delishpot:


If that is how you pick your babes then I am sure you only pick up girls who are after your pocket. They kiss you just to get Tfare out of you. So she should kiss him to prove love? And who told you people just love like that? Does she know him well enough to kiss him?
Abeg what are Nigerian parents doing? Who is training their sons concerning sex education?. No wonder most if you guys end up with use and dump girls.

the sons are not meant to be taught in Nigeria, they are not meant to be brought up and taught etiquettes and manners o, its the female child that needs to be trained and tamed,so our forefathers said

OP don't ever try to beg her else she will start using those feelings of urs to manipulate you..
i will strongly advice you to go thru this thread from A-Z https://www.nairaland.com/2893475 before u have anythin to do with her again..ther is no harm in givin it a shot..thank me later

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op,i will say the babe likes you to come visiting in the first place.
2,you probably might have pissed her off with that move but she still going to like you for not forcing it on her
3,i will advice you to be her friend,get promoted to bestie..the best way to have a "real" relationship with any serious lady is to be her riend so u can know her well
4...If truly u love her,she gave u that opportunity u need to date her in the near future with that friend zone
N.B only "chop n Run" guy will reject the offer of been a friend with a lady she like

RadicallyBlunt:
The seriousness of your write up sef makes me think its one terrible something. Its nothing new na. Guy will like girl but girl wont yield cheaply..that's just d case here.

She enjoys ur company, but making sexual move on her first invitation would definitely piss her off. This one even gentle. Some go come after you don carry them go eatery, dem go still come ur house come drink juice, watch tv and feel at home yet if you make d normal guyish move, na slap upon insult you go collect...some are that rude
Just like the poster above me said..not to give yourself headaches. Ive resolved to make brothels my regular companion till marriage..its not a matter of irresponsibility at all. Thats one of the places you can find sex with rest of mind.

This sex thing is not enthusiastic for girls like it is for guys and when they eventually have it with you, the lovely calm good girl you know becomes a monster demanding worship and you may never really enjoy her anymore. The wahala is so unworth it abeg. There are call girls everywhere willing to do all styles with you at ease so long you have a little change.

You're not under obligation to follow my footsteps o but it will save you headaches such as this.

i almost liked ur comment till i saw d brothel part

Just keep trying. She would accept.

friends ruined my relationship with with a very good girl I once had, ever since then I don't take relationship advice from them except if necessary. you should learn from that.

I wouldn't blame you for making an attempt to kiss the girl, but making the attempt more than twice is not cool. I would have made an attempt once if I were you & that is to register it in her mind that I'm not lobbying for the friend zone.

don't beat yourself up over that, if you're cool as you claim, you can talk your way back coupled with good actions

Nawa for girls oh, if you don't make a move, they see you as a lily livered man. Then you make a move, they see you as being all about sex. Girls are really really stupid. I'd better chose to be seen as being all about sex than coming across as lily livered

U turn is always allowed .

Listen up OP! I was once in your shoe with a charming, calm and lovely lady some years back as I tried all I could to get her to be mine but eventually she told me she can't date me. I asked severally questions ranging from financial to moral aspect and she said there is nothing wrong with me.

I later realised it's waste of time getting her to love me. You can't force love to happen so let her be.

Move on with your life bro

Next time try to be either patient if she is the type or forward to discuss before assuming and acting to seem weak.
I can tell you feel she should want same thing,no dear maybe she sees it differently which is OK as she is entitled to it.
She doesn't have to love you back dear,wait if you can and prove you love her or if you think you want someone to kickoff from start who is surefooted to trust your intentions to be free without restrictions,move on then and find someone else. its a relationship and both parties view must be respected not one above the other.
Try to get her to sit down and talk though.Matured people discus issues and communicate decisions not by text!
Learn to breath after a rejection,breath!
No matter how it ends keep the friendship,guess that what mattered first
Wish you luck in matters of the heart

delishpot:
How can you just kiss a woman like that? Too many movies have spoilt you. She clearly resisted the first time. why keep pushing? That is quite disgusting in my opinion.What next? It is not a gentlemanly attitude it shows desperation and lack of self control on your part. Her next visit now she would think you would try to squeeze her ní.pples and remove her pants? And if she resists you will keep trying every 5 mins interval? Young men lack sexual discipline these days sha. Change that attitude. If you want a good girl don't "bẹ"

That's beta mindset bruv, thinking that a girl will not and cannot f$$ck you same day is delusional. There are several videos on same day lay on the internet you can search for yourself. If a girl sees you as a provider then she starts to play mind games with you and push sex forward, whereas same girl when leaving your place may smash a total stranger on her way home.

