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Re: My Sister Is On The Verge Of Making The Worst Mistake Of Her Life by grandstar(m): 12:42am On Sep 08
dominique:
The biggest mistake your sister will make is if she gets pregnant for that man. The man most likely has a foreign based family and he's looking for someone to give birth to home based kids to him. You're so fixated on having a sister abroad that you can't see this. Has he said anything about going to registry to get married legally? Or you think by paying for dowry is enough to start processing her travel documents. Your sister is street smart, she knows most of these foreign based men are phony. Your sister should tell him to take her to registry first and marry her legally, then proess her visa before she takes in.

blackangel0403
Does the man not even have work he is doing in the U.K? He may be staying in a studio flat with 10 others grin grin grin grin

Until he marries her and takes her abroad, she should tell him to take a hike. He may just marry her here and leave her here while he has someone over there permanently.

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Re: My Sister Is On The Verge Of Making The Worst Mistake Of Her Life by Originalsly: 12:43am On Sep 08
Op... listen to yourself... the guy is cute.... the guy resides in the UK... the guy wants to marry... he wants to make her pregnant. And you really believe what he says? He lives in the UK... guys go to bars to pick up women ... not for marriage... but for fun. From your report... your sister is a fun girl. Why would he not go home to meet your patents?...and make arrangements? ...that's a Visa to free fun. When he returns... do you really believe any of you will hear from him again? Let your sister be...she is old and experience enough to make better decisions than you. Relax...listen...follow ...and learn... you are a learner when it comes to men.
Re: My Sister Is On The Verge Of Making The Worst Mistake Of Her Life by greatermeme: 12:43am On Sep 08
blackangel0403:
and from the way you sound like an uneducated fool, you think the best way to dish out advice is by first insulting the person. Agbaya
Yes, I've seen how educated you are! Silly poo!

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Re: My Sister Is On The Verge Of Making The Worst Mistake Of Her Life by blackangel0403(m): 12:43am On Sep 08
Just as your is not too. Ewu gambia �
greatermeme:
And, I'm 100% sure that your mum is not alive!
Re: My Sister Is On The Verge Of Making The Worst Mistake Of Her Life by DateMynd44(m): 12:46am On Sep 08
she should stay single or go back to her first husband. divorcing and remarrying someone else is unbiblical
Re: My Sister Is On The Verge Of Making The Worst Mistake Of Her Life by blackangel0403(m): 12:49am On Sep 08
Just as your is not too. Ewu gambia �
greatermeme:
And, I'm 100% sure that your mum is not alive!
greatermeme:
And, I'm 100% sure that your mum is not alive!
Re: My Sister Is On The Verge Of Making The Worst Mistake Of Her Life by greatermeme: 12:50am On Sep 08
blackangel0403:
Just as your is not too. Ewu gambia �
Ewu cambia! Ahhhhhhh! You've just shown the whole world that your family is not a responsible one! You think Nairaland is a courtroom! Let me retire to bed to enable me attend church service! Black angel means "Angel of darkness!" You advice your sister to sleep with a man before marriage! What piece of advice are you still looking for?

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Re: My Sister Is On The Verge Of Making The Worst Mistake Of Her Life by blackangel0403(m): 12:53am On Sep 08
This one got you I guess, ode
koyyess:


Advise who

Someone who has more sense than you ever will?

Foolish clown.

See this jobless entity bringing her own sister's matter on this forum since last year.

Don't go and find your bearing.

fish head.



Re: My Sister Is On The Verge Of Making The Worst Mistake Of Her Life by AreaFada2: 12:54am On Sep 08
blackangel0403:
Hi guys, I i need your sincere advice pls.

My sister is a divorcee with two kids she is solely responsible for. Life has not been fair with her.

Finally, God brought a cute man who is based in UK her way, the man is willing to marry her and take her to the states, he has come to see our parents and also took her to see his, they have agreed to tie the nut in December this year.

The guy is currently in Nigeria and has been begging my sister to get pregnant for him, my sister knows for sure he will marry her once she is pregnant but doesn’t want to so that pregnancy doesn’t stop her from meeting other guys pending when he comes to pay her dowry. Note, they met in the club but the man still overlooked it and still proposed marriage to her.


Now the guy is having double mind on if he can go ahead with the marriage or not, I have adviced her to take in for the man and by dec her dowry will be paid but she is adamant, pls what is the best option for her in this situation?



She is 35 years old with two kids, no other suitor insight too.

My dear, it's obvious you think the guy is a good catch and you love your sister and want her to be with a good man.

