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Julie Ferman of YourTango explains why ‘love at first sight’ is almost a myth and how singles keep repeating the mistake of thinking there must be an initial spark on the first meet with some great guy or girl. Have you ever wondered if you’ve possibly missed opportunities to date someone REALLY great simply because they didn’t dramatically strike your fancy at first glance? I’m here to tell you … you’ve probably missed out on some wonderful potential partners. And likely, plenty of great people also overlooked you! I recently read a New York Times article that highlighted how fatal of a mistake it is for single men and women to limit their love prospects only to those who instantly elicit a dramatic, romantic response upon that very first peek. After many years as a personal matchmaker and dating coach, I see firsthand why it’s smart to look outside the arena of “It Girls” and “It Guys.” Everyone who’s dating in today’s wacky world grew up with the media, and we’ve all been trained by decades of magazines, billboards, and screens (both, large and handheld) to go for “the Clooneys” and “the Angelinas.” But, how often does someone fall in love at first sight with someone who looks like that? Oh … maybe a hundred times a day … and does that kind of attention (and stalking) breed heart, soul and rock solid character? Sadly, in my experience, I’d say it’s rare. If you are waiting to fall in love with someone who grabs you visually from the get-go, you’re undoubtedly missing lots and lots (and lots) of far better partners than the ones who catch your eye right away. All that attention tends to breed entitlement and narcissism, and really who needs that? Recent research delivers a powerful message to us, that time spent together can and often does impact romantic attraction. Psychologists at the University of Texas in Austin conducted the study, measuring the level of romantic attraction that students had for their fellow classmates. More specifically, what the researchers measured was the change in attraction over time, as the students got to know each other over the course of several months — interacting with each other in a small classroom environment. The findings? The peers that students considered at the beginning of the school term to have the most romantic appeal were not necessarily in the “cream” that rose to the top several months later. In fact, the study revealed that the more time spent together, the greater the disparity between perceptions of who was hot and who was, in the end — not. Today’s singles are ruthless in their superficiality, and apps like Tinder and Hinge only exacerbate the problem. With these dating tools, the question as to whether someone is a “Keeper” or not is a decision made in a half a second. I do know couples who’ve met via Tinder and Hinge, but mostly I see a big time sucker that leaves, both, men and women feeling empty, weary, dissatisfied and still alone on Friday nights (with their device, swiping left and right). I’ve had the honor and joy of working with The Matchmaking Institute, where Dr. Helen Fisher has shared so much of her wisdom. She’s a biological anthropologist, a foremost expert in the Romantic Love and Attraction sciences, hired by Match.com as part of the architectural team responsible for creating Chemistry.com. Dr. Helen Fisher knows as much about the biology of love and attraction as anyone alive today, and she conducted a survey that backs up the University of Texas findings. Dr. Fisher was looking closely at what she calls “slow love” — when romantic love develops for two people not at first sight, but over time. As we might expect, the study showed that “slow love” happens more for women than it does for men, but not nearly as dramatic a difference as we might think; 43 percent of women and 33 percent of men reported that they have developed romantic attraction for and have indeed fallen in love with someone whom they had not initially deemed attractive. Developing a case of “the hots” over time most certainly DOES occur for today’s single love seekers. In fact, it’s happening more now than ever, as the age at which today’s single men and women are coupling up continues to rise. And it’s a good thing that romantic attraction can and does develop over time — as let’s face it — for the vast majority of us, as we get older, our looks aren’t as likely to turn heads. It’s a smart single person who does less swiping and suspends judgment for a while, to allow a person to fully “reveal” themselves. What qualities and characteristics did Dr. Fisher’s survey reveal that make a person ultimately attractive and appealing romantically? The inside stuff — humor, shared interests, and the art of conversation. In other words, give each other a chance and take the time to get to know each other.

