Sisi Jinx:

All jokes aside. . . are we forgetting who were dealing with here? The day you open your mouth and say "Dahlin', sweeri, love of my life. . . why don't you do this" is the day you hear "You want to change me! Didn't you see me like this before you married me" and when you bring your wahala to Nairaland they will tell you "Didn't you notice he wasn't like that before marriage? It is you fault for not being discerning enough. . . Deal with it."

I say, never go into a relationship thinking you can change the other person coz you might as well be digging a pit of disappointment to bury yourself in.


@ Topic
If by romance you mean did they give you the opportunity to kowtow to their every whim? Then Yes, oh God Yes. . . Nigerian men are absolutely positively the most romantic men on the surface of the earth!!!

Sisi Jinx:

All jokes aside. . . are we forgetting who were dealing with here? The day you open your mouth and say "Dahlin', sweeri, love of my life. . . why don't you do this" is the day you hear "You want to change me! Didn't you see me like this before you married me" and when you bring your wahala to Nairaland they will tell you "Didn't you notice he wasn't like that before marriage? It is you fault for not being discerning enough. . . Deal with it."

I say, never go into a relationship thinking you can change the other person coz you might as well be digging a pit of disappointment to bury yourself in.


@ Topic
If by romance you mean did they give you the opportunity to kowtow to their every whim? Then Yes, oh God Yes. . . Nigerian men are absolutely positively the most romantic men on the surface of the earth!!!

sistawoman:

Also remember the training goes both ways.  

As we are training and grooming him, he too is doing the same with us.

sistawoman:

That is the problem.

Training starts way, way, way, way before marriage.  If you start after marriage it wont work and you are stuck with what you got.

Training starts with hello how are you.

sistawoman:

That is the problem.

Training starts way, way, way, way before marriage.  If you start after marriage it wont work and you are stuck with what you got.

Training starts with hello how are you.

Sisi Jinx:

Training before, after, in between. . . the point remains (at least for me) do not go into a relationship thinking you can change someone. I'm sorry to say this but you have an almost idealistic outlook of this and while I don't hold it against you, we have to be real here. You keep saying train him train him as he these are little pups whose only worry in life is having a warm bowl of milk.

Back to the training him,  so you do it, work morning ,afternoon and night yet it doesn't take because. . . you know these are people with their own minds and some sense, what then?  

I think I'd much rather look at his flaws, what he is capable of, what my expectations are and the reality of them being me by him and decide for myself if I can live with what I will get from him. I'd also hope the guy will do the same thing with me instead of thinking "Ohh, Training 101 starts at 9pm after the first Hello"

Sisi Jinx:

Training before, after, in between. . . the point remains (at least for me) do not go into a relationship thinking you can change someone. I'm sorry to say this but you have an almost idealistic outlook of this and while I don't hold it against you, we have to be real here. You keep saying train him train him as he these are little pups whose only worry in life is having a warm bowl of milk.

Back to the training him,  so you do it, work morning ,afternoon and night yet it doesn't take because. . . you know these are people with their own minds and some sense, what then?  

I think I'd much rather look at his flaws, what he is capable of, what my expectations are and the reality of them being me by him and decide for myself if I can live with what I will get from him. I'd also hope the guy will do the same thing with me instead of thinking "Ohh, Training 101 starts at 9pm after the first Hello"

Tsiya:

Sisi Yaya kike?

You are very harsh on men. I dont think Im a bad man but I cant understand, is it not the women that sometimes cause wahala in marriage? My father told me you dont know ur friend untill 3 things enter between u and them: (1) Stay in d same room for some months or even years (2) financial obligations enters between the 2 of you (3) sharing responsiblity and power come between the 2 of you

Patience and compromise are key to all form friendship, and I think marriage should not an exception.

Lil Witch:

Hi everyone, I'm new here. I was trying to learn more about something (won't tell you) so I googled "Nigerian Men", clicked on "I'm feeling lucky" and I landed on this site. Been reading all the interesting topics since but I have to comment on this one. Who says Nigerian men are not romantic?? The one I'm currently dating is DIVINE.  
I just wish more men like that would come from wherever he is from and that is, Nigeria!
Nigerian women, please appreciate your men!!!

Sisi Jinx:

Lmao! I don't mean to kill anybody oooh. . . at least not yet. Us Succubus wait until after mating.


Acid ki lon se e lately sef? Egba wo lo be re gbogbo cursing yi?

C2H5OH:

Loss of sanity? You know I am very uppity at the moment so don't fucking ta si mi.

Sapphic:

Nigerian men and Romantic do not usually occur in the same sentence unless when separted by a very important word i.e. "NOT.

There fore Nigerian Men = Not Romantic. When you see a Nigerian man "pretending" to be romantic, he has an ulterior motive.

C2H5OH:

Looks like Nairaland Women are only accustomed to dating pigs.

Sapphic:

Nigerian men and Romantic do not usually occur in the same sentence unless when separted by a very important word i.e. "NOT.

There fore Nigerian Men = Not Romantic. When you see a Nigerian man "pretending" to be romantic, he has an ulterior motive.