Curvinus:
Crap. If your not handsome and you don't have money to compensate, end of discussion. Confidence comes from experience of previous success, not some mysterious self delusion. Again personality means fart to men and women if you don't have the good genes to get you noticed in the first place. Would you date an ugly midget because she is confident or has a good personality?

Ziinno:
If he could make a woman laugh, the kind of person you'd want to talk to when you've had a bad day, can hold a conversation and his long term goals are really smart and feasible... I wouldn't consider him broke even if he is.

Personality counts a whole lot...well, to a woman like me.

BuddhaPalm:


Confidence is a default state...

We were all born with it.

Yes, ego based confidence comes from "previous success", but it's a weak type of confidence.

And once you're in the presence of those who have achieved more than you - of which there are many - your ego based confidence will evaporate.

You want your confidence to be based on self-esteem. Which is the stable, dependable kind.

For a man, looks don't mean much.

Despite your "looks", if you can walk up to the most beautiful girl you can find, completely relaxed, look her in the eye - without flinching - and embody what you feel. The effect you'll have on her will astound you.

Finally, personality really is everything. I will put my money on a guy who is resourceful, bold, good-natured, focused and driven than on a fool with money.

And trust me, so will many women who are looking for long-term mates.

Women get married every weekend, are they all getting married to billionaires?

Are all the girls with boyfriends also dating billionaires?

hordmax:
WELL . . .

TRUEEEEEE . . . BUT !!


Broke is BROKE, no matter how you choose to paraphrase or obscure it; because deep-down, he'd still know that he's Broke, and that's ugly. Could be depressing, even.

Now, without disputing these facts that "money doesn't make a man", money ain't really everything, well. . that's true; but then, money is still key —immaculate packaging, appealing courtesy, down-to-earth attributes, convivial sense of humor and affable mannerisms don't take on financial responsibilities, they don't pay the bills; hence, a man needs to make money.

I mean, how prevaricate can any broke guy act in any "love relationship". . for how long can be evasive? —Of course, someone has to expend money as there would be expenses, no matter how inexpensive; that essence of financial capability must at least be perceived otherwise, the love would just burn-out or wither away in no time, after much of the fondness and physical attractions have phased out.

All I'm saying is, "financial security" is still a cornerstone in any whatever relationship(s) and should/must NOT be neglected —Let the broke ones strive and hustle to make money as they self-develop themselves, simultaneously.


"I just wanna stay broke forever", that's that shii no one ever said — Gerald E. Gillum.

. . thanks.

JeffreyJamez:
Lol if any guy has the qualities you mentioned there and is still "broke" in every sense of the word, then even his village people will be wondering where his problem is coming from.

gabazin080:
i didnt read that long epistle. but what i know is that broke guys shouldnt date.

make money first and see girls running after u

SmartyPants:


You make a good point but as much as i'm tempted to agree with you to an extent, the fact is that rich guys get more girls than broke guys. There is a definite pattern here. For this to be true (which it is), then it means there is something that rich guys have in common that makes them more attractive, and there is something that broke guys have in common that makes them less attractive. The obvious: money--or the lack thereof.

Girls would be the first to own up to this. No girl would say i want to be with a broke guy.

Now you could argue that broke guys don't get girls because they lack some other qualities and i would say that since wealth does not come in the DNA, there cannot be any characteristics that automatically separate the personality of rich guys from that of broke guys. I'm saying broke guys and rich guys are likely to have the same spread of personality traits. Some will be funny, some would be boring, some will be confident, some will be timid, some will be intelligent, some will be idiots.

I put it to you that there are three primal factors that drive all women:

1. Luxury
2. Sex/lust
3. Notoriety

Women are attracted to men who possess one or all of these traits. But when you look at the true average Joe on the streets, he really does not possess any "sex/lust" or notoriety by nature. How many guys do you see out of the thousands who cross your path on a daily basis, who you feel powerfully attracted to? At most 2 on a good day, and 1 a week every other day.

How many guys have that aura of notoriety or power that women love? statistically, leaders and lone-wolf bad boys are outliers.

This means that the average guy really is not notable in his natural state. So let us exclude those outliers--the anomalies--who are broke but have an aura of notoriety or power, or are exceptionally good looking. Let us look solely at the average broke man, and the average rich man who both lack exceptional sex appeal or notoriety/power factor.

Within this scope, we have already established that is might be a statistical fallacy to say that all broke guys have a different personality from rich guys since personality is innate and wealth is not. Take for example most comedians who started out dirt poor (as a matter of fact i hold the opinion that these comedians are funnier when they are still poor). So we take a broke funny guy and a rich funny guy and offer him to 10 girls. 10 out of 10 will choose the rich one, and that is why we say girls like rich guys.

