standd:

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Clevvermind...do not let all the negative comments here get you down. You shouldn't sacrifice your personal convictions for any friend. If he is truly your friend, he will accept you for who/what you are and move on.
Btw, there are several hotels around, using your bunk isn't an absolute necessity. You are not a Jew, Obote or whatever crass names guys call themselves.

Besides, if he is truly your friend ,he should be able to forgive you too, abi?

And for all the guys yabbing OP, una welldone oh

morefire:



apart from this post really is everthing ok with you? cos you seem really upset oh....

SAMBARRY:
Including things that will put you in trouble and stain your name. What if she has kleptomaniac tendencies. E.g she steals money or phone or you think if gbege happens and the mother comes with her do you think he will not take off like you people do? Even if he knows his friend is locked up for what he doesn't know anything about do you think his so called friend will show up



yorubas say you only know what's in your mind you don't know the intents of your so called friend. This days it's even risky vouching for friends because such has led many men to kirikiri

naijaboiy:

Like seriously

You'll be a snitch?

acidtalk:



And you are there using a FAKE IDENTITY. SO OBVIOUS YOU ARE A GUY.

InZA:


Everything is ok with me.


Thanks for your concern

clevvermind:
One of my friend called me yesterday that he will be taking one his new babe to my house. I asked him if it was just an ordinary visit, he said no that it was not an ordinary visit, that he intend sleeping with her. he said he needs some privacy in my house for at least 5hours, that he will come to collect my house key.

I asked him why he wants to use my house since he has a well furnished house? He told me that he doesn't want his real babe to walk into them accidentally in his house, that he needs a place like my house where his real babe don't easily visits. He said he was afraid that he may gets caught by his real babe cheating. I then told him that my house is not available that he should go and book a hotel instead, that i don't allow such thing in my house. I told him that i'm very sorry that it can't be possible. He then cut the call. I guess he was angry for my refusal to grant his request. i have been trying to reach him on phone since but to no avail. I would try to go and see him later.

Please is what i did wrong? Should i have left my house for him and his babe to do such thing?

InZA:



Naah.

I don't call it snitching.

It's just my personal, maybe queer way of being a good friend.

Oh wow!

I guess it's friendships which you don't really value that you would act like that.

I can't believe you'll do that to a really good friend

naijaboiy:

Your points are valid but I don't think that is the situation here.

The Op said they have been close friends for a long time which simply means he must have known the kind of person he has as a friend.

His own grouse is that he cannot allow his friend use his room to cheat on his girl friend.

That is the awkward situation i'm talking about here. It's a different situation if he has been allowing the friend before and chose to turn him down this time.

In my opinion they are not really friends because friends watch each others backs and they have their ways of correcting themselves when one does wrong.

If he says they are really close friends then he fùcked up.

clevvermind:
One of my friend called me yesterday that he will be taking one his new babe to my house. I asked him if it was just an ordinary visit, he said no that it was not an ordinary visit, that he intend sleeping with her. he said he needs some privacy in my house for at least 5hours, that he will come to collect my house key.

I asked him why he wants to use my house since he has a well furnished house? He told me that he doesn't want his real babe to walk into them accidentally in his house, that he needs a place like my house where his real babe don't easily visits. He said he was afraid that he may gets caught by his real babe cheating. I then told him that my house is not available that he should go and book a hotel instead, that i don't allow such thing in my house. I told him that i'm very sorry that it can't be possible. He then cut the call. I guess he was angry for my refusal to grant his request. i have been trying to reach him on phone since but to no avail. I would try to go and see him later.

Please is what i did wrong? Should i have left my house for him and his babe to do such thing?

naijaboiy:

Oh wow!

I guess it's friendships which you don't really value that you would act like that.

I can't believe you'll do that to a really good friend

SAMBARRY:
op

naijaboiy:

Oh wow!

I guess it's friendships which you don't really value that you would act like that.

I can't believe you'll do that to a really good friend

InZA:


That's thing, if he were my really good friend, he would have already known my stance on things like that, so he wouldn't even put me in such a position.

I don't mind if you're shocked or surprised at the tone of my initial reply to the OP , There are just some things that I aggressively detest- Infidelity is one of them.

Ok then...well you said before that you don't have such friends who would ask for your room. so let me believe you won't even have to act like that in the first place.

But we don't know if you've got friends who cheat and if you do I don't think your best action will be to go about telling their wives/girl friends,,no matter how you detest it.

InZA:


I'm not the OP

Why the quote?

SAMBARRY:
it is only a good friend that will tell you wrong is wrong. If you encourage your friend in every bad behaviour just because he's your friend and you want to make him happy then you are a terrible friend!

Yea I stated earlier that the guy should have later talked to his friend about his cheating behaviour.

A good friend won't go and tell my girl friend that i'm cheating...what would he stand to gain from it?

