we've all heard about how the whole temperament thing, and the conclusion that there is no perfect personality, that all has their pros and cons.

there are intelligent women that are aware of their potential, they are their opinion without fear, the are very active individuals. these women can make strategic decisions in the absence of their husbands. but the down side of this type is that the emasculate their husbands because the believe very well in their opinions and the can easily point out when the hubands leadership is far away from ideal, and this leads to a lot of instability.


on the othe hand there are very obedient women who just nuture you and your kids, no ambition or crave for control, they just want peace and stability, i know you can be intelligent and choose to be submissive but im refering to those ones that got you shocked when you heard they are graduates, the ones that actually cant contribute anything logical or thoughtful, the kind of wife that you cant discuss your problems with an be sure she cant ever give u a well thought out advise or suggestion, women like this have no interest in politics, culture or basic philosophy, she can only talk about fathiah balogun and p. square.

i know these two cases are extreme but which is better?

Gentle

Intelligent woman all the way,no argument there.
I'll choose intelligence over gentility. Gentle peeps could be wickedly dangerous,you know? The intelligent woman knows how to handle situations as it deems fit. The man can go out and confidently leave his home in the intelligent woman's care.
The intelligent woman influences the children too. Makes them smart and active.
God forbid,but if the man passes away,the intelligence of the woman is needed for her children to make it in life with the few available resources.
The intelligent woman is not necessarily bossy or arrogant,just a lady who knows what she wants and then goes about achieving it in the easiest ways possible.
The man cannot be at his peak at all times in terms of mental capability. Sometimes,he needs a mentally strong woman to give him the required push.
Note: it is only strong men that take up the challange of an intelligent woman. Weak men want ''gentle'' pushovers,whom they can control like puppets on strings.

GentleMimi: Intelligent woman all the way,no argument there.
I'll choose intelligence over gentility. Gentle peeps could be wickedly dangerous,you know? The intelligent woman knows how to handle situations as it deems fit. The man can go out and confidently leave his home in the intelligent woman's care.
The intelligent woman influences the children too. Makes them smart and active.
God forbid,but if the man passes away,the intelligence of the woman is needed for her children to make it in life with the few available resources.
The intelligent woman is not necessarily bossy or arrogant,just a lady who knows what she wants and then goes about achieving it in the easiest ways possible.
The man cannot be at his peak at all times in terms of mental capability. Sometimes,he needs a mentally strong woman to give him the required push.
Note: it is only strong men that take up the challange of an intelligent woman. Weak men want ''gentle'' pushovers,whom they can control like puppets on strings.

Impressive

ammyluv2002: Impressive

Thanks babe.

Intelligent girls.
Intelligent girls are most times gentle anyway.

Im focuced on the extremes, intelligent woman with coleric tendencies, the kind of woman that will tell her husbands brother the ugly truth. Cause she feel her action is justified, she wont shy away from giving unsolicited advices, cause shes always compelled to. Fix things and fix people also.

There are gentle intelligent girls also but my focus is on those that have no substance the one that have. Achieved everything they want in life when the get married and have kids-empty vessels

None i dont want to marry a husband(Intelligent girl) or handbag(Gentle girl)

If you are talking about wife material as your topic reads, none of the two qualities.makes anyone a good wife material although both are important attributes.

nationwide24: If you are talking about wife material as your topic reads, none of the two qualities.makes anyone a good wife material although both are important attributes.

Exactly

nationwide24: If you are talking about wife material as your topic reads, none of the two qualities.makes anyone a good wife material although both are important attributes.

True...

I'll get bored if my Girl is ''GENTLE.'' I want em' moderately naughty and intelligent!

McWhillion: Intelligent girls.
Intelligent girls are most times gentle anyway.

Exactly!

One would think a gentle girl cannot be intelligent. Gentleness in itself is a form of mature intelligence. Same way some unexposed people will ask "a beautiful dumb girl or an ugly intelligent girl" as if beautiful girls cannot be intelligent.

Mtcheeeeeeeeew

Sweetlemon:

Exactly!

One would think a gentle girl cannot be intelligent. Gentleness in itself is a form of mature intelligence. Same way some unexposed people will ask "a beautiful dumb girl or an ugly intelligent girl" as if a beautiful girls cannot be intelligent.

Mtcheeeeeeeeew

My point exactly!
*shake my hand*
Are you responding to defend yourself by the way?

Cant eat ur cake and have it. What do you want constant debate or peace in your home

Iron sharpens iron, So one man sharpens another.

Your wife is going to be your closest companion so choose wisely.

andromida: Iron sharpens iron, So one man sharpens another.

Your wife is going to be your closest companion so choose wisely.

also causes fire that destroys homes

nationwide24: If you are talking about wife material as your topic reads, none of the two qualities.makes anyone a good wife material although both are important attributes.

true stori

Intelligent all the way.
Most gentle are small devil

andromida: Iron sharpens iron, So one man sharpens another.

Your wife is going to be your closest companion so choose wisely.

Ahan! Werin you mean? Like say anything we choose here, na so e go be if we wan marry. No play rough play oooooo.

mikolo80: also causes fire that destroys homes

iron dey cause fire? I never hear that one sha.

dmcdad:
Ahan! Werin you mean? Like say anything we choose here, na so e go be if we wan marry. No play rough play oooooo.

B4 nko if you marry wife wey fit your brain and life you go sharp well well.

SEE...

There's GREAT intelligence in being gentle!!!

andromida:

B4 nko if you marry wife wey fit your brain and life you go sharp well well.

Ehen...? Wahala dey be that oooooo. I sure say I fit see woman wey fit my brain?

dmcdad:
Ehen...? Wahala dey be that oooooo. I sure say I fit see woman wey fit my brain?

Why you no go see? Dem plenty sef.

andromida:

Why you no go see? Dem plenty sef.

Well... Maybe you go introduce me to some.

Intelligent good girl it is

dmcdad:
Well... Maybe you go introduce me to some.

Maybe.

andromida:

Maybe.

I'm serious oooooo

dmcdad:
I'm serious oooooo

Ok going through my address book. Looking at shapes, sizes, character, wetin wetin. Which type do you like

andromida: Iron sharpens iron, So one man sharpens another.
Your wife is going to be your closest companion so choose wisely.

Nope, opposite attracts, so such marriage will break

@topic, the both are attributes of a wife material...
I prefer intelligence though, but a typical definition of a wife material, gentleness will come before intelligence

Most guys are intimidated by intelligent women, they want a gentle woman who will just say "how high" when they say jump without complaining. While an Intelligent woman will ask you why you want her to jump and offer a better way of doing it if there is one.


So guys o, we are waiting, which do you prefer?