Nice one bro.... Is there cure for the side effects of maturation?

donshady:


None is advisable. but I'll still prefer fornication to masturbation because

1. Masturbation makes you weak, it drains protein and calcium content in the body

2. Masturbation creates nervousness and neurological problems

3. Masturbation is one of the main cause for erectile dysfunction.

4. Masturbation addicts you even if you taste it for one time. Controlling it is a very big menace.

5. Masturbation creates drowsiness; you will be sleeping most of the time after ejaculation of your sperm. You will experience a damn tired.

6. Masturbation causes stress and strain in your mind and soul.

7. Masturbation also affects us psychologically; it creates depression after ejaculation and makes one feeling bad on his own.

8. Getting red hot while masturbating will give a bad name in that environment and it is an indecent activity.

9. Masturbation cannot be done simply, it needs to see, touch, indulge or, at last to think of a sexual practice/ sex organ of the opposite sex. This is more harmful that the image in your memory that you see could not be erased easily. This will lead you to a noxious problem that you cannot see any girl/ lady/ women without a single thought i.e., sex.

10. Masturbation creates an urge to do indefinitely; it doesn’t see the place, people and culture. It makes you digging worse sexual problems if chance knocks the door.

11. Masturbation leads you to illegal contacts because the urge increases day by day and finally will lead to the search of a source for sexual pleasure.

12. Masturbation is the main reason for speedy sperm release during sexual intercourse. It will create dissatisfaction to you and to your wife.

13. Over masturbation reduces your sperm count. Couples who desire to get pregnant should not masturbate.

14. SThe seminal fluid that gets released on masturbation contains proteins that are needed for many metabolic activities and cell formations. Proteins are the building blocks of our body; ejaculation often will create you to be lean and distracts your metabolism of muscle building.

15. Ethically masturbation is wrong; you think of X/Y and do sex of your own. This hinders your values and respect for others. You may be are good in all other regards but will end up in a great problem if not concerned to stop this habit.

16. Masturbation wastes your time and makes you useless.

17. The pleasure of masturbation never lasts for a long time.

18. Masturbation creates more problems as you lose your memory and thought-provoking ability.

19. Masturbation is not the end of your desire; you may be fooled by your own practice. It will never give you a solution or a satisfaction but seems that it gives.

20. It is not needed in any way to your sexual life that it has to be practiced without fail.

21. Guys who masturbate will lose interest in sex with their wife very soon. They can’t feel pleasurable for a long time.

22. Masturbation induces homosexuals in schools, colleges and hostels. Many times the latter creates sexually transmitted diseases like VD, syphilis, AIDS etc.,

1stoff... Let me add a 3rd dimension from personal experience. I am an adult, and having been sexually active, after about 2 weeks or tops a mnth of not hving sex or masturbatin, i generally just hv a wet dream. And honestly, even more than masturbatin and fornicatin, i hate wet dreams more (too many variables beyond my control)

So for me.. Here is my take, i try not to fornicate, in its stead, i masturbate about once a week (or 2 weeks) , been doing that for quite a while, and it doesn't just make me feel healthier, it helps me avoid fornication and them annoying wet dreams.

To u asking, forget all the holier than thou attitude sm people are putting up here.... The key word is MODERATION. Avoid over masturbatin, but masturbate rather than visit a prostitute or rape or unprotected sex.

I rest my case.

Please patiently read through the article below:


20 CONCRETE STEPS TO OVERCOMING MASTURBATION!

I want to make it clear as early as possible in this article that my only intention for addressing this topic is to help liberate everyone that is currently under the bondage of self-gratification. I am not trying to make a point of “holier than thou.”
I will be the first one to admit that I personally suffered greatly from this practice. I also stand to be a living testimony of victory over this and other sexual addictions. It is this fact that informs me to share my experience with as many as are willing to listen.

Allow me to immediately go straight to the point. Before I begin to go to the list of how to overcome masturbation and other sex addictions, let me make one more point. When I talk about how wrong masturbation is, I am not really referring to wet dreams. The wet dream experience is almost impossible to control, because the person this happens to is usually asleep or in a state of unconsciousness when it happens. I also don’t think that cases where individuals engage in the act of masturbation occasionally and unintentionally, could be regarded as carrying the same consequences as those that I wrote about in my previous article.
When you are set free from something as dangerous as masturbation, it does not always happen once and for all. It could be a process. Even though you are free, you could still relapse once in a while. In this case the most important thing is to keep moving forward and not fall into the abyss of it again.

CONCRETE STEPS TO OVERCOMING MASTURBATION AND OTHER SEXUAL ADDICTIONS:
1. PROTECT YOUR THOUGHTS
You must realize that everything we do or act out in the physical realm is only as a result of our thoughts. Our thoughts don’t really come from us. Most people don’t really know this, as a result they tend to accept or assume that once they have a certain thought that means they are the ones responsible for it. In the real sense, thoughts are suggestions to us from the outside world. Our thoughts originate from our five sensory organs.

