oluayebenz:


Nigerian women is very difficult in that part of the world, especially when they are done with you....

OP... Just be positive and try to figure a way out.

I'm sorry but saying Nigerian women are very difficult is over-generalization. Quite a number of them that I have seen here are supportive of their husbands. OP should man up and beg the wife, not for Visa's sake but for the sake of their kids and for peace to reign. Again, may be *her* family members or the person she hold in high esteem should be involved. While at it, don't paint her black. All the best bro

Stereotypes:


My name says it all.

Did you miss the pun in my message.

dustydee:

Did you miss the pun in my message.

I see am well well
God EPP me.

$600M gone. Stay #SAFU

Stereotypes:


I see am well well
God EPP me.

Amin.

This is untrue. A lot of women support their husbands in the UK even while the men are messing around. At least I know loads of such relationships around me. Have you even heard the wife's part of the story? It is so wrong to say this. There are bad men and women. So let's stop generalising.

oluayebenz:


Nigerian women is very difficult in that part of the world, especially when they are done with you....

OP... Just be positive and try to figure a way out.

Na so o. As if it is very easy to be going through lawyer palaver. I can imagine the stress he will go though and the money he will spend with no guarantee of success. A lot of lawyers are just after money with no clue of what the immigration law says.

My advice for him is to try and reconcile with his wife and also look at this senior care worker route of getting skilled worker visa sponsorship. He might be able to get that done within 6 months.

@RalphJean

Hi guys! Please, is there anyone in the Newcastle area or its environs? Pls is the commute from Sunderland to Newcastle doable on a daily basis? Or not just realistic?
I’m having issues with getting accommodation that fit my budget in Newcastle and it’s surrounding areas.
Please any advice will be appreciated.

wallg123:
…
If she’s that hard na to use am reconstruct my garage …
if the OP get money to spend, then let him seek legal advice….but until then a little bit of Justin Bieber “Sorry” is the intimate solution

u make me smile bro, she is already having problem. to just like me now. As she has to fix the children in somebodies house to go to work and my kids have insisted they are not staying there.

my kids kept calling me every time even in the mid night

justwise:


Bro whether you are at fault or she is … this is what I can say to you.

Look after your mental health, don’t let this drain you and affect your job. Speak to people you trust and don’t bottle things as we Africans usually do.

Settle in your new place and maintain a healthy relationship with your kids, if with time things works out between you and your wife good , if not then it’s what it’s . Life goes on.

thank u bro

Stereotypes:
Relationships don't suddenly disintegrate out of thin air.
Were you caught doing duggeedugeee or were you doing dugeedugee while thinking she didn't know?

How were you both in Nigeria before you ported? If both of you moved from Nigeria,this is her repaying you for all that happened there.I have noticed the women wait till they land and then execute their revenge.

There's no way this marriage was happy and both of you were on the same page.

Very strange that she didn't let you put your name in any document,it means she had been planning this for a while and had checked out since.

How did you not notice?

Don't blame friends,its our usual default pattern when we notice our partner is no longer behaving like the usual default setting.

Your wife doesn't like you anymore and has been erasing you since bit by bit.

Once a woman reaches this stage, she's fed up.

Since its not working, please move on and coparent peacefully for the sake of your children while looking for immigration lawyer.

Chai! You go suffer no be small o! New apartment,visa fees,lawyer fees, bills bills bills .

Pele

Like u said I may be sleeping in the marriage.

dustydee:

looks like you know them personally. Talk about stereotypes. While that might have happened to some, there is no hint or insinuation from his writings here that that is the case. You should not be categorical if you are not sure of the true picture.

my bro, I don't argue with people. all I know is that it is better imagined than experienced.

untill the shoe pinches, that when one will know where it pains.

thank u for ur submmission

Stereotypes:


My name says it all.

But obviously u are very wrong.

babajeje123:

I'm sorry but saying Nigerian women are very difficult is over-generalization. Quite a number of them that I have seen here are supportive of their husbands. OP should man up and beg the wife, not for Visa's sake but for the sake of their kids and for peace to reign. Again, may be *her* family members or the person she hold in high esteem should be involved. While at it, don't paint her black. All the best bro

Thank u so much but I have never painted my wife black here.

like people have being advocating a. exploring the alternative dispute resolution.

