This same thing has happened to a very close friend, so i can authoritatively tell you that she has met some rich dude who is ready to pay you off. With regards her offer, I have to tell you to be very careful, some girls are "not nice" to say the least

In my friends case, he sent her a modest estimate of what he had spent against our advice. The amount ofcourse was much less than what he had invested in her but he just wanted to recover at least part of his investment. She replied him with an insultive letter saying that he was trying to rip her off and that she cant remember him spending anything close to the said amount. And then to add injury to insult, she later sent back some of the perfumes and other small gifts she had not yet used, and also bought him a ram to replace the one he sent to her dad during Sallah celebration. She also sent him 10k wrapped in an envelope with another insulting letter ofcourse just for good measure.

So once again i advise you to be very careful. Good luck

@poster.my guy,tak hrt,u hear?but note dt dis could be d opportunity 4 u 2 concentrat on ur chosen field in life and mak sumfin autta. Hope u knw dt Mark Zukerberg,the CEO of Facebook founded dt great social network site wen he was rebounding from a jilt?its true!so brace up!

Like someone said, '' Kick her out like polio and move ahead with ur life''. though its difficult but it's clear she has someone that has swept her off her foot. Open ur eyes to reality and let her go before she treats you like a piece of rubbish.

denony:

If u want to maintain your prestige don't try giving her any bill
Just be speechless, don't even ask her why, speak ye not,
i bet you she will certainly come asking you what has gone wrong.

It works

Don't follow this advice else you'd wait till kingdom come and the only time she'll ask you whats wrong is when she asks: whats wrong with what she did?
She said she wants to pay for whatever you did for her family. . . that statement has put paid to any future you guys have and I can bet you a year's salary that she has her familys' support. Ask her to pay you for the sex sef. . . you'll need all the money for your next girlfriend.

@post

if u don cancel the babe,add up what u av spent double it and consider the extra as payment for ur duty.

real4life:

In my friends case, he sent her a modest estimate of what he had spent against our advice. . She replied him with an insultive letter saying that he was trying to rip her off and that she cant remember him spending anything close to the said amount. And then to add injury to insult, she later sent back some of the perfumes and other small gifts she had not yet used, and also bought him a ram to replace the one he sent to her dad during Sallah celebration. She also sent him 10k wrapped in an envelope with another insulting letter ofcourse just for good measure.

So once again i advise you to be very careful. Good luck

Yeeeeeeeeeee!! Woman's BRUTALITY to Man sha!
I'll still say poster should take his money back! Your friend is lucky in my book. I'll just tie some flowers to the Ram's horns, use some of that perfume on the flowers then present it to my next girlfriend on Sallah day; then I'll tell her to note it just in case she also tries to play a fast one. NO DULLING!

real4life:

In my friends case, he sent her a modest estimate of what he had spent against our advice. . She replied him with an insultive letter saying that he was trying to rip her off and that she cant remember him spending anything close to the said amount. And then to add injury to insult, she later sent back some of the perfumes and other small gifts she had not yet used, and also bought him a ram to replace the one he sent to her dad during Sallah celebration. She also sent him 10k wrapped in an envelope with another insulting letter ofcourse just for good measure.

So once again i advise you to be very careful. Good luck

Yeeeeeeeeeee!! Woman's BRUTALITY to Man sha!
I'll still say poster should take his money back! Your friend is lucky in my book. I'll just tie some flowers to the Ram's horns, use some of that perfume on the flowers then present it to my next girlfriend on Sallah day; then I'll tell her to note it just in case she also tries to play a fast one. NO DULLING!

You never spent much on her that was why she asked you to list all the things you ve ever given to her.

Some babes have diff ways of passing a message to their boyfriends.

Are you sure you have been a responsible boyfriend? taking care of her needs and not just demanding for sex and spending the little she hers.

just asking!!

@frozennose i dont have any axe to grind with you but im just confused with your comment. Is it a boyfriend's responsibility to take care of his interests' material needs. So why is her father wasting money sending her to school if at the end of the day she is going to be looking at some guy for financial needs? is that what love is all about? No wonder African men date white women these days

pride comes before destruction, move on with your life

Una no ge calculator?? abi wetin b d problem?

Kennyblues:

pride comes before destruction, move on with your life

Right man  
Let her go, a girl was once told me we are same age, and that's her reason for us to break up  
That's years ago, now she all over the place hunting for me, unfortunately I'm not in her level again    

P.S. You will be a complete idiot to collect a single dime from her

@tbaba83

A man that has been with a girl for 4 good years and all of a sudden she is asking him to list all that he has ever done for her should be ashamed of himself.that only means he has done nothing to prove  his love and affection for her.

