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Re: When Can A Nigerian Woman Divorce Her Husband? by biolabee(m): 8:34pm On May 23, 2013 |
lady gogo: Likewise.... How do you know she has low self esteem? I would stay for my kids as long as is possible .. when they are grown up, i could leave |
Re: When Can A Nigerian Woman Divorce Her Husband? by Nobody: 8:35pm On May 23, 2013 |
coogar: The key word is "happy marriage", kids from abusive homes end up with the most problems later with the boys becoming abusers themselves and the girls going on to marry abusers like their fathers. In fact in his case who knows if the problem is that he was left with the irresponsible parent? The worst thing any mother can do is staying an abusive marriage either with a chronic cheat or woman beater as she will be showing her children a horrible example. You hear of misguided girls thinking their boyfriend beating them equals to showing them love since afterall that was the love their father showed their mother. Most of the kids from divorced parents are already traumatized before their parents have the guts to finally end the bad marriage. 1 Like |
Re: When Can A Nigerian Woman Divorce Her Husband? by biolabee(m): 8:35pm On May 23, 2013 |
coogar: Not just a terrorist bro.. a jihadic head decapitating monster of a son |
Re: When Can A Nigerian Woman Divorce Her Husband? by ladygogo: 8:38pm On May 23, 2013 |
i tire for coogar o. |
Re: When Can A Nigerian Woman Divorce Her Husband? by Nobody: 8:38pm On May 23, 2013 |
biolabee: Unfortunately most of the time the kids are already messed up by the time they become adults. I have an Aunty whose husband beats her and now she's noticed that her little boy who is just 5yrs old kicks and punches his sisters! What kind of husband will he become? and obviously the girls are already affected as even though they are much older than him they stay and let him hit them like they see Mummy do with Daddy. They already believe that it's a man's privilege to beat a woman! 2 Likes |
Re: When Can A Nigerian Woman Divorce Her Husband? by biolabee(m): 8:40pm On May 23, 2013 |
bettymafy: of course we know its crap but you should read the court reports he called his SIL demonic His father is standing up as a character witness He said on the said day (his birthday sef or so), he made love to his wife, then she took alcohol and threatend to kil him and herself I will find the article sef... |
Re: When Can A Nigerian Woman Divorce Her Husband? by Nobody: 8:53pm On May 23, 2013 |
coogar I cannot believe you are even going there do you even know if it was the mother that left - what if was the father who up and left her with 4 kids to start a new life in the midlands na wah o should she end up in jail following him and stalking him outside his home all in the name of remaining a MRS Single parenthood is not the best but in some cases (like my own) the alternative can be equally as bad or worse. your saying this michael guy is like this cos of his mother - why don't absent and irresponsible fathers every get blamed - are they not a parent as well? or do men think they have no need in a child's life?? that titi girl that swallowed her pride and remained abeg tell me what better life is her daughter enjoying now 2 Likes |
Re: When Can A Nigerian Woman Divorce Her Husband? by ladygogo: 8:55pm On May 23, 2013 |
if i was hit and cheated on by my wife? good luck to her on that. i would concentrate on building better men/women out of my children. which is worse? a battered mrs adebolajo or an abuse-free mother of a terrorist? a battered mrs adebolajo. Becauseshe is first and foremost a human being and not a zombie, and should therefore not be held responsible for her son's actions. Would you concentrate on building better men/women by leaving or staying? which ones? if the tables were turned,i'm sure you would rather be an abuse-free father of a terrorist than for you to remain with a cheater or abuser based on your responses on other threads. |
Re: When Can A Nigerian Woman Divorce Her Husband? by ladygogo: 8:57pm On May 23, 2013 |
[b[b]][/b]Unfortunately most of the time the kids are already messed up by the time they become adults. I have an Aunty whose husband beats her and now she's noticed that her little boy who is just 5yrs old kicks and punches his sisters! What kind of husband will he become? and obviously the girls are already affected as even though they are much older than him they stay and let him hit them like they see Mummy do with Daddy. They already believe that it's a man's privilege to beat a woman![/b] LOBATAN! |
Re: When Can A Nigerian Woman Divorce Her Husband? by ladygogo: 8:59pm On May 23, 2013 |