Even where you differentiate between the average broke guy and the average rich guy, by other factors such as intelligence or kindness etc, most girls of nowadays at best would say okay i will be with you for now because i think you might be able to give me the luxury i want at some point but if you don't show any signs of making it within such and and such period of time and i get a better offer, i'm off.

At the end of the day it boils down to money. Even when women say they want a man with vision, it is not as though having a vision itself is attractive to them, rather it is the understanding that having a vision means the guy might make it in life that appeals to them. Thus the driving factor is still money.

Evaberry:
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A broke man is a broke man
leave all this nonsense alone
The worst disease in this life is poverty and I pity the soul of anyman that's broke

in my opinion broke men should be castrated or thrown to the dogs

bluejean:
Lwkmd. Dude u r wicked

gabazin080:
i didnt read that long epistle. but what i know is that broke guys shouldnt date.

make money first and see girls running after your money

Evaberry:
..

A broke man is a broke man
leave all this nonsense alone
The worst disease in this life is poverty and I pity the soul of anyman that's broke

in my opinion broke men should be castrated or thrown to the dogs

emmauc:
My brother it's really a good read but then financial security is a major key. Do you have an idea of the kind of confidence that comes with having money Try being broke bro even your parents attitude towards you wl change in no time

pocohantas:
I have to agree with you on this.

I noticed the so called broke guys do lots of emotional blackmail. Once you reject them, they feel it's because of their financial state.

I know broke guys that are dating very good-looking girls just by their sense of humour...lots of our Nigerian comedians are perfect examples. Back then in school, there were guys that had girls flocking around them because they were intelligent.

All this money talk is just consolation for guys who have no wow factor. I am not surprised though, the average Nigerian man only knows how to use money to get a woman, later they will wonder why the woman cheated with a broke guy. They will end up saying women are confused, instead of facing the reality...it goes beyond money for lots of women.

Yes, financial security is important, but what if it's no more there tomorrow. You mean there is nothing else you can offer your woman or be remembered for?

Evaberry:
..

A broke man is a broke man
leave all this nonsense alone
The worst disease in this life is poverty and I pity the soul of anyman that's broke

in my opinion broke men should be castrated or thrown to the dogs

Partnerbiz3:
Bunch of baloney and codswallop. Since attaining majority I have stopped reading motivational talks and have embraced reality. It's only a motivational speakers that will encourage a blind man to become a taxi driver by telling him that he has no lmitations.


You are talking about confidence, nothing gives a man confidence like money. Confidence doesn't come from nothing. It must come from something, it could be intelligence, talents etc. But money is the most important.


You said girls were falling in love with you as a broke ass nigga. I wouldn't doubt it because girls have levels.


Again, there is nothing like love. Life is parasitic and capitalistic. Everybody is looking for what he or she will gain.
That's why you easily" love "a beautiful girl. The same principle makes it easier to love a rich dude.

If love were there, why are the handicapped not loved easily.?
What prevents a rich dude from marrying a handicapped ugly girl?

Or what prevents a beautiful woman from opting for a broke ass ugly man.

It's all business. It's all about what each party will gain. It's just a contract and nothing more.

A man wants a woman he can flaunt and brag about. A woman wants same and it's better if he has money too. With that she can drive cool cars and brag in their meeting with other women.


I repeat it's all business. Are you saying that as beautiful as Iara Oshiomhole is, and as a flight attendant that there was no guy with six packs toasting her?
Why did she settle for Oshiomhole? Is it love? Not at all.
It's business. She has seen what she will gain from an ugly governor that a handsome broke dude will not offer her.

DarkRebel69:


Napoleon Bonarparte once said that no plan survives the first shot in the battlefield. Ladies can croon the “I wouldn't mind if he's broke” jingle all they want. One thing is almost as certain as death itself: when the rosy ideals have been steamrolled by the austere blades of reality, majority of these self-same girls/women would act in bold contrast to what they'd earlier professed.

Even in economic recessions, one thing still always manages to remain dirt cheap, and that is “talk”.

HIPROFILE:


Bro all I wrote up there is also born outta personal experience. I used to feel so devastated that the day I stumbled on one JOE BADASS song DEVASTATED, I made it my best track on continual replay..