OP don't sweat it, next time never do more than 3 attempts to kiss a girl on the first date, it's either she is not really into you or your game was not tight or other hidden factors you may not be able to wrap your head around.

No time to keep complaining about this, approach more ladies and please never in your life think any woman is the most beautiful you've ever met, that's secondary school mind set, now you need to grow up.

Invite her for a second date and if she declines, delete her number and move on. My experience has taught me that nobody is special and indispensable no matter how wonderful they are.

DaPuncline:
The truth is i have been a little bit down and unable to get a sound sleep since yesterday night.

I met this cool lady like a month ago, what really got me attracted to her was her beauty, calmness, and her carriage. We started talking and i asked her out the following week: she just kept smiling and that was all her response, so since then, she do branch at my laboratory where i do my research work whenever she's done with her lectures. We do have great time gisting and all she's fun to be with it and all my friends like her.


Two weeks after, i invited her to my place and she agreed, though she couldn't meet up the first day she promised to come due to her reading schedule, but she later came the following day even though i thought she might not come that day because rain fell heavily around the time she promised to show up, though the rain later stopped but was still drizzling. I was so happy when her call came in and went to pick her up, i welcomed her to my place warmly and we started talking, she was seated on the chair and i sat on the table facing her, we had a great talking time and we laughed over many things.

As a normal guy i tried to make a "harmless" move to kiss her but she ignored by turning her face sideway with a warm smile, i also played along and told her to feel free. We gisted for a while and i made another attempt but encountered same fate, she later told me she'd soon be leaving because it was late already and rain was already drizzling, i was already lying on my bed and she was still sitting, so i stood up and made the last move which she also ignore with her warm smile. So i escorted her home and when I got back home, she sent a thank you text on my watsapp and we started chatting. I later told her how i find it difficult to read her mind due to her smile and calmness: her response was unexpected, she told me she doesn't know how to say it, that she only want us to be friends with nothing attached, i was so shocked and confused, she said she would advise me to look for someone else, i felt so bad and agitated. I really love her so much, i just don't know what to do to get her back. I asked her whether i've done anything wrong and she said NO. Please i need your help house. I don't Want to lose her at all.

LOL! LMAO!!

OK. On a serious note now. I can tell the girl really likes you but you don't know how to play your cards well.
Pm me. I'd show you something (at No cost) that will not only help you get her easily but change your entire mindset about dating and relationships.

olaboy1:


That's beta mindset bruv, thinking that a girl will not and cannot f$$ck you same day is delusional. There are several videos on same day lay on the internet you can search for yourself. If a girl sees you as a provider then she starts to play mind games with you and push sex forward, whereas same girl when leaving your place may smash a total stranger on her way home.

OP don't sweat it, next time never do more than 3 attempts to kiss a girl on the first date, it's either she is not really into you or your game was not tight or other hidden factors you may not be able to wrap your head around.

No time to keep complaining about this, approach more ladies and please never in your life think any woman is the most beautiful you've ever met, that's secondary school mind set, now you need to grow up.

Invite her for a second date and if she declines, delete her number and move on. My experience has taught me that nobody is special and indispensable no matter how wonderful they are.

Reminds me of Beyonce's Irreplaceable song.

Uhmm you remind me of how started with my bae, patient is the key and be kind to her shey its just friends,
Today i become the most important person in her after 2 months of ordinary friendship, sometimes they actually when be sure if they can trust you, once the green light is active guy the road is all your yours all you to do is play your love in tokyo in grand style tifex thanks for making me a better person. And advise for all the guys not all lady dey do first visit service .patience is the key to the dream land

Apologize and move on. You can keep in touch sha. She might just come around. Don't be desperate, it's unbecoming

delishpot:
How can you just kiss a woman like that? Too many movies have spoilt you. She clearly resisted the first time. why keep pushing? That is quite disgusting in my opinion.What next? It is not a gentlemanly attitude it shows desperation and lack of self control on your part. Her next visit now she would think you would try to squeeze her ní.pples and remove her pants? And if she resists you will keep trying every 5 mins interval? Young men lack sexual discipline these days sha. Change that attitude. If you want a good girl don't "bẹ"

I'm glad this is coming from a guy. 100 likes for this.