• What we see
• What we hear
• What we touch
• What we taste
• What we smell

These five senses determine what comes to our minds and what we think about. For example, if you see some graphic pictures, the fact that you saw them, means there is an automatic signal sent to your brain. Your brain then turns those signals into thoughts.
On the other hand thoughts produce feelings. Once the thoughts come to our mind, our feelings then correspond to what we have thought about. So our thoughts generate a corresponding feeling. Feelings then lead us to act accordingly. When those actions are repeated over time, they become our habits.
This therefore leads us to the very secret of how to overcome masturbation, addictions or any other bad habit. We must go back to where the journey starts. The journey begins from where we direct our sense to: what we look at, what we listen to, what we touch, what we smell and what we taste. If you therefore want to stop masturbation, the simple and easy way of doing it is to guard your eyes, ears, and what you touch. Make sure you don’t look at pictures, movies and images that will arouse or provoke your sexual desires. I know that in the world we live in today, it is almost impossible to totally eliminate such images from our sights.

The statistics of sexual suggestion to an average man stands at one million suggestions within a year. So every man stands a chance of been tempted sexually a million times in a year. That is about 3,000 suggestions in a day. However, through our decisions and purposeful actions to control what we see, hear, touch, etc. we can significantly reduce the destructive influence of sexual suggestions on our minds. Once you can achieve that goal of controlling your eyes, ears and touch, you will have significantly reduced the amount of times sexual desires compel you to satisfy yourself.

2. REFUSE TO OPEN THE DOOR
What do we do in such cases when we have already involuntarily looked at something or heard something provocative to our sexual desires? Since it is basically impossible to isolate ourselves from this world, there would be cases when we find out that the thoughts are already in our minds. That is, sexual suggestions are already knocking at our mental doors.
In such a case we need to adopt another strategy. This strategy of victory over sexual attacks and all other temptations comes from the lesson God gave to Cain.
In Gen 4:7

“If you do well, will you not be accepted? And if you do not do well, sin lies at the door. And its desire is for you, but you should rule over it.”

It says sin lies at the door and it desires to take you, but you should rule over it. What this suggests is that when a thought comes to our mind, for us to engage in the act, our will and consent is still needed. That is what we mean by sin is at your door suggesting, knocking, etc. In such a case what do you do?

a. Neglect or ignore it
b. Focus on other things
c. Change the image before your eyes or change what you are hearing.
d. Cast it down. Cast down the thought. Overthrow it. That is, speak to it. “I don’t need you!” Do not negotiate with it, just cast it out and reject it.
e. Forget about it and move on.

3. DON’T SUBMIT
Never submit in your mind and thoughts with the idea that masturbation is okay and there is really nothing you can do about it. Whatever we agree with eventually dominates us. Once you accept the thoughts that there is nothing you can do about it, you are defeated and dominated. Hence in this case, always take a stand against knowing that masturbation is not your master. Always see yourself above and not under it.

4. RESIST
The Bible says:
“Therefore submit to God. Resist the devil and he will flee from you”. James 4:7

This scripture gives us a principle talking about the power of our will. If you refuse to give up under any circumstances, you are not going to be defeated. When your stance is that of resisting evil, sin or temptations, whatever it is flees from you. Make sure you take a stand to resist the enemy our feelings or sexual suggestions and they will flee from you. Meanwhile, be submitted to God, rest in God, and let your confidence and peace be in God. Trust in him. Know he is on your side.

5. THINK AND PRAY LESS ABOUT IT
One of the reasons why I could not overcome masturbation in time was because I was always praying about it. Once you keep on praying about it, it means you keep on thinking about it. Hence as a result, I was drowning myself while praying that God should take me out of the water.
When it comes to masturbation, your main purpose is not to even think about it. Once you are determined to pray it through. You will be going down the more that is why masturbation is so popular in the church about Christians. Hence the key is just to forget it, don’t open that door. If you pray about it, do it a minimum of times and, move on after that.

6. STOP TALKING YOURSELF OUT OF IT
Another reason why most people cannot get out of masturbation is because they try to talk themselves out of it. They keep on trying to convince themselves about how wrong this is. “Is it really wrong or not?” “How bad is it?” They keep on thinking of how horrible it feels. They deliberate within themselves on why they should not do it.
Friends, as long as you keep it in your mind, you are in bondage to it. Don’t deliberate on it at all. Satan likes that kind of situation, when you are fighting in a dark room within yourself and nobody knows it, that is a failed course. Stop thinking about it all together – Move on!

7. STOP STRATEGIZING
A lot of young people keep themselves in that dark room of their mind in an attempt to figure out how to strategize against masturbation. The more you think about those strategies the more you are reminded about your weakness. Remember whatever you think about creates a feeling. Soon from strategy you will go to practice. Please just stop it! Forget it thing even exists! Get yourself busy, face your business and move on with your life.

