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Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by daillest: 2:02pm On Mar 19, 2017
It's all in your mind bro! Psychological and not physical. I had the exact same problem and today I'm married with 2 kids. Email me - braddix7 at gmail. I'll share my story and how I over came it. I'm not trying to sell you anything.

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Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by Nobody: 2:03pm On Mar 19, 2017
I dey serious baba cheesy

Maybe dem dey give you green light buh you no look am grin
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by helpforever: 2:05pm On Mar 19, 2017
Doctors in the house, can I have Diabetes at a young age of 26? I will like to do a test for that as well apart from test from STI and STDs. Which other tests should I take? I will see a doctor and discuss tomorrow but I just want to know to prepare myself. I will also use the opportunity to do a HIV test. Thanks guys
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by Eze2000(m): 2:08pm On Mar 19, 2017
PERFORMANCE ANEXITY is what u got. Do not go to chemist for drugs or just any hospital.

if u have d ability, go to d USA and Matt a dedicated sex psychologist in conjunction with a surrogate sex partner

you issue will not last a month.

The surrogate is highly trained sex worker who will sleep with u as per doctor's instructions
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by SpecialAdviser(m): 2:15pm On Mar 19, 2017

Xplain the operation here

U may have variscoses. Go to a urologist and ask him what it means. He will recommend a scrotal scan to know if its true.
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by gideonvalor98(m): 2:21pm On Mar 19, 2017
Take your mind off the issue of Impotency because you are potent. Anxiety has caused this to you. Relax your mind. Do the following regularly :
Mix a litre of original honey with 4 pieces of big onions (in form of paste). Take 3 teaspoon morning, afternoon and night
Eat watermelon, use ginger and garlic as ingredients to cook
Do exercise always especially, those that stimulate the pelvic region e.g kegel exercise abs exercises etc.
Associate with people, so as to develop loving people and getting in return, make friends with the opposite sex. Free your mind bro.. You don't have all the problems in the world.
BE PRAYERFUL. God will take control and you will be okay. PLS ABSTAIN COMPLETELY FROM MASTUBATION
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by 99foxxy(f): 2:21pm On Mar 19, 2017

It is possible to masturbate and ejaculate without 50% erection, even without erection.
Iav heard things today from you guys, that means you can masturbate with out erection. Hmmmm.
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by bush112(m): 2:29pm On Mar 19, 2017
call dis number for advise 08141196419
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by medra(m): 2:35pm On Mar 19, 2017
I also had de same experience @ a brothel as i was abt to insert my dickson inside her immediately my dickson started going down as if i was hit with a charm...i quickly pay her and left the building called my pastor instantly buh have to lied dat i did nt get erection dis morning and is unsual and now is getting worse dats y i called him to let him no. After de call i was breathing so heavily like someone dat as jst escaped frm a lions zone after a while i realise my dick have became soo small lyk a 2yr old own i couldnt believe my eyes i ran outsyd to look for a frnd of mine and explained what happen to him he said it once happen to his brother dat dey have to take him to their village before dey can revived it. I called my pastor again he said i shld nt worry i shld go and sleep,i said sleep ke! @abt 4am de nxt day i started feeling my joystick back it was even more bigger dan b4. So de nx day i called my friend to inform him am back to normal he was very happy and ask me to go and test it to be sure since i dont have a galfrnd i went back to the another brothel jst to test it buh dis tym around it was sucessful. My brother nothing is too big for God to do i still believe is spiritual.

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Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by benzion72(m): 2:39pm On Mar 19, 2017
Please you need to stop the masturbation, then get a suitor and work from that point on getting erection, that solve the problem. Please dont go olosho ways again
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by helinues: 2:47pm On Mar 19, 2017

