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Re: Should I Stay With My Parents And Invest Or Should I Leave? Advice Needed by Raxxye(m): 10:13pm On Jul 11, 2019 |
Guy, remain with your parents. You obviously have no issues with it neither do your parents. The people who have issues with it are those that it really shouldn't concern; your colleagues! You need to ask yourself if you are there to please yourself or others. 1 Like |
Re: Should I Stay With My Parents And Invest Or Should I Leave? Advice Needed by Teeneyo(m): 10:14pm On Jul 11, 2019 |
Hotzone:I run my own business I settle my own bills U r just lucky u dont av peeps dt put u down at every chance dey get. 2 Likes |
Re: Should I Stay With My Parents And Invest Or Should I Leave? Advice Needed by NkemChukwudi: 10:14pm On Jul 11, 2019 |
naijjaman: This is one of the manipulative dogshit that has been fed into all Nigerian child. This nonsense is not true. This lie is the reason many abled men and women in their senior age refuse to work when they still can. Unless you wrote a letter to them to born you into this world. 6 Likes |
Re: Should I Stay With My Parents And Invest Or Should I Leave? Advice Needed by virgindesy(m): 10:15pm On Jul 11, 2019 |
You this guy, You must be high on something. Are u serious? With so many national issues we have in this country, u still bring this kind issue up for us to help u decided... U must be taking something that is not good for your system when u decided to come here and ask us this rubbish question. |
Re: Should I Stay With My Parents And Invest Or Should I Leave? Advice Needed by Conquerdem1: 10:15pm On Jul 11, 2019 |
Am 28. Dad n mom splitted couple of years ago after more than 35yrs of marriage. All my elder ones are married and I’ve got one junior Sis. Ever since mom left since two years now. Dad hasn’t been giving me any attention or talk to me since I came back from school 4years ago even before mom left. He goes on his own cos he’s got a Pussy outside but scared to bring her home cos of what ppu in the area will say cos he’s a churchy person and no one expected it. The pussy caused their fight and mom had to move to her own house that she built. I’m tired of the area too and I really wanna move out for greener pasture. I’ve gotten my own rented apartment but don’t know how to tell him cos I don’t think he believes in me but always imagining how am surviving without him. He’s 67 and sometimes am not always happy my mom and Dad are not together. I just want to move on with my life. Someone help me. I need work!! And Gods grace to make it cos nija no easy |
Re: Should I Stay With My Parents And Invest Or Should I Leave? Advice Needed by Saintino111(m): 10:23pm On Jul 11, 2019 |
Hullabaloon:120k in Anambra? Where exactly... In Onitsha 120 to 100k is for well built 1bedroom flat |
Re: Should I Stay With My Parents And Invest Or Should I Leave? Advice Needed by AnthonyAk(m): 10:24pm On Jul 11, 2019 |
Hullabaloon: 400k is not money oh , if u can stay at home and save do it oh! Just need to set boundaries with ur parents 3 Likes |
Re: Should I Stay With My Parents And Invest Or Should I Leave? Advice Needed by ediko5(m): 10:27pm On Jul 11, 2019 |
MasterRahl: My achiever what have you really achieved.? What is your investment? Don't you know that all fingers are not equal, we are talking about securing his tomorrow's financial status. I have seen many family men who were well to do left 3 bedroom flats apartment to a self contain in port Harcourt due to lost of jobs. Some even sold the house they built and move to a rented apartment. Stop bragging your little mouth cos you are yet to experience life. 6 Likes |
Re: Should I Stay With My Parents And Invest Or Should I Leave? Advice Needed by Magnumproperty: 10:31pm On Jul 11, 2019 |
Hullabaloon: Why not get a land and start your own building? Tell your dad about the plan. Instead of wasting money renting an accommodation. We can get you a genuine plot of land in Ifo, Ogun state, at the rate of 350k. Then you can start your building even if it is a 3 bedroom flat. |
Re: Should I Stay With My Parents And Invest Or Should I Leave? Advice Needed by Halo22: 10:32pm On Jul 11, 2019 |
Guy to be frank, you are a good economist if you really mean you saved 400k in less than a year and from a salary not up to 100k monthly. I give you kudos, considering the state of the economy of the country. I advise you stay more with ur people, save more money close to 2mil and most importantly, explore a business that is easy to operate and invest in it. It z true that you said you don't have a passion in that area, but these days, nothing pays like being an entrepreneur. Don't forget ur job doesn't have security. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Should I Stay With My Parents And Invest Or Should I Leave? Advice Needed by Rockers4l: 10:32pm On Jul 11, 2019 |
My broda I advice you to leave ur parents place and find an apartment you can afford, I am from anambra(onitsha to be precise) with the same age bracket and I was faced with this kind of predicament. The truth is u can survive leaving alone but fear of not being able to pay for rent is what is drawing u back from taking a bolder step. Staying alone will give u more clarity and determination to push forward, knowing that u have a bill to pay makes u to dare for more. Don't give in to this fear. Nothing grows in ur comfort zone Nwannem nalie, find ur apartment and u have peace of mind. Parents can frustrate person well well 7 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Should I Stay With My Parents And Invest Or Should I Leave? Advice Needed by Olivyabrown: 10:34pm On Jul 11, 2019 |
