Ikebesupa:
Please I want to know if it's right for a married woman to keep asking for money from her Ex.. I'm having this experience now and don't know if I should stop or keep doing it...

staying out of range is the best armour of defence

Ikebesupa:
.. Just giving her the money on a free mind.. At times thou she still make advances as if she's not even married

Dey fvck her, bro.

bettercreature:
Don't mind them they actually believe a married lady should not talk to any man or ask for help.What you are doing are very normal.Help the needy
There was a time i got husband of my ex arrested simply because he beats her and sent her out at the middle of the night

E no arrange boys for you?

-Lord

DeadRat:
There are certain things guys do here i do not find funny... A girl askes u out and u come out to tell the world (girls dont do that) dont be foolish, you are not the only guy who girls ask out... U have sex with women u come to tell us, are u that low; real men dont do tha shiit... Now this one comes here talkin shit abt ex, if u want to help her then do and dont come here askin us stupid questions, are u not a man? Why are most guys here too childish... Its sunday, go to church abeg...

shey oro ni e??

emmayayodeji:
exporting you to where?

Mumu Island

No man will be comfortable with the wife collecting money from her ex for whatsoever reasons. If her family is in lack, and you felt you can assist her as a father Christmas � without any string attached, ask to meet the husband , render the assistance once and move on.

If you don't take a stand, she will soon seduce you after she might warmed your sheet again, you will find it difficult to get loose from her grips .

adriftonmemories:


It's even worse if the husband is aware... You become a prime suspect

Shey?!

because any money issue they have that leads to an argument may lead to accusations. And then there's the Baader-Meinhof phenomenon where he starts noticing things he previously thought were innocuous now seeming as though they are telling signs of sth being up.

Ex mata 4 9ja na risky canoe to paddle.

-Lord

DeadRat:
There are certain things guys do here i do not find funny... A girl askes u out and u come out to tell the world (girls dont do that) dont be foolish, you are not the only guy who girls ask out... U have sex with women u come to tell us, are u that low; real men dont do tha shiit... Now this one comes here talkin shit abt ex, if u want to help her then do and dont come here askin us stupid questions, are u not a man? Why are most guys here too childish... Its sunday, go to church abeg...

It's obvious that you're very senseless.... nairaland is a forum not your personal website pls

DeadRat:
There are certain things guys do here i do not find funny... A girl askes u out and u come out to tell the world (girls dont do that) dont be foolish, you are not the only guy who girls ask out... U have sex with women u come to tell us, are u that low; real men dont do tha shiit... Now this one comes here talkin shit abt ex, if u want to help her then do and dont come here askin us stupid questions, are u not a man? Why are most guys here too childish... Its sunday, go to church abeg...

Guy!! abeg come chop my food for the next three days... Your brain package well.

DeadRat:
There are certain things guys do here i do not find funny... A girl askes u out and u come out to tell the world (girls dont do that) dont be foolish, you are not the only guy who girls ask out... U have sex with women u come to tell us, are u that low; real men dont do tha shiit... Now this one comes here talkin shit abt ex, if u want to help her then do and dont come here askin us stupid questions, are u not a man? Why are most guys here too childish... Its sunday, go to church abeg...

I guess you think the internet belongs to christains abi?ekpa

It depends on her tribe, if he is Yoruba its OK, na their way.

momove4real25:
This is what happens when you heard of ppl settling dwn n u rush urslf into unwanted marriage. If you can't support ur family financially as a woman when ur husbnd is dwn why will u settle down. If ur man is irresponsible why will u marry him. I hate hearing this kind of thing wen a married woman deliberately seek fr dick BKS once u demand from ex he will also ask fr sth in return. Secretary to devil is d woman

Things can go sideways real fast. Losing your job, not being paid salaries for months, business failing, shop burning down.

No matter how prepared you are before marriage, a financial upset can happen.

And although I subscribe to the school of thought that getting as prepared as possible before marriage is ideal, I wouldn't really peg it as a rule. If two ppl think they can support each other and improve their finances and well-being when they get married, they should go for it. And use their brain, not borrowing to spend lavishly on a wedding and then having five kids within 7 years while living in a rooming house (bed-sitter).

-Lord

Melian:


Pls. No offense intended.

I'm not surprised you don't believe me, but rather than go to man for help I go to God instead because the last time I did several years ago when I was in dire need it yielding no fruit rather it turned into something else, I have few friends I tell my issues to and if they are in the capacity to help they do so without me having to ask them anything and this seldomly happens.

