Raymie:
@OP, are yhu Catholic, if yes, become a priest. If no, become one and become a priest. Then yhu wouldn't need to marry. Marriage will not guarantee a change in yhur sexuality. And if yhur wife finds out, we will certainly then know who yhu are offline. Inasmuch as I'm not a gay advocate, its foolishness to hate them either. Afterall, their maker hates the Sin and not the sinner. As long as yhu don't try molesting young boys, or are caught with a man, yhu may as well keep yhur secret till yhu die. I'm only being realistic in a country where homosexuality is more criminal than armed robbery or murder.

Don't be depressed. Take yhur mind off yhur sexuality and focus those energies into more positive ends like hanging out more, or playing a sport. If it is God's will, the lady who will win yhur heart and activate yhur loins will come. And all others will be automatic. Stay positive.

Depressedguy:
Being gay is my life regret, i have questioned God and myself how i got to this stage. I just feel like commiting suicide.

Here is my story, my name is Frank, 26, a banker. I am the envy of most women, because am 6.2" tall, fair and very handsome. My nickname is Ramsey Noah, this is to tell you how good looking i am. But i have a very BIG problem, i am attracted to the same sex.

This is a problem i have come to notice at teen, i love girls company more than guys, i play all the girl plays and hate football, am guessing that could be where my formation was transposed. I ended up liking what girls like when am not one. But i have come to change a few things becuase i went to a boarding house and was always ridiculed for that. So i changed so many things there, the way i talk, the way i walk, and my gestures, also i love football now more than anything, but my sexuality has refused to change.

I have all it takes to get a woman, i have a good job, a car, and live alone. But at this age, i have not seen a womans pants not to talk of getting in between. But i have so many female friends, so many that the always take me for a player. Am jovial with them, buy them gifts and treat them well, but am not sexually attracted to any of them and have no feelings whatsoever. Am just a good guy, i know that, because that is the best i can do to cover up my little secret. And they(ladies) love me too and many are dying for my attention. I have been asked out so many times by ladies. One even offered to pay all the bills just for us to get intimate, but i declined, lying that i have a girlfriend i dont want to cheat on.

To make matters worse, i hate being gay, sometimes i go celibate for as long as six(6) months simply because i hate my life and my sexuality. Am always alone, indoors all through the weekend, because going out with guys will result to girl talk and i have nothing to contribute, me of all persons, so hard to believe. I also hate gay companies, so many regrets afterwards as to why i am this way. I envy straight guys to the core, i so much wish i am one. When i see a guy and a girl holding hands and taking a walk, i have this feeling of giult amd hatred for myself that i quickly get depressed.

Here is the problem, i want to marry early, at least before 28 or max 30. I need to connect to a woman and force myself into a relationship. I need to get attracted to a womans body, and get turned on by that. And finally, i need to learn how to tolerate a woman, and live with thier baggage. Am comfortable as a single man, i dont mind living alone till i die, i can cook well and am not a sex freak, i can live for years without it. But i want kids, i love them and cant wait to have a daughter. I have once told myself that once i get married and have kids, i will divoorce my wife and live alone then the kids can stay anywhere. But this idea is pure foolishness.

I am very religious, as a matter if fact, this conditionn is the only sin i battle with, i know we all have one. I hardly commit any other sin. But i know that just this one is very mortal, but we are all strugglling because we are all flesh. It takes the grace of God to overcome sin generally.(Please dont come and critisize, we are all going to the same hell: homosexual, hetrosexual; and no sin is worse than the other.)

This my condition is getting me more depressed by the day and sometimes i wish to end my life. But i like my life more than anything, so am thinking of patronising prostitutes at least to get feel of what it takes like. But am afriad of STIs.

Please help a brother...

Depressedguy:


why do I have to do something to change, did you do anything to become straight?

missclasssy:


Your write -up brought me to tears, really!

alberto2k:

Taa! Goan cut that your abuna!
Or what other help do u need?
Oh oh.... sorry, you need a knife? idiat!

