@sistawoman

Dearie my bad. I wasn't referring to the replies on the thread. I shoulda said the topic.

~smurf:

@ Topic

Not for my side sha

We are not talking about bedmates and boyfriends. . . .
We are talking about A MAN willing to MARRY and settle down.

Cristalz:

I beg to differ. . .you can't MAKE a man do/feel/think anything he doesn't want to of his own volition. Unless na jazz
Its because of threads/ideologies like this one that make most women believe they have to lower their personal standards to level zero to hook a man. .

in this case u r wrong,very wrong my dear,i post out of experience here,ive seen men complain about their wives weight,telling them to go back to "the slim size" this same women add up this exquisite look to their present looks,d same men telling them to shed some weight r d same loving it


listen girl,men love women wt self esteem/self confident like sistawoman said

when a woman is so confident of her self and her looks,that confidence in her works it way through the mans heart

Yeah there is.

It is called credit crunch.

.watever90:

yeah

she must have it,bad looks shouldnt be d problem,i believe in gathering the worst of my problems,to create a good atmosphere for the best

so if my hubby says "jenny u don't look good to me again" instead of having sleepless night over that, i'd rather try to change into the person i was before or make me look good now than i was before

if my husband says that to me na slap im go chop! lololll

Aunty Mary:


if my husband says that to me na slap I'm go chop! lololll

hahahahaha u no well no be slap my sister,na to bring out a good look out of that same look

~Sauron~:

There are other seksy things we can try. . . . .
We could sip a bottle of BUBBLY in the tub.
How about that?

Hmmmmm . . . . while we do other things too. . . . .  
Tope likes

tope2000:

Hmmmmm . . . . while we do other things too. . . . .  
Tope likes

We have a DEAL then. . . . .
Can u pole-dance too??

~Sauron~:

We have a DEAL then. . . . .
Can u pole-dance too??

I do pole dancing as an exercise
so ofcos i can pole dance

tope2000:


I do pole dancing as an exercise
so ofcos i can pole dance

Priceless. . . . . . .so what is the shake rate of ur booty when u dance??
60 vibrations per minute or what??

@Whatever90

Get my point dearie before you shoot me down

Haven't you ever heard where a man tells his buddy, ''I don't like Sarah's fat body,but I like her self-confidence''.

If a man doesn't fancy fat girls you can't just up and make him because you are comfortable with your fatness.It doesn't work that way. Where self-confidence works positively for the girl is that its part of her personality,and the man falls in love with that. Then,you can say he doesn't mind her fatness, but its not his first choice of body size for her.

That's when the lady in question begins to look for ways to go trim and stay trim to please her man. Shez willing to do that for him not because she is no longer confident in her fatness,but because she is in love and wants to please the object of her affection.

So bottomline, she never MADE him love her fat body. The man DECIDED to take her the way she was. You dig?

You can't make a man do/feel/think anything he doesn't want to of his own volition. That's why they always need space to make up their minds what they really want in affairs of the heart,because once they do,they don't easily change it.

That's why they decide a woman is worth chasing. That's why they decide to get married. Forget D'Banj. . .no woman can MAKE 'em do what they are not ready to.

tope2000:


I do pole dancing as an exercise
so ofcos i can pole dance

you too? 

Cristalz:

@Whatever90

Get my point dearie before you shoot me down

Haven't you ever heard where a man tells his buddy, ''I don't like Sarah's fat body,but I like her self-confidence''.

If a man doesn't fancy fat girls you can't just up and make him because you are comfortable with your fatness.It doesn't work that way. Where self-confidence works positively for the girl is that its part of her personality,and the man falls in love with that. Then,you can say he doesn't mind her fatness, but its not his first choice of body size for her.

That's when the lady in question begins to look for ways to go trim and stay trim to please her man. Shez willing to do that for him not because she is no longer confident in her fatness,but because she is in love and wants to please the object of her affection.

So bottomline, she never MADE him love her fat body. The man DECIDED to take her the way she was. You dig?

shoot u for what?

havent u also heard of men that swear on their mothers grave that they will never marry fat women,havent u heard of men that hate fair skinned women like hell

my eldest brother was one of them,he never liked fair skinned women,he hated them wt a great passion,even in his uni days all his girlfriends were dark skinned,but today hes married to a light skinned cutie,he told her when they were just friends that he will never date a white skinned babe,but wheneva he utters such statement,d girl has this kind of "i don't care " , "i like me so" and "the dark skinned girls aint better off neither r they more intelligent" lookthat was what shoot the bros and he started looking at her wt this kind of "hmmm,i love d way this girl carries herself" look and then he fell inlove wt her wt just the words dat came out of her mouth,so he did not just accept her looks or d way she is,but he fell completely inlove wt her,now u should be d one digging that

d way a woman carries herself will make a man love or hate her,no reasonable man will come here and tell me that they don't like a woman whos proud of herself or looks

~Sauron~:

We are not talking about bedmates and boyfriends. . . .
We are talking about A MAN willing to MARRY and settle down.

