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Re: Lets Start Paying Groom Prices!!!!! by Nobody: 11:26am On Feb 04, 2018 |
ReinaFarine:@bolded Wrong The barstadising of the bride price is not main reason to have a rethink about the idea of bride price. The main point we want to drive home here is to eliminate a need for men to prove their financial self worth before marriage because it doesn't seem like a fair approach. It seems like gender bias to many modern African men. Women liberation movement aka feminism ideologies have constantly evolved over the years, starting from a simple advocacy for voting right to more complex issues around women sexuality. The issues raised by op is worth looking into and having a rational debate about. I know you support looking into the idea but your reasons for supporting the idea is highly dismissive. |
Re: Lets Start Paying Groom Prices!!!!! by FuckingSteel: 11:26am On Feb 04, 2018 |
ReinaFarine:-Fůcking harsh |
Re: Lets Start Paying Groom Prices!!!!! by Nobody: 11:27am On Feb 04, 2018 |
ReinaFarine:I can go on and on to explain why they are not equal, but then I want you to research and Google it, google is at your finger tip so google it, come back and tell me what you learnt. I'm open to constructive criticism. |
Re: Lets Start Paying Groom Prices!!!!! by sweetetlove(f): 11:27am On Feb 04, 2018 |
Chikita66:sweetheart that's where you get it all wrong not all feminism advocates for gender equality, you should read more on the concept. Ciao |
Re: Lets Start Paying Groom Prices!!!!! by sweetetlove(f): 11:30am On Feb 04, 2018 |
ReinaFarine:you brought it up I want to learn from you, or you don't know the meaning? |
Re: Lets Start Paying Groom Prices!!!!! by Nobody: 11:30am On Feb 04, 2018 |
Shugavee:I'm not a feminist, why are you guys calling me that, is it by force to be one, I know my rights and I know if am cheated on, am dumping his ass ASAP, that doesn't mean am a feminist, that is me knowing my self worth and knowing there are some shitt I won't take in a relationship. I believe that what is good for the goose is good for the gander but then men and women cannot be equal, we woman are weaker vessel, argue from now till next year, it still won't change that fact. Let's tell ourselves the truth small. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Lets Start Paying Groom Prices!!!!! by Shugavee(f): 11:31am On Feb 04, 2018 |
sweetetlove:okay so u are a feminist n u dont advocate 4 equality Wow!!! Loloolol |
Re: Lets Start Paying Groom Prices!!!!! by MissWrite(f): 11:31am On Feb 04, 2018 |
sweetetlove: Please.....please.....tell me you're joking with this. Gloria Steinem, Betty Friedan, Ruth Bader Ginsburg, Hillary Clinton.......are (or were) all married. Western feminism is not about advocating lesbianism. Feminism liberates women from a culture which prevents women from achieving self-actualization and self-determination in society. It holds that woman should be free to pursue their dreams and their happiness without being held back for being women, and that they should have the freedom to apply themselves to opportunity without discrimination on account of their gender. If feminism now limits women to lesbianism and singlehood (like you claim), isn't that enslavement and not liberation? 3 Likes |
Re: Lets Start Paying Groom Prices!!!!! by Shugavee(f): 11:32am On Feb 04, 2018 |
Chikita66:hahaha okay!!! Quick question!! If u were told to go back to 50 years when women were rags !! Hope u would voluntarily go! 1 Like |
Re: Lets Start Paying Groom Prices!!!!! by sweetetlove(f): 11:33am On Feb 04, 2018 |
Shugavee:there you go again who doesn't know Chidimanda Adiche is an African feminist? |
Re: Lets Start Paying Groom Prices!!!!! by ReinaFarine: 11:35am On Feb 04, 2018 |
greiboy: Sweetie, you got me twisted... I said if it hurts you to get married because you're a man and you're made to pay then it is a sexist custom because it favours one gender over another .. I just traced the history and custom of bride price... Bride price encourages misogyny on the male end and I see.it as a pseudo slave trade kind of thing... I am against buying a woman as if she were a property... I argued that over ten years ago when I was in jss two reading the story of zainobe in an AFRICAN NIGHT ENTERTAINMENT. I was deeply insulted when a woman's worth was compared to a cloth in the market... It insults and demeans me... I strongly suggest that book to every 'I'm not a feminist' woman. I tried to state how archaic the culture is... That you can borrow 5million for dowry doesn't mean he won't keep the woman in abject poverty and live a live of drunkness and womanizing... The fact that I squat to the ground to serve him palm wine doesn't mean I can't stand up tomorrow to bash his head... Look at my first paragraph... Dowry isn't always harder on the man... 1 Like |
Re: Lets Start Paying Groom Prices!!!!! by Nobody: 11:36am On Feb 04, 2018 |
sekxyqueen:Happy Sunday dear, baby are you a feminist? |
Re: Lets Start Paying Groom Prices!!!!! by Nobody: 11:36am On Feb 04, 2018 |
MissWrite:So you have been observing from one corner What is your take on the issues the op raised ? |
Re: Lets Start Paying Groom Prices!!!!! by Shugavee(f): 11:38am On Feb 04, 2018 |
sweetetlove:i cant expain her ask Google!! We hv liberal, radical, socialist, individualist n cultural feminist, black feminism as well!!! Read abt them!! |
Re: Lets Start Paying Groom Prices!!!!! by sweetetlove(f): 11:38am On Feb 04, 2018 |
