CONFAMA:
The probability that they will give birth to a sickler is just 25% which is still low to me although the risks increases if they continue to bear children overtime without limitation.

My advice to the couple is to limit the number of their children to just one or two at most.

It's not that low. There are two of us out of five kids and guess what? I'm the second child. The best thing is for them not to get married at all.

A lady came to the church I attend and gave a testimony of how she turned from AS to AA through deliverance,fasting and prayers.
This happened in less than a year of attending the Church. She even came with the test results.


I go to mountain of fire �

Hia If they insist will you kill them. It's their cross let them carry it.

wonyi:


Well said. exactly what I had in mind to type.modern technology can resolve the issue.

Good day Sir, pm sent

gasbee:
Good day Sir, pm sent

Please send a mai
I can't access the mail I registered Nairaland with

Amhappy:
Hia If they insist will you kill them. It's their cross let them carry it.

It is easier said my dear. When children do well, even extended family members celebrate. How much more this one?
If family members are invited and even contribute to family wedding, then this case is every body's cross.

Christie06:
Thank you.

Hi dear. Can i get to know you?

Christie06:
Thank you.

Hi Christie

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How are u doing. Sent you an email

DopeAngel:
Serious Advice Needed Pls- How Can I Resolve This Impending Doom In My Family

Please nairalanders i kindly need your advice on this family issue. my elder bro met this girl sometime last two years after having too many disappointments in relationship. he said he wants to finally settle down that he is tired of waiting and disappointments.

Now the serious problem is both of them are genotype AS, but my brother does not care, he still wants to go ahead with the marriage. He is saying he has faith and hope in God that nothing will happen. even my parents are not helping matters, my parents are strong church elders and they are even saying my brother should pray that God can change things.

I am so pained with my parents stand on this issue knowing the severe consequence that follows. i was hoping they would outrightly dissolve the relationship but no they are hoping on God. What pains me the most is that the girl herself is a nurse, she knows better than everybody but yet she is not considering that.

Right now i hate the girl because she is coming to ruin the life of bro's unborn children

Tell your brother to get ready for an avalanche of problems that will likely wreck his finances if he decides to proceed

Advise him but if he refuses to yield, let him proceed with the marriage, he will learn the hard way when he has to care for a sickle cell victim, a problem he could have avoided. Then he will understand that applying Logic is better than having False Hope.

Hello, I am a pastor, can I share the word of God with you? I have special ministration just for you.

Christie06:
Thank you.

DopeAngel:
the thing on my mind right now to do is to warn the girl to seriously stay away from my family and brother or else she wont like the treatment she will be getting from me. i will never ever support the marriage. i am not ready to be an uncle to a sickler. the girl wants to ruin my family. my brother is been perpetually ignorant and foolish. i really dont know what is wrong with him. too much disappointment is not enough reason to go ahead with this marriage. i am tired and unhappy. please i need serious advice on how to end this evil relationship. lalasticlala mynd44 ishilove any other moderator please help a brother in this problem

Female uncle

tomdon:



Female uncle

don't mind him,he has been parading himself as a female here spewing trash against the female gender.

Wish them luck. There's a saying that the fly that refused to listen follows a dead body to the grave. Just keep quite, wiah them well and wait.

Hey!

It's 2020, over two years after you made this post.

Please update us. Did they go ahead with the wedding? Do they have kids? Did they do CVS? Is any of the kids SS?

Like to read from you...Cheerios!

DopeAngel:
Serious Advice Needed Pls- How Can I Resolve This Impending Doom In My Family

Please nairalanders i kindly need your advice on this family issue. my elder bro met this girl sometime last two years after having too many disappointments in relationship. he said he wants to finally settle down that he is tired of waiting and disappointments.

Now the serious problem is both of them are genotype AS, but my brother does not care, he still wants to go ahead with the marriage. He is saying he has faith and hope in God that nothing will happen. even my parents are not helping matters, my parents are strong church elders and they are even saying my brother should pray that God can change things.

I am so pained with my parents stand on this issue knowing the severe consequence that follows. i was hoping they would outrightly dissolve the relationship but no they are hoping on God. What pains me the most is that the girl herself is a nurse, she knows better than everybody but yet she is not considering that.

Right now i hate the girl because she is coming to ruin the life of bro's unborn children

Our CVS was done at Greene Diagnostics Company Limited in Benin city. We contacted the customer care line 08025200314 on Feb 18th and finally was booked on Feb 19th. Results came out fine.

DopeAngel:
yes bro. he does not really care. after having much disappointments he says he cant have more and is not ready to search for another girl. he wants to settle down. it is clear the decision was made emotionally, due to fear of further disappointments in relationship. He is not balanced right now and not thinking straight. even if i allow this happen, if in future eventually they have an SS child. we all as a family will bear the burden. i dont want to worry over that then that is why i am more concerned now. if they go ahead and get married and something happens. i wont care then and i dont want family taging me as a wicked brother. that is why i am more concerned now. i had a friend who was SS yrs back, he died days after we wrote our waec due to accumulated stress. i dont want that pain in my family

Oga stop stressing yourself since your brother is financially capable then let them just look for a donor egg and the woman carries the child since it is the paternity that matters the most in naija ,infact lately many men are going for the ivf option just to be sure they are the biological father of their kids (for professionals and long distance relationships) ,This "this life no balance ooo" a visit to a fertility hospital or a visit to the children ward in a teaching hospital will make you have a rethink , many kids are suffering from different ailments from birth (nothing that has to do with genotype) so people should stop over flogging this genotype issue just the other day a man discovered his 3 kids were not his biological children is that not worse than a genotype issue please let's be guided , for me as long as they both know what they are going into who even knows maybe they have decided to have a childless marriage ,op Abeg learn to face your own issues

Greene Diagnostics Clinic does High-graded PGT for Couple who cannot risk having a SS Baby. Price is Cheap, and with Expert Handlers who are Seasoned Consultant Physicians.

