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Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by zeezeegal(m): 10:16pm On Mar 19, 2017
What Can I Say? What Do I Knw Abt Joystick?... Try See D Doctor And Pray To God To Always Raise Ur Joystick Whenever U Need To Use It... May U Find Help Asap
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by Uchefrancis16(m): 10:22pm On Mar 19, 2017
Incrizz:

Thanks for helping.
Nice tips too.

I laugh when I see posts encouraging masturbation and guys, young guys buying into the idea, or encouraging it.

From my little web crawling, one of the side effects of masturbation is weak erection.


Uwc dear!... You're right about the weak erection. But the thing is, majority don't know until they are deep down the lane of weak erection. The worst part is, u will never know how weak it is until you try making out with a lady and notice your erection won't even be strong enough to accomodate a condom or let alone penetrate a lady.
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by Uchefrancis16(m): 10:24pm On Mar 19, 2017
helpforever:


Thanks man. God bless you

I have hope...I am so happy

You're welcome bro... Remember the worst thing you will do to urself is stopping masturbation and porn, then going back to it cos the effects might never be reversible again. Take note.
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by Candybob(m): 10:36pm On Mar 19, 2017
daillest:


#WehDonSir! Oga vetter! If the poster is interested, fine. Otherwise I have nothing to prove and can't waste precious time if the poster is just asking a question to start a conversation.

I hear ooh. Vetting is not an easy task..

But u have 'precious time' to comment on the post, paste your number and even reply my mentions. You are definitely the most busy man here.


@OP beware of scammers. Anybody that cannot advise you here on this public forum is a big time scammer! A wolf in goat clothing.
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by CHARLOE(m): 10:52pm On Mar 19, 2017
cruchenuti:


Thanks for the info. Ofcourse Viagra is a NO NO.

You didn't state the name of the Lab test you did ?

Also the Libido boosting drug you took as well !!!


Urethral swab & semen analysis. Re-youth root, u can get it in a pharmacy
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by BuddhaPalm(m): 11:57pm On Mar 19, 2017
helpforever:
Whenever I am Hot, I masturbate and I think that has worsened my issue. I have been masturbating since 2011 when this happened



If you can masturbate then you're not impotent. You've "rewired" your brain to get off on porn and masturbation instead of real, flesh-and-blood women.

You can't rob Peter to pay Paul...

The same drive you dissipate when you masturbate is the same you need to get hard for women.

Truss me, if you don't masturbate for 30 days you will rape a goat.

In fact, just 7 days of no sexual release and you will begin to see how hot all women really are.

Your masturbation induced ED is very common. And there are tons of online resources that will help you...

NoFap: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php

And Your Brain on Porn: http://www.yourbrainonporn.com/

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Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by Amicable24: 12:30am On Mar 20, 2017
Cutehector:
You are 100times better than a lot of men out their hiding their problems... Now that you have let d cat out of the bag, you are healed in Jesus name..
Someone who is planning on living the rest of his life masturbating (if his issue is not resolved) is whom you are praying for to be healed in Jesus' Name?? I suggest you should rather tell him to rededicate his life and living fully to Christ, pray for God's forgiveness upon him and by faith he will be healed someday.. cry
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by CoolVoice(m): 2:31am On Mar 20, 2017
bro nothing is wrong with you... stay away from prostitute... find a girl that you can trust with these same info you shared... and keep trying with her... she can help you get on track.. Plus start taking Bitters. You may actually have loads of pile as well.
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by TLMGH(m): 5:37am On Mar 20, 2017
You are not Impotent. Fear Not.
helpforever:
I saw a post about a woman complaining that her sister married an impotent man. I smiled, the man probably knew he had an issue and still went ahead and married. I also have this issue and its really bothering me for over 5 years. Mine is complicated and I think its spiritual.

It all started in 2011 when I was 20 and was ready to have sex. I went to a popular brothel in Lagos with a friend to try it out.
Though I was very nervous because I was a virgin and my heart was beating very fast.

We actually went in and two women approached us. A young woman of about 28 and one of about 40.

I am my other virgin friend had eye on the one of about 28 cause she was very beautiful. My friend immediately held on to her. The other one of 40 now held on to me that I should carry her lets go do it. I angrily said "You be my mama mate na", she got angry and left.

Then the younger one said, if I and my friend wants, we can take turns with her.

We left for her room. I entered first and was very nervous and sluggish even in removing my cloth.

She said, "e be like say u be virgin...so na me go disvrigin" you. She started touching my di*k, but it didn't get hard.

