game up.
Take the following steps:

1. Forgive her truly, be honest with yourself. 2. Arrange for a meeting with her in a public place (so she will be less tempted to throw tantrums). Tell her that you have forgiven her but you would like to call off the engagement for now. Revert back to just dating her for a probationary period of 6 months.
3. Since you mentioned that you are a programmer, I'd assume that you are tech savvy. Covertly install phone monitoring software on her blackberry (you can buy online).
4. During this period, act like you still love her, be nice, conceal your intentions. Play the sucker, seem or act dumber than your target. Give her a lot of freedom, suggest she spends more time with her friends and I'd advise you do same.

5. Monitor her calls, Facebook, Twitter and BBM conversations (GPS tracking can also be enabled if need be) for this period of 6 months.

Brace yourself for 2 likely outcomes:

a. She will continue to cheat on you.

b. She will truly repent.

Based on the outcome, decide whether to marry her or terminate the relationship.

Best of luck bro.

She's not your babe. When you find your babe, please let us know.

mbourie:
I disagree with you...scorpio are deadly

u mean am? and my girlfriend is a SCORPION oh!

touche:
3. Since you mentioned that you are a programmer, I'd assume that you are tech savvy. Covertly install phone monitoring software on her blackberry (you can buy online).

WTF? Who does that? Only women (certain kinds best described by the B word) and white men (who are mostly lame anyway) as far as I know.

In fact the first or 2nd time I have come across men who think with their anus.
The worst thing is for someone you want to spend your entire life with acting this way? You better wake up and think straight to know that this same girl will end up giving you HIV before you realize it.

If mare friendship to let go when due, better. For a life time? Hell No.

touche: @op. It's really a sticky situation. My advice is that you act not based on emotions but logical reasoning. There's no guarantee that the next girl you find won't cheat on you. You stated that girls you have dated in the past also cheated on you so you need to step your game up.
Take the following steps:

1. Forgive her truly, be honest with yourself. 2. Arrange for a meeting with her in a public place (so she will be less tempted to throw tantrums). Tell her that you have forgiven her but you would like to call off the engagement for now. Revert back to just dating her for a probationary period of 6 months.
3. Since you mentioned that you are a programmer, I'd assume that you are tech savvy. Covertly install phone monitoring software on her blackberry (you can buy online).
4. During this period, act like you still love her, be nice, conceal your intentions. Play the sucker, seem or act dumber than your target. Give her a lot of freedom, suggest she spends more time with her friends and I'd advise you do same.

5. Monitor her calls, Facebook, Twitter and BBM conversations (GPS tracking can also be enabled if need be) for this period of 6 months.

Brace yourself for 2 likely outcomes:

a. She will continue to cheat on you.

b. She will truly repent.

Based on the outcome, decide whether to marry her or terminate the relationship.

Best of luck bro.

guy, callin u a LEARNER is an understatement and an insult to learners association.
so, i will have to say YOU HAVE NOT EVEN STARTED LEARNING.
naija girls go show u pepper.

By the time ur 70yrs old she will tell u that all ur children belong to her Ex that she is ready 4 DNA test ur eyes will clear.

it will happen again and again if you let it go, knowing that you know she cheats and you overlook it, she will even boast of it later, and you will still breakup on a similar issue. I talk from a personal experience at over 60yrs of age.

My advice, stay away from her. PERIOD.

money-hungry :

u mean am? and my girlfriend is a SCORPION oh!

Lmao, i dont think scorpios cheat. I know they are brutal and clingy Af. they can kill you if shit dont go their way they like to be the man in the relationship, can die for their partner too. Speaking from experience

abifoluwa: is she a pisces? born in febuary? those girls cheat a lot

Bullshit!

ekwah:

Bullshit!

LMAO, ur girl is prolly one, you in trouble dawg BE SCARED

Make her take a blood oath. It will scare the shi.ts out of her

@ Op better still,I think you are the one who has a problem and need τ̲̅ȍ have Ɣ☺ΰя head checked. Read d rubbish ‎u wrote here and see for ur self that ‎u deserve τ̲̅ȍ be slapped out of that insanity ‎u tink is good qualities

95% of gurls do cheat on their bf.... The earlier you realize that, the better you will stop trusting them ladies toh much.

money-hungry :

guy, call u a LEARNER is an understatement and an insult to learners association.
so, i will have to say YOU HAVE NOT EVEN STARTED LEARNING.
naija girls go show u pepper.

Pls stop classifying Nigerian girls as bad cos he is d one with a problem here!he is just •̸№t man enough τ̲̅ȍ keep d girl in line ,period!!dis same girl will meet anoda guy and will •̸№t dare mess up for one minute.He's got •̸№ game that's y he feels she's his only hope and she knows Į̸̸̨ƭ.But when a girl knows ‎u got wat other girls want,then she will be too busy trying τ̲̅ȍ keep her man τ̲̅ȍ even play games.

@op let me add to my previous post.

What is the assurance that she will even marry you? You might just be one of the options and you make her top of your list. Very funny, but she just might not turn up on your wedding day.

She nor be your wife, find your wife go front man. She has only prepared you for your wifey.

OP, its about what she has and not what u have. Obviously, there are qualities she finds in not just the other guy, probably other guys she sees that u perhaps do not have. Maybe you could work on that. What if the next girl jilts u 4 de same reason. Just guessing, there are in-inadequacies she finds in u.

I think I should stop reading people's comments on Niaraland and just go ahead to comment if I have to because some people's thinking can corrupt.

She may not be the right one for you.Stay focused on your goals and at the right time, the ideal lady for you will waltz into your life.

Poster,
This girl does not love you and you're just wasting your time playing "Bobo Nice", to forgive, kiss and make up. All bullshit.

She will cheat on you with other guys and she will definitely cheat on others later.
Some people are born to cheat.
It is in their genes.
Just let her go and save yourself from more headaches and heartaches.

[size=18pt]LOVE IS NOT BY FORCE.[/size]

Osama10: OP dump that girl very fast & if you marry her out of pity your REGRET will know no bounds.

I agree 110%.

@ OP, I'm curious to know what qualities you had set as criteria, that she got up to 70%.

Dude, yes I agree that by our human nature, we are not perfect and should make some allowance for such shortcomings in our partners. However, I think you took your allowance to far. Too far.

You got confirmation that she slept with the other guy for goodness sakes! And she was still in touch with the guy after giving you the impression that she'd severed ties.

This is how I see it. You are the boyfriend. Who provides emotional support, companionship and all the other rubbish things boyfriends are supposed to do. She also keeps another guy on the side, who supplements her financial needs. And some other extra excitements. But not for free.

Define exactly what you want in a relationship. Choose where you stand. And cut this crap about all girls being cheats. It is not true.

let her go she will always cheat, once a cheater always a cheater, my x was cheating before marriage i forgave her, she cheated 6times in the marriage and had an abortion for another man in the marriage... her best friend expose her when they beef. I lost 1o years making excuse for a cheater. Now i'm label a divorcee