Hi OP. Just stumbled on your thread and think I should give you my perspective. I was in your position sometime ago. The responses were spot on. I mean considering your earning capacity. It's a good thing that you have developed a savings culture. Kudos to you. Maintain that. It will definitely help in the future. However your main goal should be how to increase your earnings maybe by starting something by the side , learning a new skill that can earn you money or getting a job that pays better. See, there is a limit to how much you can currently save. Don't abandon the idea of leaving (you can postpone till you increase your earnings) and don't wait till you are ready for marriage. The earlier responses considered only the cost leaving out the value. Living independently comes with its own benefits also. I get your parents angle. They are just trying to protect you. That's what parents do. But soon , they might not be so cool with that if they start seeing your age mates getting married and living in their own houses (Considering your age). That's when the real pressure will come. Waiting till marriage is not advisable cos marriage comes with its own cost and responsibilities. My advice is increase your income as soon as possible and start building your life. Good luck 1 Like |
Re: Should I Stay With My Parents And Invest Or Should I Leave? Advice Needed by Nobody: 10:34pm On Jul 11, 2019 |
Then life will be boring to u, huh, joke |
Re: Should I Stay With My Parents And Invest Or Should I Leave? Advice Needed by 2blockus: 10:36pm On Jul 11, 2019 |
ediko5: Does staying in his perent place guarantee him his job? infact it will make him to feel more comfortable that he is seeing money. let go out of the house so he will understand that 400k is a small money and hustle harder for his future and stop thinking like those lazy Nigerians who are comfortable with there perent wealth. 6 Likes |
Re: Should I Stay With My Parents And Invest Or Should I Leave? Advice Needed by Nobody: 10:37pm On Jul 11, 2019 |
Hullabaloon:then life will be boring na, am i wrong? |
Re: Should I Stay With My Parents And Invest Or Should I Leave? Advice Needed by Nobody: 10:37pm On Jul 11, 2019 |
nuelyoyo: Whats the ROI on government treasury bills? |
Re: Should I Stay With My Parents And Invest Or Should I Leave? Advice Needed by Nobody: 10:38pm On Jul 11, 2019 |
franchasng: Word. You sabi 3 Likes |
Re: Should I Stay With My Parents And Invest Or Should I Leave? Advice Needed by Nobody: 10:40pm On Jul 11, 2019 |
Successmind: Your brain only works when you're alone? 1 Like |
Re: Should I Stay With My Parents And Invest Or Should I Leave? Advice Needed by Nobody: 10:40pm On Jul 11, 2019 |
Duggedised12: Are you 2Dugged? |
Re: Should I Stay With My Parents And Invest Or Should I Leave? Advice Needed by IamSoProlific: 10:41pm On Jul 11, 2019 |
Abcruz: Lol. I no understand this your proverb ooo, are you saying the last person to advice OP on these is the master while OP is the slave Meanwhile, hullabaloon, people have said it all, when I made my first million, I wished I'm in the same city as my parents, so I will stay with them, they have loads of empty rooms, mom can look for my troubles attimes by wanting me to always be around her more like girlfriend boyfriend stuff, but the fact is, I saw those as fun. I was sober and pained we aren't in the same city because I had loads of stuffs to invest on, but I limited them because I was pushed to get a place despite staying with a family member(you can't compare parental love with that of family member) So bro, you're lucky to have yours around. Stay with them till marriage calls, family value is gold regardless. 3 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Should I Stay With My Parents And Invest Or Should I Leave? Advice Needed by cnonyechi(f): 10:42pm On Jul 11, 2019 |
Stay with ur parents till u are very very boyant and ready to get married. Ur parents stay in a rented place u also want to go and rent ur own, hum double expenses. Unless they give u problems dats ur parents pls stay put. And save ur money for a better life 1 Like |
Re: Should I Stay With My Parents And Invest Or Should I Leave? Advice Needed by neyobills: 10:44pm On Jul 11, 2019 |
MasterRahl: Stay!!! There is no economic logic in your leaving to rent Your own because your parents also rent which would mean double rental fees in the same proximity doesn't make any economic sense,it would have been better if they have owned the place,stay and save more till your can, build a place for the family. In my opinion I see now, shame in staying with your parents for as long as, u would have loved, that's why they were your parents in the first instance as, long as u are not a liability,i have a 52 friend who worked for AT&T for decades he, stayed with his mom till she passed some few months ago,now he is retired, single, never married, his credit score is in the sky he could buy a condo with a, snap of his finger plus his retirement benefits in the picture, he could never go wrong, why did he choose to stay because he had to be, there for his aged mom, even though he could afford a senior home for here, stay, there because u need to be there for your parents at least. Even in saner countries Italy for an example even billionaire mafia bosses stay with their folks, till they pass doesn't mean they can't have other real, estate investments if they choose to,besides it's cheaper for you so what else u need than, save more and achieve your goals. If it's freedom for ladies no lady born of a woman will ever love u as much as your mom if she is around besides she would be able to help screen out the not so, Good ladies with her experience and woman eye self. However I don't know the inconvenience and the situation you are facing so do whatever makes u happy anyway. LA Familia Family is everything. It's the mafia code. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Should I Stay With My Parents And Invest Or Should I Leave? Advice Needed by febble: 10:47pm On Jul 11, 2019 |