Darn it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!then I guess then there really is a shortage whats the statistic again , ermmm for every Dude there are SIX FEMALES! thats got to hurt, 
PS, I'm still go to go too, 

~Sauron~:

Priceless. . . . . . .so what is the shake rate of ur booty when u dance??
60 vibrations per minute or what??

That would be telling, wait n see for urself na

tope2000:

That would be telling, wait n see for yourself na

Ok!

~smurf:

Darn it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!then I guess then there really is a shortage whats the statistic again , ermmm for every Dude there are SIX FEMALES! thats got to hurt, 
PS, I'm still go to go too, 

U already know!!!

Whatever90

The shooting down was just a figure of speech

We are on the same track to the same destination,just that we are using different modes of transport. The same ''I will never marry a fat girl'' theory holds true for my dear Sarah example above.

He falls in love with her self-confidence,her personality, and that makes him not mind her body. But if he is being butt-honest with his guys, he will tell them he still digs a slim body, but he LOVES his Sarah the way she is.

Its the same thing as how a man can love his wife and still have sex with another woman. Their minds are programmed in a black and white fashion. No gray areas. I like slim bodies, but I love my fat wife.

That's why a man can have a beautiful woman on his arm at a dinner party but still turn around to admire another woman with a stunningly gorgeous body.

Men love the self-confidence, but not necessarily the look. That's what I want you to dig.

@cristalz
then he does not really love her

u see,whenever a man starts comparing his wife wt some other babes,or her looks wt some others looks then he does not love her

a man must love his woman no matter her looks

my brother loves his wife and has never mentioned dark skinned again because hes noticed that what the dark skinned lack,some of d light skinned have it

for real cristalz,some of them men used to love slim women like crazy,but the day they came in contact wt an "orobo" they lost interest in lepas,not because of her size,but her intelligence,d way she carries herself even wt her weight,u know they r some fat ladies that look good more than we lepas for real,its just ,like carrying yourself in a good way


@sauron

u r a man honey,but tell me d truth,if a man truly love his wife will he compare her wt other women?

y'all ladies better grab one while you can

Scarcity of men is on the increase and statistics show that it's going to get worse in the long-term

Of course every man on NL would claim they are the GOOD ones out there. I beg to differ on that.

A good man is hard to find so is a good woman. When you get one . . . grab it with TWO hands.

.watever90:

@cristalz
then he does not really love her

u see,whenever a man starts comparing his wife wt some other babes,or her looks wt some others looks then he does not love her

a man must love his woman no matter her looks

my brother loves his wife and has never mentioned dark skinned again because hes noticed that what the dark skinned lack,some of d light skinned have it

for real cristalz,some of them men used to love slim women like crazy,but the day they came in contact wt an "orobo" they lost interest in lepas,not because of her size,but her intelligence,d way she carries herself even wt her weight,u know they r some fat ladies that look good more than we lepas for real,its just ,ike carrying yourself in a good way


@sauron

u r a man honey,but tell me d truth,if a man truly love his wife will he compare her wt other women?

Lol . . . . but i totally agree
I would hate it if a man compare me with his previous Girls

chika98:

Of course every man on NL would claim they are the GOOD ones out there. I beg to differ on that.

A good man is hard to find so is a good woman. When you get one . . . grab it with TWO hands.

True talk and never let go

.watever90:

@sauron
u r a man honey,but tell me d truth,if a man truly love his wife will he compare her wt other women?

Not possible. . . . . . . . .Every man's wife should be the most beautiful woman to HIM.
If she's ugly to him, why marry her in the first place??

chika98:

Of course every man on NL would claim they are the GOOD ones out there. I beg to differ on that.

A good man is hard to find so is a good woman. When you get one . . . grab it with TWO hands.

@post
Nope. . . .

~Sauron~:

Not possible. . . . . . . . .Every man's wife should be the most beautiful woman to HIM.
If she's ugly to him, why marry her in the first place??

Exactly so it is for women.  All others dont matter anymore.

~Sauron~:

Not possible. . . . . . . . .Every man's wife should be the most beautiful woman to HIM.
If she's ugly to him, why marry her in the first place??

Sometimes u do say nice stuffs

Whatever90

Jeez

I didn't say the man starts to compare his wife with other women.  .  .I said he loves his wife but he still admires a stunning body when he sees one,which every normal red-blooded man does (if they will admit it,of course).

My point still stands.  .  .a woman cannot MAKE a man love her body if he doesn't want to of his own volition. Self-confidence makes him love her personality,which in turn allows him ACCEPT her body. Note the different word meanings here  This acceptance may/may not develop into love.