Have being asured I will collect my visa without her but I want to put my family first.

she too will be facing difficulties to cope with the kids.

dupyshoo:
Na so o. As if it is very easy to be going through lawyer palaver. I can imagine the stress he will go though and the money he will spend with no guarantee of success. A lot of lawyers are just after money with no clue of what the immigration law says.

My advice for him is to try and reconcile with his wife and also look at this senior care worker route of getting skilled worker visa sponsorship. He might be able to get that done within 6 months.

@RalphJean

True

lightest:


Thank u so much but I have never painted my wife black here.

like people have being advocating a. exploring the alternative dispute resolution.

Have being asured I will collect my visa without her but I want to put my family first.

she too will be facing difficulties to cope with the kids.

God be with you Sir

dupyshoo:
This is untrue. A lot of women support their husbands in the UK even while the men are messing around. At least I know loads of such relationships around me. Have you even heard the wife's part of the story? It is so wrong to say this. There are bad men and women. So let's stop generalising.

am sure u don't know me. I don't even keep. friends talk less of keeping women.

Woman will always be woman expecially when they don't want to reason with u

babajeje123:

God be with you Sir

Amen, I really appreciate the love u guys have given so far.

u all don't know the value of it all to me

lightest:


u make me smile bro, she is already having problem. to just like me now. As she has to fix the children in somebodies house to go to work and my kids have insisted they are not staying there.

my kids kept calling me every time even in the mid night

It is "our kids" bro
Our kids.

Hope you don't operate with that mindset
This is not Nigeria

All the best

lightest:


Amen, I really appreciate the love u guys have given so far.

u all don't know the value of it all to me

Be careful with all these people telling you to leave the house and stay alone . Be careful with those people telling you to care about your mental health bla bla bla…

Find a way of appealing to your wife’s conscience. Try & make your marriage to rebound.

All these people telling you about immigration and lawyers etc, I can assure you, they will not give you 1 £ or even 1 pence to hire a lawyer.

Try all you can, to make thinks work with your wife.

Try and try till visa runs out

A sensible person, just like Op is doing, will look at ALL available options

KOVIC19COVID20:


Be careful with all these people telling you to leave the house and stay alone . Be careful with those people telling you to care about your mental health bla bla bla…

Find a way of appealing to your wife’s conscience. Try & make your marriage to rebound.

All these people telling you about immigration and lawyers etc, I can assure you, they will not give you 1 £ or even 1 pence to hire a lawyer.

Try all you can, to make thinks work with your wife.

lightest:


But obviously u are very wrong.

Oga sorry ooo. Pele.
I pray the hand of God touches Madam.

@lightest so sorry you are going through this. Going through your previous posts shows the family just relocated in 2020 to join your wife here and sad to know within such a period things has disintegrated to that level.

One thing I would like to add is involving her family as well or someone she listens to to resolve the issues between you guys(caveat as long as its not DV), if she has a good relationship with your family, let them know as well.

Asides from the visa issues, please consider your 2 kids who will be affected in this situation. Remember they are in a new/strange land and now loosing their familiarity with their known household unit, and their mental health is also important.

Please set aside pride and try and resolve. If possible engage therapist as well to help sort out your issues for you to know what is truly wrong in your union.

All the best.

descarado:

It is "our kids" bro
Our kids.

Hope you don't operate with that mindset
This is not Nigeria

All the best

thanks bro Our kids

fatima04:
@lightest so sorry you are going through this. Going through your previous posts shows the family just relocated in 2020 to join your wife here and sad to know within such a period things has disintegrated to that level.

One thing I would like to add is involving her family as well or someone she listens to to resolve the issues between you guys(caveat as long as its not DV), if she has a good relationship with your family, let them know as well.

Asides from the visa issues, please consider your 2 kids who will be affected in this situation. Remember they are in a new/strange land and now loosing their familiarity with their known household unit, and their mental health is also important.

Please set aside pride and try and resolve. If possible engage therapist as well to help sort out your issues for you to know what is truly wrong in your union.

All the best.

Thank u so much for the love.

the dialogue is going on and I hope it will come to good point.