To all Lagos Residents and it suburb , traffic jam (go slow, hold up) is part of everyday life . you have to plan ur day in accordance with it . Many have been wondering what's are the major causes of these GRIDLOCKS and during these festive period it will surely be elevated
Here are my major causes
1. location of businesses : Many major companies are located in Lagos and it environ . thereby there's huge influx of people trying to get to their work places from their abodes early in the morning and and vice versa in the evening .Those that works in the island , or stays in sango can attest to that.
2 . state of the roads: Most of the roads are in bad conditions and not properly manage . a very good example is at ile -epo along oshodi -sango road. that road is beyond spoilt .if rain should fall , you are in for it..
3. Church programs and Political activities : these two are kinda inter related. when churches like RCCG and Winners hold their annual conventions. the gridlock is extremely bad. when our politicians decides to pay Lagos a visit , the citizenry knows they are in for it.
4. lack of proper town planning: this is another issue ,several buildings , Churches , markets are located in awkward places .thereby resulting in traffic Gridlock
5. Attitudes of pedestrians : some of lagosians are hard heads . some will be crossing highways with impunity even if overhead bridges are available , oncoming vehicles will have to slow down thus causing gridlocks. a typical example can be found in Oshodi,where KAI is arresting offenders.but that's not deterring some people.
6.Roadside stores: some people hawks their wares on the highways and you will c drivers and passengers haggling over the prices of goods right in the middles of the road!.
7.Drivers attitudes: most of us have being in traffic jams and we kept wondering what is the cause only for us to c two motorist battling it out right in the middle of the road.sometimes we can c a woman in suit trying earnestly to eat some food. we may even witness two drivers trying to fit into the same space. a very good example occurred at lekki toll gate right in front of oriental hotel where two drivers got stuck will trying to pass through the gate at the same time!
8. location of law enforcement agents: This usually get me angry. you will c law enforcement agent lurking at the end of the road, portholes, curves to catch offenders. the most recent one I witnessed occurred along yaba road where a motorist was told to reverse back on the BRT lane with at least 20 vehicles behind him when they could have Stayed at beginning to avert it all.
Feel free to add yours
Cc:
Dominique

tonytony208:
I was a newbie when I first went to computer village. In fact, it was just after my 2nd or 3rd day in Lagos. And nothing happened.

you weren't holding something valuable or may be someone took u there.

To all Lagos Residents and it suburb , traffic jam (go slow, hold up) is part of everyday life . you have to plan ur day in accordance with it . Many have been wondering what's are the major causes of these GRIDLOCKS and during these festive period it will surely be elevated
Here are my major causes
1. location of businesses : Many major companies are located in Lagos and it environ . thereby there's huge influx of people trying to get to their work places from their abodes early in the morning and and vice versa in the evening .Those that works in the island , or stays in sango can attest to that.
2 . state of the roads: Most of the roads are in bad conditions and not properly manage . a very good example is at ile -epo along oshodi -sango road. that road is beyond spoilt .if rain should fall , you are in for it..
3. Church programs and Political activities : these two are kinda inter related. when churches like RCCG and Winners hold their annual conventions. the gridlock is extremely bad. when our politicians decides to pay Lagos a visit , the citizenry knows they are in for it.
4. lack of proper town planning: this is another issue ,several buildings , Churches , markets are located in awkward places .thereby resulting in traffic Gridlock
5. Attitudes of pedestrians : some of lagosians are hard heads . some will be crossing highways with impunity even if overhead bridges are available , oncoming vehicles will have to slow down thus causing gridlocks. a typical example can be found in Oshodi,where KAI is arresting offenders.but that's not deterring some people.
6.Roadside stores: some people hawks their wares on the highways and you will c drivers and passengers haggling over the prices of goods right in the middles of the road!.
7.Drivers attitudes: most of us have being in traffic jams and we kept wondering what is the cause only for us to c two motorist battling it out right in the middle of the road.sometimes we can c a woman in suit trying earnestly to eat some food. we may even witness two drivers trying to fit into the same space. a very good example occurred at lekki toll gate right in front of oriental hotel where two drivers got stuck will trying to pass through the gate at the same time!
8. location of law enforcement agents: This usually get me angry. you will c law enforcement agent lurking at the end of the road, portholes, curves to catch offenders. the most recent one I witnessed occurred along yaba road where a motorist was told to reverse back on the BRT lane with at least 20 vehicles behind him when they could have Stayed at beginning to avert it all.
Feel free to add yours
Cc: lalasticlala

The Bible even talk Sey 'my people perish cos they lack knowledge' some are calling a professor in an American university names. anyway check his profile before commenting

