sinaj:


smh

baby, wahrapen

Orijin101:

na twaci ooo

eeyah

Twaci
:
The topic says it all, do u think it is right to monitor
your partner?

By monitor, I mean; always checking his/her phone, making sure you know
ALL of his/her friends, always noting every activity carried out by
him/her on all their social sites (e.g Nairaland, facebook, twitter,
IG...), and so on.

I have my opinion on this but need to hear yours. Let's talk.

Good morning.

danbrowndmf:
tell me ur own opinion.do u monitor ur bf like dat?.

Twaci:
I can't lie...I do get tempted...

Orijin101:

baby, wahrapen

TheSonOfMark:



You got me wrong. I really was corroborating what you implied. A female can't beat me at my game.

naijaboiy:

[b]It may not necessarily be checking the phones,,messages and all other means of communication.

But asking questions if you are in doubt of something to be clear. I wouldn't want to see what i'm suspicious of and keep quiet just because I don't want to come off as insecure.

That's pretence to me.

In a normal healthy relationship,,partners are not supposed to hide anything in the first place. They shouldn't act in a way that their other partner will be suspicious.

Trust me,,if your partner doesn't act in a shady way you will not have the need to be suspicious and start snooping around. Yes,,it may turn out that whatever she/he is hiding from you may not be what you think it is but it's better to know about it.

I don't see asking questions and checking of messages as infringing of personal rights in a relationship.

If you don't want anybody to bother you and start asking you questions or checking your phone,,then simply stay single.

Albeit,,everything is required in its moderate level and not too overdone. As that is when there will be a big problem leading to trust issues and insecurity.[/b]

ofpeaceandroyal:
If you ever feel like you have the need to snoop, then you should. Trust is a very important thing - and so is intuition. I wouldn't snoop if I felt I had no reason to. If I did feel like something was up - I would snoop. by snooping you can save yourself from an even nastier situation. If you have the relationship that "all things are open" and there's no reason not to trust each other, its good for the both of you.

Anyone who doesnt have something to hide wont accuse the partner of monitoring, the would see it as a part of care and watching over them. Your monitoring sometimes doesnt have to do with insecurities, there is always a side of your partner that you never know or which they reveal better to other people, and sometimes from there you can correct their mistakes or advise them rightfully on some things they are up to.

TheSonOfMark:

I do not monitor...not consciously anyway. If you leave trails like interacting intimately with a guy on your FACEBOOK TIMELINE and it appears on my wall, how am I suppose not to be cognizant of it?

I guess I am wired differently - NO ACTION BY A MALE WOULD MAKE FLABBERGASTED. When she starts turning coat, I'll notice...but I'll act oblivious while I reduce what we have to something lower - friends with benefit. By time you realize I was already in the know of your shady dealings, you'll realize I was the one really using you

Twaci:
The topic says it all, do u think it is right to monitor your partner?

By monitor, I mean; always checking his/her phone, making sure you know ALL of his/her friends, always noting every activity carried out by him/her on all their social sites (e.g Nairaland, facebook, twitter, IG...), and so on.

I have my opinion on this but need to hear yours. Let's talk.

Good morning.

naijaboiy:
There is no rule that states whether it's wrong or right.

Sometimes it's just for the good of the relationship not to bother yourself with somethings that will cause damage to it.

But sometimes curiosity may get the better part of us and we'll see ourselves checking his/her phone and messages.

[size=20pt]I believe in periodic checking and asking of questions though.

Don't just stay there and be left oblivious of what is going on. It may be very devastating when you finally find out.[/size]

Trust me.

TheSonOfMark:

I do not monitor...not consciously anyway. If you leave trails like interacting intimately with a guy on your FACEBOOK TIMELINE and it appears on my wall, how am I suppose not to be cognizant of it?

I guess I am wired differently - NO ACTION BY A FEMALE WOULD MAKE FLABBERGASTED. When she starts turning coat, I'll notice...but I'll act oblivious while I reduce what we have to something lower - friends with benefit. By time you realize I was already in the know of your shady dealings, you'll realize I was the one really using you

AgapeCharis:



Exactly!!