Shugavee:yes because am an African feminist Buchi Emecheta said "but if i am now a feminist then am an african feminist with small letter f" |
Re: Lets Start Paying Groom Prices!!!!! by ReinaFarine: 11:39am On Feb 04, 2018 |
sweetetlove:I didn't bring it up honey... I googled and for the result.. And I suggested the same to reduce redundancy... Here is my Google result... Social feminism is a term used to describe feminist movements that advocate for social rights and special accommodations for women. It was first used to describe members of the women's suffrage movement in the late nineteenth and early twentieth centuries who were concerned with social problems that affected women and children. They saw obtaining the vote mainly as a means to achieve their reform goals rather than a primary goal in itself. After women gained the right to vote, social feminism continued in the form of labor feminists who advocated for protectionist legislation and special benefits for women. The term is widely used, although some historians have questioned its validity 1 Like |
Re: Lets Start Paying Groom Prices!!!!! by Shugavee(f): 11:40am On Feb 04, 2018 |
sweetetlove:she is africian based on nationality sis!! Read abt her agendas n then read abt socialist feminism n radical feminism!! Reason why she does not answer her husband's name!! Hahaha am not even as strong headed as she is!!! She is refered to as miss not mrs!!! Read abt her please!! We all africian feminist i am africian!!! Will u then refer to me as a western feminist?? Lol |
Re: Lets Start Paying Groom Prices!!!!! by ReinaFarine: 11:42am On Feb 04, 2018 |
Chikita66: I learnt that a man has a dick and two balls and I don't... Is that where his extra IQ and SUPERIORITY resides? 1 Like |
Re: Lets Start Paying Groom Prices!!!!! by ReinaFarine: 11:43am On Feb 04, 2018 |
Re: Lets Start Paying Groom Prices!!!!! by Nobody: 11:44am On Feb 04, 2018 |
ReinaFarine:You made good point, I am really happy that you see bride price as destructive item or prison of some sort. Still, it seems you have not gotten our point, you are only arguing from the women's perspective. Most men are not entirely happy with the arrangements either, but some of your feminists colleagues are still fighting tooth and nail to preserve the idea. This was the main reason for our disagreement. The mere fact that you keep dismissing this in your arguments makes it look one sided. |
Re: Lets Start Paying Groom Prices!!!!! by ubunja(m): 11:47am On Feb 04, 2018 |
sweetetlove:take your insults to someone who is at your same level of lowness. learn to communicate your opinion without being offensive. |
Re: Lets Start Paying Groom Prices!!!!! by Shugavee(f): 11:47am On Feb 04, 2018 |
sweetetlove:okay we seek 4 different agendas then!! I am a feminist with big huge FFF 1 Like |
Re: Lets Start Paying Groom Prices!!!!! by sekxyqueen(f): 11:48am On Feb 04, 2018 |
Re: Lets Start Paying Groom Prices!!!!! by Shugavee(f): 11:49am On Feb 04, 2018 |
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Re: Lets Start Paying Groom Prices!!!!! by ReinaFarine: 11:51am On Feb 04, 2018 |
greiboy: I am for both sides honey... I didn't read that thread I guess... No true feminist will be for the oppression of a gender because of 'love' or 'marriage' That one is blatant and clear... I wanted to explain to the submissive female.I'm seeing on this thread why dowry and bride price demeans them... 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Lets Start Paying Groom Prices!!!!! by Letzdothething: 11:56am On Feb 04, 2018 |
Shugavee:but she still hold the name of her father? A man. Lolz So what name will her children bear? 1 Like |
Re: Lets Start Paying Groom Prices!!!!! by Nobody: 11:57am On Feb 04, 2018 |
sekxyqueen:One more week that is what I need, so many books to cover, I'm not feeling fine, having body ache, but I took meds. |
Re: Lets Start Paying Groom Prices!!!!! by sweetetlove(f): 11:59am On Feb 04, 2018 |
MissWrite:guess you haven't read about radical feminism or Alice walker color purple and Julie Bendel. Radical feminism sees lesbianism as a strong political act to end male dominance, they also argue that love relationships perpetuate patriarchal power relations through "personal domination" and therefore directly contradicted the values and goals of the movement.(source Google) |
Re: Lets Start Paying Groom Prices!!!!! by Shugavee(f): 12:01pm On Feb 04, 2018 |
Letzdothething:i dont know but i so damn love her 4 a guts!!! I dont think i am as radical as she is, but i love her!! |
Re: Lets Start Paying Groom Prices!!!!! by Nobody: 12:02pm On Feb 04, 2018 |
ReinaFarine:I am glad you see things that way. If you have skimmed through the thread, you will notice where some ladies were against the idea of even having a rational discussion around bride price in relation to feminism. I guess that was where most guys decided to counter them, since feminism is an advocacy for equality amongst the sexes. |
Re: Lets Start Paying Groom Prices!!!!! by Shugavee(f): 12:03pm On Feb 04, 2018 |
sweetetlove:hey girl u never new till i told u to google it!! So chill!!! Radical feminism is extreme feminism very close to misandrism! All real feminist know that!!! Am a socialist feminist not radical!! In addition i love the D |
Re: Lets Start Paying Groom Prices!!!!! by sweetetlove(f): 12:08pm On Feb 04, 2018 |
ReinaFarine:thanks sis that's what I wanted to know |
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