peepydelano:
You are having a very good lady as your wife,count yourself very lucky.Why not fast forward your white wedding and have free access, and its not a big deal if she turns out not to be a virgin,appreciate the fact that she's God fearing. Respect her Godly wish and wait for the abundant blessings that follows,she is blessed amongst women

peepydelano:
You are having a very good lady as your wife,count yourself very lucky.Why not fast forward your white wedding and have free access, and its not a big deal if she turns out not to be a virgin,appreciate the fact that she's God fearing. Respect her Godly wish and wait for the abundant blessings that follows,she is blessed amongst women

Freehuman:





Some men are really cool with anything. When I'm planning to have two kids and at least a male child before marriage, a man lives under the same roof with the woman he legally married and consumation of the marriage is yet to happen.

Everyone here is talking about virginity and not fertility. She may even be a virgin and deep down knows she is not fertile. Over 1000 Nigerian girls(teenagers) suffer from ovarian cyst yearly and most times treatment causes damage to their reproductive system. That's just one disease and there are others.

Marrying in a church can prevent divorce when the male partner wants it immediately on grounds of fertility of the Female. I think a judge will not grant such divorce until the marriage has broken down irretrievably.

From a legal point of view, marrying in a church which is registered under the law as a valid place of celebration of marriage means that the couples contracted statutory marriage ( under the marriage ACT). This means if the marriage has not broken down irretrievably and you intend to divorce her on grounds of infertility the court may not grant a decree nicee. If the man proceeds to dissolve the marriage without a grant by the court , she can sue him for bigamy. It may take up to 5 years before you begin to abuse her and make the marriage break down irretrievably.

An average religious bigot is likely to believe that if she adheres to such extreme religious doctrines (abstinence from sex until a church wedding) her infertility may be cured.

I know my reason is abstract but it must not be ruled out.

BiggyB242:


Even if she allows him, he isn't going to enjoy it. Sex is enjoyed when both party agree to it. It will be more like rape only that she wouldn't resist.

midnighter:


It's definitely an issue if she is not a virgin because that would mean she has been lying all along...too bad

Being God-fearing doesn't mean you will marry somebody under false pretenses. If she had been having sex before and has now renounced it then she should have said so

But I agree with you that he should just arrange the church wedding because it's what they agreed on.

moderatedguy:
You forget say the guy Don pay bride Price ooo.The wife has no right to deny him sex.What impudence!

igwegeorgiano:
Friends on NL I greet you all. Trust your day is going well? It is with very heavy heart and confused state of mind I sent this post on this platform so you can advise me on what line of action I should take. Pastors and genuine men of God should also advise me on what to do as well.

There is this lady i have been dating for about a year and 6 months now. We love each other to the moon and most importantly we respect each other opinion and decisions. She is a born again christian who appreciates the things of God more than she appreciates me which of course I have no issues with.

When we agreed to start up a relationship after being friends for about 6 months, it was agreed that there will be no sex until the wedding night but at a point I asked her "what if we are done with traditional marriage rites are we still not gonna have sex? To my creates surprise she said we won't until church wedding is done. I did not actually took her serious.

Fast forward, on the 15th of July 2019 the traditional marriage was done in her father' compound in the east and all I was asked to pay and give was paid and given without any remainder . after the traditional marriage we went back to my house in abuja. Note that we were not staying together before now. I am base in abuja while she is in owerri. When we got home that night I told her we can now make love as husband and wife hence the traditional rites has been done and most importantly the bride price paid. To my amazement my wife bluntly refused. She told me she will never compromise her stand on pre marital sex

I have been very faithful to our agreement based on her claim that she is a virgin. But refusing me my right over her body after every thing including the bride price has been paid is something I can never subscribed to and to this end I have I have involved her parent and her pastor her decision however, still remain no sex till the wedding night. I am putting the wedding on hold for now until she willingly allow me make love to her and she seems not to be comfortable with my decision as well.

This is the dilemma I have found myself please I need your wise counsels on this. Thanks and remain bless. Moderators kindly push this post to the front page so it can have adequate views it deserves thanks

moderatedguy:
You forget say the guy Don pay bride Price ooo.The wife has no right to deny him sex.What impudence!

moderatedguy:
You forget say the guy Don pay bride Price ooo.The wife has no right to deny him sex.What impudence!

sassysure:

Do u know some women just don't feel it?
I'm surprised she is not ripping that man apart.
Hmm.
I don't wanna go deep.
Marriage is more than holding on till your approved timeline.

