AkataWoman:

Awww...So sweet to see you speak of your aunties in that way.

One Nigerian guy told me that he was amazed at the lengths we go through to learn about their culture and what makes them happy. He was shocked that his BA girlfriend went on youtube to learn about his culture and how to make a few of his favorite Nigerian dishes. I was thinking 'Okaaaayyy...How is that a surprise to you? ANY woman would do that for her man, but okay. Glad you're easily impressed." Apparently, the BAs he dated were the only ones who did that. (Then again, many of us are about reconnecting with our roots anyway.)

And I don't mind the word akata, as I know it to be an innocuous term for African-American.

iammo:




How did this lovely thread to share cultural knowledge and dispell untrue beliefs and rumors go south, kindly ignore such unnecessary arguments and tell us more about Black American Woman, for one thing I love how you stand your ground firmly

AkataWoman:
I’ve seen and heard several things from Nigerian men about akatas. It’s usually that we’re good for sex only or if they’re in a relationship it comes down to them not having their stuff together enough to date Nigerian women. I was shown a video where several married to/dating said they were surprised at how attentive and loving we are to our mates. They believe it’s because so many of us grow up without fathers that we love having a man in our lives.

Why can’t you just admit your stereotypes about black American women was just WRONG! I believe it comes from growing up in a backward culture that believes because we aren’t circumcised or have virginity checks done on us we must be promiscuous.

Ok. So you’re being told this while growing up in Africa. I get it. (The funny thing is that at the same time in America black American women are viewed as the least promiscuous). But once you’re here and see how hardworking and loyal (often to men who don’t deserve it) we are, why continue to try to stereotype us even as you date us? I think some of it is the Nigerian stubborn pride. You MUST be culturally superior to akatas.

At what point will you find it okay to say: We had them all wrong?

BlackAdam55:
I think black American women are cool and all, but my only problem with them is that, they are too sexually active. apart from that, i think they are ok my opinion tho.

AkataWoman:


It’s so sad to see so much jealousy-based hate of BA women because out of any group in the world we’d be the ones most likely to give you our last dime and the shirts off our backs.

I’m sure you saw the post about the BA woman who just had a Nigerian slide into her DMs and propose marriage so he can escape his country, saying they can divorce afterwards. She refused but is helping him get into school over here. That sums up who we are. We’ll do anything to help anybody(especially a black man) because we understand struggle and needing help.

I just saw the movie based on the true story The Best of Enemies. This black woman went out of her way to pull strings and get help for this racist white man who was opposing her attempts at integrating schools in the ‘70’s. I think she was mainly moved because there was a child involved but he would’ve never done that for her. They ended up becoming lifelong friends. She even spoke at his funeral. We understand the healing power of love. Some of us make the mistake of thinking we can love the most broken (black man) into healing and end up learning the hard way.

We’re also the most educated group in America. We believe we have to ‘get it for ourselves’ instead of waiting on a man to do it for us. That’s likely why BA women and Nigerian men make such great partners-both hardworking and goal-driven. And when that Nigerian man appreciates your education instead of resenting it, WOW!

Many BA women are world travelers these days as well which makes us more open minded about other cultures. And Nigerians tend to travel quite a bit because they have friends and family events to attend all over the world. Another plus for the BA woman!

iammo:


Although this fact might mean nothing, but even on forbes list of black billionares Two Nigerian Men top the list (dangote and adenuga) and oprah a black american tops the female list while alakija a Nigerian woman is the second yet there over 100s of countries across the globe with black decendants.

I think black american women should start exploring love and spouses out of their black commuinity, south african hardworking women are already dumping their less ambitious others rather than get drag into having baby daddies and spouses behind bars. I can bet my last cent that if the dm dude gets to US he might just become a top professional after graduation

edi287:

Oh cool. Just asking as the tension between ADOS and black african/Caribbean immigrants is starting to get crazy (at least on social media) and one of the things mentioned is how nigerians call them akata.

iammo:


Although this fact might mean nothing, but even on forbes list of black billionares Two Nigerian Men top the list (dangote and adenuga) and oprah a black american tops the female list while alakija a Nigerian woman is the second yet there over 100s of countries across the globe with black decendants.

I think black american women should start exploring love and spouses out of their black commuinity, south african hardworking women are already dumping their less ambitious others rather than get drag into having baby daddies and spouses behind bars.

I can bet my last cent that if the dm dude gets to US he might just become a top professional after graduation.

it's even in the traits of some African Ancestral tribe for women to be extremely good at multi tasking, and been hardworking while some of their men booze all day






.

AkataWoman:


And speaking of the 4 black billionaires you mentioned on the Forbes list, who’s the most charitable? You guessed it! Oprah. The BLACK AMERICAN WOMEN.

She’s put THOUSANDS of black men through our top university for black men here in the US, Morehouse and built the school for girls in South Africa-among other things.

Black American women rich or poor are always doing for others. My sister and I do okay but we aren’t rich. However we’ve been giving and helping in Haiti for YEARS. She just returned from there on Tuesday. She goes several times per year.

So for people to come in this thread and try to shyt on the very people who would give you their last...Sad.

Backfornow:


I doubt she really understands the origin or original translation given by Yorubas of the word.
I could be wrong.

iammo:


Although this fact might mean nothing, but even on forbes list of black billionares Two Nigerian Men top the list (dangote and adenuga) and oprah a black american tops the female list while alakija a Nigerian woman is the second yet there over 100s of countries across the globe with black decendants.

I think black american women should start exploring love and spouses out of their black commuinity, south african hardworking women are already dumping their less ambitious others rather than get drag into having baby daddies and spouses behind bars.

I can bet my last cent that if the dm dude gets to US he might just become a top professional after graduation.

it's even in the traits of some African Ancestral tribe for women to be extremely good at multi tasking, and been hardworking while some of their men booze all day






.