Time started to waste and I got tired and asked her to refund my money. She started shouting that its not possible, that the fact that my dick did not rise is none of her business. I asked that my friend should use the money and attempt, she said no. that he must bring his own money.

We left the building and started the arguments outside. Other prostitutes came to her aid and started asking what was wrong. She explained to them that I tried to have sex with her and my thing did not rise and now I want my money back, they started shouting and said its not possible that we should better get out of her.

At one corner, the older woman of about 40 that I earlier rejected started giving me the "ntoor" look and was saying "You see your life"

I got very scared and left for home immediately.

I tried to watch porn to see if it will get up, I can't really remember if it did.

Long and short, I have not been able to have sex since then. I have not even had sex in my life. I have never tried to have sex with a real girl before, so I won't embarrass myself. I have never had a girlfriend. Though girls keep flocking around me, since I am doing well both academically and business wise, but I never attempt to have sex with them and they keep wondering whats wrong with me. One of the unilag girls that seduced me and I did nothing concluded that I was impotent because she feels no man in the world would have resisted her seduction since she was very hot.

I have tried to have sex 3 more times, with prostitutes, but still same thing happens. No erection

In 2012, I spent the whole year going to church everyday. Nothing happened. I have stopped now and accepted my fate.

Only my best friend knows about this, he keeps saying its not a spiritual condition but medical condition due to the fact that I started
masturbating right since I was 17.

He says I might have had the issue right before the prostitute encounter. Sometimes he says that it is a psychological condition.

But the thing is, how can a young boy of 20 then have Erectile dysfunction due to masturbation.
Many young boys masturbate and nothing happened to them.

I was sad for a while, but now it seems I have accepted my fate. This issue have made me focus on my studies and business and now, at 26. I have finished my BSC, and my MSC

Whenever I am Hot, I masturbate and I think that has worsened my issue. I have been masturbating since 2011 when this happened

Lots of order thing happens in between that confuses me. Like 2 years after the prostitute encounter, when I was in my 3rd year, one beautiful edo girl who really loved me was making out with me and flirting around me and I got a rock solid erection 100%. Very hard. Also, in 2014. A girl who liked me came to my house and she was flirting with me, though she didn't plan on having sex with me. Only the flirting alone made me hard. The erection was 70% hard. But then, those are the only occurrences.

Whenever I watch porn, I get semi erection - say about 60% hard.

Whenever I jerk my joystick, it gets hard - about 80% and within minutes, it deflates again.

Lot of different things have happened along the line which is too much to type. Long and short, I don't get erections when I wakeup again. I used to before all this issues.

Or is it the excess sugar I take, or the belly fat I have gotten due to the way I eat carelessly and spend on myself. (Since I don't have any woman to cater for) that is the cause.

Is it spiritual, medical or psychological?

Is it due to masturbation? Is it an infection?

Because I can remember in late 2012 or early 2013. When I tried to urinate, I had and felt a sharp pain.

I happened for about 2 days and stopped by itself.

I am getting older and my mother is already reminding me about marriage. I don't think I will marry until this issue is resolved. I can't
subject any woman to emotional pain.

At some point, I thought I was gay, but I am in no way attracted to men. But I am attracted to women. I tried watch transgender porn to confirm if I was gay (since I couldn't stand real gay porn). I actually got aroused and had a mild erection. But come on, transgenders are women who just have a joystick.

I have put up my issues on a foreign site (because other people who have put up their problems on nairaland gets abused, mocked, insulted and bullied) and I was advised by the whites to see a doctor and counselor. They didn't even understand what I meant by spiritual issue. But they have been very concerned and helpful

I don't need to see any counselor because my case would confuse who ever I tell.

I have been living in pains. No sex life and no real social life. I keep falling out with female friend because I don't make any move towards them.

I keep falling out with male friends, because they keep wondering "why this their guy no dey nack woman like them". They feel I am weird because they 100% know I am not gay and wonder why a normal guy will be avoiding women like this.

I hope my issue is resolved.

But if its not, I would live the rest of my life like this. Probably keep on masturbating and never get married.

It might actually be my excessive masturbation that might be the cause of this. I don't really know. Only God knows.

I am depressed. But suicide is not an option for me. God forbid.
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by Incrizz(f): 6:22am On Mar 20, 2017
Uchefrancis16:


Uwc dear!... You're right about the weak erection. But the thing is, majority don't know until they are deep down the lane of weak erection. The worst part is, u will never know how weak it is until you try making out with a lady and notice your erection won't even be strong enough to accomodate a condom or let alone penetrate a lady.