I don't see anything wrong with him trying to kiss her the very first day she visited him sha.
She's just not attracted to him romantically.
Oga, don't make it hard for yourself ehn, just find another girl like she advised you... Because I think she had already made up her mind to friendzone you.

If you like make you listen to all those panya wey dey tell you to apologise, yuyeh?
Mtcheeew!!!
What matters is how both of you have been relating. You can kiss any girl on the first day she visits if you play it well.
Forget those yeye "no kiss for first visit" rubbish jare.

DaPuncline:
The truth is i have been a little bit down and unable to get a sound sleep since yesterday night.

I met this cool lady like a month ago, what really got me attracted to her was her beauty, calmness, and her carriage. We started talking and i asked her out the following week: she just kept smiling and that was all her response, so since then, she do branch at my laboratory where i do my research work whenever she's done with her lectures. We do have great time gisting and all she's fun to be with it and all my friends like her.


Two weeks after, i invited her to my place and she agreed, though she couldn't meet up the first day she promised to come due to her reading schedule, but she later came the following day even though i thought she might not come that day because rain fell heavily around the time she promised to show up, though the rain later stopped but was still drizzling. I was so happy when her call came in and went to pick her up, i welcomed her to my place warmly and we started talking, she was seated on the chair and i sat on the table facing her, we had a great talking time and we laughed over many things.

As a normal guy i tried to make a "harmless" move to kiss her but she ignored by turning her face sideway with a warm smile, i also played along and told her to feel free. We gisted for a while and i made another attempt but encountered same fate, she later told me she'd soon be leaving because it was late already and rain was already drizzling, i was already lying on my bed and she was still sitting, so i stood up and made the last move which she also ignore with her warm smile. So i escorted her home and when I got back home, she sent a thank you text on my watsapp and we started chatting. I later told her how i find it difficult to read her mind due to her smile and calmness: her response was unexpected, she told me she doesn't know how to say it, that she only want us to be friends with nothing attached, i was so shocked and confused, she said she would advise me to look for someone else, i felt so bad and agitated. I really love her so much, i just don't know what to do to get her back. I asked her whether i've done anything wrong and she said NO. Please i need your help house. I don't Want to lose her at all.

your just very foolish that's just it you dont need help now this is how to help your foolishnes the bible told us to consider ant ways and be wise

the first visit to your house you kissed first time she ignored you still tried it up to the third time had it been she allow you for kolombi her that day is that how they do to your sister?

Mugabe was not wrong when he said some people reason with their anus

Just as delishpot said, call her and let her know that really sorry about what happened. You know, she wouldn't want to tell if you offended her or not, but you telling you're wrong will make her believe what you feel for her is beyond sex. And tell her you want her in your life that is to be more than friends. My opinion!

DaPuncline:

I know i goffed anyway but i never knew she would feel bad, i could not control myself.

Much respect! you no goof joor. Na normal thing. I think you should give her space for about 3 weeks. No call, no texts, nothing. Just study the situation after then.

DaPuncline:

I know i goffed anyway but i never knew she would feel bad, i could not control myself.

Stop beating yourself up. There's absolutely nothing wrong with kissing a girl you have known for 1month. Haba you guys have been gisting and getting familiar with each other so whats the big deal. She didn't say that because you wanted to kiss her, to me she has a boy friend somewhere which made her not to say yes initially. Do not apologize to her, just continue to be a nice guy. Take her for lunch sometimes and always shower her with gifts.