To ensure it develops into love, most women will try to make their bodies become what their hubbies really prefer. And because he loves her already and appreciates her effort, hubby goes ''I love you the way you are honey'' and wifey goes ''yay,he loves me fat'' , not realizing that fat is not his first preference, but he will take her fat, thin, whatever,because he is in love.

~Sauron~:

Not possible. . . . . . . . .Every man's wife should be the most beautiful woman to HIM.
If she's ugly to him, why marry her in the first place??

That does not mean he will not compare. Let's get real here - openly comparing her and disparaging her is one thing, BUT there is no man alive who won't compare his wife with other women at some point, even if subconsciously. I don't know about being 'the most beautiful woman' or not, depending on what you mean by 'beauty'. I don't believe in saying things like that because they sound good to a woman's ear.

The fact is, you married her for the complete package, not just how she 'looks'. There may be other women who look more 'beautiful' physically but cannot match your wife in how she understands you, or have the little things she does that drives you crazy or her intelligence.

To me, saying she is the most beautiful woman is saying you married her for her beauty. Is she also the smartest woman? or the tallest woman or the slimmest? Where does it stop? If you see a genius now, will you say 'My wife is smarter than her' just for the point of it?

You marry a woman because she is the sum package of what you want - you want HER, with her pimples, love handles or 36DDs or minus zero waist. No other person can be compared to her, but if you are comparing attributes, of course some can be better in individual traits.

I know women don't like to hear things like these, but it's high time you separate your self esteem from being the 'most beautiful woman' thing.

Criz seems to be the one who understands - you can admire, doesn't mean you don't love your wife.

Cristalz
Tope
Danke
Sistawoman
Ebony
Aunty Mary
Chika

Go out there and grab your men now . . . . . . .

~Sauron~:

Not possible. . . . . . . . .Every man's wife should be the most beautiful woman to HIM.
If she's ugly to him, why marry her in the first place??

~Sauron~:

Not possible. . . . . . . . .Every man's wife should be the most beautiful woman to HIM.
If she's ugly to him, why marry her in the first place??

thank u


if a man prefers d slim body then why marry a woman on d big size and then tell his friend dat he still loves d slim shadys "but" he loves his wife d way she is

that is not love,d worst of it all is admiring or talking about slim shadys wt his friends,dats crazy

God punish d man dat will go tell his friend dat he prefers the big body but he loves her personality,dat mans manhood will not live to see d next day

@Poster

yeah, there is shortage of real men. They don't make us like they used to no more.

Cristalz:

Whatever90

Jeez

I didn't say the man starts to compare his wife with other women. . .I said he loves his wife but he still admires a stunning body when he sees one,which every normal red-blooded man does (if they will admit it,of course).

My point still stands. . .a woman cannot MAKE a man love her body if he doesn't want to of his own volition. Self-confidence makes him love her personality,which in turn allows him ACCEPT her body. Note the different word meanings here This acceptance may/may not develop into love.

To ensure it develops into love, most women will try to make their bodies become what their hubbies really prefer. And because he loves her already and appreciates her effort, hubby goes ''I love you the way you are honey'' and wifey goes ''yay,he loves me fat'' , not realizing that fat is not his first preference, but he will take her fat, thin, whatever,because he is in love.

to a large extent i dont agree,cos ive seen men fall inlove wt d opposite of wat they want and still appreciate their women till date

tope2000:

Sometimes u do say nice stuffs

Sometimes??
I am flattered.

debosky:

That does not mean he will not compare. Let's get real here - openly comparing her and disparaging her is one thing, BUT there is no man alive who won't compare his wife with other women at some point, even if subconsciously. I don't know about being 'the most beautiful woman' or not, depending on what you mean by 'beauty'. I don't believe in saying things like that because they sound good to a woman's ear.

The fact is, you married her for the complete package, not just how she 'looks'. There may be other women who look more 'beautiful' physically but cannot match your wife in how she understands you, or have the little things she does that drives you crazy or her intelligence.

To me, saying she is the most beautiful woman is saying you married her for her beauty. Is she also the smartest woman? or the tallest woman or the slimmest? Where does it stop? If you see a genius now, will you say 'My wife is smarter than her' just for the point of it?

You marry a woman because she is the sum package of what you want - you want HER, with her pimples, love handles or 36DDs or minus zero waist. No other person can be compared to her, but if you are comparing attributes, of course some can be better in individual traits.

I know women don't like to hear things like these, but it's high time you separate your self esteem from being the 'most beautiful woman' thing.

Criz seems to be the one who understands - you can admire, doesn't mean you don't love your wife.

This is a classic drivel. . . . . . .Why would i compare ma wife to other women?
Was she forced to marry me or what?? I don't even admire other chics when i am with ma girlfriend, let alone the woman that would make ma babies.
Beauty comes first for me, other stuffs can follow later.
I would spot beauty before getting to know if the content of her character is good or bullshit!!!!
If her character is rotten, then i move on to the next babe. QED!!!!