Girls, females, women have loads of guides and materials.
But boys? Men? Little or nothing.

I think you abd your other very knowledgeable species should open threads and talk about masturbation and its real side effects with loads of real life examples, abf other gists too, even if you have to use new monikers.

I am so sure if guy's understand that they are sacrificing perfect erections for one/two minute of self indulgence, they would master the art of self control.
undecided
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by femi4: 10:11am On Mar 20, 2017
Incrizz:


Girls, females, women have loads of guides and materials.
But boys? Men? Little or nothing.

I think you abd your other very knowledgeable species should open threads and talk about masturbation and its real side effects with loads of real life examples, abf other gists too, even if you have to use new monikers.

I am so sure if guy's understand that they are sacrificing perfect erections for one/two minute of self indulgence, they would master the art of self control.
undecided
We ve tried to educate them several times but they ll always tell you that masturbation is the only way they can suppress their sexual urge
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by JayJayGee: 2:45pm On Mar 20, 2017
ERCROSS:


ejaculation trainer by matt gorden
Thanks
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by fpeter(f): 5:28pm On Mar 20, 2017
helinues:


Hahahaha, se u know broda Lajide ni?


Noo, who him be?
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by Prece(m): 9:01pm On Mar 20, 2017
God over everything
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by Incrizz(f): 12:14am On Mar 21, 2017
femi4:
We ve tried to educate them several times but they ll always tell you that masturbation is the only way they can suppress their sexual urge

When please?

I'm not talking about small gist grouosbut something on the works wide web..
undecided
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by dapsonlou(m): 12:52am On Mar 21, 2017
Go and see a Doctor 1st. Then I can recommend you to the doctor in my office building. That's his speciality
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by placeofallure(f): 5:00am On Mar 21, 2017
JustinSlayer69:
Forget the spiritual aspect... we Africans are too quick to blame that.

1. Eliminate the medical & psychological by seeing a urologist preferably at a teaching hospital.

2. You should have married that Edo gal who got you 100% hard (just kidding).

3. check yourbrainonporn.com and READ AS MANY articles as possible there. it helps with porn addiction

4. Delete ALL your porn and try to end masturbation. Both are destructive, you would see a change IMMEDIATELY.

Erectile dysfunction (ED) most times is psychological. My strong advise is to visit a teaching hospital.

GOODLUCK

Yeah! Just what I wanna tell the OP. He should seek help of urologists. I think it's more a psychological thing. The bureaucracy at a teaching hospital can be frustrating but they're better.
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by NaijaBlend: 6:41am On Mar 21, 2017
Exactly this happened to me at your age, although I never visited a prost.titute.

I am not a medical doctor, but I will give you a solution that worked for me:

1. First, buy and take a Herbal Cleanser (Dr Iguedo Goko Cleanser or Goody Cleanser would do);

2. I am sure you will notice a difference within 24 hours.

Though prescription drugs, look for a good Aphrodi.siac an hour or so before the show, that is, if 1 (above) doesn't work.
But note that some of them are rubbish ooo!
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by helpforever: 6:53am On Mar 21, 2017
dapsonlou:
Go and see a Doctor 1st. Then I can recommend you to the doctor in my office building. That's his speciality
Where is the office please?
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by helpforever: 6:54am On Mar 21, 2017
NaijaBlend:
Exactly this happened to me at your age, although I never visited a prost.titute.

I am not a medical doctor, but I will give you a solution that worked for me:

1. First, buy and take a Herbal Cleanser (Dr Iguedo Goko Cleanser or Goody Cleanser would do);

2. I am sure you will notice a difference within 24 hours.

Though prescription drugs, look for a good Aphrodi.siac an hour or so before the show, that is, if 1 (above) doesn't work.
But note that some of them are rubbish ooo!



