Chiscomax:




To be safe, don't ask!

martoz:
tedy baba,there was dis girl n a group...lyk two..and I went over to approach and say sorry to her frnd and tel d target DAT to xcuse me I wana c her for a secs...buh dis kind of senerio z not always comfortable cos dey always for wot for or DAT I can tel dem now while still wit ha frnd,and if I continue,d other one always del jeolous or fel lonely...it's always hard,xo wot's d field testd tips for naija babe who are always n group,and ur target z among...cos u wil hardly c fine girls who is nt in group.

xxxtedyxxx:
ur making everyting too much of a big deal dats y. U know u wana do it, deep down inside, u av the right words to tell her, but somehow, for some weird reasons you just can't spit it out. First tin, don't rush it, and don't be desperate. Asking her out to come to ur house depends on the groundwork u av laid already. How free and open is she with u? Does she feel comfortable with u? Does she enjoy your company? I hope ma post is not late tho. Try this, plan d date 2days ahead, so from today/2mrw, chat her up, talk about different stuffs, hobbies, passion, how sexy u think she is, how much u love d way she dresses, her hair, etc, feel free to tell her stuffs about u too, don't make it a one-way convo. Continue dat and follow up with some calls, small talk in between, den d second day...invite her for a date,


" I really do enjoy being with u, can't wait to see u again babe, am free 2mrow, wat time will be okay for u?



Take charge from there

jesfrosh:






bro after reading your thread a little i figured u are a P.U.A seems ur good.... I'm a P.U.A too i don't have too much experience tho .... but I've got some cute chics under my belt.... more grease to your elbow.

Impulse80:

So you don't know Okafor's law of congodynamics? She'll come around, she's just protecting her self-esteem.

tomzee2:
ok u too can contribute the little u have maybe someone can learn from that too

jesfrosh:




okay anywhere i think i can assist i will... thanks

jesfrosh:



okay anywhere i think i can assist i will... thanks

vizier007:
A little something on approach anxiety. .

Approach anxiety is normal, it's the feeling your body gives you when yo take risks.. it originates from the same part of the brain that's stimulated when you do things like riding a roller-coaster or riding a motorcycle for the first time.. It's a sign that you are moving out of your comfort zone.. in short it's the body's way of making sure we are safe by remaining in our comfort zones (ur brain starts generating all sorts of excuse not to approach )..

What to do to overcome/reduce approach anxiety..

1. just go out and talk to anybody u see around be it the old man just passing by, the woman you are buying from, the salesgirl, the okada man, anybody.. just say hi if u can't talk to them for long.
if it's someone you can talk, just strike a conversation and keep it short.. Talk about things going on in the country, ur state, ur town, ur school, ur department. ..
This will help you to get over the fear of talking to strangers. .

2. Approach without expectations : forget about what she's going to say or think about you, forget all the 'ifs',what if that is running through your mind, stop thinking about what you want to say ( this is where the 3 seconds rule helps), just go and talk to her without expecting anything from her (forget what you want to do to rhe girl)..
give ur opinion about what she's doing, about something happening around you .. DON'T GO WITH THE MINDSET THAT SHE'S THE GOAL, JUST GO IN AND HAVE FUN..

3. plan your approach : once u are comfortable with talking to strangers and ppl of the opposite sex, you can start planning your approach. what you want to say, how much time you want to spend and so on..

4. Don't take rejection as failure, take it as FEEDBACK.. learn from your mistakes and improve yourself. you cannot dictate the outcome of your interactions with other people. the person might be having a bad day or just antisocial. so it's not always your fault .

5. PRACTICE. practicing biulds confidence and it also brings about improvement. dont quit because you are not getting your desired outcome. when practice continously u definitely improve.