Ikebesupa:
.. Just giving her the money on a free mind.. At times thou she still make advances as if she's not even married

hmmm bros... devil don dey play music for you ooo. Just be careful

Ikebesupa:
.. I suppose she is exporting me

Exporting you to where?

highchief1:
small pikin dey worry u which court will indict u cos u helped someone.i help my exes my wife know I'm good at helping ppl

Lol..Baba alanu

Welcome...dem dey call am gratuity for service well rendered...e no get limit.@GALADIMA77.U ARE KILLING ME WITH LAUGH.SO NA THE NAME BE THAT?#GRATUITY.

boostdom:
Give her if you have but there is the possibility of your benevolence snowballing into something unintended. When she asks consistently and you give, you support a dependence behaviour in her that makes her indebted to you. The problem this creates is that it makes her less inhibitive to you, which is compounded by the pleasant memories both of you might have shared. This is the psychic fuel that will ignite the passion.

I know how that story goes, bruh. She will be tossing her vows out the window with the quickness.

you said it all. I just don't know how to say no.. Not only her but people that needs my help as well

WowSweetGuy:
they will ask me to buy holy water...dont have money to buy that now.

You can use the money for data to buy it. After all is your life

muller101:
the op just made this up.

No he doesn't it's happens alot

olasaad:


You can use the money for data to buy it. After all is your life

like d holy water will work...y cant they give it fr free

crazygod:

Exporting as in international trade? or u meant extorting

.. Typographical error.. Thanks thou for pointing that out

osogwu:
Welcome...dem dey call am gratuity for service well rendered...e no get limit.@GALADIMA77.U ARE KILLING ME WITH LAUGH.SO NA THE NAME BE THAT?#GRATUITY.

Yes na.... the OP is just being naive...

DeadRat:
There are certain things guys do here i do not find funny... A girl askes u out and u come out to tell the world (girls dont do that) dont be foolish, you are not the only guy who girls ask out... U have sex with women u come to tell us, are u that low; real men dont do tha shiit... Now this one comes here talkin shit abt ex, if u want to help her then do and dont come here askin us stupid questions, are u not a man? Why are most guys here too childish... Its sunday, go to church abeg...

God bless u real big.....

DeadRat:
There are certain things guys do here i do not find funny... A girl askes u out and u come out to tell the world (girls dont do that) dont be foolish, you are not the only guy who girls ask out... U have sex with women u come to tell us, are u that low; real men dont do tha shiit... Now this one comes here talkin shit abt ex, if u want to help her then do and dont come here askin us stupid questions, are u not a man? Why are most guys here too childish... Its sunday, go to church abeg...

U know we have too many baby boys calling themselves men in this forum and everywhere now bro.... May be she had even done something worth more than the money she’s asking for fro him and she didn’t even come to this forum or anywhere else to spills the bean... all this babyboyz

WowSweetGuy:
like d holy water will work...y cant they give it fr free

Abi ooo. You alone know your problem and what you want God to do for you so wake up in the middle of the night and call Him I am sure with time He will answer your prayers.

And if you believe in holy water, well you can do it yourself. Just take the portion of water you need and read the bible verse related to your problem and pray on it. Then use it for whatever you want.

DeadRat:
God didnt stop giving you life even after all ur shiit life, he didnt stop helpin you... if u want to stop then stop, if u want to continue then continue. Its ur choice

I love this

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Ikebesupa:
.. Just giving her the money on a free mind.. At times thou she still make advances as if she's not even married

bror just run 4 ur life... Watin u neva chop dere wey u wan still dey fall 4 advances 4rm married woman... I pity u wen d hobby catch una u go talk watin u no do dat dey. All d gud wey u tink say u dey do dey borrow her money go turn 2 bad dt day. Beta wash ur hand commot. My papa dem go say 'a word is enough 4 d wise'

If you are sincerely sincere about your story, you had better stop and run for your dear life before she pulls deadly lies against you. Have you ever thought of the dimension of hynotizing you to sleep with her which will create problem for you in the very near future.

olasaad:


Abi ooo. You alone know your problem and what you want God to do for you so wake up in the middle of the night and call Him I am sure with time He will answer your prayers.

And if you believe in holy water, well you can do it yourself. Just take the portion of water you need and read the bible verse related to your problem and pray on it. Then use it for whatever you want.

my sister i appreciate ur advise but sometimes it seems like God just watch man go through all he/she is suffering and dont act. I keep my hope UP coz thats all got plus my hustles

Ikebesupa:
.. What is marriage these days turning into? Does that mean she doesn't love her husband? Or deliberately extorting me

not that she just want to be smart but i tell what no matter how much a woman loves her husband once she cant over look all her ex and just move on with her husband there is tendency that she will cheat of her husband with one of her ex as long as money is involved in yoruba we call it oju kokoro. thats what social media has caused, even if you loose contact you can always search for them on the net use their maiden name. and for the sake of easy access to promiscuity most ladies don't use/add their hubby's name on social media.
and like a man once told me longtime back that women also have the tendency to cheat in marriage just like men, but they do theirs secretly like it never or can never happen. i just pity every man in hands of their wife.

I'm having the same experience right,stopped calling or receiving her call though