halfricanadian:


Na i av helped guys in d past

Givin out my money for investment to get him fone nd wears nd i never harmed him cos of d fact i spent

Wen i do anytin i put God into it cos he sees even in d hidden nd pays every man according to his or her deeds

Wife material spotted

JustHere2Observ:
I dont understand, so because he asked you out you should just be collecting? You won't surprise him with gifts or pay for dinner once in a while? This is why guys keep shading ladies on this forum, you present yourselves as leeches.

you are a real lady. Am in love with you

Supnaija:


Aunty Becinta or whatever your name is. So this is what you are preaching that women should not spend on men.

Agreed! Na falling hand for man to fold his hand and let the woman carry the bills. Personally I know one dude who actually lives with a woman who literally feeds him from indomie she sells on the street. Now she is pregnant and he lives with her. No Doubt that is one big hell of a Bleep up.

BUT!!!!

When a woman decides to help her man financially its not a bad idea. As a matter of fact its a very good thing if she helps him. Personally it is a turn-on if a woman can on her offer help.
You see the ideology Naija women have that men should have to do everything, is actually one of the worst ever. Thats the reason why Women of the east most especially (no offense) are more likely to stay single than women of other tribes. Why? Because they believe the man should carry every single bill including money for matches and sanitary pad.

Thats the reason Ibo men hustle like crazy and most times marry late because even to pay bride price na war plus the wedding requirements are usually outrageous. The girlfriend of a friend of mine who is from IMO told me once that she made inquiries of the cost of her bride price and her family said its N990,000 minus the two weddings o - traditional and church weddings, and I was like "eeehhh, is it your whole family my friend intends to marry or is it just you".

Now in this case now, will you say its okay for the lady to fold her arms and watch the man suffer with all the bills. If she has, she has to contribute, I mean for crying out loud when it comes to marriage na woman dey need am pass. Left to us men we no send o, as a matter of fact we enjoy the freedom of being single no strings attached cos that means we can enter any door we like when we like it.

Its because of this terrible mentality most of our girls refuse to work or learn, some are just so lazy shaaaaa. All they are hard working at is fixing eyelashes that make them look like Ayamatanga's apprentise and fix weavon the cost of which is enough to buy land in Sango Ota.

Men do we want a resourceless woman? NO.
Do we like the fact that you let us do every goddamn thing including THAT THING while you just lie on your back moaning like a pregnant goat, NO.
Do we like you handling all our bills? Of course not. Just help us anyway we can, thats what you were meant for.

I no be pastor o, but I will end this with a bible passage a friend of mine once showed that left my jaw dropped for a long timE AND will use it to buttress my point when I said na woman need marriage pass

ISAIAH 4:1. It says,

New Living Translation
In that day so few men will be left that seven women will fight for each man, saying, "Let us all marry you! We will provide our own food and clothing. Only let us take your name so we won't be mocked as old maids."

So if una like make una dey zuzu (ibo word for fooling around). We need women who can help us anyway she can, not someone who feels entitled to everything free just because she has p**sy.

And Guys, A Good woman is hard to find....But if you find one please comot eye for ekaite ikebe or else you go live the rest of your life unhappy.

C'est fini.

You killed it brother. One bottle of Orijin for you. You just said my mind entirely.

tbliss22:


Lolz if you fall for this, trust naija guys your money will be gone before you know it. Imagine a complete atm card details!!!!!!!

Buhari has made boiz to be digging for money @every junction.

Hahahahahahaa...Omo no be small tin oo, sai Baba!!!