Location: Benin City
Phone number: 08025200314

You can book for chorionic Villus Sampling test ( CVS) prenatal Fetal Genotype Test with us.


Greene Diagnostics
16c, Uwasota Rd
Benin city.
08025200314
www.gdcl.ng
info@gdcl.ng

IVF and PGT also available

ologun01:



It's 270,000 as at February sef

If you are still on this forum, I would like to get in touch with you as soon as possible sir.

It's very important.

Thanks.

pandax:
I reside in PH and not abroad. In fact the cost of PGS & IVF has gone down now. There are clinics like Nordica, Bridge and the rest in Nigeria that can comfortably carry out the procedure with their foreign partners. it is doable. I married my wife with my last N1m in my account and I knew that we were not compatible because of our genotype. I love her and was able to do it because we did not tell anyone except my mother-in-law who supported us. Till today, we have not done white wedding as most churches refused wedding us. I told my wife to follow me that God will see us through. Today, I have tens of millions within 2 years of marriage and my healthy triplets are on the way. Maybe, after delivery we will go back and see if churches will wed us.

Good day sir. Please, how do I get in touch with you sir? I have few questions I'm hoping you'd help me with answers.

Anoneism:

Good day sir. Please, how do I get in touch with you sir? I have few questions I'm hoping you'd help me with answers.

Pm me

DopeAngel:
thank you fear. the thing is the girl herself is not ready to let him go. she still even calls him. her age factor is making her even more desperate. i dont care if the girl gets married or not. she should just leave my bro alone. i mean is that too hard for a lady to do? am so much pained. right now i have so much hatred towards the girl. right now i am thinking of giving her a very sound warning to stay away from my family or else she would never find peace. i would be very happy to be the black sheep that destroyed the relationship and save the lives of my bro's unborn kids. is it right?

I understand your point but apply wisdom in this kind of issue don't make it look like a fight take it gently,Maybe you should sit your brother down and have a one on one talk with him he might reconsider

pandax:


Pm me

Done sir.

pandax:


Pm me

Good morning sir. I PM you two days ago, I don't know if you've seen it.

I would appreciate if you can message me via anoneism@gmail.com

Many thanks sir.

eyinjuege:
Its not your relationship, neither is it your business.
The main thing is for both of them to understand the risks involved, and if they're ready to plunge in, goodluck to them.
Your place as a brother is to support. Not dictate, not rule or instruct your brother.
You should learn to respect your brother's choice and wishes. If you're not ready to
support him, you can disown him.

What a very dumb contribution?

CONFAMA:
The probability that they will give birth to a sickler is just 25% which is still low to me although the risks increases if they continue to bear children overtime without limitation.

My advice to the couple is to limit the number of their children to just one or two at most.

Lol. I have seen a couple with four children and all of them are SS, the couple are not SS.
I have seen one with four kids and two are SS.
I have seen one with two kids and both are SS.

DopeAngel:
this is not really about god. it is about the much disappointments he has faced. he says he is not ready to face any other disappointments while his mates are married so he wants to go ahead with the marriage no matter the cost. its like making decision when pushed emotionally. he is not in his right sense. fear of disappointment and age is behind this drastic decision he took

If only our parents thought us not to compare our selves with others. We are different and have different time. Understand this and have peace

eyinjuege:
Its not your relationship, neither is it your business.
The main thing is for both of them to understand the risks involved, and if they're ready to plunge in, goodluck to them.
Your place as a brother is to support. Not dictate, not rule or instruct your brother.
You should learn to respect your brother's choice and wishes. If you're not ready to support him, you can disown him.

It is there insensitiveness to the pains and plight there unborn children will face. As far as am concerned, i think government should be involved and stop all these unreasonable fellows that wants to bring children into this world to suffer.

eyinjuege:


They are not your children, the stress will be on their parents. Provided they know what they are getting into, its still their decision.
I wouldn't advice 2 people with AS genotypes to marry, but if they decide to, i can only support them and wish them well. I will not try to control their decision and choice, I will not try all the drama the poster is trying to cause at all.
Someone has once told me, the solution to eradicating sickle cell disease is to kill all AS persons as they are the ones passing on the disease. I chose to believe he was joking, but who knows what such a person can do if given the power to. Your own solution is asking them not to marry, not as extreme but still can be taken too far as the OP apparently wants to, in his bid to have the perfect family.
You can advice and educate them on the trials sicklers face, the stress etc but that's all required of you.
I know a lot about sicklers, and i know some so dont think i don't understand where you're coming from

You guys can be so daft. I would have given them the blessing, if the unborn children are part of this STUPID decision. Those fools have no right to bring children into this world suffer