lol neyobills: |
Re: Should I Stay With My Parents And Invest Or Should I Leave? Advice Needed by Nobody: 10:48pm On Jul 11, 2019 |
Don't let any thing deceive u..u can start now and grow on ur own...Those telling u to Save more..Ask them how much have they saved?!My guy if u die today wetin u gain?!All those talking abt u Staying and contributing to the upkeep of the house,missed it...its better u're on ur own then send money to them when u can since they ain't the bothering type. Ur parents are nice but don't let it fool u...The time must come when Obi has to be a Man. I was like u at 26yrs after my youth service...It wasn't funny,Urs are nice coz my own parents branded me a Lazy man...I would go downstairs to check whats cooking just sighting me in the kitchen my mum would ask if i kept anything in the ppot?My Dad would quarrel with me for bringing friends around...it went on and on for good 2yrs,at some point i would sleep at friends or relatives.Just to have that peace of mind...Couldn't even bring some male friends to the house talk less of babe. When i finally got a Job,i didn't wait til i had up to 400k like u...I rented a self-cont,bought a mattress and slept there in and some times at my parents til it was fully furnished and comfortable...Today,I visit my parents when i want and they beg for me to pass the night at theirs,Its been a decade tho..To cut the long story short. My guy nothing is certain in this Life...U have to take the bull by the horn...It can only get better...Let no one chose for u...Its ur call...For ur info i started as a contract staff with 98k per month with a company that was even threatening to leave naija the following Year...Thats to say the Job was not stable but that was just what i needed to be a man of my own. Like someone said: On ur own u make mistakes and learn especially with Friends and Women. Like they say"Its Better late than never but never too late is Better." 7 Likes |
Re: Should I Stay With My Parents And Invest Or Should I Leave? Advice Needed by Nobody: 10:50pm On Jul 11, 2019 |
NwaUnubi:Lol |
Re: Should I Stay With My Parents And Invest Or Should I Leave? Advice Needed by kekakuz(m): 10:50pm On Jul 11, 2019 |
Stupid advice everywhere Move out since like yesterday. You need tobkearn the real world veforebyoubate 30. You need to drink garri and learn true management. Fear will only bring you faliur to launch 1 Like |
Re: Should I Stay With My Parents And Invest Or Should I Leave? Advice Needed by dia4iam(m): 10:51pm On Jul 11, 2019 |
If your parents are not sending you out, it is free housing and you should count yourself lucky. My cousin who is 2 years older than you still lives with his parent despite the fact that the 400k you have saved up so far is less than what nigga spends on unwinding in a month. smarten up my brother! Hullabaloon:Do whatever you feel is smart with your savings. If you lack ideas so bad,open a fixed deposit account or buy shares. |
Re: Should I Stay With My Parents And Invest Or Should I Leave? Advice Needed by OKOATA(m): 10:51pm On Jul 11, 2019 |
Start a PAGA business you will be glad you did. Everyday money and savings weekly. Use your money wisely. Goodluck |
Re: Should I Stay With My Parents And Invest Or Should I Leave? Advice Needed by Nobody: 10:57pm On Jul 11, 2019 |
AwkaetitiBabe:That's not important to u, but U sha want to know? 1 Like
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Re: Should I Stay With My Parents And Invest Or Should I Leave? Advice Needed by Duggedised12(f): 10:58pm On Jul 11, 2019 |
truthsayer009:no,why the question? Just searched for the name cos this is the second time someone is assuming I am her but her new account is quite obvious there na |
Re: Should I Stay With My Parents And Invest Or Should I Leave? Advice Needed by ediko5(m): 11:01pm On Jul 11, 2019 |
2blockus: There's another I observe from people like you. From the OP'S post, there's much love between him and his parents. I observe that 90% of people that usually advice people to hastily run out of the parents house are people from broken homes, polygamous family, barrack-like family (6-10) children in small apartment. Children from united family, 2-3 children will hardly run out of their parent's house hastily. If I happen to work in the town my parent reside I'll live with my parent and save to build my own house because: I love my parents and wouldn't want to stay far away from them if I have the opportunity. I have my own room for my privacy. I have a friend who lived with his parent in a two bedroom apartment, saved money to purchase a land and build a 4 bedroom flat apartment in town. OP, don't allow children from broken homes who are jealous of your parental love to lead you astray. 1 Like |
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