How I pray that you will give your emotions to JESUS CHRIST and your life on this earth will be secured from all these emotional tortures; take it or leave it more emotional issues are coming on this journey of life even inside MARRIAGE there is NO ESCAPE ROUTE however "HE WHOSE HEART DWELLS IN THE SHELTER OF THE MOST HIGH JESUS CHRIST AND ABIDES IN THE SHADE OF THE ALMIGHTY WILL SAY TO THE LORD, YOU ARE MY REFUGE, MY STRONGHOLD, MY GOD IN WHOM I TRUST" {Psalm 91:1-2}. It is advisable that our hearts should be ESTABLISHED/STRAIGHTENED in the GRACE found ONLY IN JESUS CHRIST {Hebrews 13:8-9}. GREAT GRACE TO YOU!!!

she's your first love right? don't worry...you are on the right path. like others you will have to learn a lot of lessons from her before it is over between you two. you are obviously still a wimp for her and she def prefers a man who is the man not the one who shakes like jelly when he sees or talks to her or the one who has to beg her to give him hope of love.

ochibuogwu5:
How I pray that you will give your emotions to JESUS CHRIST and your life on this earth will be secured from all these emotional tortures; take it or leave it more emotional issues are coming on this journey of life even inside MARRIAGE there is NO ESCAPE ROUTE however "HE WHOSE HEART DWELLS IN THE SHELTER OF THE MOST HIGH JESUS CHRIST AND ABIDES IN THE SHADE OF THE ALMIGHTY WILL SAY TO THE LORD, YOU ARE MY REFUGE, MY STRONGHOLD, MY GOD IN WHOM I TRUST" {Psalm 91:1-2}. It is advisable that our hearts should be ESTABLISHED/STRAIGHTENED in the GRACE found ONLY IN JESUS CHRIST {Hebrews 13:8-9}. GREAT GRACE TO YOU!!!

thanks alot for this...u said the truth though..feeling sad.

OneSentence:
she's your first love right? don't worry...you are on the right path. like others you will have to learn a lot of lessons from her before it is over between you two. you are obviously still a wimp for her and she def prefers a man who is the man not the one who shakes like jelly when he sees or talks to her or the one who has to beg her to give him hope of love.

hmmmm....sad...but true..

My brother...........all i have to tell u now is stay focus and leave that girl sharp sharp! If u want to know or hear from me now, de girl is a gaol (another man has won her heart already) so just space her for now and focus on ur studies. That is my little advice brother; let us not hear bad news that u don go commit suicide o bcuz girls of now adays are terrible.

U should also focus on your mind on good days ahead. Your final year project and your service year. Definitely you will meet a far better lady, who will make you forget this your lost girlfriend

This is why nairalanders gets feed up with some folks you asked for a sincere and candid advice and 90% percentage of good people on nairalanders said you should move on but your response "it's not easy bro" not easy to let go off a gal who is technically cheating on you, if based on your story the gal in question is under pressure with other guy, who perhaps has been showering her with gifts and money, if she truly loves you no amount of money, gifts will make fall so cheaply, you saw the handwriting on the wall like the biblical story " MENE!! MENE!!! and you are still asking for reasons, you said you are in your finals right?? That means you should graduating and be preparing for your NYSC my candid advice let her go else she will hurt you more some gals don't worth kill onself over graduate, go for your NYSC pray hard get a good job move look at the bright side of life, trust in no time she will come back on her begging you to have her back by then you would have step up to another level gals are elevators the higher you move up the better you meet some of the best of them don't kill yourself before a gal kills you!!!

united442:


okay..thanks alot...

please if i dnt delete her number and other stuff about her,i cant completely get her off my head na.
i will be tempted to call or text her.,so i think they are right..though it will hurt me d more,bt i think its also the first step i should take if am to recover on time..or what do think?

people differ, as for me if I delete her number it would hurt me more. The first thing to do is to remove your heart from anything concerning her(what's the need of deleting her number, pics and all while you still have everything in your heart and still thinking of her..you are deceiving your self)...why deleting her number immediately? Is she your enemy?

kollinzgee:


am sure you are not yet in a higher institution .if you are you are not up 3.1 gp.if you cant read such a short writeup.

fool.. you think everyone here is an undergraduate like you kids...

If this is love , I am sure I will not have anything to do with it... I remembered d last tym I begged a lady I regretted doing that..

Engr1:
My brother...........all i have to tell u now is stay focus and leave that girl sharp sharp! If u want to know or hear from me now, de girl is a gaol (another man has won her heart already) so just space her for now and focus on ur studies. That is my little advice brother; let us not hear bad news that u don go commit suicide o bcuz girls of now adays are terrible.

lolxx...suicide?heheheh...i wouldn't try that? for wetti naa

Irenemmeso:
people differ, as for me if I delete her number it would hurt me more. The first thing to do is to remove your heart from anything concerning her(what's the need of deleting her number, pics and all while you still have everything in your heart and still thinking of her..you are deceiving your self)...why deleting her number immediately? Is she your enemy?

okay...have heard you..thanks.

drezzyx:
If this is love , I am sure I will not have anything to do with it...
I remembered d last tym I begged a lady I regretted doing that..

menh...its freaking hurt...
i dnt think i will go into it again..till am ready.