You're a wicket somebori

Hahahaha, se u know broda Lajide ni?
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by aysnoopy(m): 2:50pm On Mar 19, 2017
I av experience such
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by aysnoopy(m): 2:52pm On Mar 19, 2017
Doctors in the house, can I have Diabetes at a young age of 26? I will like to do a test for that as well apart from test from STI and STDs. Which other tests should I take? I will see a doctor and discuss tomorrow but I just want to know to prepare myself. I will also use the opportunity to do a HIV test. Thanks guys

bro, we are of same age bracket and I feel dis problem d 1st day I wanted to have sex with my gf, that was 2011. I feel hard but when I'm abt to reach d promise land, I bleeped up.. the worse part is dat I off her completely but unable to perform I tot I av much sugar in my body so I use herb, try again and still failed.. I use hausa herb and still fail.. I was frustrated and after some month, I went to meet a doctor and he gave me injection and recommend Vega 100mg for me . so, I later gain myself, but not completed healed. I have to use dis Vega once in a while to gain myself.
bro, maybe u should try dis drug. Vega 100mg
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by bamosagie(m): 2:57pm On Mar 19, 2017

@ OP, I totally agree with him.

I see you.........
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by bayusman: 2:57pm On Mar 19, 2017
Just a top up, i once experience the same issue and got really worried but later realize it was my diet and lack of regular exercise, reduce your sugar intake and carbohydrate (starchy foods) eat a lots of ginger and drink herbs every morning and night garlic is also a good aphrodisiac don't care about the smell (its your health that matters most)
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by femi4: 3:00pm On Mar 19, 2017
Even to masturbate, you need a level of erection
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by Nobody: 3:01pm On Mar 19, 2017
You tried everything without booking an appoitment with a fertility doctor? Even doctors here in this forum would have to study your medical history, run some tests and take your vitals before they can conclude what's going on. Not everything is spiritual. That word is by design overused by Nigeria's religious leaders to keep you on a leach.

Erectile dysfunction (ED) may be a physical or psychological health issue. The physical causes according to mayoclinic are:

-Heart disease

-Clogged blood vessels (atherosclerosis)

-High cholesterol

-High blood pressure



-Metabolic syndrome — a condition involving increased blood pressure, high insulin levels, body fat around the waist and high cholesterol

-Parkinson's disease

-Multiple sclerosis

-Peyronie's disease — development of scar tissue inside the penis

-Certain prescription medications

-Tobacco use

-Alcoholism and other forms of substance abuse

-Sleep disorders

-Treatments for prostate cancer or enlarged prostate

-Surgeries or injuries that affect the pelvic area or spinal cord

The main culprit from the psychological end is depression and anxiety. And from your own admission you're feeling depressed about this, so, see a doctor ASAP.

Over 140 million men suffers from ED world-wide, you're not alone in this. Seek professional help.

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Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by haryomikun(m): 3:03pm On Mar 19, 2017
I think you should stop masturbating and stay away from anything sex for a long while.
I seriously think you should do this.
You are absolutely not impotent and I think your issue is psychological but I am not an expert to analyse this for you.

So you need to regenerate your mind to understand the following:

1. Sex gets better when you are with someone who likes you and you like in return.
2. You need to read books on how to overcome anxiety and being nervous.
3. You need to work on your health by eating the right things and drinking the right things to improve your health.
4. You dont find excitement in other girls other than your virtual women so you need to let go of those women.
5. Excessive masturbation just like every other excessive things is bad. If you are that smart, you would have stopped it.

I wish you good luck bro. Get yourself together.

You're totally right boss! How come I didn't think of this?
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by Orjillala: 3:04pm On Mar 19, 2017
Try Viagra. It might help you gain strong erection irrespective of all psychological sexual anxieties.
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by sisisioge: 3:06pm On Mar 19, 2017

I see you.........

grin grin I see you too...
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by Nobody: 3:09pm On Mar 19, 2017
Sir, I will actually need the book and then your mentorship. Please respond sir

Yeah. No problem.
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by Nobody: 3:17pm On Mar 19, 2017
Why not confine in your mother.
The woman that carried you for complete 9 months.
Sit her down and tell her your experience.

You will be surprise the kind of immediate helpful suggestive care you will get; plus her being there for you till the problem is solved.

Trust mothers!
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by EmmGee: 3:19pm On Mar 19, 2017
I guess you already know the problem. Its your masturbation and porn habit.
You have associated erection and sex with Indecency.