I give it to this guy. He has tried. Most men won't go this far.
Church my foot.

If he take this lady anywhere whether court or to meet her people, he is gonna floor her hands down.

She want to use that as testimony to satisfy her pastor.
So she dont care if she hurt the man or not.
Godly woman kò.

Allsingles:


Hope you guys did all the necessary test before going ahead with the marriage?
Such as Fertility Test, STI or STD test and many others.
There maybe secret she is hiding from you, she doesn't want you to know about it so you will not change your mind.
Read this SEVEN secret your partner maybe hiding from you which will open your eyes....
https://allsinglesandmarried..com/2019/10/the-7-secrets-your-partner-may-have.html?m=1

igwegeorgiano:
we did except virginity test and am seriously considering it now to ascertain the authenticity of her claim of being a virgin

sassysure:
Actually, the guy is legally married .
We have been so brainwashed with oyibo wedding that we accept that as the norm.

What he need is only court marriage to seal the bond officially.

There is what we call compromise. He compromised till after trado because he love her. She should compromise too for him. Don't she feel him?
Are we sure she will love and enjoy sex in the future if at this point daydreaming about this man is not driving her crazy? Does she masturbate?
If the guy masturbates because of her, is that mot a sin?
She is undoubtedly a very stubborn woman. Stubborness comes with a pride. She want to tell them in church that she held on till wedding night like her pastor said but forgetting pastor didn't do likewise.

Probably we are all churchous now but one of the major things that drive men out to cheat is incompatibility in bed.
What of if they are not?
What happens then?

How can u marry somebody u don't know sexually?
Isn't that craziness?

peepydelano:
was that the only reason you wanted to marry her?

karkinase:
You saying rubbish

sassysure:

She absolutely don't have any right.

Even Catholic church will tell u to kiss, play but be careful during marriage course. That's invariably telling u to have sex but don't get pregnant till after wedding.
What is wrong with humans?
All these sisters that flock Pentecostal churches everywhere eating and drinking pastors words like food.
Jesus went to a traditional marriage in his place. What we call white wedding or wedding is the traditional or normal marriage in oyibo land.

If that man dissolves the marriage and she dont see another to marry, she will blame Satan.
I hate when women don't use their brain.
I'm so angry.

LilMissFavvy:
Then he shouldn't have dated a staunch born again Christian. There are men that marry virgins and wait till wedding night, they take the risk and accept the outcome. She also told him it will be on their wedding night. I don't think it's the ladies fault.

igwegeorgiano:
not at all. I did not considered her virginity but cos she has proved beyond doubts to be the woman I wanted but with this over righteous attitude and not taking into cognisance that I have paid her bride price and other traditional obligations is what I don't understand

Dollarseeker:
bros stop spoiling Catholic name here. The Catholic church doesn't permit sex before wedding. couple that have sex before their wedding, is none of the church business. The church doesn't permit that, but will not kill u because u did it, u would still be wedded.

igwegeorgiano:
we did except virginity test and am seriously considering it now to ascertain the authenticity of her claim of being a virgin

AwkaetitiBabe:
You both live in the same house since the traditional marriage and no action? Wow wow wow. As in she doesn't get turned on by seeing you up close? Hmmmmm wonderment.

Simply go do the white wedde

igwegeorgiano:
my dear am tempted to ask thus question is church wedding actually in d bible? To the best of my knowledge and I stand to be corrected church wedding is a western ideology its not an African stuff at all

Collins4u1:
Lol she's based in owerri. ����


And she's religious, that type that looks so natural and doesn't wear makeup and looks so responsible abi?

Should we tell him ?

okoroemeka:
I don't believe the op has got a good wife like u saying,how can she be a good wife when konji is destroying the man that paid her traditional bride price and she does nothing, something is definitely fishy here and also there will be compatibility issues,the man is virle and ready for love, while the lady can relate with the guy for 1year and not feel anything,the op is definitely getting married to a frigid woman and his sex life will suffer,how can take something for life without testing it and seeing how it works,well it seems the op is a perfect gentleman because many men I know will not tolerate that rubbish, Even before going for the traditional stuffs you I must start the engine and Rev it to Max power,the lady even live in owerri and claiming virgin, haaaaahaaa!!!