davidadenrele:
This is why nairalanders gets feed up with some folks you asked for a sincere and candid advice and 90% percentage of good people on nairalanders said you should move on but your response "it's not easy bro" not easy to let go off a gal who is technically cheating on you, if based on your story the gal in question is under pressure with other guy, who perhaps has been showering her with gifts and money, if she truly loves you no amount of money, gifts will make fall so cheaply, you saw the handwriting on the wall like the biblical story " MENE!! MENE!!! and you are still asking for reasons, you said you are in your finals right?? That means you should graduating and be preparing for your NYSC my candid advice let her go else she will hurt you more some gals don't worth kill onself over graduate, go for your NYSC pray hard get a good job move look at the bright side of life, trust in no time she will come back on her begging you to have her back by then you would have step up to another level gals are elevators the higher you move up the better you meet some of the best of them don't kill yourself before a gal kills you!!!

thanks alot for this manh..
i strongly believe she is under pressure with the other guy.

As hard as it may seem, give her space...put her at arms length. Reduce your calls (resist the urge to call her often). And when she calls, don't pick up, then call back in 1hr.

When she sends you a chat, delay in responding also. You need to stop acting like your life depends on her. She knows you are crazy about her and she is taking advantage of that.

All these things are not easy to do, but it will help you get your respect back or move on.

Nothing more to Say

The professors don talk

ImaIma1:
As hard as it may seem, give her space...put her at arms length. Reduce your calls (resist the urge to call her often). And when she calls, don't pick up, then call back in 1hr.

When she sends you a chat, delay in responding also. You need to stop acting like your life depends on her. She knows you are crazy about her and she is taking advantage of that.

All these things are not easy to do, but it will help you get your respect back or move on.

wow...i will score u 90/100
its if u u were in middle of our chat yesterday because everything you just said is actually true..
i do exactly what u said...
thanks alotssss...

Fidelismaria:
Nothing more to Say
The professors don talk

abi oo..anyway thanks.

Please can anyone help with the phone number of MANI (mental health awareness) please its very urgent and important

Onequietgirl:
Please can anyone help with the phone number of MANI (mental health awareness) please its very urgent and important

lolxxx
babe hope it has nothing to do with me oh

Don't beg a woman to love you or stay with you cos u will slave to her. The hand writings are on the wall , Use your tongue to count your teeth .

aprilwise:
Don't beg a woman to love you or stay with you cos u will slave to her. The hand writings are on the wall , Use your tongue to count your teeth .

okay sir..
thank u vry much for this..

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lolxxx
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NO im serious please. Someone on the verhe of loosimg it needs this..

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lolxxx
babe hope it has nothing to do with me oh[/quote]

NO im serious please. Someone on the verge of loosing it needs this..

Irenemmeso:
Op, there is 98% chances that the girl would leave you soon! I'm sorry, it hurts
You said you have been dating her for 5years now and you both are still schooling under your parents care. My dear the gal is not seeing any future with you, but she is seeing a future with the other guy who is independent and telling her about marriage.



















Loll don't mind me ooo, this is mere assumption
Face your studies dear, don't let this affect your studies ok

U want make that guy die baa?

Easy o

Bro, let me tell you the undiluted truth. Tell her it's over before she does. The signs are too clear the relationship won't last. She is obviously dating another guy and she can't love two guys at same time. I know you love her, shit happens. But for you not to feel heartbroken for so much and start having evil thoughts in your mind maybe for revenge or whatever it's better you act fast.

Break up with her now before she does.

E go pain gan you if she is the one to say it's over

OP it’s obvious that she is gone but not yet official. What I usually do in this situation is to dump her first. Flaunt another babe before her and don’t give a fvck. Once she starts calling to harass you regarding the babe, don’t pick her calls, just blank her.. Then she will be the one begging for your attention. That’s why it’s good as a guy if you’re dating, just keep some close babes by the side incase.

davidflipcy5856:
Bro, let me tell you the undiluted truth. Tell her it's over before she does. The signs are too clear the relationship won't last. She is obviously dating another guy and she can't love two guys at same time. I know you love her, shit happens. But for you not to feel heartbroken for so much and start having evil thoughts in your mind maybe for revenge or whatever it's better you act fast.

Break up with her now before she does.

E go pain gan you if she is the one to say it's over

thankss..true words..i will keep that in mind..

CyberWolf:
OP it’s obvious that she is gone but not yet official. What I usually do in this situation is to dump her first. Flaunt another babe before her and don’t give a fvck. Once she starts calling to harass you regarding the babe, don’t pick her calls, just blank her.. Then she will be the one begging for your attention. That’s why it’s good as a guy if you’re dating, just keep some close babes by the side incase.

okay..thankss..true truee

First thread I've seen in a while where 90%of responses make sense.

Op like others have said it is clear she has feelings for the other guy and has partially made up her mind to date him.

What you need to do now is break up with her but not after an argument, just make it a very civil break up, tell her you don't feel a connection anymore because you think her head is somewhere else.

Then cut her off for 30 days, don't call or Whatsapp or engage her on social media, if she msgs you or calls don't pick up, make sure in this time you are doing something productive with your life, study , make new friends, go to the gym just make sure you're being positive.

If she doesn't come back to you before the 30days are up then you can move on with your life. This has worked for me time and time again.