8. FOCUS CREATES REALITY
What most people don’t know about reality is that we all don’t take reality for what they are. Realities are only what we accept as realities. Realities are what we caught into our focus. So whatever we focus on becomes our reality. If your focus is on masturbation, either you are thinking of how to overcome it, or praying about it, masturbation becomes your reality. Focus on other things in your life and that will change your reality.

9. DECREASE OR MAGNIFY
When it comes to masturbation everything depends on the power of the mind. What our mind focuses on increases. We magnify everything in our lives through and by our focus. The key therefore to reduce the impact of anything over and upon us is to reduce our focus and emphasis on the thing. If you want the topic of masturbation and other sexual suggestions to lose its power and its grip over your life, reduce it by paying less attention to it and by laying less emphasis on it.
When you think about it and talk about it all the time, you make it bigger in real sense.

10. STOP CONDEMNING YOURSELF
One of the immediate consequences of masturbation is the thought of self-condemnation.
Believe in the scripture which says;
“If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness” 1John 1:9
When we confess our sins he forgives us!
Another scripture says:
“I, even I, am He who blots out your transgressions for My own sake;
And I will not remember your sins. Isa 43:25
If God is not remembering you should not remember. One of the greatest strategies of the enemy is to kill you through your own hands, the weapon is self-condemnation.

11. TRYING TO BE PERFECT
One main weapon of the enemy in fighting masturbation is the desire of Christians to try to be perfect. We often think perfection means, never do anything wrong, never fail, never make mistakes. That is not perfection that is actually pride and arrogance.
Perfection in this kingdom means realizing your imperfection and continuously striving to become better by accepting the grace of God to help you conform to his image and likeness. When we strive to be perfect in our own minds and power, we fail horribly. So stop trying to be perfect in the flesh. Your perfection is in God. It is not you that is your own righteousness, God is your righteousness. Rely more on him by faith rather than trying to reply on your works and efforts.

12. GIVE ROOM FOR FAILURE
When you are coming out of sexual addictions especially masturbation, you should give some room for failures, in the sense that it might not immediately work out for you to completely leave without stumbling occasionally. So if you were engaging in masturbation once a day before and it has reduced to once a month, just keep on believing God that it will totally go. Keep believing till it becomes once in 6 months, once a year, until you are totally free from it.
Don’t get me wrong, you could be instantly free, after all science says it takes just 21 days to cultivate a new habit, but the point I am trying to make is, don’t be too hard on yourself.
“For a righteous man may fall seven times and rise again, but the wicked shall fall by calamity.” Prov. 24:16
Take note that despite the fact that he is falling several times, God still calls him the righteous. As long as you are striving to live righteously he sees you as righteous. That is the good news with our God.

13. DON’T LET MASTURBATION DEFINE YOU
Often, young people with good intentions begin to define themselves by what they do, so a person who masturbates, begins to see himself as a sinner, not like God sees him or who he is in Christ. He wrongly allows what he does to define him. The truth is that you’re not your sin.

99% of you might be good. The little 1% act of imperfection in your character or behavior cannot negate all the 99% positive character traits in you. Know you are accepted before God. Know that your sin or your failure is not you. That in itself will help to detach you, your personality, and your identity from that sin or weakness. Leading you to overcome it faster since you are not carrying the corpse of that sin with you anymore.

14. HAVE THE RIGHT IDENTITY
Think right about yourself. If you want to overcome sexual addiction and masturbation in particular, see yourself as God sees you. Address yourself as a son of God. You are a kingdom citizen. See yourself as God’s image, God’s likeness. Stop seeing yourself as a sinner or a masturbator. See yourself as a lover of God and a worshiper of God. If you feel you have done something wrong, forgive yourself of it and stand right before God.

15. TURN DISADVANTAGE TO ADVANTAGE
Any mistake, failure or weakness you have must be viewed as a reason to desire God more. When you fail, you realize your imperfection and that should make you to want to get closer to God more. Not by thinking of your failure, but by thinking of becoming more like Him, like His character, like His nature, how to emulate Him.
Anytime you fail or fall, let it renew your determination to be more broken, to desire God more, and to strive to come closer to Him.

16. FOCUS MORE ON YOUR DREAMS AND GOALS
As I have said above, what you focus on becomes bigger. It also becomes your reality. Let your main focus in life be in looking for ways and means of how to please God more and how to glorify Him more. Think more about the strategy and tactics of how to do this. That is much better than thinking more of your sin or weakness.

17. GOD’S POWER IS PERFECTED IN OUR WEAKNESSES
Sometimes, the most important things to happen to us are our weaknesses, otherwise we will be full of pride, self-righteousness. This could even lead us to think we are God ourselves. I therefore will like to suggest that you listen to God’s instruction to Paul.

“Therefore I take pleasure in infirmities, in reproaches, in needs, in persecutions, in distresses, for Christ’s sake. For when I am weak, then I am strong.” 2corinthians 12:10

18. LET THE MOVIES GO
I have discovered that as a young man, watching movies was one of the main things that was always leading me to the act of practicing masturbation. Unfortunately in our world today, most movies that are not documentaries, have sexual scenes in them. Even if they are not out rightly erotic or pornographic, they still give you enough sexual suggestions for you to keep on playing long after the movie is over.
As a journalist by profession, I know this could be one of the ways sex is programmed into our subconscious mind. So for over 20 years, I stopped watching movies and I am better for it. Soon after I did, masturbation disappeared from my life. I am convinced that if you stop watching movies, 80% of sexual suggestions in your life will be gone.