:-

ronald4lif:


You still don't get it. People don't change their sexuality, it's a natural trait. Can a heterosexual change to gay, will you advise heterosexual to become gay?

warpedlogician:


You're just an I'diot
Honestly that's even mildly putting it.
Openly confessed to a crime?
Why don't you report him to the nearest police station.
If you have no advice for him, then shut the eff up you dense m.oron

Xiadnat:


Yea....what he said.

Ollymurs:
I do not have a problem with anyone being Gay, neither do i think its a disease or an abnormality. Do I go with the myopic minds here who feel or believe that those who are of a different sexual orientation are cursed and should be put to death? No!
However what i do believe is that homosexuality is not a genetically-determined, unchangeable trait. Hence the "born that way" myth is just wrong and unacceptable.
I believe sexual orientation is not fixed at birth but rather is environmentally shaped and it unfolds slowly across childhood, adolescence and even adults, boys generally get sexually fixed at age 15 or so, is it changeable? Probably.
What you need is psychotherapy which will mainly involve 'self-control' self motivation and also try making greater efforts to mix socially with straight men and women in a non-sexual setting, also try to avoid 'temptation' it might be a hindrance to you achieving your goal. Note down your attractions to people of the same sex, sexual desires and behaviour, that way you can monitor your progress.
Can you change with time? Definately yes.

ronald4lif:


I'm not encouraging him to be gay. I'm simply telling him to be himself.

ronald4lif:


I'm not encouraging him to be gay. I'm simply telling him to be himself.

Vyolet:
I do not believe anyone was born gay. You are what you feel you are.

The good thing is,you have a sense of guilt already,just try and mingle more with women. Pick one from the numerous around you,study her and get involved with her sexually if she is willing. You will get used to it with time.

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Depressedguy:
Being gay is my life regret, i have questioned God and myself how i got to this stage. I just feel like commiting suicide.

Here is my story, my name is Frank, 26, a banker. I am the envy of most women, because am 6.2" tall, fair and very handsome. My nickname is Ramsey Noah, this is to tell you how good looking i am. But i have a very BIG problem, i am attracted to the same sex.

This is a problem i have come to notice at teen, i love girls company more than guys, i play all the girl plays and hate football, am guessing that could be where my formation was transposed. I ended up liking what girls like when am not one. But i have come to change a few things becuase i went to a boarding house and was always ridiculed for that. So i changed so many things there, the way i talk, the way i walk, and my gestures, also i love football now more than anything, but my sexuality has refused to change.

I have all it takes to get a woman, i have a good job, a car, and live alone. But at this age, i have not seen a womans pants not to talk of getting in between. But i have so many female friends, so many that the always take me for a player. Am jovial with them, buy them gifts and treat them well, but am not sexually attracted to any of them and have no feelings whatsoever. Am just a good guy, i know that, because that is the best i can do to cover up my little secret. And they(ladies) love me too and many are dying for my attention. I have been asked out so many times by ladies. One even offered to pay all the bills just for us to get intimate, but i declined, lying that i have a girlfriend i dont want to cheat on.

To make matters worse, i hate being gay, sometimes i go celibate for as long as six(6) months simply because i hate my life and my sexuality. Am always alone, indoors all through the weekend, because going out with guys will result to girl talk and i have nothing to contribute, me of all persons, so hard to believe. I also hate gay companies, so many regrets afterwards as to why i am this way. I envy straight guys to the core, i so much wish i am one. When i see a guy and a girl holding hands and taking a walk, i have this feeling of giult amd hatred for myself that i quickly get depressed.

Here is the problem, i want to marry early, at least before 28 or max 30. I need to connect to a woman and force myself into a relationship. I need to get attracted to a womans body, and get turned on by that. And finally, i need to learn how to tolerate a woman, and live with thier baggage. Am comfortable as a single man, i dont mind living alone till i die, i can cook well and am not a sex freak, i can live for years without it. But i want kids, i love them and cant wait to have a daughter. I have once told myself that once i get married and have kids, i will divoorce my wife and live alone then the kids can stay anywhere. But this idea is pure foolishness.