It is a man responsibility to care for his wife or girlfriend ,encourage her in her chosen career or job,and never be stingy to her just because she has a job.
A woman's money should be for the kids and other little expense and not for the man's lazy bones.

As African's we were raised to take care of the home front and support the man.

It's just that the men of today are so lazy they don't mind living on a woman.

My brother if your girlfriend has said so please be fast in preparing the bill, because it is very obvious that she has seen a well loaded guy.Compliment to all nairalanders

U should know that by her statement, your game is up with her. Dont lose both sides send her the bill on time and move on.

@ frozennose. I guess you have answered my question. Love is only for the rich. As for me, i dont believe in such a philosophy.

@poster,
i don't know this girl neither do i know u but believe me, both of u were never friends.
i have seen ur type more than 1 million times. u have been holding this girl hostage over time and u kept on reminding her how you have been helping her and her family.
i am not wearing my insult uniform today but next time, u will not be this lucky. go and repent of ur inferiority complex. she has never been for u rather u have been oppressing her with ur little money but now, i am happy for her independence. pls do not ask for any refunds unless u did not sleep with the girl otherwise, i will be among those coming after u for refunds of all the bedmatics u had with her.
like i said, your days as an opressor are gone so go ahead with ur life as the girl has been liberated.

Quit her and go away with the money cuz she agreed to pay back.

You can never accurately calculate everything you'v ever spent on a woman,
Besides It isnt about money, This is about your emotions and your heart, "The value of your heart is unquantifiable"


Rgds

Send the bills and dont forget to collect your se.x back as well

Leave that to God.

I hope u didn't buy her father a ram for Sallah?

My first reaction and advise:- My friend, collect d bar and move on.
But if u b big boy wit pride, u go bone d money.

Like an earlier poster said, she fit use am insult u even more. No matter what u decide, d babe don waka, so  make u find ya road!

you move on
Stop wallowing in self pity

just forget abt de issue & leave her to herself.ur reputation matter alot.

@ poster ,
iv helped your girl calculate the money u spent on her.

1st dating year
rice ,beans,fried plantain and pomo + bottle of fanta - N 180 (x2dates) N 360
okrika shoe (val gift) - N1200
mtn recharge card - N 1500
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N2060

2nd year,
lunch at Mr Biggs (x3) (750) 2250
recharge card 1500
gucchhi (chinese gucci) wristwatch 2000
mtn midnyt call recharge card 500
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total 6250

3rd year
birthday gift 1200
money to retouch hair 1000
recharge card 1500
vex money(as per BIG BOY) 3000
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TOTAL 6700
4TH year didnt spend any money so he got dumped
thus the total spent is N15,010
just go collect your money fast before she change her mind.
christmas is coming.
u can do something with the cash

tell her to go to hell with her money and dont even dare waste a minute of ur time brooding over her. it simply shows that she is not worth it and make sure u go for thanks giving to thank ur Lord that u did not marry her cos she would probably have end up killing u so as to have her way with other men.

bennygee:

@ poster ,
iv helped your girl calculate the money u spent on her.

1st dating year
rice ,beans,fried plantain and pomo + bottle of fanta - N 180 (x2dates) N 360
okrika shoe (val gift) - N1200
mtn recharge card - N 1500
------------------
N2060

2nd year,
lunch at Mr Biggs (x3) (750) 2250
recharge card 1500
gucchhi (chinese gucci) wristwatch 2000
mtn midnyt call recharge card 500
-------------
total 6250

3rd year
birthday gift 1200
money to retouch hair 1000
recharge card 1500
vex money(as per BIG BOY) 3000
---------------
TOTAL 6700
4TH year didnt spend any money so he got dumped
thus the total spent is N15,010
just go collect your money fast before she change her mind.
christmas is coming.
u can do something with the cash

rflmao, rflmao,

You guys dated for four years, c'mon man, she is a woman, she expected you to pop the magic question and take her to the altar, you did not, you lose. Regarding the money spent on her, forget that, there was a mutual benefit involved.

Brooding over a girl is not worth any man's time when there are other things to occupy our mind. If she is not interested i say good riddance to bad rubbish. There are a dozen or more women to meet. Let her keep the money her new guy gave her to pay me.

u mean u been wasting your girlfriend for 4yrs? she knows she is not dating but wasting, how many more years do u want to waste her before u marry?

guy take ur time wit her don't just rush into any thing she might be putting you in a test to see how much u can take wen you see she is not coming back just let it go.

it will be childish to ask her to return wat u spent on her. at this time think ahead

love is like a wind it comes and goes, if u trit it well it will come back

she just told you indirectly that you are off her league
why dont you tell her you are more matured than she thinks
in other words tell her to go to hell with her cash that you are fine without her in your life