Benita27:
Goodluck with ur lady spending one you, like i said "there's no harm in helping a boo when he's broke, buying him gifts when the need arise.....bt is totally not safe for ladies to spend on u guys.

Jason Derulo gifted Jordan spark a car, she's rich hope you knw.

Beyonce didn't buy JayZ a house while they were dating, they're both rich, he still pays for dinners.

nuelzz04:
n u want ur guy to b doing everything for u...isn't dat too risky .....talk of hypocrisy

Jay542:

From nature. If the lady is the one doing the spending then what's the duty of the man?

abbeyboy2o15:
who is quoting you see your choice of words show how untrained you are wont exchange dime with you but educate your mind to free your retardation.

AlphaCentauri:
woman keep quiet there. you better spend on your man if you want to draw him out. to pull out his emotions and his soft side. or else you will just be jammin cold blooded niggas if you never pay. you treat a nigga like an ATM he will treat you like a customer. we aint even talking about heavy spending here, maybe you go out and get him that special drink he likes once in a while. maybe he likes whiskey or moet wine or champagne etc etc. little little stuff like dat will melt a mans heart

Jay542:

A man shouldn't care really how much his woman earns. He is meant to still give her allowance even if she earns 500k and he earns 200k. A womans' money is for herself while the guys' earnings is for the family.

hollamanng:
You better thank your God if guys sought after you

Benita27:
You don't have to ask me to keep quiet, you just failed to comprehend my post, cos i made mention of doing little things, once in a while.

Lexusgs430:


But it is perfectly alright for a guy to spend on a girl ?

Benita27:
What is hypocrisy in being a man, and not a boy.

Your gf for just use feeding bottle feed you.

AlphaCentauri:
Buy your man silk ties and chocolates and wines and perfumes. nobody asking you to buy him bentley or a house. he will appreciate those.

Benita27:
Are you talking of bf or Husband?.

Benita27:
Worldwide. That's what separates men from boys.

nuelzz04:
I don't support a lady doing everything for her man ...neither do I support a guy doing everything for her lady....der shud b a balance ... But ah trust stingy naija girls who will love her bf to play her dad's role......kwantinu

Benita27:
Never develop the habit of spending on a guy you're dating, there's no harm in helping them when they're in need, What real men want is a faithful lady, not one that spends on them.

To some spending on them reduces their self worth, even in marriages when a lady is the bread winner of the family, the men are not so happy, so why should your boyfriend be happy when you're the one doing virtually everything for him?, when such a relationship crashes, he has nothing to lose but you.

Imagine if all you do is:pay his school fees, pay rents, cook for him with your money whenever you visit, change his wardrobe, when there's no guarantee he will even marry you, neither are you his sugar mummy, is he handicap?. He will take all these and still cheat on you, and dump you when the need arise.

We ladies are naturally emotional, while the male counterparts are naturally logical, when he dumps you suicide is inevitable, he's likely to move on sooner that you.

He asked you out, you didn't ask him, why should you two go on a date, and you're the one buying everything, while he's collecting?.

Spending on a guy is not healthy, even your parents will frown at it.

Expecting the ladies you date to spend on you is like patronising a prostitute and asking her to pay you.

We're not in India where women marry men.

Benita27:
Worldwide. That's what separates men from boys.

Lexusgs430:


I thought Man or Woman seeing a snake,and they both kill it. Is that not the point ? Or am I too drunk again?

Benita27:
What is hypocrisy in being a man, and not a boy.

Your gf for just use feeding bottle feed you.

Benita27:
I have gifted my man a packet shirt b4, bt can't pay his rents.

You dig?.

Benita27:
What are you doing with her if you can't play her dad's role....kwantinu too.

Benita27:
I have a family friend that works in shell, though! He's married, the wife works with the state government.

You won't believe that that man pays the wife monthly salary, ouside what she earns, and he still takes care of the home running.

That's who a man is.

Supnaija:


Aunty Becinta or whatever your name is. So this is what you are preaching that women should not spend on men.

Agreed! Na falling hand for man to fold his hand and let the woman carry the bills. Personally I know one dude who actually lives with a woman who literally feeds him from indomie she sells on the street. Now she is pregnant and he lives with her. No Doubt that is one big hell of a Bleep up.

BUT!!!!

When a woman decides to help her man financially its not a bad idea. As a matter of fact its a very good thing if she helps him. Personally it is a turn-on if a woman can on her offer help.
You see the ideology Naija women have that men should have to do everything, is actually one of the worst ever. Thats the reason why Women of the east most especially (no offense) are more likely to stay single than women of other tribes. Why? Because they believe the man should carry every single bill including money for matches and sanitary pad.

Thats the reason Ibo men hustle like crazy and most times marry late because even to pay bride price na war plus the wedding requirements are usually outrageous. The girlfriend of a friend of mine who is from IMO told me once that she made inquiries of the cost of her bride price and her family said its N990,000 minus the two weddings o - traditional and church weddings, and I was like "eeehhh, is it your whole family my friend intends to marry or is it just you".

Now in this case now, will you say its okay for the lady to fold her arms and watch the man suffer with all the bills. If she has, she has to contribute, I mean for crying out loud when it comes to marriage na woman dey need am pass. Left to us men we no send o, as a matter of fact we enjoy the freedom of being single no strings attached cos that means we can enter any door we like when we like it.

Its because of this terrible mentality most of our girls refuse to work or learn, some are just so lazy shaaaaa. All they are hard working at is fixing eyelashes that make them look like Ayamatanga's apprentise and fix weavon the cost of which is enough to buy land in Sango Ota.

Men do we want a resourceless woman? NO.
Do we like the fact that you let us do every goddamn thing including THAT THING while you just lie on your back moaning like a pregnant goat, NO.
Do we like you handling all our bills? Of course not. Just help us anyway we can, thats what you were meant for.

I no be pastor o, but I will end this with a bible passage a friend of mine once showed that left my jaw dropped for a long timE AND will use it to buttress my point when I said na woman need marriage pass

ISAIAH 4:1. It says,

New Living Translation
In that day so few men will be left that seven women will fight for each man, saying, "Let us all marry you! We will provide our own food and clothing. Only let us take your name so we won't be mocked as old maids."

So if una like make una dey zuzu (ibo word for fooling around). We need women who can help us anyway she can, not someone who feels entitled to everything free just because she has p**sy.

And Guys, A Good woman is hard to find....But if you find one please comot eye for ekaite ikebe or else you go live the rest of your life unhappy.

C'est fini.

pussyAvenger:
just lyk someone has rightly said..u go tay for nairaland

Jay542:

That's how to earn respect.

Lexusgs430:


What separates girls from ladies ?

Benita27:
Thank God you said you knw of a woman that's completely taking care of a guy, and is a bleep.

Like i said, do good things for the guy, bt don't take it to the extreme.

AlphaCentauri:
if he lose his job and is about to be homeless you cant help him to pay his rent till he finds his feet ? so what is ya purpose in this world na ?

Askseek:
This is a non issue in my opinion, but This is your opinion, is flawed. You have a very narrowed definition for a man. A man must be defined by more than his ability to provide financially for a grown woman and vice versa for a woman. A relationship is a 2 way street, love and consideration for your partner should move you to participate in your relationship financially, emotionally, physically and any way needed to foster said relationship. Like I said at first though, this is a non issue cos everyone will do what works for them.

Trina0936:

So you understood my native language abi? Olodo Rabata
Better go and sleep and stop disgracing yourself

Benita27:
Worldwide. That's what separates men from boys.