I am very religious, as a matter if fact, this conditionn is the only sin i battle with, i know we all have one. I hardly commit any other sin. But i know that just this one is very mortal, but we are all strugglling because we are all flesh. It takes the grace of God to overcome sin generally.(Please dont come and critisize, we are all going to the same hell: homosexual, hetrosexual; and no sin is worse than the other.)

This my condition is getting me more depressed by the day and sometimes i wish to end my life. But i like my life more than anything, so am thinking of patronising prostitutes at least to get feel of what it takes like. But am afriad of STIs.

Please help a brother...

Dexnuel:


So sorry if my intuition was wrong abt ur response regardin dz comment nt sayin it wrong..

4rm wot av noticed tru ur comments,my opinion tho!!dnt think u ready 2 chng despites al d epistle u've written,al u want is public sympathy n u gettin it already..Though,d oda side of u wanna giv up bt d oda half stil wanna explore n if u happen 2 find urself where dz acts is legalized,believe me u won't b bothered abt chngin at al..

Not sayin u yield 2 my advice neither applaudin u 2 go along wit other pple's opinion..

As an adult in ur late 20's,u shd knw d differences btw right n wrong..Jst knw if u chose d rite path,d reward is engraved wit apy endin n if otherwise,vice versa..

Aint perfect,also av my own dirty closet m tryin 2 tidy up..Sit urself down n av a deep tot abt u wanna do abt dz subject instead of being stucked in d middle.

Depressedguy:
Wow, good to hear from you guys, all advises will be duely considered; but the decision is mine. As for those who came to curse and bash, I cant be stronger without you guys, more curse, more determination.

To the matter at hand, I am in this dilemma because of my religious inclination. Don't get me wrong, I would have lived my life to the fullest but there is pile, cancer of the anus, STIs and most especially HIV. And we all know that gays are more prone to them. Above all, it is SIN and that is the most important. I have a very promising future, die now cause of a stupid act, no way.

There are so many questions we cant answer. Who created the imbeciles, the blind, the cripple, the deaf, the dumb etc, none of us will say that it is God, but then how did they come into existence, did the devil create them or are they straight from the pit of hell. We all know that those people aren't normal, when compared to a "normal" human being but are they EVIL, are they possessed of a demon that needs to be cast out or do they need to be sent to prison for 14 years? Of course not, because they are not guilty of who they are because they are born that way. We only see them as abnormal because we live in a world where normal is a being born with two legs, two eyes, 46 chromosomes, can talk and can speak.

Same is for gays, they are normal human being with a different sexual preference. They are not evil, they are not sick, they are not mentally derailed and they are not possessed of any demon. You can say that they are sexually abnormal, because we live in world where normal is male and female and not male to male nor female to female. That is just the difference they simply have a different SEXUAL ORIENTATION.


Scientists can prove the abnormalities in these aforementioned disabilities, they can categorically say what caused them and why they occurred, but science can not say the actual cause of HOMOSEXUALITY, there is no scientific proof of that. The best they came up with was that is it just a habit. A hardcore habit that is very difficult to trace how and when it was acquired. This is not a fact though cause there are so many different stories about when and how gays started having the same sex attraction.

It pains me more where heterosexuals are at liberty to fornicate and go scot free but homosexuals don't. They even discuss it openly and brag about it, it is now an Olympic race, everybody competing for the gold. But talk of a homosexual, the next thing you hear is kill him, shoot him, burn him, maim him; and we all fail to realise that anywhere in the Bible that homosexuality was mentioned, adultery and fornication follows suit and they have the same punishment, death.

So we should stop deceiving ourselves, especially those who claim to be homophobic, one thing is being straight, another is being gay, take It or leave it. I have come to hate myself simply because religion says so, but am going to try, the worst I can become is BISEXUAL, then I will have to live with it.