Never feel bad cus u made sexual moves on a girl on first date...
Never apologize....
Hiding ur sexual feelings fr a girl on first date predisposes u to the dreaded fz

Op, go to where u are celebrated rather than where u are tolerated!

delishpot:
How can you just kiss a woman like that? Too many movies have spoilt you. She clearly resisted the first time. why keep pushing? That is quite disgusting in my opinion.What next? It is not a gentlemanly attitude it shows desperation and lack of self control on your part. Her next visit now she would think you would try to squeeze her ní.pples and remove her pants? And if she resists you will keep trying every 5 mins interval? Young men lack sexual discipline these days sha. Change that attitude. If you want a good girl don't "bẹ"

Lol. Women are extremely confusing set of people. I once had a chic I was trying date and I invited her over. She managed to come to my place when her dad sent her on errand at night. I didn't want to sell an image of a sex starved dude to her, and I just stayed calm and chatted with her. The visit was short but when she was going, she made a statement about me uping my game if I wanted her to come around again... I could tell what it was.

I had a date with a different chic not too long ago. Prior to the date, we had talked about a lot of things and I decided I was going to be calm and laid back. I went home with her and the driver dropped her at her gate. I didn't want to go inside her apartment with her cos I would have been tempted to make a move. So, I waved her goodbye at the gate. Few days later, she said God had spoken to her that I wasn't the one for her. I took it in good faith. I later started seeing subs like "better to be single and be in love with God, than being in love with a church boy", on her timeline, with some other subs. Also heard her discuss and say some other dirty(sexual) things with a group of people... I started wondering, considering how she'd been selling an image that is close to being a Christian sister and all.

Honestly, there is no rule book that would make a man understand every woman. What works for some, wouldn't work for others.


@ op: free yourself. If she says no, free her and move on. Nothing is so special about any woman. It's just the way I have come to know them as. Don't let anyone turning you down, get you worked up.

imustsaymymindo:


Much respect! you no goof joor. Na normal thing. I think you should give her space for about 3 weeks. No call, no texts, nothing. Just study the situation after then.

Correct the guy no goof, if this babe fall for my bros hand working with Chevron, all this story of forbidden first time kiss no go come up.

Women would only kiss and f$$ck a guy on the first date if their perceived looks/money/status of the guy is not in doubt at the moment of the date.

Which kain you were wrongly adviced, you sef think am. If it were to be your sister will you not tell her to leave a guy that wants to f*ck her on first visit, barely one week of meeting her.

Assuming she gree give you kpekus after one week you will later start wondering whether she is a cheap girl that used to give every guy easy kpekus.

DaPuncline:

I love her but what is paining me is that my conscience is not allowing me to rest, I'm not a bad boy but she would now be thinking I'm one of those bad boys, I'm thinking of apologizing to her on Monday. How about that ?

Attempted kiss is not a crime bro. The problem here is the love you have for her is unhealthy and you need to be patient and not in a rush. Try to be unavailable till you can love her from a distance. Only then can you accept the friendzone. If you accept the friends thingy now, it wont work well and it might not lead to what you want.

delishpot:
How can you just kiss a woman like that? Too many movies have spoilt you. She clearly resisted the first time. why keep pushing? That is quite disgusting in my opinion.What next? It is not a gentlemanly attitude it shows desperation and lack of self control on your part. Her next visit now she would think you would try to squeeze her ní.pples and remove her pants? And if she resists you will keep trying every 5 mins interval? Young men lack sexual discipline these days sha. Change that attitude. If you want a good girl don't "bẹ"

This is what we've been trying to inculcate into guys!
Be different. But no, the op just playing along with d general script n affirmed nothing but the fact that he is a fvckboy.

Learn to relax n enjoy life how can thatt b possible when the tiny thin inbtw d legs Rules their lives.

Crudely predictable, anoyingly unwitty n sexually unnerving


Must you fvck on da first day? Fvck that u wud be fvcking n wud soon get tired of n start searching for anoda to luv/fvck? Morafvcka!

Women have individual difference. Some will pretend to be angry with you but they are not. She may tell you that so you will not see her as a cheap girl or because of her encounter in her previous relationship. If you want to prove what i just said now go and date her girl friend since she asked you to look for another girl. On the other hand, some ladies that asked for ordinary friendship without any attachment. if your a cool guy definitely the girl is yours. The way care for her will make her running to you. She will be the one that will later start asking you if your not a man. so you don't feel her presence. My advice is to first study the type of person you hooked up with and know the approach to use on her. THE GIRL IS YOURS, PLAY YOUR CARD WELLA for the fact she accepted to come your house.

Friendzone on a whole new level