If you are an Alumnus or A present Student of the great citadel of learning Called ADEKUNLE AJASIN UNIVERSITY AKUNGBA AKOKO, ONDO STATE.Then you must have heard or knew the Most popular MAD MAN in the whole community ,He goes by the name Saheed and he's being Mad for many years .....if the News i heard is anything to go by it means that the wonderful HAND of God has heal him of his afflictions. Can i hear halleluyah,hossana,wow,really!!,incredible, i dont believe it , Saheed ??. Let it be know that he (GOD) still works his wonders...... So brethen Never Give up on GOD cos he will never give up on u.
cc: lalasticlala

donholy28:
Why is dix issue paining u like this?... u go develop hbp o

And the dumb ass are here ..PAWNS

merry02:
What is ur own in a region demanding for freedom?u don't v issues with the agitators pls!if they have geniue reason to go,so be it!Niger delta got its amnesty,North is about to get amnesty through Boko haram!

. Do you know the the meaning of amnesty Dumb ass

The issue of secession of the Biafra from Nigeria has been going for too long .. The USA is more diversified than we are yet they tolerate each other ..NOT one part threatening the other with secession and oil claims .. Its disheartening that the leaders from the region who enjoys the bulk of the revenue generated from there are quite happy about the seeming under development of such areas .. Militants are getting richer while all the citizenry wallow in abject poverty .. Some are in the confine of the UK (NNMADI) inciting ethnic bigotry into youths ... And the youth who bears the bulk of the burden are brainwashed .. All those above the age of 55 can attest to the Holocaust and pain that happen those years when OJUKWU blindly lead people into war like GERMANY'S HITLER did resulting in the deaths of thousands .. Yet NNMADI KANU who is still a baby then is now stirring the hornet nest . he's gaining popularity on people emotional attachment to Biafra.. I will not be surprised if he comes back and contest for a political post in the country... My dear Youth ..wise up. And don't be a pawn..

As much I hate to discuss the ethnic bigotry of you BIAFRANS but I hate to say you are all babies .. Non of you clamouring for the secession know anything about war . even NNAMDI KANU has never experience WAR in his life but he stays in the UK and let you e-rats do his work .. Believe me all those great leaders even ojukwu put their money where their mouth is. I can say categorically that all those clamouring are below the age of 50 .when you get home ask Your parents their experiences and then come back .. If you want to quote me pls be above the age of 60 ..... And give me your experience of what it felt like for those 30months

Its like the saying between Mohammed and the mountain. If they ( d companies ) didn't call u , call yourself. Heavens help those who help themselves

Its a total waste of time , if I can recollect very well , the program was initiated to integrate the country after the civil wars n it was suppose to run for a period of thirty years .. The money being expended on is too much n the insecurity issues. In my own opinion the allawee should b given to the graduate at once . thus dey can find tangible investment to make with it...but how those wey they collect #50000 to kit a corper wan chop .. I heard its the same company that had been making those uniform since the 1970s still dey do am. No distribution of wealth

If I may I ask ,is WAEC FREE ?? COS am wondering y d result of the the student should b withhold ..I think its only NECO that is free right ??

@op , come ADEKUNLE AJASIN UNIVERSITY AKUNGBA AKOKO ... CHEMISTRY DEPARTMENT IN PARTICULAR N C SITTING .zig zag to ya. Were .nobody go dey directly behind u or near u

when your bae gat Apollo n she's singing kiss Daniel "BABY OYA WOJU O" , n your reply is LAYE O BABY KOJOR

angieberry:
She's actually right, it's her husband's house so she can do and undo, so you have no choice than to adhere to her rules. She obviously doesn't feel Comfortable with your presence in her house that's why she's acting up, and it will look very wrong if you keep complaining about her or reporting her. If you can't tolerate her behavior, you should probably leave that house. To live peacefully with her, you should get ready to swallow a lot of shit and I don't know if you're ready to do that.

. Na so u girls mumu reach , you lot are selfish to the core . I pray her husband get a new wife then I want to hear it's her husband house . haven't u heard of divorcing ur wife . mtchww

Didn't OBJ Launched one nigcomsat 1 for us in Nigeria. which gulps million of our money . n dasuki was charged with treason not theft . so seizing his property is absolutely wrong.,how many cars he got when compare to tinubu n co ... abegi .

If you didn’t grow up in Lagos, adjusting to the hustling and bustling life of the city may be difficult for you even if you are just to spend few days, especially if you grew up in a calm city like Agbor town or Akure.

