JONSYN7154:
God bless you for this advice.

golddare:


Just follow her advice I have nothing to add.

Faber:
See my man never u marry out of pity and never u marry out of love cos the love a woman gives u changes with time. Once they give birth...their love and affection is transfered to their child(ren).

Now my man marry out of what you really want in your life...if u want peace, go for a lady that to some extent will gurantee you that...if you are a weakling, and in need of an authoritarian lady like Merghan, Duchess of Sussex, then look for a lady with such character.

So my man, I see you as a man of peace and order. A man with passion for excellence and rectitude. A man that may have strict dietary rules... If my perception of your personality is correct; then you have to settle down with Benita.
Susan will turn to a nag and gonna nag the hell out of your present peaceful and orderly life.

Godluck!

Caveat Emptor:
Do not take the domestic expertise of Benita as a true hallmark of a wife material...ladies are fickle and can change. Look for other qualities...like being supportive, self-control, fear of God, creative thinking and business acumen...those are the traits she will transfer to your unborn children.

Finally what Benita will be in the near future depends on you. There is no much configurations on her default. If you relax too much, bad guys on campus may reset her...so monitor her closely since she is in her Freshman year and green horns will always like to explore and experiment on many 'no go' areas of campus life. No dull your game.

fkj950ax:


My sincere apologies my comment upset you.

But to be honest with you, you aren't ready for marriage.

mrbenjame:


What if I had picked the wrong person?

mrbenjame:
I think I need matured minds to advice me because I’m very confused right now. Please take pains to read my story.

I dated a lady called Susan (not her real name ). For 4 years. I loved her so much and she did too. I met her when She was preparing to enter the university. 6 months into the relationship I went for service. Came back and it was already clocking 2 years. Whenever she visits I always try to make her comfortable. So she took advantage of my care and always wanted me to serve her all the time. Even when she visits from school she would be operating her phone and watch me do what on a normal terrain she should assist me do. As a young guy I try as much as I can to let her know that at least once in a while it would be nice to get my meal served by my woman even if I prepared it (since she doesn’t like entering the kitchen). Most time I overlook it because probably she’s very tired and all that. Sometimes I thought I was just being selfish but I really wanted to feel that woman attributes but I wasn’t seeing it.

Each time we fix time for a date she comes very late and that piss me off to my bone marrow. She never keeps to time. I endured this for a long time because she never turned up early in any appointment. She calls me at late hours and when I try to explain to her that it’s late she gets angry ( I’m talking of 12 am or there about) and I’ll go to work the next day. Anytime she offends me she would want to be romantic so I’d forget her wrongs just to calm me down. But I was suffering inside.

I felt very weak emotionally and decided to take things easy.

Until I met this lady called Benita (not her real name). I liked her. I admired everything about her. So I approached her while we were going back home from work. We had good conversations and I was happy because she was fun to be with. We exchanged contact and we started chatting. Forgive me because I became happy again just talking to her. Whenever we say goodbye when she gets off the bus she times when I’d get home and immediately I step my foot in my house she calls.( already I’ve told her when I’d be home). I invited her to a date in an eatery and she turned up 10 minutes to the time. I was shocked.

I became more involved with her. I invited her home. She went to my kitchen and she said “ your plates are not washed why? I just smiled and told her I’ll take care of that. Before I knew what was happening she’s started washing the plates. I begged her to stop because I didn’t send her to do that and besides it’s her first time in my house. But she refused. I let her (though the plates were not much but I was happy). She started visiting often with food items to cook. And I obliged to assist her. She refused again. We argued until she had her way. I just sit with her in the kitchen and gist while she cooks. To me I felt I was punishing her because all I wanted is that things of such can be done by her once in a while. (I sabi pity person o. Lols!). And secondly I’m not used to a woman doing things for me for a very long time now.

She calls all the time. Talks so lively and very funny. She’s not the miss romantic type but very smart and reserved.

After a while, you can’t cheat karma. Susan found out. She came to know about Benita. And since then it wasn’t easy settling between two of them. But Susan won’t just give up and I think I’m cool with Benita.

Today Benita is in her 100 level while Susan is about going for her service.

Now I’m trying to be responsible to settle down. I talked with my mum and some close friends of mine but they’re tipping Susan for me because she’s out of school and it would make things much easier for me than settling with Benita. But I love Benita now. She makes me happy. What do I do?

fkj950ax:


What if you are the wrong person for Benita and/or Susan?

lavylilly:
Single ladies, we no longer live in a generation where women stay in their father's house and expect men to come find them. Learn to freely interact with people, hangout let people know you are single and ready to mingle. Stop wearing false wedding ring and living a fake life. Let people know your real age, some men actually prefer older ladies.
A good that is expected to be sold fast is never hidden �

franchasng:
Hello Susan, we sight you oh, don't worry if op no marry you, Bobrisky is still very much single

Pinkie2018:
lol im engaged honey

franchasng:
honey don't let guys turn you to Lord of the rings oh, engagement does not reign again, na straight to the altar, na broke guys and rich wayo guys booking space and buying time de do engagement lol





You must be Susan, op come and carry your Susan oh lol

Pinkie2018:
lol sorry to disappoint you, my bride pride has been paid and my wedding date is fixed. I can never be susan fighting for a man who is two timing me. Telling people my flaws just to satisty his cheating nature. Susan will find a man that loves her and over looks her flaws

mrbenjame:


Hmmmmm. Now you tell me. How would you feel if you’re not called by your fiancée for 3 months for no reason. You think I don’t know what I passed through before she came back to her senses because she now had a competitor? My dear. I’m not a cheat and I don’t cheat on any woman I love. I try as much as I could to endure things with her all in the name of love. So don’t call me a cheat. Because I never deserved the treatment I was receiving. Don’t always think that every man could just cheat.

Pinkie2018:
im sorry about what u passed through. Benita seem nice and i hope she doesnt change later on. As for Susan stop giving her hope. Vehemently tell her its over and let her focus on her life with someone else pls

mrbenjame:


Congratulations. But Benita is cool.

gracevile:
lols but on a serious note you will get more confused you want confirmation on who you already love but hope you got the confirmation you need

mrbenjame:



Well, for now I’ve paused everything. I listen to advices. Just watching them on the low. If it doesn’t Favour me then God wants it that way. I’ll walk away.

gracevile:
pray u dont make a mistake that is the scary part though.Good luck

Rayhandrinni:
mvp doesn't actually mean shit, it's how many wins you got in br or mp

You can get mvp on your team win or loss, so it's your win percentage that counts

MKULTRA:
Have requested to join

Rayhandrinni:
you sent me a request? What's your dog tag?

MKULTRA:
YorubaMerc

mrbenjame:


Judging from the fact that old ladies are better off, you’re absolutely correct. The only problem I had with one 10 years ago was that she almost employed all her community to monitor me when she wasn’t close. I would honestly tell you that I was very faithful to her but her monitoring was annoying. I called it a quit and stayed for 3 years before having another date.

Oche211:
Good for Benita and enjoy your life,
Susan will give you high blood pressur

Vindmeapp:
I also agree. Seems to me your heart already chose Betina anyway, that's what matters... Are you visually attracted to both equally?

mrbenjame:



Sadly I’m no longer with any of them. This thread has really lasted a long time. Thanks all.

tosaino95:

Hey Man, We all thought you're cool with benita.
What happened between you and her and even Susan

mrbenjame:

It’s a long story. I don’t know if I should just open another thread for it.