Likewise.... How do you know she has low self esteem? I watched her biography on E channel by the way. |
Re: When Can A Nigerian Woman Divorce Her Husband? by biolabee(m): 9:10pm On May 23, 2013 |
tatiana009: There are people who dont beat their wives and yet the elder beats the junior this could be pure sibling rivalry ... pushing on your line of thinking, in this feminine dominated world, the girl xhildren will be beating their elder brodas maybe this is good news for the feminists Betty this is for you.. [size=18pt]My wife was either drunk or hypnotised – Arowolo[/size] |
Re: When Can A Nigerian Woman Divorce Her Husband? by coogar: 9:15pm On May 23, 2013 |
cotton101: coogar I cannot believe you are even going there cotton101, absent and irresponsible fathers? the same fathers kicked out from the houses they bought and sanctioned with a 30-mile radius restraining order? it seems you dunno how animalistic some nigerian women behave here in the UK after realising how divorce laws favour them significantly! titi's case was just stüpudity or daftness - there were no kids in the marriage so i don't know why she remained in the relationship till she got maimed! |
Re: When Can A Nigerian Woman Divorce Her Husband? by biolabee(m): 9:18pm On May 23, 2013 |
coogar: i think she had a infant daughter... |
Re: When Can A Nigerian Woman Divorce Her Husband? by Nobody: 9:21pm On May 23, 2013 |
coogar: This is high hypocrisy!!!!! So you would kick her to the curb and concentrate on building better men/women out of your children as a single dad But the woman should not do the same if the situation were reversed? COuld Mr adebalojo (name) not do exactly that too? How then is his mother to blame for his terrorism? 1 Like |
Re: When Can A Nigerian Woman Divorce Her Husband? by coogar: 9:29pm On May 23, 2013 |
lady gogo: she's responsible for the way her son turned out, i am afraid. the lad was damaged in his formative years. his friend said he was into gangs robbing other kids and doing all sorts.....the violence didnt start overnight!
hahahaha - nigerian men stay with their cheating/abusive wives. marital abuse can be verbal or emotional as well. i am sure you didn't get the memo when a report told us 50% of nigerian firstborns are bästards! how did that come to be? were the pregnancies planted immaculately! the women interviewed are not daft neither are they stüpid, they know they are not innocent too in the grand scheme of things. the same production crew interviewed them months ago and these same women confessed on camera they keep more than 4/5 partners at the same time - i ask, who is actually cheating who? ileobatojo: where in that comment did i say i would kick her to the curb? which nigerian husband can categorically state his wife has never cheated on him? 50% nigerian firstborns are bastärds - it must be beelzebub sleeping wïth nigerian wives! |
Re: When Can A Nigerian Woman Divorce Her Husband? by Nobody: 9:29pm On May 23, 2013 |
coogar: coogar coogar coogar - ok maybe i don't know how some nigerian women are. what i do know is that there are some men that are absent and irresponsible - why don;t those men ever get blamed or labelled. as for Titi she had a 2 year old daughter maybe i'm being naive but unless the man is a threat to a woman why would there be any need for a restraining order - na wah o!! u think getting that kind of order is like shopping in bluewater on a bank holiday coogar - why are u so hard on single mothers 1 Like |
Re: When Can A Nigerian Woman Divorce Her Husband? by HARDDON: 9:37pm On May 23, 2013 |
maclatunji: These women are typical of majority of Nigerian women. e-life is always smoother than the real one. if only all nl female's marraige/rships where as near perfect as they claim, life wud hv bin better. |
Re: When Can A Nigerian Woman Divorce Her Husband? by ladygogo: 9:37pm On May 23, 2013 |
[b][/b]she's responsible for the way her son turned out, i am afraid. the lad was damaged in his formative years. his friend said he was into gangs robbing other kids and doing all sorts.....the violence didnt start overnight! Why should she be solely responsible? Was she the only one in the marriage? If you want to play the blame game then you might as well blame both parents. |
Re: When Can A Nigerian Woman Divorce Her Husband? by coogar: 9:41pm On May 23, 2013 |
cotton101: the men are absent because the wives are determined to punish them. after having them kicked out of the house, they get the cops to slap a restraining order on them. the only contact the men have is her account details where he must wire the kid's child support!
i never knew.....