My case is that I used to have money..I mean I was balling but something happened along the line.and this particular situation is the worst of it bros as junior dudes who used to call me boss when the going was rosy now resort to insulting me sarcastically and my guys would rub it to my face through their attitudes reminding me that em a broke ass... I broke into tears the day a lady...... infact forget it. It was at this point I clearly understood the meaning of frustration and depression. bro jast keep pushing dant ever give up...insha Allah you/we will make it. I am a testimony today and I bless God for allowing me pass through all cos it made me wiser and stronger.

chronique:
I also understand your point but there's a certain kind of confidence money gives, and it is a little bit different from the normal confidence a guy should have.

Evaberry:
..

A broke man is a broke man
leave all this nonsense alone
The worst disease in this life is poverty and I pity the soul of anyman that's broke

in my opinion broke men should be castrated or thrown to the dogs

majorbravo:
OP women are primodially Hypergamous in nature. See my thread: https://www.nairaland.com/3110907/hypergamy-briffaults-law-women-primodially

Now about this topic, you gotta focus on two things:
1. Women love to be entertained. (The person who designed Barbie fantasy world for girls probably saw this too)
2. Women don't care how you are able to provide entertainment, they just want to be entertained. (Call it living in a fantasy world)

You may feel you have all the girls at your beck and call even though you are broke, but first off, you have to realise what being broke truly means. Being temporary out of funds isn't the same thing as broke. Let's say Andy gets paid every month but at some point he used up all his money to change his wardrobe. Andy would get more attention from women than Barry who wears one shirt everyday cos he is saving his money for a house and perhaps a comfortable vacation for his future family when he gets married.

But the Irony is, women would find Andy more desirable even though he is broke, because he externally appears to have his life on check while Barry doesn't seem to. But when it comes to marriage, women would pick Barry over Andy any day. The only issue women have is that most of them are not proactive enough to investigate the men they get married to.

Most women associate wealth with what men show them not what the men really have. That's why the divorce rate these days seem widespread, because in marriage they get to find out that the 'hushpuppi doppel ganger' husband they married used all his cash to impress girls with a fancy wardrobe designed by gucci and versace, but really he has a bank account reading in negative and can't even afford every day family needs.

Buchi95:
Broke Nigerian men keep complaining that women reject them because of their lack of financial ability. This self pitying consoling thought line is always sold by these men to compensate their poor ego, but that's not usually the case. It's not always because of being broke. Sometimes, maybe, most times.

Now, here's the reality.
We always assume that every women rejects a man because he's just broke.
This makes us ignore the possibilities of other inadequacy that could be a deal breaker in men.

Money is not all. In fact, it's a myth that women are after money. A lot of broke dudes still fall in love and get married.
So?

There's something these rejections are about that is far from money.

Cool, you don't have money.

How about your confidence?
Your self esteem?
Do you exude low self esteem and talk out of pity?
How intelligent and engaging are you?
Can you make intelligent conversations and brainstorm with a woman?
Do you have a vision?
A feasible and promising vision you're relentlessly pursuing?
How's your sense of humour like?
How's your sense of dressing?
We know you have cheap few clothes as a broke dude, but how do you use and combine the ones you have?
How romantic are you?
How clean are you?
What are your values like?

A lot of broke young men are nil when it comes to these aforementioned questions, so when they hit rejection from a female, they rant, they cry, ‘Its because I am broke..’
‘Women love money .’

No bro.
You're your problem.
You lack money.
What else do you have.
Or is money now the essence of your person?

See, I keep saying it, Money doesn't make a man. Most times it's low self esteemed men that flaunt money to attract women; they use money to cover up their inadequacies.
Take away money from them, nothing is left.

Poor souls.

Y'all broke guys should go back and build yourself, nah, I don't mean financially.
Go check your confidence, intelligence, humor, resourcefulness, maturity, focus, etc.

Go check all of these.
Many times you're rejected for something far from your broke state.

Ain't meaning to brag sha..
But pre-rich me, women be falling in love with me anyhow. Lol.
I don't have money, so I keep wondering when they say women love money. It's not always about it.

Yea, women love money but it's not the way we make it be.

Broke dude, go fix yourself.
Aside financial inadequacy, there might be lots of inadequacies you have. ��

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Solomon Buchi Bartholomew
Life Coach/Motivational Speaker

Evaberry:
..

A broke man is a broke man
leave all this nonsense alone
The worst disease in this life is poverty and I pity the soul of anyman that's broke

in my opinion broke men should be castrated or thrown to the dogs

Evaberry:
..

A broke man is a broke man
leave all this nonsense alone
The worst disease in this life is poverty and I pity the soul of anyman that's broke

in my opinion broke men should be castrated or thrown to the dogs