Nofavorss:
I like you already. You pay attention. I thought I was the only person who noticed the ‘pole’

Your man should be allowed to call everyone who chats mature dear. You don’t want him to beat you to teach you that. Do you?

My boss just like people that chat matured. Nothing more

Adviseasister:


Not desperation, those were the things we talked about. I am sorry if I am beginning to sound like the proverbial stubborn fly.

I hope I don't hurt myself. The pain is too much for me.

ojun50:
I think you should give him a surprise visit nd discuss tins with him befor you take that finer decision

Adviseasister:
Good evening Nairalanders,

I had to create a new moniker for this, but I believe my guy will know this is for him.

Sometime last year I received a PM from a nlder. After going through his posts, I was pleased and we started talking. One thing led to another and we started a relationship. I must confess he is everything a woman wants in a man, he brought out this part of me I never knew existed and he did it so easily. We started seeing a future, I was happy.

Fast forward to February this year, I noticed a decline in communication. I complained and he blamed it on work. It continued and I had to ask what the problem is, he maintained it was work.

By March, things got worse and I have not been able to concentrate at work. I send him voice-notes and he responds hours later. I send messages and he responds with one word. I must also add he doesn't pick my calls at night anymore, but his NL profile would be seen online, though he won't comment.

I do not know what to do as I can't bring myself to love someone else as I love him. It is a long distance relationship and I do not know what to do. Is it possible he is facing challenges there and doesn't want to share?

Should I wait for him to come around or move on? Has anyone been in this situation before, how did you manage it? I feel so heartbroken.

Royalty01:


Don’t hurt yourself, I am standing by to propose to you ASAP. I’ve lived abroad and now back home to help develop this nation. You are a good girl and I’ve once been in your current situation. I know that feeling. It’s only a matter of time which heals all wounds. Switch your mind, go out to exercise and read personal development books, go to fellowship, serve God in a Church where His presence can be felt. You will thank me later.

Adviseasister:


It is painful seeing him online.

About 3weeks ago, he was flirting with one female user, while ignoring my WhatsApp messages. This is someone that rarely comments. I don't know what to do again.

Nnaabros:
But how does one love a person they've never met?
You fell in 'love' just from his online post, texts, phone calls?

The word love has been so misused these days that it has become almost meaningless

One day, when you become more emotionally mature, you'll wake up and realise you're simply INFACTUATED. In 'love' with an idea, a fantasy.

No man has 'everything a woman wants'

bamidelee:

pls ask adaibeku, her step sisters heart was broken recently and she's and she's a winch she can give you some winch power too.

Adviseasister:
He just sent me a screenshot of some posts, asking me if that is what I really think about him. If he is the man described in that post. He is kind of angry the thread made front page and got to this stage. He thinks the advices here are too harsh and would worsen a bad situation.

We have agreed to both go off NL and work things out like two people without the influence of NL.

I am sorry for bringing it here boo. It all started here, so I thought we could also ask for their opinion. You told me we would post our pre-wedding pictures to encourage other Nlders. What happened to all that?

Adviseasister:


No, I haven't. We were working towards that, but look at where we are now. We talked last night and he apologized, that was after seeing this thread. He said some advices here would destroy what we share.

jackals:


Mature ladies fall in love with guys that have sense. Go secure one and you'll see

meobizy:

I had to create a new moniker to reply your comment, so here it goes: 43? You’re even generous.
I still stand my ground on this place being populated by only twenty active characters and the rest being alternates coupled with banned accounts.
The BetNaija guy has up to a million banned accounts and some trolls run into the high hundreds.
I also know this isn’t your only account and the creator of this forum has more than ten alternates.
It makes me understand why a lot of people brag about us being 1% of Nigeria’s population yet I still can’t find anyone who knows of this place.

Sanchez01:


With this post however, it is safe to say you clearly don't have sense.

Adviseasister:
Good evening Nairalanders,

I had to create a new moniker for this, but I believe my guy will know this is for him.

Sometime last year I received a PM from a nlder. After going through his posts, I was pleased and we started talking. One thing led to another and we started a relationship. I must confess he is everything a woman wants in a man, he brought out this part of me I never knew existed and he did it so easily. We started seeing a future, I was happy.

Fast forward to February this year, I noticed a decline in communication. I complained and he blamed it on work. It continued and I had to ask what the problem is, he maintained it was work.