I also sense that you're more convinced by the "cute" guy than your sister. grin grin

First you must address certain things:

Is the guy truly single/divorced and genuinely wants to take her and TWO kids to UK?

Assuming he's honest, does he have the official income level & accommodation to cater for a wife and potentially three kids if she's pregnant before applying for visa? Because this is very important. He might have a job enough to do it since we Africans can manage/economize BUT he must meet the official requirements set by UK government.

If she's three months pregnant by December when they will get married, there's no guarantee she'll secure her immigrant visa before she delivers the baby in June 2020.

That brings us to the next part. What kind of documents has he in UK? A UK passport, permanent stay/indefinite leave or temporary stay?
If the first, should the baby be born in Nigeria, it will probably still be a British citizen. If the last two, it won't be. Applying to bring FOUR Nigerian citizens to the UK will require plenty of income on the part of the man.

So weigh all these factors, assuming the guy wants to be upfront with these information.

Otherwise, the guy might have thought that convincing a 35 years old single mother of two kids to have another kid would be a lot easier. Because many women in that category are somewhat desperate. Ensure he's not trying to deceive her to have a baby only. Not saying he is but just ensure he's not.

Your sister needs to "adjust" her lifestyle a bit. Clubbing and keeping her options open until December before marriage is not exactly how to inspire trust, is it?

Do not push your sister into the marriage. Because she'll have to live with the result. Let it be her choice only.

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Re: My Sister Is On The Verge Of Making The Worst Mistake Of Her Life by greatermeme: 12:56am On Sep 08
blackangel0403:
Just as your is not too. Ewu gambia �
hi!
Re: My Sister Is On The Verge Of Making The Worst Mistake Of Her Life by blackangel0403(m): 12:57am On Sep 08
Are you married? And how many women have you or did you sleep with before marriage? the answer to that question will tell u more of who you are, hypocrite. Don’t go to bed, come and be coursing your mother here.
greatermeme:
Ewu cambia! Ahhhhhhh! You've just shown the whole world that your family is not a responsible one! You think Nairaland is a courtroom! Let me retire to bed to enable me attend church service! Black angel means "Angel of darkness!" You advice your sister to sleep with a man before marriage! What piece of advice are you still looking for?

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Re: My Sister Is On The Verge Of Making The Worst Mistake Of Her Life by deltateam: 12:57am On Sep 08
blackangel0403:
Hi guys, I i need your sincere advice pls.

My sister is a divorcee with two kids she is solely responsible for. Life has not been fair with her.

Finally, God brought a cute man who is based in UK her way, the man is willing to marry her and take her to the states, he has come to see our parents and also took her to see his, they have agreed to tie the nut in December this year.

The guy is currently in Nigeria and has been begging my sister to get pregnant for him, my sister knows for sure he will marry her once she is pregnant but doesn’t want to so that pregnancy doesn’t stop her from meeting other guys pending when he comes to pay her dowry. Note, they met in the club but the man still overlooked it and still proposed marriage to her.

Sincerely speaking, she wants to settle down with him but her problem is that she doesn’t want to get pregnant and stay alone all by herself pending when the man will take her and the kids to the uk, she wants to take in when she has moved to the uk, but then she is scared she might loose him before then as they are already having misunderstandings been that my sister likes hanging out with friends and going clubbing which doesn’t go well with the guy.

Now the guy is having double mind on if he can go ahead with the marriage or not, I have adviced her to take in for the man and by dec her dowry will be paid but she is adamant, pls what is the best option for her in this situation?


Take in for this guy now he is in Nigeria and secure him or wait till December and risk loosing him, note he is a very cute guy and every girls dream, my sister also is tired of life and wants to settle down, if she takes in now, by dec her pregnancy will be 3 months, she is also bothered abt wat people will say on why she took in befor she was married to the guy, my parents also especially my dad will frown at it but dey don’t know that life has not fair with her and she needs a man to call her own. Should she careless abt my parents and what people will say and take in or wait and do the proper marriage before she takes in?

She is 35 years old with two kids, no other suitor insight too.

You are very wicked and selfish. All because of money? Just because he showed few hard currency you lost your senses and want your sister to conceive out of wedlock.

Tufia!

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Re: My Sister Is On The Verge Of Making The Worst Mistake Of Her Life by BuddhaPalm(m): 12:57am On Sep 08
Take in for this guy now he is in Nigeria and secure him or wait till December and risk loosing him...

