duduade:
@OP... You are really a NOVICE

Even your narrative doesn't befit you as a Postgraduate student

princfred:
lol.. Nigerian men are on a long thing with these ones.

luminouz:


So he should not fvck again
TF u mean by the women falling Ur hands Did he rape them or force them to do it

Or..
The 1k na im dey pain u??
What's if 100k?? That cool for u??

Bottom line:
Leave him alone aunty

midehi2:

Hmmm,well said, the guy made sense in some part but belittle women in some part, I pity the women satisfying his urge with 1k, chai some women dey fall our hands i swear

Skepticus:


For your last line, I have worked in brothels as a bouncer and I can assure you that a lot of prostitutes I have met sure know how to treat regular clients well and ask about their welfare (including their families).

Most of them do protect themselves from STDs than you average "good" girl who hides under the cover of "dating and relationship" to whor.e.

Why do you think "married" men are the biggest patrons of prostitutes?

Acidosis:

Bro, at 30, you don't need this kind of woman.

tejiri4:


And dis one will accept less than 1k, girls can form like kilode

Tinalex:
Awwww...few of the good guys who will turn bad cos a woman played ludo with his emotions. Please leave her ok, you are obviously new in the system and 30years at that. Choi...you shall soon find one who will value you as much as you value her ok. By the time she realises what she lost....you are already gone and happily enjoying your relationship by then...pele ok

emerged01:

You think he is so on point? With time he will realise women are the greatest problem men cannot avoid. If it is too late for him realise that ,he will regret it.
I'm married with two lovely kids. I can't tell you marriage is so sweet,if I do I'm decieving you. But at the same time I will let you know that one of my regrets is not marrying early(I married early 30s). The joy of taking responsibilities for the future of my kids is lovely and can't be compared. Until you understand that life is about sacrifice you won't achieve great things. Start taking steps toward taking responsibilities,that's how to become a true man.
He said he goes after olosho for sex. I'm very sure he knows it is not right except his conscience is dead. Going after olosho put your life in danger physically and spiritually. Don't be misled.

spyg1:
The reason why i came here for advice is to avoid taking a decision that i will not regret in future.

There is a girl I met at a friend's wedding sometime last year, she is 24 years and a 200L student while I am 30 years old postgraduate student but an amateur when it comes to relationship.

We started dating, at first I wasn't serious because I don't have enough money to take care of a girl, as a student sponsoring myself, I hardly have enough money to take care of her needs, she always complain that I don't take care of her which her friend's guy use to take care of her, the girl in question always advice my girl to quit our relationship because I am a broke guy and even if I get a job in future I will dump her for another lady, that I am just deceiving her, nevertheless she do assure her that I will not disappoint her, despite her friend's advice the love grew even stronger, at times she will buy me some gifts, me too I do buy some for her, having seen the commitment in her, then I started paying attention to her hoping that if things work well I will take her to the alter.

But, there was a day she called me to come and meet her at a particular Junction, on my arrival to the place I saw her exchanging phone number with a guy in car, upon enquiry, I discovered that she did not know the guy before, then I left home quietly she later called and apologized which I accepted.

Another time I called her around 10pm and I discovered that she blacklisted my number, she did this twice which I confronted her and suggested that we should quit, she begged me and cry for Africa then I accepted her back again.

After that, sometimes she will not pick my calls in the night and the following day she will giving excuses that she was sleeping, her phone is on silence or she plugged in her neighbors house etc, I started withdrawing from her, she called me one day and started crying that what her friends were advising her was true, I was just using her, I am just like other guys, she know the reason why I am doing this, is because she asked me to go and see her parents bla bla.

To fast forward the story, she login her Facebook account on my phone and she forgot to logout, when I went through her chat I discovered that she use to give people they meet on Facebook her phone number and according to the chart I discovered that she met one yesterday, I also discovered that she is still having an affairs with her ex.

Note: Anytime i call her to come to my house she used to come.

I feel like quitting the relationship but because of sympathy and I don’t want it to look as if I disappointed her. Honestly I am seriously confused, now my question is this; is it wrong that I went through her chat?

Second, what should I do? should I confront her? or should I quit quietly?

Pls I need your sincere advice, insults are welcomed. I will appreciate if the modulator push this to the front page.

PLS IGNORE MY GRAMMATICAL ERRORS

luminouz:

Not me dou...she can have d rest!!!

midehi2:

Hmmm,well said, the guy made sense in some part but belittle women in some part, I pity the women satisfying his urge with 1k, chai some women dey fall our hands i swear

GrammarNazi1:
...Don't ever condone cheating.

nho4:
Sorry to say young man but obviously you are a fool....same thing goes to any young man out there undergoing emotional trauma all in the name of keeping a girlfriend.

To hell with ladies and those dating them.
Why must you subject yourself to such emotional agony just because of a mere lady you are senior to with almost 6 years and you are here crying like a sissy.

I will never encourage my worse enemy to go into what you guys call girlfriend relationship that turns men into puppets.

Dating is a way of placing yourself under emotional slavery. Your Heart and mind keep bleeding at all time and before you realizes what is going on you will start battling with one health issue or the other all because of nothing.

Look at the rate at which our men are dying and the cause is directly and indirectly due to the fact that they want to please women and that is why women have taken advantage of us.
Women should be the one begging us to date them and not the other way round.

I once dated a lady who thought she was doing me a favour for dating me...the moment I realised it, I simply placed her where she belonged by severing myself from her.... When she realized it, she was now the one forcing herself on me and she was trying to get me back but it was too late for her because my mind was already made up to be single and happy....that was the best decision I ever made in my life and I never regretted it till this moment.