19. BECOME A GOD LOVER INSTEAD OF A LOVER OF PLEASURE
The first and greatest commandment in the Bible is love. Loving God! We get in trouble though when we love God, but not as God has said we should love him. God’s requirement is that we love him with all our heart, soul and strength.

So when we don’t love him fully, then Satan has a place. Anything we don’t fill with God, Satan will fill it with sin. If you are 90% in love with God, Satan will fill the other 10% for you. One of the ways to overcome masturbation is to fully fall in love with God, with all your heart, soul, body and strength.
“And you shall love the LORD your God with all your heart, with all your soul, with all your mind, and with all your strength. ‘This is the first commandment.” Mark 12:30

20. Apply the power of the blood
Not too many Christians talk about the power of the blood of Jesus these days, but that power is still much needed today. We need the power of the blood all the time in our lives. You might want to apply by faith the protective power of Jesus on your mind and on your thought life from time to time. Put yourself under the authority of the blood of Jesus. Therein lies a powerful tool to victory.

CONCLUSION
Dear friends, I hope I have been able to help you to a degree with these concrete steps on how to overcome masturbation and other sexual sins in your life. I pray that you will experience the grace of our Lord Jesus Christ that empowers us to be free from sin. I also want to encourage all of you who are reading this article to share it with other people, teach it to young men and women around you. Let’s foil the work of the enemy, let God reign Supreme in our lives and in our nations.
By Sunday. A

KNOWLEDGE ABOUT MASTUBATION.part 5
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Mastubation have a whole lot of advantages and disadvantages,when God tells you to avoid certain things,not because those things are sins but because they have abilities to destroy you.For example addiction to watching tv is not a SIN AGAINST GOD,but such addiction can engender adverse circumstances that will affect you accademically,physically, spiritually and emotionally,TV addictions brings with it a host of potential problems such as slipping grades,poor reading habits,diminished family life,laziness,exposure to unwholesome influences,disobedient to parent.lack of concentration,distractions etc,so you see! So if you want to conquer this habit,the same admonition and counsel given to mastubator will be given to you,not because it is a sin,but because it is wrongly placed,watching of football,eating too much sugar,uncleanness,mastubating,addiction to tv.introversion,garrulous attitude,tattling and meddling,sucking of ice block,bleaching of the skin.eating of clay or sand,laquaciousness.impunctuality,gluttony.drukenness,smoking,eating of blood(blood transfusion),drawing of tatoos,gambling,drugs abuse.etc,are habits which are wrongly placed,these habits may or may not be sin against God,but when God tell us to avoid them is because he(God)know the adverse effects they can endenger,in such state follow after instructions and avoid them. when the warnings and instructions are followed IT IS NOT A SIN,but when you act contrary to warning and instructions it become a sin,not against God but against instruction, unfilthy mastubation is not a sin while filthy mastubation is a sin.i.e in essence of this, mastubation is not a sin,but when it is wrongly placed it becomes a sin.By this you will understand the words and teachings of Rev.Chris Oyakhilome concerning this topic,because people lacked the perspicacity of this subject,but those who have the epignosis(deep and absolute knowledge) of this matter will understand what Rev.chris taught about mastubations,he was not enjoining people into any filty act of mastubation rather he was allerviating and mitigating the guilty conscience of those who find themselves in such dilemma at the same time he was pontificating his opinion and conviction about mastubation,Just like what Jesus said about ceremonial washing of hand,when he said 'not what enter into a man that defile a man but what proceed from the heart that corrupt a man'every one disagree with him including his followers.but that did not change its actuality and truism,some of his follower even left him,read your bible.Rev.chris oyakhilomen said ''...it just like any other habit like watching football...''addiction to any habit may have adverse effect,the act itself may not be sin against God,but the addiction is the problem,so when dealing with an habit,firstly,know if the act is a sin against God,secondly,know what lead to having that habit,thirdly,do your best to conquer that habit,many taught that chewing of gum is a sin against God,until someone taught otherwise,though chewing bubble gum have side effect and adverse,but it is not a sin against God,someone can be addicted to chewing bubble gum,the same word Rev.chris said about mastubation will be said concerning addiction to chewing of gum,but he said''...if you dont like an habit or if you are hurt by any habit you can replace it with a good one...''pastor chris theory on mastubation is not what quibbling and prattling about,the fact he said''...if you are hurt by any habit...''means some habits are hurtful which may include mastubation,he also said ''...replace it with a good one...''meaning some hurtful habits are bad which can be replace with a good one,which may be self control,in order word,christain should avoid any hurtful habit like mastubation,alcoholism,smoking,gluttony,chewing bubble gum,gambling,etc,these habits are hurtful,the bible says''dont look at a wine when it is red''why?because it is hurtful'when God tell us to avoid things that hurts,not only things that hurt him but things that hurts us as well because he loves us,that is why pastor chris said''...if you are hurt by any habit replace it with another especially a good one''some things may not hurt God but may hurt us,thats is why pastor chris said''...mastubation is not a sin against God.because it does not hurt God...'',but if it hurt you,you can replace it with a good habit like meditation on God's word,given yourself to prayer and fasting,exercising self control,or giving yourself to other excellent things,mastubation when rightly placed does not hurt God which is equal to the word''...it is not a sin against God...''but it hurt God(i.e it's a sin)when it is wrongly placed.In essence abstain from any thing that hurt either God,your neighbour,or you.so you see!MEN WITH LITTLE UNDERSTANDING SEES LITTLE STONE AS MIGHTY ROCK,If any one is contentious about this.then he need to re-appraise his oppinion toward this topic or better still maintain your conviction without excoriating others oppinion.God who know best,sees best will judge best,therefore judge nothing before the time.your convictions doesnot make you God,so,stop acting like God

