Eroms4life17:

My brother, there's no time to argue on this matter. Let everyone do what they believe is right. I have offered a piece of my advice to the guy in question. Even the kind of harsh words u use and way u dey vex up and down for matter when nor concern u tells me that u will call off everything if it was you. Life is not that complicated. We just complicate things with our own hands.

Righteousness89:


I will answer your As a Bible Believing Christian..

1. Heb 13:4: Marriage is honorable in all and the bed undefiled.
As a Bible Believing Christian, at what point are you declared fully Married?

The Church is the Body of JESUS CHRIST.
As such a Bible Believing Christian is fully Married after the Pastor or Priest Blesses and pronounces the Couple Married in The Name of JESUS..

2. YES ! Without being Blessed and Declared Married by the Pastor or Priest I will Advice Couples to stay away.. As a Believer the Pronoucement and Blessing of The Church on my Marriage is what gives me the access to my wife...

DeRay98:


Absolutely...
Principles without wisdom and like Zeal without knowledge...
This whole approach by them is dangerous and can lead to "rape" if the guy loses it or whatever....
Let's assume the man dies today, is she entitled to his estate as wife, will she claim his estate as her inheritance I don't she 'll reject it or let his family claim it.
She'll cry out for justice that she's being denied her rights as the widow of the man....

West2019:
pls what did the Bible say about marriage , if stated White wedding and I need the prove pls

Fuckgovt:
yes na I will call it off till she grows up

Offpoint:

They agreed "Not to have sex until wedding night" this is the only time the both have an agreement.

"what if we are done with traditional marriage rites are we still not gonna have sex? To my creates surprise she said we won't until church wedding is done. I did not actually took her serious"

He didn't take her serious on the second quote, meaning he wasn't in support neither did he object....

I know what I read and I understand it.

Offpoint:

I'm sorry, there was no agreement in the write up.... "I didn't take it serious" was the statement.

Enemyofpeace:
At the end of the day you will discover that some people have been there before you. I just hope you didn't pay too much dowry on her. What is bad in test driving a car? I ate nonsense.

iyke0280:

Well... I see where you are coming from. However, I think a lot of us have mixed up certain issues...like the difference between the moment you are married and when you "dedicate" your marriage to God.
Like I said earlier, a pastor or priest can not pronounce you married if you haven't done the traditional rites...once you have done that, you are married. And you might not agree with me, but if anyone decides to have sex with their wife at that point, it is not a sin. You quoted heb 13...and my point is you don't become married when the pastor or priest says you are... You become married when you have fufilled the traditional rites of your spouse's people.
If not, you can go ahead and get married in church without fulfilling the traditional rites.
Even as Christians, we are also subject to authority (romans 13: 1-7)... If as a matter of principle you and your spouse decide not to consummate your union until after the church wedding, that's fine... But my point is this... The couple who decided not to do a church wedding have not committed any sin in the eyes of God if they have sex after their traditional wedding... Because they are already married after that event... Mind you... It is not the pastor's/priest's pronunciation that makes you married... It is the consent of both families having fufilled what they/their culture deem to be marriage rites.

Righteousness89:

Give unto GOD what is GOD'S
Give unto Tradition what is Tradition..

As A Believer, it would be Best for you to cement your Marriage on Godliness before anything..

mignone:

You will continue to eat nonsense!
Talk of test-driving...
You test-drove Judith,u were intellectually incompatible; u test-drove Iara, u were financially incompatible; u test-drove Alimat, u were sexually incompatible. So ppl shd be inheriting leftovers abi?
If 10 ppl taste gari frm a seller without buying, what happens to d seller's capital nt to talk of making profit

DeRay98:

Forget this quotation you're applying wrongly...
Once, the bride parents accepted her dowry the marriage contract is signed sealed and delivered. After that what the church ought to be blessing the marriage.
Performing traditional marriage ceremony and going to church is duplication of process.
Are there no Christians who did only traditional marriage ceremony and goes to regular church service on Sunday and Pastor calls them out to bless the union without any further ceremonies of joining?
It's even becoming the norm for many couples in many churches who have financial challenge...