You need to quit it immediately

Good luck
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by breezeng: 3:22pm On Mar 19, 2017
Use one cialis one hour before going for action and I can bet it, u will devour funk welaaaaaa
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by CharliParker: 3:28pm On Mar 19, 2017
Your problem is that you started masturbating at the age when your still very young so that have automatically, practically, psychologically turned your mind against the opposite sex and even made you to become nervous on seeing the opposite sex.
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by Nobody: 3:30pm On Mar 19, 2017
Check for infections. Don't let it become chronic. Also I think u might have developed PIED (pornography induced erectile dysfunction). Then last but not the least, attack it spiritually.
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by Canme4u(m): 3:43pm On Mar 19, 2017
I saw a post about a woman complaining that her sister married an impotent man. I smiled, the man probably knew he had an issue and still went ahead and married. I also have this issue and its really bothering me for over 5 years. Mine is complicated and I think its spiritual.

It all started in 2011 when I was 20 and was ready to have sex. I went to a popular brothel in Lagos with a friend to try it out.
Though I was very nervous because I was a virgin and my heart was beating very fast.

We actually went in and two women approached us. A young woman of about 28 and one of about 40.

I am my other virgin friend had eye on the one of about 28 cause she was very beautiful. My friend immediately held on to her. The other one of 40 now held on to me that I should carry her lets go do it. I angrily said "You be my mama mate na", she got angry and left.

Then the younger one said, if I and my friend wants, we can take turns with her.

We left for her room. I entered first and was very nervous and sluggish even in removing my cloth.

She said, "e be like say u be virgin...so na me go disvrigin" you. She started touching my di*k, but it didn't get hard.

Time started to waste and I got tired and asked her to refund my money. She started shouting that its not possible, that the fact that my dick did not rise is none of her business. I asked that my friend should use the money and attempt, she said no. that he must bring his own money.

We left the building and started the arguments outside. Other prostitutes came to her aid and started asking what was wrong. She explained to them that I tried to have sex with her and my thing did not rise and now I want my money back, they started shouting and said its not possible that we should better get out of her.

At one corner, the older woman of about 40 that I earlier rejected started giving me the "ntoor" look and was saying "You see your life"

I got very scared and left for home immediately.

I tried to watch porn to see if it will get up, I can't really remember if it did.

Long and short, I have not been able to have sex since then. I have not even had sex in my life. I have never tried to have sex with a real girl before, so I won't embarrass myself. I have never had a girlfriend. Though girls keep flocking around me, since I am doing well both academically and business wise, but I never attempt to have sex with them and they keep wondering whats wrong with me. One of the unilag girls that seduced me and I did nothing concluded that I was impotent because she feels no man in the world would have resisted her seduction since she was very hot.

I have tried to have sex 3 more times, with prostitutes, but still same thing happens. No erection

In 2012, I spent the whole year going to church everyday. Nothing happened. I have stopped now and accepted my fate.

Only my best friend knows about this, he keeps saying its not a spiritual condition but medical condition due to the fact that I started
masturbating right since I was 17.

He says I might have had the issue right before the prostitute encounter. Sometimes he says that it is a psychological condition.

But the thing is, how can a young boy of 20 then have Erectile dysfunction due to masturbation.
Many young boys masturbate and nothing happened to them.

I was sad for a while, but now it seems I have accepted my fate. This issue have made me focus on my studies and business and now, at 26. I have finished my BSC, and my MSC

Whenever I am Hot, I masturbate and I think that has worsened my issue. I have been masturbating since 2011 when this happened

Lots of order thing happens in between that confuses me. Like 2 years after the prostitute encounter, when I was in my 3rd year, one beautiful edo girl who really loved me was making out with me and flirting around me and I got a rock solid erection 100%. Very hard. Also, in 2014. A girl who liked me came to my house and she was flirting with me, though she didn't plan on having sex with me. Only the flirting alone made me hard. The erection was 70% hard. But then, those are the only occurrences.

Whenever I watch porn, I get semi erection - say about 60% hard.

Whenever I jerk my joystick, it gets hard - about 80% and within minutes, it deflates again.

