kinglekan:
Why should you monitor your partner? Are you a monitoring spirit?

Relationships are built on Love which encompasses so many things like trust, faithfulness, compassion, etc.

While so many others would disagree on Love being key, cos of our different ways of defining love, yet we all agree that Trust is the watchword.

Only people who are distrustful, insecure and pessimists engage in such demeaning activities.


***Modified***

Too many comments on your new look, had to take a peep at my crush.

U look so beautiful dear. @Twaci
And the hair looks lovely, don't mind all this admirers.

TheSonOfMark:


When she starts turning coat, I'll notice...but I'll act oblivious while I reduce what we have to something lower - friends with benefit. By time you realize I was already in the know of your shady dealings, you'll realize I was the one really using you

kinglekan:


You cannot Play the Player in his own Game.

naijaboiy:
There is no rule that states whether it's wrong or right.

Sometimes it's just for the good of the relationship not to bother yourself with somethings that will cause damage to it.

But sometimes curiosity may get the better part of us and we'll see ourselves checking his/her phone and messages.

I believe in periodic checking and asking of questions though.

Don't just stay there and be left oblivious of what is going on. It may be very devastating when you finally find out.

Trust me.

TheSonOfMark:



Not at all, Lekan, not at all.

Orijin101:

Blue dada, break up hair ?
And when did we break up ooo?

kinglekan:


I know bruv!! Just kidding.

You got me wrong. I really was corroborating what you implied. A female can't beat me at my game.

Twaci:
When u chose sinaj...

Anywayz, right now my relationship status reads: Single

baby, ive left sinaj, i wanna settle down with u now

kinglekan:


Even if there are no rules that state so. Checking of your partners phone call logs, txt msgs, emails, is a total violation of personal space. Everyone has a right to some sort of privacy.

This is not necessarily because he/she is a cheat, but having a mindset that something fishy might be going on is just as close as being paranoid.

I think its a NO NO. The thing is it becomes a habit, you begin to see little things and blow them out of proportion. Sometimes it could be a total misunderstanding. These things could have been avoided if the partner didn't start getting all nosy.

The very fact that you start being suspicious would automatically lead you to find something. (Might be totally not what it seems like, but your mind has been made a detective and would definitely find a fault)

#Just Saying

Orijin101:

baby, ive left sinaj, i wanna settle down with u now

jacksparrow1207:
What is monitor? The part of a computer system?

Twaci:
Sorry for u

TheSonOfMark:



[s]You got me wrong. I really was corroborating what you implied. A female can't beat me at my game. [/s]

Twaci:
Exactly

rokiatu:
Nope...Infact I don't even answer my man phone, even in his absence. He on the other hand, na different story.

Orijin101:

danyel09:
bro wetin happen ?

na twaci ooo

jacksparrow1207:


Jargon!

2dice:
Insecurity has really eaten the world ..

TheSonOfMark:


[b]Beat it, troll. I see you've be courting my attention since King Lekan created that thread yesterday. Continue frolicking with your simpleton, 'weedstars' crew - it's all you'll ever be known for. I don't converse with clowns.



Stick to your Little League, kiddo. [/b]

HaroldFinch:
I don't think it helps. It only fuels your anger and hatred more. Nobody is perfect and 'monitoring' will only allow your eyes to feed on your partner's secrets and flaws, which you also have. Whenever you're in doubts, call your partner and discuss as opined above. Communication helps a lot. I once monitored an ex and it became a disease. I wish I had used all those time for better things. We ended up breaking up cos I discovered lots of things that I found difficult to erase. I'm pretty sure if she had 'monitored me too, the same thing might have happened. In sum,' monitoring ' is like playing God. Start appreciating the good things in your partner and discuss things you find inconvenient.

Twaci:
The topic says it all, do u think it is right to monitor your partner?

By monitor, I mean; always checking his/her phone, making sure you know ALL of his/her friends, always noting every activity carried out by him/her on all their social sites (e.g Nairaland, facebook, twitter, IG...), and so on.

I have my opinion on this but need to hear yours. Let's talk.

Good morning.

Darkrebel666:


~ Very correct...
The theory is this- If you are always monitoring your girl and always feel insecure then its either she's too good for you or you aren't up to her standards, and thus, the fear of her being snatched by another dude kicks in.

JeffreyJamez:




If a guy/girl wanna keep to sanity, it's better to stay clear of those..... especially if they're the jealous type.

Orijin101:

baby, ive left sinaj, i wanna settle down with u now

charijee:
Hmmmmmm