I am sure that's how it works.
Re: My Sister Is On The Verge Of Making The Worst Mistake Of Her Life by AfroKnight: 12:59am On Sep 08
She’s cheating and still wants to continue cheating.


Why are people afraid to call it what it is?

The poor guy is afraid she may have committed abortions to the point of being unable to bear children.

angry Seeing men ko, seeing women ni.

At 35, she should know that is a rare offer. Even 26 year old single mums are struggling to get suitors.

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Re: My Sister Is On The Verge Of Making The Worst Mistake Of Her Life by henribj(m): 1:00am On Sep 08
blackangel0403:
Hi guys, I i need your sincere advice pls.

My sister is a divorcee with two kids she is solely responsible for. Life has not been fair with her.

Finally, God brought a cute man who is based in UK her way, the man is willing to marry her and take her to the states, he has come to see our parents and also took her to see his, they have agreed to tie the nut in December this year.

The guy is currently in Nigeria and has been begging my sister to get pregnant for him, my sister knows for sure he will marry her once she is pregnant but doesn’t want to so that pregnancy doesn’t stop her from meeting other guys pending when he comes to pay her dowry. Note, they met in the club but the man still overlooked it and still proposed marriage to her.

Sincerely speaking, she wants to settle down with him but her problem is that she doesn’t want to get pregnant and stay alone all by herself pending when the man will take her and the kids to the uk, she wants to take in when she has moved to the uk, but then she is scared she might loose him before then as they are already having misunderstandings been that my sister likes hanging out with friends and going clubbing which doesn’t go well with the guy.

Now the guy is having double mind on if he can go ahead with the marriage or not, I have adviced her to take in for the man and by dec her dowry will be paid but she is adamant, pls what is the best option for her in this situation?


Take in for this guy now he is in Nigeria and secure him or wait till December and risk loosing him, note he is a very cute guy and every girls dream, my sister also is tired of life and wants to settle down, if she takes in now, by dec her pregnancy will be 3 months, she is also bothered abt wat people will say on why she took in befor she was married to the guy, my parents also especially my dad will frown at it but dey don’t know that life has not fair with her and she needs a man to call her own. Should she careless abt my parents and what people will say and take in or wait and do the proper marriage before she takes in?

She is 35 years old with two kids, no other suitor insight too.

Lol... Your sister is 35years old and still jumping from club to club? Worst part she is not thinking of leaving the club scene to focus on building her relationship with this man who appears to be serious about her... All I can say in this matter is that your sister is not serious yet, and I think she doesn't really fancy the man, she might fancy the idea of him being a helper and provider, but loving him for who he is is what I think she is lacking.
#justmyopinion
#justsaying

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Re: My Sister Is On The Verge Of Making The Worst Mistake Of Her Life by blackangel0403(m): 1:00am On Sep 08
The best advice I have seen so far, thanks!
AreaFada2:


My dear, it's obvious you think the guy is a good catch and you love your sister and want her to be with a good man.

I also sense that you're more convinced by the "cute" guy than your sister. grin grin

First you must address certain things:

Is the guy truly single/divorced and genuinely wants to take her and TWO kids to UK?

Assuming he's honest, does he have the official income level & accommodation to cater for a wife and potentially three kids if she's pregnant before applying for visa? Because this is very important. He might have a job enough to do it since we Africans can manage/economize BUT he must meet the official requirements set by UK government.

If she's three months pregnant by December when they will get married, there's no guarantee she'll secure her immigrant visa before she delivers the baby in June 2020.

That brings us to the next part. What kind of documents has he in UK? A UK passport, permanent stay/indefinite leave or temporary stay?
If the first, should the baby be born in Nigeria, it will probably still be a British citizen. If the last two, it won't be. Applying to bring FOUR Nigerian citizens to the UK will require plenty of income on the part of the man.

So weigh all these factors, assuming the guy wants to be upfront with these information.

Otherwise, the guy might have thought that convincing a 35 years old single mother of two kids to have another kid would be a lot easier. Because many women in that category are somewhat desperate. Ensure he's not trying to deceive her to have a baby only. Not saying he is but just ensure he's not.

Your sister needs to "adjust" her lifestyle a bit. Clubbing and keeping her options open until December before marriage is not exactly how to inspire trust, is it?

Do not push your sister into the marriage. Because she'll have to live with the result. Let it be her choice only.