Lot of different things have happened along the line which is too much to type. Long and short, I don't get erections when I wakeup again. I used to before all this issues.

Or is it the excess sugar I take, or the belly fat I have gotten due to the way I eat carelessly and spend on myself. (Since I don't have any woman to cater for) that is the cause.

Is it spiritual, medical or psychological?

Is it due to masturbation? Is it an infection?

Because I can remember in late 2012 or early 2013. When I tried to urinate, I had and felt a sharp pain.

I happened for about 2 days and stopped by itself.

I am getting older and my mother is already reminding me about marriage. I don't think I will marry until this issue is resolved. I can't
subject any woman to emotional pain.

At some point, I thought I was gay, but I am in no way attracted to men. But I am attracted to women. I tried watch transgender porn to confirm if I was gay (since I couldn't stand real gay porn). I actually got aroused and had a mild erection. But come on, transgenders are women who just have a joystick.

I have put up my issues on a foreign site (because other people who have put up their problems on nairaland gets abused, mocked, insulted and bullied) and I was advised by the whites to see a doctor and counselor. They didn't even understand what I meant by spiritual issue. But they have been very concerned and helpful

I don't need to see any counselor because my case would confuse who ever I tell.

I have been living in pains. No sex life and no real social life. I keep falling out with female friend because I don't make any move towards them.

I keep falling out with male friends, because they keep wondering "why this their guy no dey nack woman like them". They feel I am weird because they 100% know I am not gay and wonder why a normal guy will be avoiding women like this.

I hope my issue is resolved.

But if its not, I would live the rest of my life like this. Probably keep on masturbating and never get married.

It might actually be my excessive masturbation that might be the cause of this. I don't really know. Only God knows.

I am depressed. But suicide is not an option for me. God forbid.

Come, bia, so, let make confirm AGBO JEDI, IDAKOLE for you and your life will never remain the same. I don't think your case is spiritual. 1K to 2k should solve this.

PM me if you are interested.
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by Candybob(m): 3:44pm On Mar 19, 2017
I am suspicious of this story as ur moniker has forever in it. Dont come and give us testimony of how one herbal product from forever living saved you from impotency ooh.

Now considering the issue raised, we can safely conclude that you suffer from performance anxiety.
Been overly calculative of the percentage of erection, is a pointer. You are suppose to enjoy sex, but how would you enjoy it when you are busy calculating the degree of your erection?

Masturbation has nothing to do with your problem, but rather is key to solving it.
80% erection during masturbation shows you are not really impotent.

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Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by Damsman10(m): 3:52pm On Mar 19, 2017
Tackle it medically first, and spiritually. Go for medicals and if they said it not a medical problem, the earlier you go to MFM Church for Deliverance to fire that arrow of impotence back to the sender the better for you.
Excesive mastubation caused this permanent damage. Sex is addictive and it has been scientifically proven that excesive sex make people duller and less productive. devil knows this and use this to waste so meny glorious Destinies. There are 2 bloods in Man; the red blood cell erythrocytes carries life-oxygen, the white blood cell lymphocytes carries your protection and defence (spiritually too). Spam is cells; white blood cell. The more you waste it unnecessarily, the more defenceless you (and your Glory) become to microbes and even spiritual scavengers.
I've not seen any one that genuinely totally submitted to GOD and regret it later, unless those self-deceiving Christians.
Like myself, most of my genuine Christian mates are doing fine now.
Unless you are married, abstainance makes you spitually Strong and invincible.
To run away from sin is not a favour to GOD but a sure protection for your Glory and Destiny.

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Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by MikeB3(m): 3:53pm On Mar 19, 2017
Sorry my brother! You need to help the situation by going to the Almighty God in fasting and prayer. Also you could seek medical advice/attention from a professional. Be optimistic about the issue and you shall smile again to the glory of God!
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by Candybob(m): 3:53pm On Mar 19, 2017
It's all in your mind bro! Psychological and not physical. I had the exact same problem and today I'm married with 2 kids. Email me - braddix7 at gmail. I'll share my story and how I over came it. I'm not trying to sell you anything.

Share it here..
So we can vet the story!

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