sotall:


stop misquoting the bible......
the bible never said looking lustfully is fornication rather Jesus only said its a sin

Well i dont know the Jesus you are referring to but here is what the Jesus i know said in mathew 5:28

But I tell you that anyone who looks at
a woman lustfully has already
committed adultery with her in his
heart.

agbajesaid:
thanks bro. Good advice, but i hope your wife was your FIRST sex partner.

With your response to that statement, you apparently didn't put up this thread to seek genuine advise...so whatever it is you are indulged in be it masturbation or fornication, go ahead and knock yourself out!!!

It's your life afterall

agbajesaid:
but we have rich and successful that masturbates and they lose nothing. But bro, if masturbations kills slowly, what of fornication. I know we have certified psycologist here that will help. What triggered the act in me was the absence of my fiancee. She went for service;so we were apart for almost 6months. So rather than hanging out with another chick or visiting olosho joint, i opted for masturbation. I think knowing what triggered it will help in finding a solution.

You are masturbating for her while another man is doing the real deal on her. Bros u don't take such risk because of mere girlfriend because they can't either. I am speaking based on experience. I started masturbation for the one I love cause we were far away from each other but I never knew that another man was taking advantage of my sweat. If I begin tell you wetin I see because of love, then you will know that masturbating because of a woman to save your relationship is at your own peril. Happy new Month

I always say this, never get addicted to anything. Let me analyse it this way,

Some people drink and smoke irrespective of its effect. Some die young of internal organ issues, some live long.

Some people don't drink and smoke cos of its effect. Some still die young of internal organ issues, some live long.

It's all cause and effect. We are responsible for our choices. Its ur life, live it ur way. There's is no manual on that.

So if masty rocks u than s*x because of u tag it fornication or u can't stay without eruption or its ur way of preventing std. So be it

Some people masty and they still take their woman to cloud 9 and are productive, be it work, biz, street et all

Some people don't but they can't take their lady to any cloud and they aint productive

Never let any man on earth give u standard to live

Do what u feel u got to do and face its consequence if it arrives.

That's what strong men do.

Masturbation is bad but fornication is worse while adultery is Criticaly the worst.

agbajesaid:
honestly, i get your point. But my own point is this. Isnt it better to masturbate once in a while than to fornicate everytime. All the points u highligted applies to fornication too because sperm is expelled. And one cannot contract any STDs through masturbation as opposed to fornication.

masturbation reduces your life span by 20% but excessive fornication is worst. Best solution is keeping one's mindset away from sexual thoughts by keeping yourself busy on something useful

agbajesaid:
but we have rich and successful that masturbates and they lose nothing. But bro, if masturbations kills slowly, what of fornication. I know we have certified psycologist here that will help. What triggered the act in me was the absence of my fiancee. She went for service;so we were apart for almost 6months. So rather than hanging out with another chick or visiting olosho joint, i opted for masturbation. I think knowing what triggered it will help in finding a solution.

Buh guy you still fornicated with ya fiancee na......she ain't yo wife

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Considering all the variables, which include but not limited to cost, STD, emotional baggage, betrayal of trust, etc; choose masturbation and live happily ever after. As you would a girlfriend, don't hesitate to treat your hands to a nice manicure on Valentine's day for a job well done.

