Just a few thoughts on this. It's not surprising that dishes are a hot topic. It reflects the underlying principles in marriage and relationships today. Men need to understand that it goes beyond pride and egos. Ladies too need to understand that it goes beyond being romantic. This thread shows a lot of both sexes are still missing the point! What do i mean? Let's reverse the scenario. The man has been working on the family car, and needs to fix a tyre. He needs help in bringing the spare tyre over. He asks the wife/lady to help as he needs to man the jack. Ladies, would you carry the tyre? Bear in mind it's not your usual task. We are here to support each other, sometimes you will need to step out of your comfort zone. That's what love is about. It goes beyond romance or pride. It's only concern is WHAT IF IT'S ME? WHAT CAN I DO TO MAKE IT BETTER FOR YOU? Remember the Golden Rule. This issue wouldn't even become a hot topic. Personally i understand that he's had a hard day at work. We talk issues out over dinner when he gets home. But i know that washing up is not his prerogative - besides it takes less than 10 mins. If he is so inclined he joins in. But i never ask him to. Just like he never asks me to do manual stuff like repairs. I join in if i like. We respect each other's territory - does it make one of us less important? No! Stay blessed everyone.

codelady:

Just a few thoughts on this. It's not surprising that dishes are a hot topic. It reflects the underlying principles in marriage and relationships today. Men need to understand that it goes beyond pride and egos. Ladies too need to understand that it goes beyond being romantic. This thread shows a lot of both sexes are still missing the point! What do i mean? Let's reverse the scenario. The man has been working on the family car, and needs to fix a tyre. He needs help in bringing the spare tyre over. He asks the wife/lady to help as he needs to man the jack. Ladies, would you carry the tyre? Bear in mind it's not your usual task. We are here to support each other, sometimes you will need to step out of your comfort zone. That's what love is about. It goes beyond romance or pride. It's only concern is WHAT IF IT'S ME? WHAT CAN I DO TO MAKE IT BETTER FOR YOU? Remember the Golden Rule. This issue wouldn't even become a hot topic. Personally i understand that he's had a hard day at work. We talk issues out over dinner when he gets home. But i know that washing up is not his prerogative - besides it takes less than 10 mins. If he is so inclined he joins in. But i never ask him to. Just like he never asks me to do manual stuff like repairs. I join in if i like. We respect each other's territory - does it make one of us less important? No! Stay blessed everyone.

God bless you sister for seeing the real picture.

axeman85:

@poster

it amazes when i see this topic that was just 13 or so now gont to 20. its very obvious you have never left the shores of nigeria or you are on of those guys the father treated your mother same way you would treat your woman.  most men on here i believe are matured and educated men and also reasonable men.  Do not quote the bible to hide or backup your ignorance, because based on your arguments right from page one just shows that they are some guys out there who needs to be more enlightened. washing plates for your woman or mopping the floor doesnt reduce your male ego in the house rather it makes your wife respect you more. i believe we nigerians are more concerned about what the next man thinks thats why we tend to misbehave alot. thats why you see men beating their wives and also women beating and abusing their husbands. there is no biggie in washing plates after all you are assisting your woman and its not like she is ordering you or commanding you. she is asking for your help.  Personally when i wake up and i go to the kitchen and i see left over plates from night before, i take it upon myself to wash it, tidy up the kitchen and do a few chores in the house that i can do. because i see the it as my Home and if i was cleaning my dishes before i got married, what stops me from doing it after.

Couldnt have said it better.

, i have followed this thread for awhile
the answer cant be generalized
i can wash my wife's pant!!!!!
that doesnt make me a weak guy, cos i know who i am
but if she crosses the line i will put her in her place no doubt
not all men can handle this, and moreover women too have to be very strong
for her to be able to deal with washing ur plates and taking ur bullshit without feeling ego bruised
so every once in a while they want to take a bite @ ur manhood,
IF YOUR WIFE TELLS YOU TO WASH PLATES SHE IS CROSSING THE LINE, !!!!!
IF YOUR HUSBAND DOESNT OFFER TO WASH PLATES HE IS ALSO CROSSING THE LINE, !!!!!
HUSBAND OFFER TO,WIFE SAY NO AND TELL HIM HE IS A DARLING, DONT GO TO UR FRIENDS AND START SAYING MY HUSBAND DOES THE DISHES IN THE HOUSE, !!!!

haha, I cooked for my darling this weekend . . . . and guess what? ? ? He went to the kitchen and just as he was about to WASH THE DISHES. . . he distracted me with some 'funny moves' . lol

[s]secretz, stop this your lieing of your imaginery perfect boyfriend![/s]

Secretz:

haha, I cooked for my darling this weekend . . . . and guess what? ? ? He went to the kitchen and just as he was about to WASH THE DISHES. . . he distracted me with some 'funny moves' . lol

[s]secretz, stop this your lieing of your imaginery perfect boyfriend![/s]

LMAO

Washing plates Big deal? It must really be a big deal 4 u to have posted it on NL. U must be extremely egotistical and really think highly of urself. Only a bush, backward, self-centred and stone-aged man can think in this way and manner. Guy, grow and wake up, c'mon!!!! Nothing dey washing of plates. There's nothing stopping u 4rm helping her out once in a while, Na wah oo!!, wetin we no go hear!