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Re: My Sister Is On The Verge Of Making The Worst Mistake Of Her Life by greatermeme: 1:00am On Sep 08
blackangel0403:
Are you married? And how many women have you or did you sleep with before marriage? the answer to that question will tell u more of who you are, hypocrite. Don’t go to bed, come and be coursing your mother here.
I sincerely apologise and take back all what I've said to you! Happy Sunday! I've just started following! Hmmmm! Sorry!
Re: My Sister Is On The Verge Of Making The Worst Mistake Of Her Life by koyyess: 1:02am On Sep 08
blackangel0403:
This one got you I guess, ode

Very bad and foolish sister you are.

I wish word would have gotten to your sister, then you will have to explain to her why you had to bring her matter up on two occasions here.

Keep washing her linen in public. She go soon ask who send you.
Since last year fa.

Since you secretly lust over the negroe, stop making noise and go and get pregnant for him na. Shameless, jobless, amebo sister without purpose.

Mumu.

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Re: My Sister Is On The Verge Of Making The Worst Mistake Of Her Life by deltateam: 1:03am On Sep 08
GraGra247:
I advice she discusses with the man heart to heart and beg him to be patient regarding the pregnancy till after payment and court wedding.

Better still she stylishly beg and delays him till when the pregnancy will be like one or two months before he comes to pay her dowry so that if the man fails to meet his end of the bargain she can safely abort and not suffer to cater for additional one kid alone.

She can travel to another location with the man with a claim that she got a job in that location in order to hide the pregnancy from parents and mockers till the day he comes to pay her dowry.

She certainly has to stop partying and meeting other men for now. She only has 3 months to make that easy sacrifice a lot of ladies make for 5 years and beyond.

You are an idiot. See as you are encouraging abortion. shocked

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Re: My Sister Is On The Verge Of Making The Worst Mistake Of Her Life by gabicon: 1:05am On Sep 08
blackangel0403:
Hi guys, I i need your sincere advice pls.

My sister is a divorcee with two kids she is solely responsible for. Life has not been fair with her.

Finally, God brought a cute man who is based in UK her way, the man is willing to marry her and take her to the states, he has come to see our parents and also took her to see his, they have agreed to tie the nut in December this year.

The guy is currently in Nigeria and has been begging my sister to get pregnant for him, my sister knows for sure he will marry her once she is pregnant but doesn’t want to so that pregnancy doesn’t stop her from meeting other guys pending when he comes to pay her dowry. Note, they met in the club but the man still overlooked it and still proposed marriage to her.

Sincerely speaking, she wants to settle down with him but her problem is that she doesn’t want to get pregnant and stay alone all by herself pending when the man will take her and the kids to the uk, she wants to take in when she has moved to the uk, but then she is scared she might loose him before then as they are already having misunderstandings been that my sister likes hanging out with friends and going clubbing which doesn’t go well with the guy.

Now the guy is having double mind on if he can go ahead with the marriage or not, I have adviced her to take in for the man and by dec her dowry will be paid but she is adamant, pls what is the best option for her in this situation?


Take in for this guy now he is in Nigeria and secure him or wait till December and risk loosing him, note he is a very cute guy and every girls dream, my sister also is tired of life and wants to settle down, if she takes in now, by dec her pregnancy will be 3 months, she is also bothered abt wat people will say on why she took in befor she was married to the guy, my parents also especially my dad will frown at it but dey don’t know that life has not fair with her and she needs a man to call her own. Should she careless abt my parents and what people will say and take in or wait and do the proper marriage before she takes in?

She is 35 years old with two kids, no other suitor insight too.

First of all getting a spouse visa in the UK is not a walk in the park, secondly getting a visa for unadopted children won't be easy especially now that brexit is still very hot.

Thirdly you guys need to dig info on this guy, I smell a rat, and for God sake if it will be tough to get a visa for 2 children let's not go to 3 children.

If this chap is really serious about your sister they should have gone to court by now to get a marriage certificate which he will need to process her paperwork, he should have legally adopted her 2 kids.

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Re: My Sister Is On The Verge Of Making The Worst Mistake Of Her Life by Amanda4life: 1:06am On Sep 08
franchasng:
sometimes just want to feel the rush that comes with a new pussy, not that they haven't had sex before but the rush, the sound she will be making can make a man to make lots of irrational decisions he will later be shocked he did and will run four forty as soon as his senses comes back after ejaculation shocked shocked

This comment is rate 20yrs+ cool

Mchew. Small pikin

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Re: My Sister Is On The Verge Of Making The Worst Mistake Of Her Life by blackangel0403(m): 1:10am On Sep 08
Until then, go to bed bitter and reminisce on how to make your own life better. Wall Greco
koyyess:


Very bad and foolish sister you are.

