antidisestablis:

Well I'm not a poor dude, though I can say I'm rich either,but I'm very okay, I have a stable work, I'm a civil servant. My guy is not that she didn't reciprocate the love, she did, in fact most time she calls me more than I call her, we love each other and the relationship was going on smoothly before this time.
The only problem I think I made was I trusted and love her so much, what she did is the least thing I expect from her. So concerning the issue of sex is just a personal decision that is what is expected of me as christian.

Daviddson:
Hello, I'm still waiting for your message concerning the apps. Pls respond accordingly.

antidisestablis:

I have sent you a message.

sisisioge:


Cos its all written on the wall...I know loving eyes can't ever see. Pele.

antidisestablis:

You should be a prophetess, your prediction was very accurate.

ColonelDrake:

Here you have the reason. A girl you're not having sex with has no emotional attachment with you. A girl you haven't had sex with will hardly commit to a relationship because she believes she has nothing to lose. If I dated a lady without sex, then 1 Naira won't drop from my pocket either..

sisisioge:


Awwww...so sorry to hear. When one's heart has been entrusted to another, one has no choice than to keep begging him/her not to treat one badly. You may never be able to move past this though...Pele.

antidisestablis:

Yeah, is a very painful thing for someone you love to betray your love, anyway as we speak now I have taken a break from the courtship, if God's willing we may get back soon. Thanks madam.

antidisestablis:

Yeah, is a very painful thing for someone you love to betray your love, anyway as we speak now I have taken a break from the courtship, if God's willing we may get back soon. Thanks madam.

dangotesmummy:


Are you serious?

So guys get jealous too?

I thought there were MANY FISHES IN THE OCEAN

antidisestablis:

Yeah, is a very painful thing for someone you love to betray your love, anyway as we speak now I have taken a break from the courtship, if God's willing we may get back soon. Thanks madam.

star4ever:
Never assume a negative attitude or behavior will change when you get married to a partner.

From what you have written, she is cheating on you. Please quit the relationship and save yourself from dying early. An adulterous woman is dangerous. Forget love and open your eyes wide enough to see clearly.

It is better to have a failed courtship than to get hooked into a marriage filled with heartaches.

schumastic:


I won't say much but just few things. i can relate to this and i will say how mine ended.

she came back crying n became suicidal, i was scared Cus if anything goes wrong, i will be held responsible but i tell you, i wish i looked beyond the tears n deceit cus after i forgave her n gave her a second chance, she continued from where she stopped but this time around, with someone different.

all am saying is this
the same way the devil deceived eve, that' how her friends n male guys will continue to deceive her and the same way adam fell for Eve's gimmick is the same way you will fall, if you close your eyes to the words written on the wall.

WackyJ1:
I love the maturity that the OP has used to handle the situation.
Your way has been a great evangelism.

A lot of us have been in that situation before.
My last relationship was like this except that she confessed to me that she cheated a year later. And all that could come to my mind was how she smelt different when she came back from what she did the next day. It was 24 hours later and of course she had had her bath, but I guess that was the way the universe was telling me what was up.

I trust that you will know to keep your eyes peeled around her.
She might also be suffering from some spiritual manipulations. If you don't want to give up on her. Make sure that she gets more involved with Church activities and God. So that God will be in her...

antidisestablis:

Thanks very much, with all i went through i should have broken up with her immediately because it took me a lot of energies, time and so many other things before I could get evidence just to confront her. She was so subtle about the whole thing even if not for God I wouldn't know she is actually cheating on me.
Everybody deserves a second chance that's what I have done bro, just like Christ did for us. So I keep my eyes on her to see how things eventually turn out, though she is doing everything thing possible to make things return to normal. Just like what you said even if I will not marry her eventually I will try and help not to return to it.

antidisestablis:

Thanks very much, with all i went through i should have broken up with her immediately because it took me a lot of energies, time and so many other things before I could get evidence just to confront her. She was so subtle about the whole thing even if not for God I wouldn't know she is actually cheating on me.
Everybody deserves a second chance that's what I have done bro, just like Christ did for us. So I keep my eyes on her to see how things eventually turn out, though she is doing everything thing possible to make things return to normal. Just like what you said even if I will not marry her eventually I will try and help not to return to it.

toastedbread:


after catching from the sea, you put in your fishtank and never go to the sea again. Imagine someone trying to come fish out the only little fry in your tank.

antidisestablis:

This is not always true, you can still have a good relationship without sex, it depends on the people involved, sex is not love. So not having sex with her is not the major problem, I think she actually cheated because of her quest for materialism.
Sincerely we are very closed she calls several times a day and also we chat for hours, Seriously she is emotional attached to me . As we speak now we have taken a break from the courtship which I see is Seriously affecting her, also not having sex with her is a mutual agreement she want it done at the appropriate time. Thanks for your contribution.

bigcp:
this man....u never still learn ur lesson?. ..u de allow d girl to blackmail u emotionally...just as we told u earlier...no worry a cheater hardly change....she'll be very careful next time...afterall she knows ur MUMU BUTTON....u r just too soft....women will keep playing u until u r ready to grow some balls....
this is d red flag ppl are always talking abt...na d red flag u de ignore now so (i hope u don't regret it in d nearest future...i think she's likely 2 change after wedding) ...i believe d reason she delayed sex with her side bf...because she be virgin...like say she no be virgin she 4 don 4k d guy taya....body no be firewood....how would u be dating a girl without sex...2moro after wedding..wen u discovered she ain't dat innocent virgin u perceived her to be...(maybe her hole 2 wide n deep)..by den e go don late small...because ppl will start askin u if u married her 4 her virginity or for love....
be wise....SHE JUST BLACKMAILED U EMOTIONALLY...LIKE WE TOLD U EARLIER ON....and u ignorantly fell for it just as i projected...well, its ur life...no one can live it 4 u...
well i wish u all d best...

antidisestablis:
@ Transcends I have done that

antidisestablis:

Thanks very much for your contribution, Yes! I may be very gentle but not unwise, I don't want to be hasty in taking decision,i took her back not because she emotionally blackmailed me but because of so many things that I may not even to say now. It is very difficult for any lady I'm dating to cheat I have a weird sense, I'm very good in detecting things.
My fiancée was very subtle in doing her things, you can hardly know but God the revealer of truth revealed it. And concerning the issue of sex we both agreed not to do it and also i'm one of those guys out there who still against premarital sex. I have not taken the final decision about her, I keep watching her to see the outcome of the situation.
Thanks

antidisestablis:
Updates
Hi guys the trailing continues, my supposed fiancée and the guy have scheduled another meeting for tomorrow. The guy will be coming to my state and they have arranged for a particular place where they will meet. I'm just wondering why she is so deceitful, this is someone that still visited me today and everything seems normal. The most painful thing to me is the fact that courtship that has been going on smoothly for over 2 years without any hitches will just end like that due her wayward lifestyle.
I will confront her very soon with some of my irrevocable evidences and after that I will do the needful thing.
Once again I want to appreciate everyone for your wonderful contribution in this trying time, God bless u all .
Shalom.

antidisestablis:

Yeah, is a very painful thing for someone you love to betray your love, anyway as we speak now I have taken a break from the courtship, if God's willing we may get back soon. Thanks madam.