People who are visiting Lagos for the first time or have never visited usually have different conceptions based on the stories they have garnered from various Lagosians they have met back at home, many have concluded they cannot settle in Lagos – “it is too noisy”, “it is overcrowded”, “I can’t cope with the stress of the traffic” they do say.
You will agree that sometimes, circumstances beyond your control will make you become a resident of Lagos or a visitor – new job, marriage or attending an event of a loved one. Putting aside the stories you have heard, everyone can cope in Lagos, you just need to open your mind to it and adhere to some dos and don’ts like these ones below.

The 5 Dos

Keep Calm and be respectful
You may probably see new things around - landmarks, structures, and more, it’s okay to look, but staring for too long or touching may just make you look awkward with people around wondering what planet you dropped from. Learn to say sorry if you bump into someone, don’t attack with words like “are you blind?” or any other offensive word - try as much as possible to stay out of arguments.

Don’t look Intimidated or Frightened
Depending on the area, there may be lots of noise from traffic or people yelling at each other, don’t let that frighten you, simply go about your business or steer clear from the area and move as fast as you can because you may never tell when a fight will break out from those arguments. Don’t be sloppy or move around like a wanderer, act smart rather than intimidated by the environment.

Blend
Relax, not everyone in Lagos is out to snatch your belongings like you may have probably heard from those stories. Contribute sensibly to discussions; be warm and friendly – when you need to. Yes, about your dressing, if you do not want to draw stares or fall a prey to robbery, do away with excessive jewelries and beads – no Ilu Oke dressing.


The 5 Don’ts

Don’t trust easily
Just like the popular saying, you do not judge a book by its cover – just because he or she wears a suit or looks goods doesn’t mean they can be trusted, be wise.

Don’t move at night
Except you are really familiar with the area or you have a very good memory when it comes to roads, then you should stick with the day, at times even places you think you know so well looks different at night. Also avoid dark and lonely areas.

Don’t be greedy
So someone walks up to you and starts telling you about this really cool deal you should invest in or try out – “make 100,00 naira with just 10,000 naira in 3 days”, truth is, there’s a 99.9 percent chance it’s scam - he or she is just trying to eat your money.
Don’t show yourself
Even if you are your village champion, no one in Lagos really cares; bragging and shouting may get you attention but land you in trouble, be wise.

Don’t take unlabeled buses
To be on a safer side, commercial buses painted yellow or BRT buses are better options, though they are couple of private cars and buses that pick up passengers at bus stops, patiently wait for a commercial one to take you to your destination.
Hope you find these tips useful when you make your next trip to Lagos.

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http://neduechianu..com.ng/2015/07/3-dos-5-donts-of-lagos.html

AirstarKane:
Aswear same question I wanna ask but then this also happen in Nigeria just that we use candle. God bless our hardwork.

. in the state education is free until college level

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All I can say is wow!


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Family and upbringing plays a pivotal role in choosing a career .people from wealthy background tend to choose a course without thinking about the remuneration the job will provide while those from poorer background thinks about course that will take from poverty n put them in strong positions afterwards and make them beta pass their father... Also people from a wealthy polygamous family tends to b monotonous In choosing their career cos all the children want to take over the family business. those from monogamous family can choose as they deem fit.many people had their career sorted out for them even before they were conceived... choose a career that u are happy with..,.

Family and upbringing plays a pivotal role in choosing a career .people from wealthy background tend to choose a course without thinking about the remuneration the will provide while those from poorer background thinks about course that will take from poverty n put them in strong positions afterwards... Also people from a wealthy polygamous family tends to b monotonous In choosing their career cos all the children want to take over the family business. those from monogamous family can choose as they deem fit. choose a career that u are happy with..,.

d definition of GOAT

some people are here commending PMB for multitasking n odas but the real motive behind using a fighter jet on a community n saying that were no collateral damage is really funny . amnesty international was here jabbering about human right laws n now people are okay with using fighter jet when such approach wasn't deployed in sambisa during GEJ and presently PMB tenure . its really a bad call.

That's the bane of the Nigerian society .insecurity and the likes but thank God for her safe return

In as much as i detest what he did , but what's the rational behind the match being played in Kaduna . Nigeria didn't have the suppose home advantage due to the pitch being bumpy and the underling security issues. The national stadium should host the national teams .with that no region can complain of segregation and the players will b familiar with the terrain. Y do u think it's difficult to defeat most European club at their home turf. It's because they know everything abt their pitch. And they use it to their advantage