By March, things got worse and I have not been able to concentrate at work. I send him voice-notes and he responds hours later. I send messages and he responds with one word. I must also add he doesn't pick my calls at night anymore, but his NL profile would be seen online, though he won't comment.

I do not know what to do as I can't bring myself to love someone else as I love him. It is a long distance relationship and I do not know what to do. Is it possible he is facing challenges there and doesn't want to share?

Should I wait for him to come around or move on? Has anyone been in this situation before, how did you manage it? I feel so heartbroken.

olaBC007:
Why am I having this feeling that toyorsih is the OP

Adviseasister:
He just sent me a screenshot of some posts, asking me if that is what I really think about him. If he is the man described in that post. He is kind of angry the thread made front page and got to this stage. He thinks the advices here are too harsh and would worsen a bad situation.

We have agreed to both go off NL and work things out like two people without the influence of NL.

I am sorry for bringing it here boo. It all started here, so I thought we could also ask for their opinion. You told me we would post our pre-wedding pictures to encourage other Nlders. What happened to all that?

Tripitaka:

You may want to check my previous posts today about this.

I maintain that NL do not have up to 100k active users. Out of that over 2m users you see eh, about 1.5m are alternates. Even the moderators have alternates.

czarina:
oh, you noticed that "pole" talk too?


I don't want him to beat me, let us use magun instead. That way, we'll not be worried about people in rooms chatting matured snatching him.

Reelmii:
we are saying the same thing

Adviseasister:


It is painful seeing him online.

About 3weeks ago, he was flirting with one female user, while ignoring my WhatsApp messages. This is someone that rarely comments. I don't know what to do again.

Adaibeku:
pls let my depressed witch step sista koyyes enjoy her new found love in piss ,

Adviseasister:
Good evening Nairalanders,

I had to create a new moniker for this, but I believe my guy will know this is for him.

Sometime last year I received a PM from a nlder. After going through his posts, I was pleased and we started talking. One thing led to another and we started a relationship. I must confess he is everything a woman wants in a man, he brought out this part of me I never knew existed and he did it so easily. We started seeing a future, I was happy.

Fast forward to February this year, I noticed a decline in communication. I complained and he blamed it on work. It continued and I had to ask what the problem is, he maintained it was work.

By March, things got worse and I have not been able to concentrate at work. I send him voice-notes and he responds hours later. I send messages and he responds with one word. I must also add he doesn't pick my calls at night anymore, but his NL profile would be seen online, though he won't comment.

I do not know what to do as I can't bring myself to love someone else as I love him. It is a long distance relationship and I do not know what to do. Is it possible he is facing challenges there and doesn't want to share?

Should I wait for him to come around or move on? Has anyone been in this situation before, how did you manage it? I feel so heartbroken.

Adviseasister:


I haven't collected money from him. He sends me flowers at work though, brightens up my day. How do I explain it to my colleagues, they were all rooting for us.

Adviseasister:


No, I haven't. We were working towards that, but look at where we are now. We talked last night and he apologized, that was after seeing this thread. He said some advices here would destroy what we share.

Adviseasister:
He just sent me a screenshot of some posts, asking me if that is what I really think about him. If he is the man described in that post. He is kind of angry the thread made front page and got to this stage. He thinks the advices here are too harsh and would worsen a bad situation.

We have agreed to both go off NL and work things out like two people without the influence of NL.

I am sorry for bringing it here boo. It all started here, so I thought we could also ask for their opinion. You told me we would post our pre-wedding pictures to encourage other Nlders. What happened to all that?

Adviseasister:
Good evening Nairalanders,

I had to create a new moniker for this, but I believe my guy will know this is for him.

Sometime last year I received a PM from a nlder. After going through his posts, I was pleased and we started talking. One thing led to another and we started a relationship. I must confess he is everything a woman wants in a man, he brought out this part of me I never knew existed and he did it so easily. We started seeing a future, I was happy.

Fast forward to February this year, I noticed a decline in communication. I complained and he blamed it on work. It continued and I had to ask what the problem is, he maintained it was work.

By March, things got worse and I have not been able to concentrate at work. I send him voice-notes and he responds hours later. I send messages and he responds with one word. I must also add he doesn't pick my calls at night anymore, but his NL profile would be seen online, though he won't comment.

I do not know what to do as I can't bring myself to love someone else as I love him. It is a long distance relationship and I do not know what to do. Is it possible he is facing challenges there and doesn't want to share?

Should I wait for him to come around or move on? Has anyone been in this situation before, how did you manage it? I feel so heartbroken.