how long does it take a woman to get a restraining order, are you shïtting me? she got him out of the house before she lied he was abusive. a normal shouting match between husband and wife won't be recorded as a verbal abuse - the verbal part would be crossed out and the only thing you would see is abuse
i am not hard on single mothers - far from it. i know there are barbaric and useless husbands out there but far majority of the nigerian divorces in the UK are out of greed by the nigerian wives! |
Re: When Can A Nigerian Woman Divorce Her Husband? by Nobody: 9:48pm On May 23, 2013 |
coogar: chei women dont suffer for coogar's hand - chei so this is how u will see me from afar somewhere here in the Uk and say na me cause my own. coogar just as you know about these harsh cases just know that some nigerian women do not behave like this. i'm not sh/itting you Mr coogar - honestly is a restraining order hard to get. 1 Like |
Re: When Can A Nigerian Woman Divorce Her Husband? by ladygogo: 9:53pm On May 23, 2013 |
hahahaha - nigerian men stay with their cheating/abusive wives. marital abuse can be verbal or emotional as well. i am sure you didn't get the memo when a report told us 50% of nigerian firstborns are bästards! how did that come to be? were the pregnancies planted immaculately! the women interviewed are not daft neither are they stüpid, they know they are not innocent too in the grand scheme of things. the same production crew interviewed them months ago and these same women confessed on camera they keep more than 4/5 partners at the same time - i ask, who is actually cheating who? we are talking about you here and not nigerian men. and yes i know you can be abused emotionally, which is even the worst form of abuse. no i didnt get that memo and i dont think the men would have known if they were no reports. Do you think those men would have stayed if they knew all along? The naija men that I know. Well, its left to the nigerian men to take their firstborns for DNA tests and then decide what to do with their wives afterwards, if the results are negative. |
Re: When Can A Nigerian Woman Divorce Her Husband? by Nobody: 10:20pm On May 23, 2013 |
coogar: Where does this statistic come from by the way? Any credible source? 1 Like |
Re: When Can A Nigerian Woman Divorce Her Husband? by trolling(m): 10:20pm On May 23, 2013 |
Isaiah 4: "And in that day seven women shall take hold of one man, saying, “We will eat our own food and wear our own apparel(finacially independent); Only let us be called by your name, to take our reproach" The question is why would these "so-called independent" women wanna take the name of this god-fearing men even though they are financially independent as quoted above, provide the answers all you "smart and intelligent women" and if your answer is to take away the reproach,the question is what is the reproach? |
Re: When Can A Nigerian Woman Divorce Her Husband? by Nobody: 10:40pm On May 23, 2013 |
50calibre:and by due respect you mean having a free rein to sleep with any woman who catches his fancy outside the matrimonial home,by respect you mean having the free will to hit and slap the wife around like she's some slave?(And I do rememeber you saying something about slapping me if I was close to you) dude you amuse me to no end Any FYI,I'm not a feminist.I do love independence in a woman,not like that stupid girl in the video who won't mind being slapped around for shopping money,I love humility and gentleness too in a woman.I recognize the various roles both partners have to play to make a marriage work.I understand nature made it male and female for a divine purpose But what I can't and will not take from any egocentric and self conceited male like you 50calibre is a situation where I do what I'm supposed to do as the wife,love and nuture my husband and kids as only a woman can. make the home comfortable and warm with my love,effort,financial support,prayers e.t.c and this so called husband doesn't appreciate it instead goes around disrespecting and defiling our love and marital home with his sexcapades and on top of that tries to use his physical strength on me by beating me(something you'd probably enjoy doing to your wife).if that defines feminism to you,then so be it. 1 Like |
Re: When Can A Nigerian Woman Divorce Her Husband? by MMotimo: 10:47pm On May 23, 2013 |
@ dayokanu Can we agree that courtship and to some extent, the couple's background play a major role in the way abuse occurs. I have been married a while and I have seen a lot of marriages. In every single case of abuse that I have seen, the woman has an income. The story you told is the unusual, not the norm. P.S. English is not my first language so no big grammar o |
Re: When Can A Nigerian Woman Divorce Her Husband? by dayokanu(m): 10:55pm On May 23, 2013 |