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agbajesaid:
I just read a post on FP concerning masturbation. I now asked myself an honest question; isn't it better to masturbate than to fornicate. Its what everyone have experienced expecially at early stage of puberty. The urge for sex increases and we are far from marriage due to age, lack of fiancee, money etc. My religion advices fasting as an alternative to fornication and masturbation but for how long? Isn't it better to masturbate than to fornicate? Asides the immorality in masturbation, is anything bad in it healthwisely and religiously? Matured opinions needed.

both is bad, yet difficult to avoid. Hence, you need help. Many who comdemns those who do it do so because they dont have it as weakness. We all have our weaknesses, hence we all need help, which only comes from HOLY SPIRIT. You can overcome any weakness even drug addiction with power of Holy Spirit. GOODNEWS

agbajesaid:
I just read a post on FP concerning masturbation. I now asked myself an honest question; isn't it better to masturbate than to fornicate. Its what everyone have experienced expecially at early stage of puberty. The urge for sex increases and we are far from marriage due to age, lack of fiancee, money etc. My religion advices fasting as an alternative to fornication and masturbation but for how long? Isn't it better to masturbate than to fornicate? Asides the immorality in masturbation, is anything bad in it healthwisely and religiously? Matured opinions needed.

Religion poisons everything. Follow at your peril. Fornication is what? I will never approve of that word. It is a denigration by the evil of religion. Masturbation? Absolutely fine for anyone who likes it. Take note that even with a coitus partner some people still prefer masturbation on occasion or all the time. Indeed coitus sometimes is actually mutual masturbation (I use "coitus" since these dumb Nairaland creators think censorship is great). The world is complex, don't let hopelessly stupid religions, founded hundreds of years before man even understood that dirt causes diseases and sickness to guide your life. Religion is stupidity.
PS: another thing: this is the INTERNET. Don't go to only nairaland for advice. You will only get Nigerian stupidity and values for advice. In the same google, ask the question and hear what the WORLD has to say. Nigeria is a failed society. You don't need advice exclusively from such a people

1.masturbation is an aberration

2.masturbation is war against God

3.masturbation disrupt procreation

4.masturbation is waste of sperm

perhaps fornication comprise 2,3,and 4 as the case may be, however;
masturbation is morally,socially and culturally not accepted

agree with me that some dudes get. filled with pride after making out wit some ladies,and tends to boast about it,
which guy boast to his friend after masturbating?

do you know that fornication is legal in some places?


masturbation is non ethical, its inappropriate nd highly disrespectful to oneself and others

masturbation is OBJECTIVELY wrong
fornication is not

You can't masturbate without fornicating

wats dz fuss abt?
If all dz rapist masturbates, do u tnk thr wl b rape cases?
Hv bn wt a Lady for 1yr, blv me u get tired of sex too.
maturbation is same sex... same guilt, same wateva.
Wen u marry, masturbation stops or reduces, buh u can't stop fornication.
Wateva guilt dat comes to ya mind after masturbation is as a result of ya mindset Whc hv bn beclouded wt wateva we're reading here.

Tok2008 said it all.
fact is...better to mast dan bn seen around like a dog.
moreova, all fornicators masturbate too.
Mastubator cums once and relaxes. Hw many round do we go during sex or fornication... we try to go if nt 5 juz to satisfy d gal...hisss.
outta here meehn.

Toks2008:


Well i dont know the Jesus you are referring to but here is what the Jesus i know said in mathew 5:28

But I tell you that anyone who looks at
a woman lustfully has already
committed adultery with her in his
heart.

So how does adultery equals formication ?

agbajesaid:
thanks bro. Good advice, but i hope your wife was your FIRST sex partner.

Lol. Are you minding those HYPOCRITES.

Nigerians and their PRETENTIOUS TENDENCIES

They come to public and say good stuffs and in their closet, they do the exact opposite.

Don't waste a minute of your time on such characters.

donshady:


None is advisable. but I'll still prefer fornication to masturbation because

1. Masturbation makes you weak, it drains protein and calcium content in the body

2. Masturbation creates nervousness and neurological problems

3. Masturbation is one of the main cause for erectile dysfunction.

4. Masturbation addicts you even if you taste it for one time. Controlling it is a very big menace.

5. Masturbation creates drowsiness; you will be sleeping most of the time after ejaculation of your sperm. You will experience a damn tired.

6. Masturbation causes stress and strain in your mind and soul.

7. Masturbation also affects us psychologically; it creates depression after ejaculation and makes one feeling bad on his own.

8. Getting red hot while masturbating will give a bad name in that environment and it is an indecent activity.

9. Masturbation cannot be done simply, it needs to see, touch, indulge or, at last to think of a sexual practice/ sex organ of the opposite sex. This is more harmful that the image in your memory that you see could not be erased easily. This will lead you to a noxious problem that you cannot see any girl/ lady/ women without a single thought i.e., sex.

10. Masturbation creates an urge to do indefinitely; it doesn’t see the place, people and culture. It makes you digging worse sexual problems if chance knocks the door.

11. Masturbation leads you to illegal contacts because the urge increases day by day and finally will lead to the search of a source for sexual pleasure.

12. Masturbation is the main reason for speedy sperm release during sexual intercourse. It will create dissatisfaction to you and to your wife.

13. Over masturbation reduces your sperm count. Couples who desire to get pregnant should not masturbate.

14. SThe seminal fluid that gets released on masturbation contains proteins that are needed for many metabolic activities and cell formations. Proteins are the building blocks of our body; ejaculation often will create you to be lean and distracts your metabolism of muscle building.