SAMBARRY:
Ok and friends help a cheater cheat. A potential adulterer. As far as I am concerned any friend that encourages you to cheat on his girlfriend is only a matter of time and opportunity before he sleeps with the guy's wife.shioorrr




you think the law of seed time and harvest has ceased

naijaboiy:

Yea I stated earlier that the guy should have later talked to his friend about his cheating behaviour.

A good friend won't go and tell my girl friend that i'm cheating...what would he stand to gain from it?

InZA:
You didn't even do it well enough.



If it were to be my friend(I'm not hyping myself, but quite frankly I don't have any friend as useless as that), I would have given him my house key....after doing that, I would pick up my phone, send an anonymous text to his girlfriend - "Hi, your guy is in another house along so so street, I'm not sure but I think he is pounding another girl as I send you this text... I'm not trying to break up your relationship by sending you this text, I actually hope your relationship ceases to be. I don't know you and I don't know or care if you deserve to be cheated upon but sending you this text is just my way of ridding the romantic stratosphere of useless elements"


After that, I put my phone in my pocket and continue doing my thing.

Some guys are just very useless to say the least, double dating or double straffing does not reflect masculinity, it doesn't make you a "very good badt guy" (whatever that means by the way) it doesn't make you cool, it doesn't make you funky or hippy or contemporary, instead it means you're grossly irresponsible with no ounce of direction and purpose of life, it means you lack any trace of resolved commitment to a cause or purpose.


This thing dey vex me like say na me be the babe sef

Rubbish!!!

Tinubu:
Op, you didn't do well at all

We dudes are supposed to cover up for each other..... I understand your house isn't a pornn theatre, but these are little things that friends do for friends.... He just wan use your house 'settle' one babe codedly, na im you fall him hand kpatakpata....

InZA
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You didn't even do it well enough.



If it were to be my friend(I'm not hyping myself, but quite frankly I
don't have any friend as useless as that), I would have given him my
house key....after doing that, I would pick up my phone, send an
anonymous text to his girlfriend - "Hi, your guy is in another house
along so so street, I'm not sure but I think he is pounding another girl
as I send you this text... I'm not trying to break up your relationship
by sending you this text, I actually hope your relationship ceases to
be. I don't know you and I don't know or care if you deserve to be
cheated upon but sending you this text is just my way of ridding the
romantic stratosphere of useless elements"


After that, I put my phone in my pocket and continue doing my thing.

Some guys are just very useless to say the least, double dating or
double straffing does not reflect masculinity, it doesn't make you a
"very good badt guy" (whatever that means by the way) it doesn't make
you cool, it doesn't make you funky or hippy or contemporary, instead it
means you're grossly irresponsible with no ounce of direction and
purpose of life, it means you lack any trace of resolved commitment to a
cause or purpose.


This thing dey vex me like say na me be the babe sef

Rubbish!!!

naijaboiy:

Yes I won't lie to you...friends actually do that. There are good friends and there a bad friends.

It depends on the ones you are compatible with.

If a guy finds it comfortable making players his friends then he doesn't see it as a bad thing.

It is stated somewhere that if a lady wants to know if her man is cheating,,she should check his conversation with his fellow guys and not girls. That's where the truth lies.

sexyseun:
Acidtalk or wateva u call ur rotten name, why pick on me? Were u blind to see the place were i said i am not supporting his friend's action nor his? Do u think girls don't knw dey are being taken to a friend's place for a "reason"? Listen very well, i grew up in d midst of 5 men so i know all una stuffs.
And if u claim am a guy den come ova and suck ma d*ck

naijaboiy:

Your points are valid but I don't think that is the situation here.

The Op said they have been close friends for a long time which simply means he must have known the kind of person he has as a friend.

His own grouse is that he cannot allow his friend use his room to cheat on his girl friend.

That is the awkward situation i'm talking about here. It's a different situation if he has been allowing the friend before and chose to turn him down this time.

In my opinion they are not really friends because friends watch each others backs and they have their ways of correcting themselves when one does wrong.

If he says they are really close friends then he fùcked up.

Nutase:
summary, chicks go say u do well and guys go say u f up.
Next topic.

SAMBARRY:
I'm not saying he should go and be doing gbeborun about or bursting his bubbles in public but his no should be no without apologies and in every friends ship there should be limits. If the cheater was a reasonable human being and he knew his friend enough he should have known that this guy will say no . let me not bother asking him. At least he should have known what he likes and what he doesn't

Yea we are saying the same thing here.

That is why I said I don't think they are really close friends like he stated. Because true friends know what each other like and don't like. They know the limits.

If my friends wants to use my room,,they know that they must clean it up just like the way it was and they can't use it at a time when i'm inconvenient. If you can't follow my simple principle,,then don't bother to ask for my keys in the first place.