I sound a bit different! Isnt it? Very sorry for that! but I am assuring you that I am very alright.

I commented on this issue because the topic itself is very disrecpectful for women.

Cheexie:

Is this guy alright??

Secretz:

haha, I cooked for my darling this weekend . . . . and guess what? ? ?  He went to the kitchen and just as he was about to WASH THE DISHES. . . he distracted me with some 'funny moves' . lol

[s]secretz, stop this your lieing of your imaginery perfect boyfriend![/s]          

i thot i was your darling, so i have competition? 

Rantilicia:

Washing plates Big deal? It must really be a big deal 4 u to have posted it on NL. U must be extremely egotistical and really think highly of urself. Only a bush, backward, self-centred and stone-aged man can  think in this way and manner. Guy, grow and wake up, c'mon!!!! Nothing dey washing of plates. There's nothing stopping u 4rm helping her out once in a while,  Na wah oo!!, wetin we no go hear!   

the time u spent calling him all these glorious names u didnt call your father, why didnt u just shut up and offer to wash the plates for him 

me sef, I go help am wash the dishes,
did I not eat her pounded yam?

Why should you do the dishes
Show me the babe that asked you to do dishes
What is this world turning to
Asking an able bodied man to do dishes with you
Abomination of the highest plateau!!!


Next time ask him for his kidney cry baby!!

Dang!!

funny how this thread generated alot of posts.

I have gone thru' dis thread and read of Guys stooping so low, maybe we could be seemed to appear cool and nice to 'em ladies if we wash d dishes and their panties. Rubbish!

At first i aint some sexist or autocratic niggah, no never! But a Man is a Man, anyday anytime, Nature in itself has kept it in every cultural background dat the Man should be seen as a King. The Man has his own roles.

If we think washing ur GF panties or dishes would make u look as Mr.Nice, then we prolly need a rethinking. lets be sincere with ourselves, go to any home where the man does the woman's role, they barely last together. When we were growing with our parents, how many times did dad help mum to do the dishes? how many time did dad help mum to wash her panties? now duz dat mean love never existed, pls LOVE aint defined as all this 'hullabries' and 'mungallairs' ,go thru' the western homes (America, canada etc) today, one major reason for their breakup is because of the stupid compromises the guys are making everyday, thinking that it is when u compromise to ur wives demand dao make her love u so much.nonesense!

From experience, ask any sincere and responsible chick if they love their guys for doing d dishes, washing their cloths, a larger percent will say no because what a lady wants is someone who is so comfortable in his skin regardless of her or not, there is an attraction in that, believe me!

[s]One day d females will tell us to help dem shave their pubics, and prolly give them our genitals to Bleep us. rubbish![/s]

@OP; If she is your wife, you can help out sometimes.

sayso, no be small thing ooooo!

Some of you MEN are STUPID!!!!
If you can't do dishes then don't bloody use them to eat! There are plastic plates you know, use them!

IgboGirl:

Some of you MEN are STUPID!!!!
If you can't do dishes then don't bloody use them to eat! There are plastic plates you know, use them!

You better tone down with those insults because it is not good for you.

IgboGirl:

Some of you MEN are STUPID!!!!
If you can't do dishes then don't bloody use them to eat! There are plastic plates you know, use them!

ABEG FREE MI NOW

Bearshare:

I have gone thru' dis thread and read of Guys stooping so low, maybe we could be seemed to appear cool and nice to 'em ladies if we wash d dishes and their panties. Rubbish!

At first i aint some sexist or autocratic niggah, no never! But a Man is a Man, anyday anytime, Nature in itself has kept it in every cultural background dat the Man should be seen as a King. The Man has his own roles.

If we think washing your GF panties or dishes would make u look as Mr.Nice, then we prolly need a rethinking. lets be sincere with ourselves, go to any home where the man does the woman's role, they barely last together. When we were growing with our parents, how many times did dad help mum to do the dishes? how many time did dad help mum to wash her panties? now duz dat mean love never existed, pls LOVE aint defined as all this 'hullabries' and 'mungallairs' ,go thru' the western homes (America, canada etc) today, one major reason for their breakup is because of the stupid compromises the guys are making everyday, thinking that it is when u compromise to your wives demand dao make her love u so much.nonesense!

From experience, ask any sincere and responsible chick if they love their guys for doing d dishes, washing their cloths, a larger percent will say no because what a lady wants is someone who is so comfortable in his skin regardless of her or not, there is an attraction in that, believe me!

[s]One day d females will tell us to help dem shave their pubics, and prolly give them our genitals to mess us. rubbish![/s]

**Bullshit!!* with a sneeze.

Una still dey here argue for who go do dishes and who go sweep floor?  

Ladies, it goes much further than just doing dishes!  Pretty soon you will tell him to do laundry. . then he should do grocery. . .now go clean bathroom.  You call such male weakness an adorable quality.  I guess you have lost sense of reference for what adoration is. That same quality that you find adorable in him today. . . his eagerness to help bake the cake and clean the crockpot. . .will soon become a resentment when few years from now he doesnt see anything wrong with being a stay-home-dad, he is out in the front lawn planting new flowers in that apron you gave him for valentine.