Men have become almost nothing in the hands of women and yet vast majority of our young men are thronging in the wrong direction all in the name of love that doesn't exist.

Believe it or not" Love doesn't exist between girlfriend and boyfriend.

Real love only exists between mother and child...

I bet you the number one reason our young men, including you allow yourselves to be traumatized emotionally is simply because of sex.

You don't need to have a girlfriend before you can have sex with ladies.

Instead of killing yourself emotionally dump that girl and be free, because you were born free...don't allow anybody to put you in bondage all because of sex you can get easily.

I don't do relationships or dates and I am the happiest person all because I am free emotionally.... I sleep like a baby without having to worry if my partner is cheating on me because I have no fucking girlfriend.

Each time sexual urge comes in, I simply walk down to the nearest ASHAWO JOINT in my vicinity to ease off the urge with just N1000, and I am relaxed. I am in control of my happiness and not any fucking lady.

I am in control of females around me because they can't control me with their pussies and they have regard for me....because I don't own them a dime.

If you don't belittle yourself as a man all because of sex, women will respect you...but is unfortunate that most of our young men have reduced themselves to power zero in the hands of ladies just because of sex.

All I can tell you is that you own the key to your happiness...

midehi2:

Exactly why I blame them, why stoop so low to sex for 1k, why will men even indulge in sex with 100k to women, they are both sick.


the bottom line: he should make money first before girlfriend, if not someone with money will boyfriend her under his nose

Postfut:


Damn! I wish I could like this post 1000 times. One of the best posts I have read in a while. To the OP and other Men stuck in this same problem I suggest you print this post , paste on a wall in your house and read it every morning.
Anywhere you are I definitely owe you a bottle for this post. Although I am not in Nigeria now so if you don’t mind can drop your account number.

emerged01:

You think he is so on point? With time he will realise women are the greatest problem men cannot avoid. If it is too late for him realise that ,he will regret it.
I'm married with two lovely kids. I can't tell you marriage is so sweet,if I do I'm decieving you. But at the same time I will let you know that one of my regrets is not marrying early(I married early 30s). The joy of taking responsibilities for the future of my kids is lovely and can't be compared. Until you understand that life is about sacrifice you won't achieve great things. Start taking steps toward taking responsibilities,that's how to become a true man.
He said he goes after olosho for sex. I'm very sure he knows it is not right except his conscience is dead. Going after olosho put your life in danger physically and spiritually. Don't be misled.

nho4:
Sorry to say young man but obviously you are a fool....same thing goes to any young man out there undergoing emotional trauma all in the name of keeping a girlfriend.

To hell with ladies and those dating them.
Why must you subject yourself to such emotional agony just because of a mere lady you are senior to with almost 6 years and you are here crying like a sissy.

I will never encourage my worse enemy to go into what you guys call girlfriend relationship that turns men into puppets.

Dating is a way of placing yourself under emotional slavery. Your Heart and mind keep bleeding at all time and before you realizes what is going on you will start battling with one health issue or the other all because of nothing.

Look at the rate at which our men are dying and the cause is directly and indirectly due to the fact that they want to please women and that is why women have taken advantage of us.
Women should be the one begging us to date them and not the other way round.

I once dated a lady who thought she was doing me a favour for dating me...the moment I realised it, I simply placed her where she belonged by severing myself from her.... When she realized it, she was now the one forcing herself on me and she was trying to get me back but it was too late for her because my mind was already made up to be single and happy....that was the best decision I ever made in my life and I never regretted it till this moment.



Men have become almost nothing in the hands of women and yet vast majority of our young men are thronging in the wrong direction all in the name of love that doesn't exist.

Believe it or not" Love doesn't exist between girlfriend and boyfriend.

Real love only exists between mother and child...

I bet you the number one reason our young men, including you allow yourselves to be traumatized emotionally is simply because of sex.

You don't need to have a girlfriend before you can have sex with ladies.

Instead of killing yourself emotionally dump that girl and be free, because you were born free...don't allow anybody to put you in bondage all because of sex you can get easily.

I don't do relationships or dates and I am the happiest person all because I am free emotionally.... I sleep like a baby without having to worry if my partner is cheating on me because I have no fucking girlfriend.

Each time sexual urge comes in, I simply walk down to the nearest ASHAWO JOINT in my vicinity to ease off the urge with just N1000, and I am relaxed. I am in control of my happiness and not any fucking lady.

I am in control of females around me because they can't control me with their pussies and they have regard for me....because I don't own them a dime.

If you don't belittle yourself as a man all because of sex, women will respect you...but is unfortunate that most of our young men have reduced themselves to power zero in the hands of ladies just because of sex.

All I can tell you is that you own the key to your happiness...

haconjy:

You deserve a better slàp.... One day you will regret it but funny enough you will not come here and tell us your prob...
There is still better one out there... If you are serious too toi will find a better one... Apart from that cool down bro... It happen to me and I find the best...
In fact, I invite you to my wedding on DEC.8 Edo state...

safarigirl:
1k per night prostitutes barely have time to listen to your troubles. They have theirs.

Married men are the biggest patrons of prostitutes because they enjoy running away from their troubles, rather than confronting them..... And really, they married their trouble.

Married women also have troubles, but the difference is, women are emotionally and mentally stronger than men.

Some months ago, someone came to NL to tell us how he contracted HIV from visiting prostitutes, so, when you people are dishing out such strange advise, rather than encouraging abstinence and basic self control, remember that nothing is 100%.


And I don't know who you tag "good girls".....but just because someone doesn't work in a brothel, doesn't make the person any less of a prostitute.