Righteousness89:
It becoming the Norm does not Make it Right.. I cannot Forget the Bible . The Bible is my Guide.. Finance has nothing to do with Church Wedding..
Give unto GOD what you is GOD'S

Righteousness89:

It becoming the Norm does not Make it Right..
I cannot Forget the Bible . The Bible is my Guide..
Finance has nothing to do with Church Wedding..

Give unto GOD what you is GOD'S

mignone:

You will continue to eat nonsense!
Talk of test-driving...
You test-drove Judith,u were intellectually incompatible; u test-drove Iara, u were financially incompatible; u test-drove Alimat, u were sexually incompatible. So ppl shd be inheriting leftovers abi?
If 10 ppl taste gari frm a seller without buying, what happens to d seller's capital nt to talk of making profit

midnighter:


Lol sir even if there's no English like that, you can still create one. I agree with you, all the best on your upcoming nuptials

Righteousness89:

Give unto GOD what is GOD'S
Give unto Tradition what is Tradition..

As A Believer, it would be Best for you to cement your Marriage on Godliness before anything..

sassysure:

Even the Catholic church will tell u to kiss, play but be careful during the marriage course. That's invariably telling u to have sex but don't get pregnant till after the wedding.

igwegeorgiano:
Friends on NL I greet you all. Trust your day is going well? It is with very heavy heart and confused state of mind I s remain no sex till the wedding night. I am putting the wedding on hold for now until she willingly allow me make love to her and she seems not to be comfortable with

This is the dilemma I have found myself please I need your wise counsels on this. Thanks and remain bless. Moderators kindly push this post to the front page so it can have adequate views it deserves thanks

ZIMDRILL:


God is not found in church, church is just a
building where people get together and worship God, no pastor can bless a wedding those are just ceremonial or customs things humans do that make us think thats how God like it.

Remember what you call christianity is combination of roman traditional and stories of the Bible

right now a christian thinks that Christmas is special day for them, but christmas is not there in the bible, easter is there in bible but not as rememberance of dying of jesus but as festive period of ancient beliefs or celebration

those who are well researched know that a white wedding has nothing to do with God and the church, the two were later incoperated into 2 categories

1 as you can have a church wedding that can be administer by a pastor who has the license to marry you under the civil marriage

2 you can still marry in church under your beliefs of christanity but your marriage wont be civil marriage therefore your marriage was just a ceremonial

the bible has never said people should marry in church, it only say parents should bless your marriage, bless means acknowledging your marriage

the church marriage thing is a belief that christians think that marrying in church what God wants, God wants parents to approve of our marriage or accept our marriages which is meeting what parents request during the traditional ceremony

a normal african family would do the traditional wedding, be it dowry payment or lobola payment which is the acceptance of parents that out child is now married

by paying those things you are declaring to God and your parents that this is my wife. no one marries without doing traditional rites be it dowry payment or introduction thats step cant be left out

if the church wedding is important, why cant we do it first before the traditional one

Righteousness89:
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The Carnal Mind cannot Comprehend Spiritual Things....

kunleweb:



God bless you my brother for being resolute about righteousness like this. Chai, if only we had more single people who too Righteousness this steadfastly.

Polyurethane:





Tradition my foot.
The girl is a good Christian, it's hard to see someone like her this days,
God only recognize White Wedding,
Traditional Wedding is not necessary in Christendom.
The Husband should have done the White Wedding first, he's foolish.
The WHITE GOWN is the symbol of virgin, purity.
The woman is not married as far as God is concern

Lexusgs430:



Onyeka Owenu song comes to mind....... If you love me, you go wait for me.............

Move the wedding forward. Would she still give you her cookie, if you conduct registry wedding?

Registry wedding in the eyes of the law, is legally acceptable than church wedding....

I hope she is truly a virgin, after all this months of waiting.... But after the deed is done, I hope you feel it would be worth the wait...... The worse lays are virgins......

igwegeorgiano:
The registry wedding was actually the first that we did before the traditional wedding

igwegeorgiano:
The registry wedding was actually the first that we did before the traditional wedding

Righteousness89:
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The Carnal Mind cannot Comprehend Spiritual Things....

Daree88:


Lols

Amen!
Thank you very much my friend.