ehix89:
By surprise do you mean the regular bosers and singlet?

Benita27:
Never develop the habit of spending on a guy you're dating, there's no harm in helping them when they're in need, What real men want is a faithful lady, not one that spends on them.

To some spending on them reduces their self worth, even in marriages when a lady is the bread winner of the family, the men are not so happy, so why should your boyfriend be happy when you're the one doing virtually everything for him?, when such a relationship crashes, he has nothing to lose but you.

Imagine if all you do is:pay his school fees, pay rents, cook for him with your money whenever you visit, change his wardrobe, when there's no guarantee he will even marry you, neither are you his sugar mummy, is he handicap?. He will take all these and still cheat on you, and dump you when the need arise.

We ladies are naturally emotional, while the male counterparts are naturally logical, when he dumps you suicide is inevitable, he's likely to move on sooner that you.

He asked you out, you didn't ask him, why should you two go on a date, and you're the one buying everything, while he's collecting?.

Spending on a guy is not healthy, even your parents will frown at it.

Expecting the ladies you date to spend on you is like patronising a prostitute and asking her to pay you.

We're not in India where women marry men.

Benita27:
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kilokeys:
if there is a plan besides changing wardrobes and feeding him

if u can empower your man , either advancing his career , or setting him up.. thats a great idea


note the word ''Your Man''.

halfricanadian:


Na i av helped guys in d past

Givin out my money for investment to get him fone nd wears nd i never harmed him cos of d fact i spent

Wen i do anytin i put God into it cos he sees even in d hidden nd pays every man according to his or her deeds

Titilayooni:
Babe,I won't agree with you...I can spend on my man,it doesn't make me stupid...Men too want to be pampered ONCE in a while,U might be speaking his own love language too..Ts not only on his birthdays...Give ur man treat:pay for ur eat outs too,surprise shopping for him,get him a nice wristwatch or footwear,small surprise bday getogether.....I buy my bf's favourite drink especially when I know he is cash strapped.....So I go against that motion

sapiosexual1:

Nigerian ladies and their archaic mentality. So you wanna be like the leech who keeps asking for more.
Well, spending in a matured relationship is mutual, based on love, trust and where you see the relationship going.
My lady spends on me, like really spends on me, that's because she knows the value she places on me and knows that I am worth it.
Maybe that's because she has gotten a different orientation by studying abroad.
Many true blooded Nigerian ladies would bore me with their unromantic idiosyncrasies.

Titilayooni:
Babe,I won't agree with you...I can spend on my man,it doesn't make me stupid...Men too want to be pampered ONCE in a while,U might be speaking his own love language too..Ts not only on his birthdays...Give ur man treat:pay for ur eat outs too,surprise shopping for him,get him a nice wristwatch or footwear,small surprise bday getogether.....I buy my bf's favourite drink especially when I know he is cash strapped.....So I go against that motion

Jay542:
It's very inappropriate for a lady to spend on a guy.

mizzbouqui:

He will still appreciate it but not only that

Benita27:
Goodluck with ur lady spending one you, like i said "there's no harm in helping a boo when he's broke, buying him gifts when the need arise.....bt is totally not safe for ladies to spend on u guys.

Jason Derulo gifted Jordan spark a car, she's rich hope you knw.

Beyonce didn't buy JayZ a house while they were dating, they're both rich, he still pays for dinners.

Benita27:
Hope you knw i mentioned that there's no harm in doing all you've said.

Comprehend, don't be stupid in love, by doing all the manly roles.

ehix89:
where is the quote from

Atmmachine:
This is one of the many reasons i can't date a Nigerian girl, they think differently.

So, a girl shouldn't spend on her boyfriend ?? But you want the boyfriend to spend on her ??

Go fucck yourself

ehix89:
There is no single route in achieving a smooth relationship my dear, different tricks works for different folks that's why I really do not fancy relationship advice, what works for Mr. A might just be what killed Mr. B relationship

ehix89:
There is no single route in achieving a smooth relationship my dear, different tricks works for different folks that's why I really do not fancy relationship advice, what works for Mr. A might just be what killed Mr. B relationship

Jay542:

From nature. If the lady is the one doing the spending then what's the duty of the man?

Jay542:

From nature. If the lady is the one doing the spending then what's the duty of the man?

ehix89:
no one is saying a lady should do all the spending, but she should be able to chip in some support here and there, what do you make of a woman who earns 300k and does absolutely nothing to support her man?, some ladies are just too stingy to be considered partners

ehix89:
you gurls should up your game, the community ain't comfortable with that anymore

mizzbouqui:
Lolssss okay ayaf hear

sapiosexual1:



Not talking of helping out a broke dude, what are friends for if she can't help him out?
I'm talking of spending on him like spoiling him. Jeez naija babes have a long way to go, soo unromantic.
I don't need her money cos I'm richer than her, buh it stokes the flame when she spoils me with gifts and treats. Or you think men don't wanna be pampered too? I for one loves to be pampered alot.
Thank god say i no waka miss road date a typical naija babe, my life would have been miserable by now

ehix89:
no one is saying a lady should do all the spending, but she should be able to chip in some support here and there, what do you make of a woman who earns 300k and does absolutely nothing to support her man?, some ladies are just too stingy to be considered partners

Benita27:
You don't need any lady's money to be a man.

What makes you a man?.

Getrich47:

You are wise

Benita27:
Help me ask them.

Titilayooni:
BABE!!! Am not stupid in love,ok? U can also try it and U will see how ur man will feel...It doesn't mean u are doing all d manly roles but put it on a ratio 4:1,he does 4 times and U do it just once,IT WON'T KILL YOU.. What do u do with your money then,if u can spend out of it for ur man?I dint say u shld spend everything now#LOL#

Jay542:

A man shouldn't care really how much his woman earns. He is meant to still give her allowance even if she earns 500k and he earns 200k. A womans' money is for herself while the guys' earnings is for the family.

Jay542:

Lol. You might disagree with me on this but that's why i don't support the idea that the ladys should be equal to men. We are to provide for you ladies.