Homely enough Ah,So you want to turn your to house maid. Girls beware

honestly,i dont like this at all. last week my girlfriend came to stay and we tried co-operating the first day was fine,the next day she piled dishes up in the zinc waiting for me to go wash them.trust me guys i burst out in flames me i no wan co-operate b4 self.man washing plates habahabahabahaba

Negro_Ntns:

Una still dey here argue for who go do dishes and who go sweep floor?   

Ladies, it goes much further than just doing dishes!  Pretty soon you will tell him to do laundry. . then he should do grocery. . .now go clean bathroom.  You call such male weakness an adorable quality.  I guess you have lost sense of reference for what adoration is. That same quality that you find adorable in him today. . . his eagerness to help bake the cake and clean the crockpot. . .will soon become a resentment when few years from now he doesnt see anything wrong with being a stay-home-dad, he is out in the front lawn planting new flowers in that apron you gave him for valentine.

So now washing the clothes you wear is a problem? Do you know how you sound?

papinbeyo:

honestly,i dont like this at all. last week my girlfriend came to stay and we tried co-operating the first day was fine,the next day she piled dishes up in the zinc waiting for me to go wash them.trust me guys i burst out in flames me i no wan co-operate b4 self.man washing plates habahabahabahaba

I dont support your girlsfriends style, and I definitely wont be asking my man to go into the kitchen to wash up, but if Im too busy, he needs to take initiative. Thats my take on this man/woman matter.
When my brother's wife was pregnant, they had no maid and because she couldnt do a lot, he did the cooking and washing and ironing. And almost everday, she'd call my mum to thank her for bringing up a man.
Today, my brother is still a man. He still has his penis . . . . it hasnt fallen off, and his wife treats him like a king.
You earn respect my brothers, you dont demand it. If you have to demand respect, it means you have failed and you know it!!!
22 pages, on who will wash plate?? ? ? Una no get work oh

for once, i wish i were your wife: no dishes, no f**k

lol ,
with dat your equation 99.9% of men would do them dishes, lol

pek:

for once, i wish i were your wife: no dishes, no f**k

So wat's wrong wit that, neva helped your mother in kitchen as a boy and wat if u were in a family of all males. Come on brother free me jare, notin dey there. Besides it gives u more time 2 relate, probably she just wants u 2 keep her company or something. If she falls ill or something and u dont have a nanny or cant afford one wat do u do?

Put that whole macho behind you and hav some fun with your WooMan.




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Rosabelle:

So now washing the clothes you wear is a problem?

No it is not a problem.

Rosabelle:

So now washing the clothes you wear is a problem? Do you know how you sound?
I dont support your girlsfriends style, and I definitely wont be asking my man to go into the kitchen to wash up, but if Im too busy, he needs to take initiative. Thats my take on this man/woman matter.
When my brother's wife was pregnant, they had no maid and because she couldnt do a lot, he did the cooking and washing and ironing. And almost everday, she'd call my mum to thank her for bringing up a man.
Today, my brother is still a man. He still has his penis . . . . it hasnt fallen off, and his wife treats him like a king.
You earn respect my brothers, you dont demand it. If you have to demand respect, it means you have failed and you know it!!!
22 pages, on who will wash plate?? ? ? Una no get work oh

I am understanding you more now from the last episode and this was a good contribution from you.

_{I know i will find you here anyway how are you doing? long time no see.}

It's a pity that most of us have lost cognisance of what truely defines a typical Nigerian/African essence. The essence of Africa was never and will never be based on fantasy which is the hallmark of typical western world and their apologists. They fantasize just about anything u can think of in the name of civilization to the extent that even age-long, natural and un-questioned judgements have been turned up-side down. Such as (wo)man getting married to (wo)man, child adoption, pornography, etc. All these so called civilized practices are condemnable in our traditional Nigerian/African society.

I am very sure they easily got to this level of "civilization" as a result of men/women compromising their traditional roles in the society such as men doing what the poster said (I don't even want to mention it) or women usurping the role of men in the name of gender equality or whatever. Let us stick to our traditional roles and surely our society will be the envy of all. Thank you

remind the girls that we are in africa please!

Me?? do the dishes with u??
what kind of stupid love is that one??   Imagine her telling me that i have to do the dishes wif her??
 
@ poster

U are a complete insecure wimp and excuse of a man!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
U cant do the dishes but u can eat the food and belch loudly after!!

I think u feel ur living inthe stone age, Wake up silly and change ur chauvinistic attitude, it will lead u nowhere,

If u cant do dishes then for God's sake buy a dishwasher or get a maid.( and if u cant afford any of those then keep ur chauvinistic lips sealed and do the dishes fast!!!)

Hello

I am looking for a sugar mummy who is caring and willing to take care of me, i am romantic and would do anything for her, and satisfy her in bed. my id is ray_2luv@yahoo.com, just send me a mail and i will get back to you.

Thanks.

sister, this is africa. live with it!