I wish word would have gotten to your sister, then you will have to explain to her why you had to bring her matter up on two occasions here.

Keep washing her linen in public. She go soon ask who send you.

Mumu.

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Re: My Sister Is On The Verge Of Making The Worst Mistake Of Her Life by koyyess: 1:15am On Sep 08
blackangel0403:
Until then, go to bed bitter and reminisce on how to make your own life better. Wall Greco

cheesy cheesy cheesy

Are you in love with your own blood sister's boyfriend that you had to create two threads within 2 years to spite her?

Go and get the belle so you can enter obodo oyibo.

Simple!

Case closed


If you like open another thread again next year.

Fish head.

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Re: My Sister Is On The Verge Of Making The Worst Mistake Of Her Life by Ndipe(m): 1:20am On Sep 08
All that glitters is not gold. The man that you are idealizing as a worthy brother in-law and a gem comes off as very demanding and unreasonable. Certainly cant put pressure on a girl to take in for him before marrying her and then take her to the UK (or the States which one?). Your sister lost her marriage unfortunately, let her bid her time and not cave into pressure by sleeping with this man who is not even her husband. If the man is serious, let him do a court wedding first before conjugal relationship and if he is afraid that she might be barren, let her two kids serve as a reminder that she is fertile.

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Re: My Sister Is On The Verge Of Making The Worst Mistake Of Her Life by blackangel0403(m): 1:22am On Sep 08
You will still be here to unleash your frustrations on my next thread next year because from the way you sound, your frustrations will linger for a long time, no hope insight for you. It’s quite unfortunate �‍♀️
koyyess:


cheesy cheesy cheesy

Are you in love with your own blood sister's boyfriend that you had to create two threads within 2 years to spite her?

Go and get the belle so you can enter obodo oyibo.

Simple!

Case closed


If you like open another thread again next year.

Fish head.
Re: My Sister Is On The Verge Of Making The Worst Mistake Of Her Life by greatermeme: 1:24am On Sep 08
dominique:
The biggest mistake your sister will make is if she gets pregnant for that man. The man most likely has a foreign based family and he's looking for someone to give birth to home based kids to him. You're so fixated on having a sister abroad that you can't see this. Has he said anything about going to registry to get married legally? Or you think by paying for dowry is enough to start processing her travel documents. Your sister is street smart, she knows most of these foreign based men are phony. Your sister should tell him to take her to registry first and marry her legally, then proess her visa before she takes in.
Mods are meant to be neutral! That don't comment on thorny issues like this! You're breaking the rule! You're BANNED!
Re: My Sister Is On The Verge Of Making The Worst Mistake Of Her Life by koyyess: 1:28am On Sep 08
blackangel0403:
You will still be here to unleash your frustrations on my next thread next year because from the way you sound, your frustrations will linger for a long time, no hope insight for you. It’s quite unfortunate �‍♀️

Now we are all certain you will create another thread because clearly, no advise given here has sunk into your concrete block head. cheesy

It is obvious you are jealous of your sister. cheesy

You wish it was you in this situation so I am now telling you what you want to hear so you can stop spiting your sister and leave her in peace.

Go and get pregnant for this supposed obodo oyibo negroe so your body will rest and your two eyes can finally clear.

blind bat. cheesy

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Re: My Sister Is On The Verge Of Making The Worst Mistake Of Her Life by hamtabfawaz(m): 1:28am On Sep 08
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Re: My Sister Is On The Verge Of Making The Worst Mistake Of Her Life by Festus1010: 1:29am On Sep 08
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Re: My Sister Is On The Verge Of Making The Worst Mistake Of Her Life by enemyofprogress: 1:30am On Sep 08
tyup:
me I don't even know what to say undecided
small boy na wetin you dey find for adult corner. Go look for tyre make you go play. Na adults dey here dey talk

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Re: My Sister Is On The Verge Of Making The Worst Mistake Of Her Life by Ishilove: 1:30am On Sep 08
The op's sister is a very wise woman, however she needs to quit clubbing and leave all that shit_ for younger people. Person dey grow pass some rubbish. I really don't understand what people enjoy in clubbing because those places are dens of noise and all manner of immorality.

And the so called UK hunk has ulterior motives.

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Re: My Sister Is On The Verge Of Making The Worst Mistake Of Her Life by bassette(m): 1:32am On Sep 08
Op you created this same thread last year citing the man was coming that year and then now you same thing..
Do you have two sisters with similar issues or this is just some made up stuff for purpose of populating the thread

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