Thanks man, was it Iguedo Goko cleanser you used? And during your time, did you usually have erections when you wake up ?
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by helinues: 8:56am On Mar 21, 2017
fpeter:



Noo, who him be?

lol... no need
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by dapsonlou(m): 12:04pm On Mar 21, 2017
helpforever:
Where is the office please?
lol ikeja , send me a private message
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by Libracinsales(m): 12:55pm On Mar 21, 2017
I read and have gone through your story here. I want you to believe that this is not a spiritual issue. ED cases can be psychological, it might still be as a result of some imbalances in hormone. I have heard many of similar stories from many people and customers too. I can help you come out of this with just this few effective solution, but you must read and go through it carefully.
You can Call me on 09060340534 Or WhatsApp 08134131009. So that i can proffer possible solutions to this health defect. Believe you will bounce back to normal soon and it will come to past.
You can equally follow the link to get more solution on this
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Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by tpapi: 9:46pm On Mar 24, 2017
CHARLOE:

Started with a lab test, moderate growth of staph was discovered, low sperm count, low testosterone level etc. Had to treat n work on these.
Then I noticed my erection improved, morning hard on was more regular but was still having problem when will a woman, my heart beat increases, panic set in n phew, my guy go shrink.
So my lab guy recommended a libido boosting drug, purely herbal (no side effects). It helped my confidence n that was it, fire down!
For those suggesting/using viagra, plz be careful, it has side effects n does not work naturally, that is, even if you're not with a woman, ur JT go stand @ attention, even after 1 round u may still have a hard on. U don't need a prophet to tell u its not healthy. Its meant for old men wit serious ED prob.
Also, plz cut off sugar totally: no sotfdrink/beer, no sugar in garri/tea. When d issue started reoccurring I later found out sugar was d cause, I was addicted to coke, replaced my addiction with water Mellon.
Bitters also help to detoxify n reduce sugar in d body
pm sent
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by klevotino: 7:24am On Mar 25, 2017
jomoh:


One question. what does your sperm look like when You masturbate? Thick and sticky or light and watery? It goes a long way in determining your issues.


You need to see herbal medicine specialists (Agbo sellers not sepe sellers). it seriously works. Explain you problem to them. you won't be the first to do so to them. They are used to hearing issues like that so don't be ashamed. I was once in this situation for almost 2months until I used herbal medicine. You also have to change your eating habit and seriously start whatching what goes into your mouth. Sugar is a very high causative agent.

You can also try peeling garlic to reveal the innermost soft part and swallow it with water one daily for two weeks. It will help to detoxify your system for any excess toxins that your body couldn't get rid of.

You need to act fast before it becomes permanent. I pray it doesn't. You can also call me here 09072025650 I'm not selling anything to you, I will only tell you things to do or how to know the sellers with real and working herbal mixture.
these garlic thin i go try am be that
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by klevotino: 7:26am On Mar 25, 2017
I think that the point
helpforever:
To be honest, you guys are the best and have given me hope.

90% of the people here have said I am not impotent and it due
to either:
- Psychological issues
- Masturbation
- Excess sugar
etc

Some have also said I should see a doctor and reprogram my mind.

I am just happy there is hope for me.

Because I will like to be a father in future.

Thanks guys

I will update you on my progress as I will address all points
thoroughly.
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by jomoh: 2:19pm On Mar 25, 2017
klevotino:
these garlic thin i go try am be that

Try it. after a week or two eat banana or water melon regularly. You will come back to thank me.
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by klevotino: 5:25pm On Mar 25, 2017
Alrite noted, shey it just to swallow the garlic with water first thing in the morning and how many a day. Thanks..
jomoh:


Try it. after a week or two eat banana or water melon regularly. You will come back to thank me.
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by klevotino: 5:29pm On Mar 25, 2017
Dose it work for watery sperm?
jomoh:


Try it. after a week or two eat banana or water melon regularly. You will come back to thank me.
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by Kayodemichael(m): 6:55pm On Mar 25, 2017
You have problems and you have the solution. 1 stop masturbation 2. Stop eating like glutton 3. Stop eating sugary things 4. Stop watching pornography 5. Look for a girl who loves you dearly. No need to visit doctor , no need to visit psychologist. Just do what I said. I am talking from experience. I now have three boys

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Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by Collins0609(m): 1:06am On Mar 26, 2017
I dont buy it here,oraifite in Anambra,d tree is everywhere,u wil store it till u dont have a reason to do so.sorry cos am disrupting d market
afbstrategies:

Bitter kola that is currently cheap in Nigeria. Now you are going to make it expensive. I am rushing to increase my reserve before the aboki start telling me they raised the price because of the exchange rate cheesy
Re: I Am Impotent & Frustrated by jomoh: 1:25am On Mar 26, 2017
klevotino:
Dose it work for watery sperm?


it depends on the cause of the watery sperm. if it is due to excess toxins in the body system, it will work cos it's work is to detoxify the system.


It is much advisable to use herbal medicine for watery sperm. Garlic, watermelon and banana is more useful for week erection. They're more like an aphrodisiac.

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