15. Ethically masturbation is wrong; you think of X/Y and do sex of your own. This hinders your values and respect for others. You may be are good in all other regards but will end up in a great problem if not concerned to stop this habit.

16. Masturbation wastes your time and makes you useless.

17. The pleasure of masturbation never lasts for a long time.

18. Masturbation creates more problems as you lose your memory and thought-provoking ability.

19. Masturbation is not the end of your desire; you may be fooled by your own practice. It will never give you a solution or a satisfaction but seems that it gives.

20. It is not needed in any way to your sexual life that it has to be practiced without fail.

21. Guys who masturbate will lose interest in sex with their wife very soon. They can’t feel pleasurable for a long time.

22. Masturbation induces homosexuals in schools, colleges and hostels. Many times the latter creates sexually transmitted diseases like VD, syphilis, AIDS etc.,

LIES

donshady:


None is advisable. but I'll still prefer fornication to masturbation because

1. Masturbation makes you weak, it drains protein and calcium content in the body

2. Masturbation creates nervousness and neurological problems

3. Masturbation is one of the main cause for erectile dysfunction.

4. Masturbation addicts you even if you taste it for one time. Controlling it is a very big menace.

5. Masturbation creates drowsiness; you will be sleeping most of the time after ejaculation of your sperm. You will experience a damn tired.

6. Masturbation causes stress and strain in your mind and soul.

7. Masturbation also affects us psychologically; it creates depression after ejaculation and makes one feeling bad on his own.

8. Getting red hot while masturbating will give a bad name in that environment and it is an indecent activity.

9. Masturbation cannot be done simply, it needs to see, touch, indulge or, at last to think of a sexual practice/ sex organ of the opposite sex. This is more harmful that the image in your memory that you see could not be erased easily. This will lead you to a noxious problem that you cannot see any girl/ lady/ women without a single thought i.e., sex.

10. Masturbation creates an urge to do indefinitely; it doesn’t see the place, people and culture. It makes you digging worse sexual problems if chance knocks the door.

11. Masturbation leads you tio illegal contacts because the urge increases day by day and finally will lead to the search of a source for sexual pleasure.

12. Masturbation is the main reason for speedy sperm release during sexual intercourse. It will create dissatisfaction to you and to your wife.

13. Over masturbation reduces your sperm count. Couples who desire to get pregnant should not masturbate.

14. SThe seminal fluid that gets released on masturbation contains proteins that are needed for many metabolic activities and cell formations. Proteins are the building blocks of our body; ejaculation often will create you to be lean and distracts your metabolism of muscle building.

15. Ethically masturbation is wrong; you think of X/Y and do sex of your own. This hinders your values and respect for others. You may be are good in all other regards but will end up in a great problem if not concerned to stop this habit.

16. Masturbation wastes your time and makes you useless.

17. The pleasure of masturbation never lasts for a long time.

18. Masturbation creates more problems as you lose your memory and thought-provoking ability.

19. Masturbation is not the end of your desire; you may be fooled by your own practice. It will never give you a solution or a satisfaction but seems that it gives.

20. It is not needed in any way to your sexual life that it has to be practiced without fail.

21. Guys who masturbate will lose interest in sex with their wife very soon. They can’t feel pleasurable for a long time.

22. Masturbation induces homosexuals in schools, colleges and hostels. Many times the latter creates sexually transmitted diseases like VD, syphilis, AIDS etc.,

Confused set of people. After you will still come here to tell us that when you fornicate, you all left your soul with the person. Gerrarahia!!

rallymento:
I have neither fornicated nor masturbated in my entire life.

It is all about moral and what your brain interprets to you.

I am no saint though and I am not judging those that have found themselves in such mess.

There is a way >>>>>>>>

We call Him the Ocean divider
The Everlasting King
The bright and morning Star
Rose of Sharon.
Lilly of the Valley.
Prince of Peace...
The forgiver of our sins
In Igbo we call Him
Ji ana aru na oku o na epu ome!!
Anu Kporonku na eju onu
Isi iyi nke ndu
Odo mmiri bethseda
Ono ro Ihe noro enyi ma kpuru mgbada no onu!!

Run to Christ and enter your rest

One word........Liar !!

Aviero:
Don't tag it fornication. Just call it sex.

Sex, protected sex, is healthier than masturbation.

There are lots of good health benefits that comes with sex, but masturbating makes you feel somewhat empty. After you cum, you come to your senses and then you feel awkward.

Sex is different tho

what differs between masturbating and common sex? Is it not to free urself

agbajesaid:
thanks bro. Good advice, but i hope your wife was your FIRST sex partner.

Jamb Questio??

donshady:


None is advisable. but I'll still prefer fornication to masturbation because

1. Masturbation makes you weak, it drains protein and calcium content in the body

2. Masturbation creates nervousness and neurological problems

3. Masturbation is one of the main cause for erectile dysfunction.

4. Masturbation addicts you even if you taste it for one time. Controlling it is a very big menace.

5. Masturbation creates drowsiness; you will be sleeping most of the time after ejaculation of your sperm. You will experience a damn tired.