Akexstinger:
You should know a guy to spend on. Aside from merely promising you love or marriage isshh.. your few time and discussions with him should know what kind of man he is. Try and know his FUTURISTIC PLANS. Even when he is broke, he should be able to come up with ideas, what he intends to do if he stumbles into cash. If he is not a graduate, does he have plans to go to school, and if he is a graduate and no job yet, what efforts is it putting into getting a job. Can he do minute jobs? Does he have pride that would prevent him from doing minute job? Does he complain too much of cash problem?
From all these, you can now have a conviction on the type of man he is. Let your reason guide you before love.
And even in a strong relationship, you can also do little spending. Surprise him with gifts and outing. We guys like bragging with things that our ladies bought for us oh in the midst of guys without mincing words..u go hear "see this wristwatch, na my woman buy am for me oh, she de try for me well well"

And above all, always remember "TIT for TAT is fair play"

Best comment on this thread,really making sense! No sentiments or hypocritism unlike many here! Like I said earlier,the man must show me first that he is worth it else he should forget me spending a dime on him!
I deserve the kind of love I would give someone else so its only fair!

Nairaland!!! Destroying relationship since 190bc.

JustHere2Observ:
I dont understand, so because he asked you out you should just be collecting? You won't surprise him with gifts or pay for dinner once in a while? This is why guys keep shading ladies on this forum, you present yourselves as leeches.

I support ur comment----once in a while is very ok, but a lady shouldn't make it a habit could make the man uncomfortable. Yea once in a while, a lady should surprise her man with a gift no matter how small.

Caleycash:
Hahahahahahaa...Omo no be small tin oo, sai Baba!!!

Like seriously why will someone just credit ur account with 10k without any service rendered? If the guy didn't siphon your money now, he will definitely do it anytime in the future as long as u ar still using the account and your details is with him already.

Later, this one will come out to shout gender equality. Rubbish. Leeches everywhere.

agarawu23:
Only "few" naija babe will spend on a guy..
They have that dull mentality that their bf must spend and must alws be the one to spend.

where did that dull mentality stream from?? Let's go back to history then, our fore fathers, our tradition, where did that phrase come out from 'my knight in shinning armour'. A man is naturally that way to protect n provide for his woman, n it ll always be like that. But yes a woman should give to her man once in a while, surprise him n show him via ur giving that u care n appreciate him( use her money, go to the market and cook his favourite meal). Real men dnt feel comfortable accepting things frm their women all the time, some see it as a trap. What of men that stp dia wives from working? N tell her whatever u need tell me I ll provide?? So my dear, our prayers should be that we should be connected to our own ordained spouse that's all. When u r in the right r/shp all these won't count.

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ehix89:
There is no single route in achieving a smooth relationship my dear, different tricks works for different folks that's why I really do not fancy relationship advice, what works for Mr. A might just be what killed Mr. B relationship

. #GBAM! This says it all.

Giving once in a while to ur guy isn't bad, and like someone commented you must first know the kind of man he is before anything else. Giving to him when he's financially flat isn't bad either, in r/ships we support one another. Men appreciate it when u surprise them with gifts but making it a habit all the time might make them start to wonder. I still rem the story a guy posted here on nairaland, he (the guy) was asking every one on nairaland if his girl had not turned into a runs girl all b/c she bought him an expensive sun shade glasses as a birthday gift. Men are complicated creatures so as a woman u tread with caution.

ifeomaekol:
where did that dull mentality stream from?? Let's go back to history then, our fore fathers, our tradition, where did that phrase come out from 'my knight in shinning armour'. A man is naturally that way to protect n provide for his woman, n it ll always be like that. But yes a woman should give to her man once in a while, surprise him n show him via ur giving that u care n appreciate him( use her money, go to the market and cook his favourite meal). Real men dnt feel comfortable accepting things frm their women all the time, some see it as a trap. What of men that stp dia wives from working? N tell her whatever u need tell me I ll provide?? So my dear, our prayers should be that we should be connected to our own ordained spouse that's all. When u r in the right r/shp all these won't count.

hahaha.....knight in shining armour....stop readin fairy tales

JustHere2Observ:


You might be the exception but a lot of the guys here post break up stories with that line.

u should know we got lotta kids in here

pussyAvenger:
hahaha.....knight in shining armour....stop readin fairy tales

lol, reading them makes life a bit easy doesn't it?

misspicy:

Hi

hello.. i sent a pm. its been a while.

