tope2000:

why do you want her back now??
is the real question and please don't tell me it because u love her
didnt u know that before?

bigboyslim:

All my strategies are failing. I want her back but she claims that because I called it off initially it will be difficult if not impossible for her to trust me again. We're still friends and all but she says she doesnt want me back. Nairaland veterans what do you advise?

spikedcylinder:

You must have hurt her when you left her the first time.
If she hasn't moved on, I foresee a very long and tiresome journey towards winning her back. And in the end you may not get her, so be prepared for that.

bigboyslim:

I appreciate your analysis but sadly you haven't suggested any possible solutions. how do I attempt to win her back, should I increase calls, lay off for a while, pretend that i'm doing her a favor by asking her back? Of course I hurt her when I called it off but then that happens whenever anybody calls off a relationship.

tope2000:

my main point is bigboyslim is that you need to see this from her point of view
let her know what you did was wrong
plead and beg until whenever
let her know you still want her of course but this time like mad
don't bombard her with phone calls, give her space to clear her head
call her like you normally do

bigboyslim:

I appreciate your analysis but sadly you haven't suggested any possible solutions. how do I attempt to win her back, should I increase calls, lay off for a while, pretend that i'm doing her a favor by asking her back? Of course I hurt her when I called it off but then that happens whenever anybody calls off a relationship.

bigboyslim:

Okay, well it ended because I contracted the Wandering Eyes Syndrome which means that I[b] basically started finding other girls more attractive than her and felt I deserved to be with these more attractive girls but now I know better that whoever you're with,[/b] there will always be more attractive people and what should keep you interested in your partner should be deeper than just physical attraction.

bigboyslim:

now I know better that whoever you're with, there will always be more attractive people and what should keep you interested in your partner should be deeper than just physical attraction.

I like the two lines I quoted frm u .Try tellin her that too 

sistawoman:

Ok that being said, if she knew this was the reason then you maybe begging for a while.

You have to make her feel beautiful.

You have to romance her.

bigboyslim:

I appreciate your analysis but sadly you haven't suggested any possible solutions. how do I attempt to win her back, should I increase calls, lay off for a while, pretend that i'm doing her a favor by asking her back? Of course I hurt her when I called it off but then that happens whenever anybody calls off a relationship.

Brash!:

singing that RKelly smash hit to my self "when a woman's fed up"

try all the trick for this world, even if you be [b]Professor Pelle[/b]r, nothing for you, if that woman is fed up like fed ex!!

spikedcylinder:


I'm glad you appreciate it but I didn't suggest anything because if I were in her shoes, I would not trust you either.
So good luck with your phone calls and stuff.

bigboyslim:

I still fail to understand this. Why won't you trust me. I just explained what I realized since calling it off. Shouldn't that be proof that i'm even a more mature person now than ever before.

tope2000:

mature people don't dump their GF in the first place with xcuse of yours
she can't trust you because its like toying with her emotions

k1banty:

@bigboyslim

If she no want you back, look for another girl.

Brash!:

i smelt you coming here

chei, the specialist!!

sistawoman:

I hope it is Sensual Amber by Bath and Body Works that you smell today. If not then it is someone else that you are smelling.

bigboyslim:

Thanks to everyone for your contributions. You guys have been really helpful. Ladies, May your boyfriends or husbands never dump you and Guys, May you never accidentally dump your girlfriends.