6. Masturbation causes stress and strain in your mind and soul.

7. Masturbation also affects us psychologically; it creates depression after ejaculation and makes one feeling bad on his own.

8. Getting red hot while masturbating will give a bad name in that environment and it is an indecent activity.

9. Masturbation cannot be done simply, it needs to see, touch, indulge or, at last to think of a sexual practice/ sex organ of the opposite sex. This is more harmful that the image in your memory that you see could not be erased easily. This will lead you to a noxious problem that you cannot see any girl/ lady/ women without a single thought i.e., sex.

10. Masturbation creates an urge to do indefinitely; it doesn’t see the place, people and culture. It makes you digging worse sexual problems if chance knocks the door.

11. Masturbation leads you to illegal contacts because the urge increases day by day and finally will lead to the search of a source for sexual pleasure.

12. Masturbation is the main reason for speedy sperm release during sexual intercourse. It will create dissatisfaction to you and to your wife.

13. Over masturbation reduces your sperm count. Couples who desire to get pregnant should not masturbate.

14. SThe seminal fluid that gets released on masturbation contains proteins that are needed for many metabolic activities and cell formations. Proteins are the building blocks of our body; ejaculation often will create you to be lean and distracts your metabolism of muscle building.

15. Ethically masturbation is wrong; you think of X/Y and do sex of your own. This hinders your values and respect for others. You may be are good in all other regards but will end up in a great problem if not concerned to stop this habit.

16. Masturbation wastes your time and makes you useless.

17. The pleasure of masturbation never lasts for a long time.

18. Masturbation creates more problems as you lose your memory and thought-provoking ability.

19. Masturbation is not the end of your desire; you may be fooled by your own practice. It will never give you a solution or a satisfaction but seems that it gives.

20. It is not needed in any way to your sexual life that it has to be practiced without fail.

21. Guys who masturbate will lose interest in sex with their wife very soon. They can’t feel pleasurable for a long time.

22. Masturbation induces homosexuals in schools, colleges and hostels. Many times the latter creates sexually transmitted diseases like VD, syphilis, AIDS etc.,

You sound like a rapist and a fornicator, u just dey attack only masturbation, wetin e do u?

Both Fornication and Masturbation is not good but the question is did God ever say masturbation is a sin in any book ? and by masturbation it with your self so u can not contact disease unlike fornication which can lead to sin and you ending up getting disease or unwanted pregnancy.my opinon

agbajesaid:
I just read a post on FP concerning masturbation. I now asked myself an honest question; isn't it better to masturbate than to fornicate. Its what everyone have experienced expecially at early stage of puberty. The urge for sex increases and we are far from marriage due to age, lack of fiancee, money etc. My religion advices fasting as an alternative to fornication and masturbation but for how long? Isn't it better to masturbate than to fornicate? Asides the immorality in masturbation, is anything bad in it healthwisely and religiously? Matured opinions needed.

Your religion that Advices fasting as a sheild for you is mostly correct and valid.


Fornication is a great sin and transgressions to your Lord, don't you fear that day you will account your deeds or the day death will overtake you?

Masturbation is a great sin too. Don't you feel bad after committing these aberrations?

If your urge for sex is high, kindly get married to you fiance by meeting her dad and perfecting the Nikaah's right (Get her dad's permision, get two witnesses, give her dowry and call people for feast to to best of your ability), all these won't take you a lot of finances, it won't take you a lot to do that if you are sincere to your Lord.

If you can't fear God and get married, keep fasting as the Messenger of God Advices.

May Almighty God make it easy for you and us! Ameen.

missuniverse:
1.masturbation is an aberration

2.masturbation is war against God

3.masturbation disrupt procreation

4.masturbation is waste of sperm

perhaps fornication comprise 2,3,and 4 as the case may be, however;
masturbation is morally,socially and culturally not accepted

agree with me that some dudes get. filled with pride after making out wit some ladies,and tends to boast about it,
which guy boast to his friend after masturbating?

do you know that fornication is legal in some places?


masturbation is non ethical, its inappropriate nd highly disrespectful to oneself and others

masturbation is OBJECTIVELY wrong
fornication is not

Mention the places where fornication is legal?

Chuksyno:
masturbation reduces your life span by 20% but excessive fornication is worst. Best solution is keeping one's mindset away from sexual thoughts by keeping yourself busy on something useful

God Bless you for this bro., I don't know why our people keep glorifying filth and promiscuity.

What's bad is bad, no matter the large amount of people doing it!

Fornication is evil as Masturbation is evil too. Shun and get married. No one will like her daughter to be an object of fornication and sexual satisfaction.

masturbation is a self induced way of achieving sexual satisfaction in the absence of toto. the problem lies between your prick and your palm. i hate it coz it's addictive.......was doing it when i was still in school but stopped when the toto started coming.

donshady:
Do you realise the effect of masturbation?
it kills you slowly..till u loose everything.. Beware.

what kills slowly?..you talk like a masturbator