mrbenjame:
She’s very lively, she knows how to flirt with me in public thereby making everyone envy me, very playful and liked by my family members.

funmisticqueen2:
You need more time to study both of them. Focus on yourself and building your life for now

Susan shows some immature characters but expecting her to cook for you is not one of them. Cooking for a man will not take you to the altar. Have you both expressed interest towards commitment?

Benita is most likely younger, has less dating experience or forming format so that you can propose to her. But she will most likely change in the long run. You need to spend more time with her.


Choose who will give you peace of mind in the long run.

Sharmeenator:
Baba u already have ur answer, Benita! You said she makes you happy. Why are you still considering someone who has and will keep being a pain in your ass? Oga, learn to manipulate your emotions. It's good to be nice, but be careful, else you will be taken advantaged of. Lastly, don't set your mind on the girl in school. History has taught we Nigerian men never to hope on having a lasting relationship with girls who just entered into the university.

placeofallure:
If you ask me, my happiness first over anything. If Benita makes you happier, go for her.
What manner of woman hates to enter the kitchen?
Kitchen or domestic chores is not all there is to a woman but it's a crucial part of a woman's wifely duties.
I hope Benita is not an actress who's merely out to deceive you into settling for her. Be careful! We are cunnier than a fox!

Rayhandrinni:
Add my gamertag on codm, hiddenrain
Let's fuckkk shiit up

mrbenjame:



This was exactly what some of my close friends told me and this makes me more confused. Now you see why I need advice

Lonestar124:
Please let me make a clarity here, there is difference between dating and getting married to undergraduate student or don't we have married women that are still in university?

The Op is planing to settled to down with one of them soonest...

mrbenjame:
I think I need matured minds to advice me because I’m very confused right now. Please take pains to read my story.

I dated a lady called Susan (not her real name ). For 4 years. I loved her so much and she did too. I met her when She was preparing to enter the university. 6 months into the relationship I went for service. Came back and it was already clocking 2 years. Whenever she visits I always try to make her comfortable. So she took advantage of my care and always wanted me to serve her all the time. Even when she visits from school she would be operating her phone and watch me do what on a normal terrain she should assist me do. As a young guy I try as much as I can to let her know that atleast once a while it would be nice to get my meal served by my woman even if I prepared it (since she doesn’t like entering the kitchen). Most time I overlook it because probably she’s very tired and all that. Sometimes I thought I was just being selfish but I really wanted to feel that woman attributes but I wasn’t seeing it. Each time we fix time for a date she comes very late and that piss me off to my bone marrow. She never keeps to time. I endured this for a long time because she never turned up early in any appointment. She calls me at late hours and when I try to explain to her that it’s late she gets angry ( I’m talking of 12 am or there about) and I’ll go to work the next day. Anytime she offends me she would want to be romantic so I’d forget her wrongs just to calm me down. But I was suffering inside.


I felt very weak emotionally and decided to take things easy.

Until I met this lady called Benita (not her real name). I liked her. I admired everything about her. So I approached her while we were going back home from work. We had good conversations and I was happy because she was fun to be with. We exchanged contact and we started chatting. Forgive me because I became happy again just talking to her. Whenever we say goodbye when she gets off the bus she times when I’d get home and immediately I step my foot in my house she calls.( already I’ve told her when I’d be home). I invited her to a date in an eatery and she turned up 10 minutes to the time. I was shocked.

I became more involved with her. I invited her home. She went to my kitchen and she said “ your plates are not washed why? I just smiled and told her I’ll take care of that. Before I knew what was happening she’s started washing the plates. I begged her to stop because I didn’t send her to do that and besides this it’s her first time in my house. But she refused. I let her ( though the plates were not much but I was happy). She started visiting often with food items to cook. And I obliged to assist her. She refused again. We argued until she had her way. I just sit with her in the kitchen and gist while she cooks. To me I felt I was punishing her because all I wanted is that things of such can be done by her once in a while. (I sabi pity person o. Lols!).

She calls all the time. Talks so lively and very funny. She’s not the miss romantic type but very smart and reserved.


After a while, you can’t cheat karma. Susan found out. She came to know about Benita. And since then it wasn’t easy settling between two of them. But Susan won’t just give up and I think I’m cool with Benita.


Today Benita is in her 100 level while Susan is about going for her service.


Now I’m trying to be responsible to settle down. I talked with my mum and some close friends of mine but they’re tipping Susan for me because she’s out of school and it would make things much easier for me than settling with Benita. But I love Benita now. She makes me happy. What do I do?

EmpressT:
I will comment on this.
Hmmm.... Love mata no be beans o especially when you're emotionally attached to someone you love. To be frank, Susan looks like a girl who's taking advantage of your weakness i.e kindness in everything. And Benita is a wife material if that's who she truly is. And your family prefer you marrying Susan because she's out of school. Is that it?
Wow! My dear guy, you have weighted the qualities you saw in Susan and Benita and you have concluded that Benita makes you happier. Na you go marry person no be your family. Na you see wetin them never see. Marriage is for life! Once you go in, no turning back unless you want to remain single till Jesus comes.
If Benita makes you happy and you desire to be with her, get to know her better. But as for Susan haa i don't know wetin I fit say.
All I got to tell you is.......FOLLOW YOUR HEART AND PRAY TO CHOSE WISELY..... All the best.

absool:
my own question to you is was Susan behaving the same way Benita is behaving when she recently gained admission ?

irepnaija4eva:



Bro.. Is this pubg game?

mrbenjame:



Benita grew up with distance relatives. They taught her a lot of things. Cleaning of the house to even the point of being a house help right from her tender age. These things became her lifestyle and she does them well with joy especially in the house of someone she loves

placeofallure:


If you're sure she's not a fraud, then go for her. Remember to invite me to your wedding.

Jovi123:
Guy just follow your heart and remember your family member won't stay in the marriage with you

ruggedtimi:
if you love ur life find a new girl, before u pay benita school fee until her finals and she leaves ur sorry a*s

kecee99:
Op, forget them both and look for another woman

justnock:
Bro, you are the one spending the rest of your life with the lady, not your parents or friends. Marry the ONE your heart truly craves for. No woman is perfect.

Octopusssy:
Go for the one who gives you peace of mind

mrbenjame:



Thanks. But this your username sha.

Octopusssy:

Read my signature and then do a google search