MMotimo: @ dayokanu People from various background go through abuse, Xtian, Moslems, Monogamous Polygamous, Educated, non educated etc And Courtship only reveal so much about a person. Moreover people change. All the couples beating one another and killing one another at a point in time had wonderful courtships and even believed they were in Paradise. The best thing IMO is to be prepared for eventualities and make it easier for you to adapt. I know Nigerians would say Pray God gives you a good man a decent man a this a that who wont do this and that. |
Re: When Can A Nigerian Woman Divorce Her Husband? by Nobody: 10:58pm On May 23, 2013 |
50calibre:in your ignorance and narrow mindedness,you have not evolved to the point where you see that women are actually superior creatures compared to men.and that is why the peace,the sanity,spirituality and divinity of the human race is solely dependent on the female species.it's apparent in mother nature herself.the way she's able to renew and replenish the earth even after massive destruction.it's apparent in everything that breathes and lives.the touch only a woman can give,the influence of mothers in everyone's life.it's even apparent in the way you lot would go to extreme lengths and do unthinkables just to get into a woman. I'd thought you knew this little aspect of life. I'm sorry.it's all my fault. I must have thought you more intelligent than you actually are.smh.my apologies. |
Re: When Can A Nigerian Woman Divorce Her Husband? by coogar: 11:03pm On May 23, 2013 |
ileobatojo: http://myondostate.com/w3/paternity-testing-50-nigerian-first-born-children-belong-to-other-men-expert-2-incidences-recorded-at-dana-investigation/ cotton101: on the contrary - i am a critical thinker and i view each case individually.
contact me if you want a restraining order placed on any one. i know the 10 key words needed to get the law on your side.
i will stay for my kids - they are more important than a philandering coyote of a wife!
the men knew/suspected - that was why they did DNA tests on the children in the first place. na today? nigerian women have been doing this for as long as i can remember. durex's survey placed nigerian women as the biggest cheats in the world...... |
Re: When Can A Nigerian Woman Divorce Her Husband? by Nobody: 11:17pm On May 23, 2013 |
coogar: According to the article... According to a forensic geneticist, Dr. Abiodun Salami, 30 per cent of fathers are unknowingly nurturing and investing in children who are not biologically theirs. So where are you getting your 50 percent number from when the article you provided says 30%. Also, where is the study itself? This article says a survey was the source. What kind of survey was it? What was the sample size? Were the randomly selected or did they go to the most promiscous, poverty stricken areas to sample from there? Was it representative of the population of the entire country? Was it peer reviewed? Abeg bring this survey itself let us peruse it so we can determine the credibility. 2 Likes |
Re: When Can A Nigerian Woman Divorce Her Husband? by MMotimo: 11:17pm On May 23, 2013 |
dayokanu: Agree that people change but what are the chances that one partner will suddenly change. I know it happens but what percentage? Consider that marriage itself is a risk, you only pray that it is successful and you put in the work to make that happen. At the end of the day, I believe it is safe to say that on average, the majority of Naija marriages succeed. When I talk about courtship, I'm relating it to knowing the kind of person you are marrying and for you both to discuss what your priorities are and how to get there. You are a couple so that you can AGREE on stuff together. From your views, would seem like only a lazy woman stays home. I find that so odd. Do you Just say that or do you really believe there is no value to staying home to raise your kids. Btw, some of us women, even with an income, have never worn Brazilian hair, do not have the latest phones and any owambes are once or twice a year. I say this to broaden the discussion and make it clear that it's not necessarily a case of baboon dey work, monkey dey chop. What do you think the life of a typical stay home Mom is? Apologies for typos |
Re: When Can A Nigerian Woman Divorce Her Husband? by coogar: 11:25pm On May 23, 2013 |
ileobatojo: 30% is the global statistic - it's 50% in nigeria
this is what peeves me about people like you - must statistics cover every human being to be credible? the DNA centre in lagos claimed 1 in 2 cases failed paternity test. is 1 in 2 not 50%? what level of social class in nigeria can afford the DNA test? the poverty stricken areas? you mean a country where majority live on less than $2 per day can afford paternity test of $300 on each child? ileoba, go to bed....everytime you eat beans, you misyarn! 1 Like |
Re: When Can A Nigerian Woman Divorce Her Husband? by MMotimo: 11:34pm On May 23, 2013 |
@ coogar, that statistic get as e be. Haba! 50%? Naija women don't have that much liver ke |
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