And ABOVE all, always have a smile on your face ☺...

you can check pages 1-12 for more info and some great examples on how to start a conversation given by xxxtedyxxx

martoz:
tedy baba,there was dis girl n a group...lyk two..and I went over to approach and say sorry to her frnd and tel d target DAT to xcuse me I wana c her for a secs...buh dis kind of senerio z not always comfortable cos dey always for wot for or DAT I can tel dem now while still wit ha frnd,and if I continue,d other one always del jeolous or fel lonely...it's always hard,xo wot's d field testd tips for naija babe who are always n group,and ur target z among...cos u wil hardly c fine girls who is nt in group.

darkmata:

LOL, wetin u talk na true o. She don cum around. Y dem gals d complex sef

martoz:
tedy baba,there was dis girl n a group...lyk two..and I went over to approach and say sorry to her frnd and tel d target DAT to xcuse me I wana c her for a secs...buh dis kind of senerio z not always comfortable cos dey always for wot for or DAT I can tel dem now while still wit ha frnd,and if I continue,d other one always del jeolous or fel lonely...it's always hard,xo wot's d field testd tips for naija babe who are always n group,and ur target z among...cos u wil hardly c fine girls who is nt in group.

Impulse80:

You don't try to separate them that's wrong. You become friends with them by opening the group. First you've got to attend to the friend(s) and win her over, if the friend likes you it will rub off on the target. After chatting with the friend for a while switch to the target.

Supremor:
I'm usually being faced with d same problem and like you mention, girls have d habit of being jealous abt such things and may help in ensuring one is never successful with d said girl

Ojonlo:
Please help me wif ma relationship,am in love wit dis girl and she knws bt she is not doing nomal wit me again,and i dnt think i can do without her

martoz:

nice one baba,I guess u b pua too...m nt gud at approach groups lyk DAT,it difficult to keep dem all intrestd,widout a wingman...pls tel d best opening for group...and how to keep conversations with dem...

jesfrosh:




i love using the glasses opener heres an example

Approach Girls – Glasses off (take glasses off)
Glasses on (put glasses on)

What do you guys think looks better?
Girle– (Responses: On!/Off!/What?/Laughing)

me– Glasses off (take off glasses)
Glasses on (put on glasses)
(perform the sequence from 2 to 4 times)


making sure ur not facing the target but hef friends

Girl1 – I like them on!
Girl2– I like them off!
Girl3-(usually doesn't say anything)

(If they both disagree then they usually end up laughing ).
me– My friends tell me I look like Clark Kent when I have the glasses on! (with a broad smile)
Girls – (Responses: Yeah you do! / No)
me– Why do you like it when my glasses are on/off?
Girl1 – (When she likes the glasses on) I think makes you look sexy/it makes you look clever.
HB2 – (When she likes the glasses off) I think you look better with them off, but I like them on too!






from there you start a conversatiouand isolate the target.... but out her from time to time... if she tries to join the conversation

martoz:

nice one,I fel u baba.Aldo I knw some pua theory buh I dey shy and m lazy to carry dem out...buh I no tink neggin dey work for naija babes....

Addict000:
m nt a don oo....buh i hav had my successes in dis game. One group opener i hav used to great sucess is d opinion opener like d glasses d guy above though i ask 4 opinions on smtin else. Like.. excuses me ladies, m tryna get my mum a gift 4 her birthday buh m lil unsure of wat 2 buy her....( u come of as a guy who cares nd is adoring) or my litle niece is having her birthday or smtin like dat sha. Getting opinions makes u come off in a non-threatening way wich makes things smoother for u. If u hav a wingman make sure u say he is d one buying d stuff 4 his mother or niece.

darkmata:
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RedCapChief:

I thought things were going well for both of you. Do have any examples in mind or maybe you dey misunderstand her. Dominance is usually not difficult to assert at this stage.

darkmata:
She bin gav me her Laundry 2 do, I refused to do it, den she started Givin me attitude.

Impulse80:

You are joking right she gave you her laundry! nigga you ain't playing the game o

darkmata:
She bin gav me her Laundry 2 do

Impulse80 has a point tho, you are not playing the game right. Women will usually try to assert some form of dominance over a man; that is just the way they are. It was even written in the Bible
This doesn't mean you should be a wicked guy and be claiming boss 24/7. You'll just push her away. After rejecting to do her laundry, do something nice for her on your own terms. For instance, after my father finished whupping me, he may take us out to ice-cream the next day.

I've also read something that works about conditionality game i.e you'll do something for her if she'll do something for you. If you do her work for free every time, you are nothing but her house boy.
So next time she asks, ask her what the reward will be. That way, the value of your service doesn't diminish in her eyes. You have to be the boss o!