Benita27:
Never develop the habit of spending on a guy you're dating, there's no harm in helping them when they're in need, What real men want is a faithful lady, not one that spends on them.

This is the bottom line of the thread and as a guy I agree with Op 100%. Many ladies see this as a way of keeping the man. A guy not financially independent or wants extra would maintain the relationship with that woman regardless.... as long as she keeps the cash flowing....what does he care about her?...it's all about the money. When he no longer wants her support ..no problem in dropping her. ....just like that. Money can't buy love.

JustHere2Observ:
I dont understand, so because he asked you out you should just be collecting? You won't surprise him with gifts or pay for dinner once in a while? This is why guys keep shading ladies on this forum, you present yourselves as leeches.

well said girl. u must be a girl of valor. not all these coward ladies that could not survive on their own without asking guys for money

UIA04:

Continue deceiving yourself

Deception is an illusion, the side from which you look at it determines how you perceive it.

Originalsly:
This is the bottom line of the thread and as a guy I agree with Op 100%. Many ladies see this as a way of keeping the man. A guy not financially independent or wants extra would maintain the relationship with that woman regardless.... as long as she keeps the cash flowing....what does he care about her?...it's all about the money. When he no longer wants her support ..no problem in dropping her. ....just like that. Money can't buy love.

God bless you, very few of you are on this thread.

I concur

Sexytemi:




There's no problem spending on my boyfriend if he's also spending on me, I don't believe in one way thing o, it should always be vice-versa, u give I give.

uupgrade:
"what real men wants is a faithful lady" only for dis thing wey u talk. Make God Bless u plenty plenty

Bless you too.

oluseyioba:
Crude....I'm guessing u r a very wicked person

Extremely wicked, if you say so.

JustHere2Observ:
I dont understand, so because he asked you out you should just be collecting? You won't surprise him with gifts or pay for dinner once in a while? This is why guys keep shading ladies on this forum, you present yourselves as leeches.

Good point.

JustHere2Observ:
I dont understand, so because he asked you out you should just be collecting? You won't surprise him with gifts or pay for dinner once in a while? This is why guys keep shading ladies on this forum, you present yourselves as leeches.

Don't blame her: she has a gift of parasitic tendency: a man like me will refer to her as slave in the long run. If a man must do everything, how is she going to prove being an 'helper' which God called both parties?

Op needs proper re-orientation.

Supnaija:


Ok point taken, Benita.

hope you don't mind me adding this to my website

Plz do, provided it educates those who want to learn.

pussyAvenger:
said by who....wen am datin a gal wateva i gv must be on myvolition not obligation......if u want to do hair,go to ur father,if u want to buy gucci bag, go to ur old man...abi he broke lyk u

This is the silly mentality you nairaland broke dudes have.

Find out why you're called men, no be to dey make mouth.

I tink u broken...u need to heal

Benita27:
Extremely wicked, if you say so.

We r men, taking care of our women is what we do. Bt nothing stops a good woman from contributing every now n den. Makes ur man confident in u n proud also. A demanding woman is a real turn off 4 most MEN

pussyAvenger:
show ur ugli face.u don too make noise here

I am prettier than all the girls you've dated put together.

Titilayooni:
Babe,I won't agree with you...I can spend on my man,it doesn't make me stupid...Men too want to be pampered ONCE in a while,U might be speaking his own love language too..Ts not only on his birthdays...Give ur man treat:pay for ur eat outs too,surprise shopping for him,get him a nice wristwatch or footwear,small surprise bday getogether.....I buy my bf's favourite drink especially when I know he is cash strapped.....So I go against that motion

The truth is that op has never been in genuine love with a guy because it is absolutely impossible to love and not give whether a guy or gal.

ehix89:
There is no single route in achieving a smooth relationship my dear, different tricks works for different folks that's why I really do not fancy relationship advice, what works for Mr. A might just be what killed Mr. B relationship

My Thought Exertly....