Bojack:
This is more like African Americans vs Nigerians

iammo:


Oprah is actually quite charitable even more than most on the list, this reflects on the kind motherly side

I just have a few questions,;
Whats this "sell out" we here when BA marry outside of the black commiumity

Then some BA dont consider themselves African, Even many Black carrabean, they have this impression africa is like a country and not race or continent. I noticed this when Jcole came to lagos days after his album lunch, and the crowd was sold out with fans singing along . On twitter many blacks were supprised to see us with iphones and vibing to jcole, so many unnessary comments were made and I noted BA not wanting to be called african, why is this

And lastly what Nigerian food have you tried (I recomemd jollof rice) and do listen to afropop

2buffagain:
Some Akata women are Good.
Just stay away from the ratchet ones.

If she is educated, respectful and doesn't dress like a nak3d clown, she can get it.

edi287:

I didn't know too. I always thought it was the naija word for "ratchet" - I didn't know some people called ALL black Americans that word.

AkataWoman:

Is “Who broke your heart?” a canned response you keep in your back pocket? This is not about anyone’s heart being broken. On the contrary, all of the Nigerian men are happy with their Akata wives and girlfriends. But their reasonings are backhanded compliments: They’ll accept me as less than my best, they had no fathers. That’s what makes us great mates. Like, just admit we’re wonderful and that the stereotypes you believed were wrong.

And many Nigerian women not being circumcised is not the same as a culture where NO women have ever been circumcised. I can see how coming from such a tradition would give some the idea that “THOSE black women are loose because they don’t participate in this culture.” And it’s not a National Geographic crap. Didn’t Linda Ikeja(?) admit to having it done?

AkataWoman:


So now an AA man speaking in a park is the defining authority on how AA women are viewed in America? Lol! The laughs I’m getting right now! You can’t make this stuff up! If I wasn’t reading this with my own eyes, I wouldn’t believe people can be this silly.

‘Baby mama” is definitely an AA term. Our twist on “single mother” which pertains to women of ALL races. While single motherhood is definitely a thing in the black community, it has less to do with the women being widely promiscuous and more to do with them giving themselves to the wrong man-something I’ve addressed. Those same baby mama will often go to school and work their asses off to take care of those children on her own.

None of what you claim disputes the fact that AA women are good, loving partners who go all out for their men. And Nigerian men are realizing this.

renewa29:
I think we can also use some of Trump's unguarded comments in the past to steer this discussion into focus.

I do remember Donald Trump made a comment about BA being only good at sex.



He is the president of the U.S.A isn't he?

Is there a need for one better than he, to make such a generalization? He is obviously biased, but he's also old enough to have experienced such occurrences.

Reading through this thread I see you live in DC/Maryland.

I would prefer someone who grew up in Illinois, Texas or New York, where there are larger Nigerian and African populations to comment.

Without pulling out stats, do remember Nigerians are virtually the second largest population of educated immigrants in the U. S. A.

lilwetdick:
Ladies and gentlemen without wasting ur precious time, i love black women especially black american women.

@akatawoman, where can i get a black american woman without kids?

AkataWoman:


Are you in the US?

If so, try colleges/universities (depending on your age), churches, professional organizations, on the job. They’re everywhere! I know quite a few who became single moms in their 40’s because they couldn’t wait on a good husband anymore and wanted babies. I also know of 2 40 & 50 something year old virgins. Cute ladies but Christians who’ve been waiting on God to send their husbands.

AkataWoman:


Not familiar with Trump ever saying BAs are only good at sex. Please post the video. It was never said. But even if he did (which NO American has heard of), that doesn’t make him an authority. It would make him one person with an OPINION. Please learn the difference between FACT and OPINION.

And I don’t need to be from a large Nigerian community to pose the question I do in this thread: Why can’t Nigerian men just admit BA women make great mates (without the insulting reasons).

AND, they DID! Every Nigerian person in this thread married to or related to a BA woman through marriage agree we make “superb” wives.

Nigerians are actually the 6th most educated minority group in the US-a placement that changes. (BA women have held that #1 spot consistently.) However, it can’t be denied that many, many Africans in the US value education, have degrees and good careers. That’s just one of the things that make African/Nigerian men and BA women compatible.

AkataWoman:


My understanding is that it simply means African American (and distinguishes us from Nigerians).

Scenario:
Guy sees a girl at a Nigerian party and asks his friend if he knows her. Friend says, "Yeah, she goes to my sister's school. She's akata" because we all look alike.

Backfornow:


It is a slur. People are not being intellectually honest with you. It is not a good look for you to be embracing that term.

2buffagain:


Nope, wrong.

Black American women might as well be a slur.
The issue is the stereotype.

There is a negative stereotype of Asian men having smaller Dicks. That stereotype does not change simply because you have people call them "Oriental" men instead of Asian men. You would just be deceiving yourself for yourself as That's not dealing with the problem.

AkataWoman is doing it the right way... Engaging in discussion.

AkataWoman:


Not familiar with Trump ever saying BAs are only good at sex. Please post the video. It was never said. But even if he did (which NO American has heard of), that doesn’t make him an authority. It would make him one person with an OPINION. Please learn the difference between FACT and OPINION.

And I don’t need to be from a large Nigerian community to pose the question I do in this thread: Why can’t Nigerian men just admit BA women make great mates (without the insulting reasons).

AND, they DID! Every Nigerian person in this thread married to or related to a BA woman through marriage agree we make “superb” wives.

Nigerians are actually the 6th most educated minority group in the US-a placement that changes. (BA women have held that #1 spot consistently.) However, it can’t be denied that many, many Africans in the US value education, have degrees and good careers. That’s just one of the things that make African/Nigerian men and BA women compatible.