U guys are really making me to man up.

thanks so much

fatima04:
@lightest so sorry you are going through this. Going through your previous posts shows the family just relocated in 2020 to join your wife here and sad to know within such a period things has disintegrated to that level.

One thing I would like to add is involving her family as well or someone she listens to to resolve the issues between you guys(caveat as long as its not DV), if she has a good relationship with your family, let them know as well.

Asides from the visa issues, please consider your 2 kids who will be affected in this situation. Remember they are in a new/strange land and now loosing their familiarity with their known household unit, and their mental health is also important.

Please set aside pride and try and resolve. If possible engage therapist as well to help sort out your issues for you to know what is truly wrong in your union.

All the best.

This is what sound advice looks like.
Lightest, people like @Fatima04 are the people you should pay more attention, and listen to. This her advise is worth a million ££

lightest:


u make me smile bro, she is already having problem. to just like me now. As she has to fix the children in somebodies house to go to work and my kids have insisted they are not staying there.

my kids kept calling me every time even in the mid night

Truly single parenthood is no joke in this country especially around childcare .... hopefully it all gets resolve. Each person making amends. Its always best when both parties work together in many areas

Chukwuka16:


Nothing happened to gold. What you have online are derivatives/ETFs or paper gold contracts with serious manipulations by JPM and others on Comex (pump and dump) to exit their positions at some profit or reduced margin calls (losses). Leverage on comex is like 1:650 and above. That's crazy!

Basel III is being implemented and that means significantly reduced leverage which will see many paper contracts being closed. Try buying premiums (physical gold like Maple leaf or Kruger etc) and see if it sells for the paper price.

Look to central banks to understand gold. Today, Russia holds more gold reserve than US treasuries. China and India are massively increasing their purchase of gold (mind you, China doesn't export gold mined internally). Even Ghana is diversifying her reserves to include gold while Nigeria is still looking for cow route (I love my country).

I don't think people buy physical gold or silver to trade, they do so as a means of wealth preservation (part of a diversification strategy). There is only so much manipulation that can occur before the Fed (major culprit) loses the plot and we have to rein in the $$ (another Bretton Wood maybe).

If China launches her digital Yuan and backs it with gold, then we can be very sure that a major reorganisation is in the works.

Lastly, the BIS (Bank of International Settlement) more like the central Bank of the world's central banks has this to say about gold - "Physical gold is a first-tier asset that has no counterparty or political risk". So for now it's to keep diversifying with eyes firmly on the debt/bond market - that's the foundation of the world's economy.

So hypothetically, if one of these countries decide to liquidate their gold assets, what price per ounce will be quoted to them. Is there a different price for physical gold?

@lightest listen up if you have ears.

Most people typing up and down here know how they manage their homes, some men even know how they prostrate to their wives in the middle of the night when no one is there to make things work. So far there isn't any case of domestic violence here, you have to go back home and sort issues out with your wife for the sake of your kids. You are over 40 years old and i believe you should be wiser to know that you don't fully depend on the advise you seek from social media platforms. Refuse to be a victim of the system. You and your wife have come into a system and you need to be strong to pull through the system. Yourself and 3 members of your family must have sacrificed at least £10K to come on this Tier 2 with renewal fees coming up soon and i believe this should be your focus at the moment not you leaving home. The tier 2 system is not an easy one. You both literally work for the system for the said 5 years with huge financial sacrifice. Your MRS is probably tired from work as a nurse and needs your support but unfortunately maybe you are adding your drama as the Baale of Norwich as per your previous post. You probably are not looking to develop yourself either. Additionally, you might no longer appear attractive to your wife, you need to look to improve in all ways and set the example. Many things might be involved for her to lose interest in you. Talk things with her and you would find an answer. Legal fees don't come cheap. I would advise you don't even think of that route.

lightest:


Thank u so much for the love.

the dialogue is going on and I hope it will come to good point.

U guys are really making me to man up.

thanks so much

RalphJean:


This is what sound advice looks like.
Lightest, people like @Fatima04 are the people you should pay more attention, and listen to. This her advise is worth a million ££

Please how can I get this 1 million pound bayii . Single parenting and dissolved marriages isn't easy on anyone