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Re: Car Issue: Am I Being Fair To My Wife? by solonubinho(m): 4:37pm On Feb 03, 2020 |
Please allow your wife buy the car. She really needs it. And as a bonus, you'll have a happier home. My 2 cents. 1 Like |
Re: Car Issue: Am I Being Fair To My Wife? by solonubinho(m): 4:38pm On Feb 03, 2020 |
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Re: Car Issue: Am I Being Fair To My Wife? by solonubinho(m): 4:38pm On Feb 03, 2020 |
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Re: Car Issue: Am I Being Fair To My Wife? by joyandfaith: 4:39pm On Feb 03, 2020 |
Opeyemiebun: it is her money, let her get a car for herself. your mates are even getting car for their wife. 1 Like |
Re: Car Issue: Am I Being Fair To My Wife? by midnighter(f): 4:39pm On Feb 03, 2020 |
Opeyemiebun: Please don't mind all these people insulting you, they are very stupid. There's nothing wrong with asking for advice before you take a decision. Please let her continue with the car to let her know you appreciate her sacrifice and to guard against future misunderstanding. Try to manage your families' expectations. You can't lower yourself to make other people feel better. If they stop talking to you because of car, that's their own bloody problem. We appreciate your wisdom as head of the home, good luck. 3 Likes |
Re: Car Issue: Am I Being Fair To My Wife? by Opeyemiebun: 4:39pm On Feb 03, 2020 |
Lastingglory: , Thanks alot bro, I wasn't even expecting this to make front page and the fact that some people already attached gender discrimination to it make it more scary. We are getting for her only for the main time. People do not understand,i never said she shouldn't buy... Was only thinking sustaining two at the moment is not the best for young couples The car we are getting for her is just for local use as I cannot encourage long distance driving. Even coming to Lag to fro... We make use of flight . So going to home town, going for a function outside the state she resides makes the car useless. But I appreciate the fact that some older married Men/Women have been able to chip in with their advice |
Re: Car Issue: Am I Being Fair To My Wife? by EngrMarve(m): 4:40pm On Feb 03, 2020 |
Opeyemiebun: Sir, I am also a civil engineer and my advice is this. get her the car because she needs it more than you do from what I read in this thread. She is a woman, she is like a baby and you wouldn't want her to get old fast due to the stress of taking care of your child. you can manage and get a car later for yourself. God will see us through and provide 1 Like |
Re: Car Issue: Am I Being Fair To My Wife? by blank(f): 4:41pm On Feb 03, 2020 |
Standardkid240: Abeg, no insult Igbo men. They will rather wear bathroom slippers and buy the latest outfits for their wife and kids. An Igbo man's crown is his family. (Since we are generalising). 4 Likes |
Re: Car Issue: Am I Being Fair To My Wife? by Vloml222(f): 4:42pm On Feb 03, 2020 |
My advice is getting just one car for now. She goes through much stress on a daily base than you. Dont get me wrong, like her job outside lagos,the kid to creche everyday with commercial vehicle...KUDOS to her....well get one car,you can both finance it... 3 Likes |
Re: Car Issue: Am I Being Fair To My Wife? by tranxo(m): 4:49pm On Feb 03, 2020 |
2sexycom:Reset her towards reality bro |
Re: Car Issue: Am I Being Fair To My Wife? by SmartyPants(m): 4:53pm On Feb 03, 2020 |
Opeyemiebun: Guy you can get a decent car for 600k. So if you will lose 600k because you don't have a decent car, why not just buy the car?? 1 Like |
Re: Car Issue: Am I Being Fair To My Wife? by Righteousness89(m): 4:54pm On Feb 03, 2020 |
Opeyemiebun:My Brother, if I were you, I will do with Bikes and other means of transportation and get her a car.. she has a kid with her. As men, we will always find our way.. 1 Like |
Re: Car Issue: Am I Being Fair To My Wife? by jaylehk(m): 4:55pm On Feb 03, 2020 |
My brother, your wife's comfort should be paramount. Yes, females are more tolerant of pains but you are in the best position to make an ease. Please let her get it. 2 Likes |
Re: Car Issue: Am I Being Fair To My Wife? by Bubzee(m): 4:55pm On Feb 03, 2020 |
Let her use her money to buy for herself then u keep urs for other investment,it's as simple as abc |
Re: Car Issue: Am I Being Fair To My Wife? by osayuking(m): 4:58pm On Feb 03, 2020 |
She deserve the car and needs the car more than you do., you have been working and hustling without a car and you can continue while she has to take care of the baby needs and work too (here comes your child and your wife) two things. You can get one car for her and when she’s not using it then you can take the car for yourself. But first your child needs and then your wife before you. 2 Likes |
Re: Car Issue: Am I Being Fair To My Wife? by Bbbwings: 4:59pm On Feb 03, 2020 |
I feel like woozingg op with very hot slap When I dey look for this kind babe No be she get the money. Let your family members be running their mouth he no concern you |
Re: Car Issue: Am I Being Fair To My Wife? by 2sexycom(m): 5:02pm On Feb 03, 2020 |
tranxo:Okay bro. But you were too harsh on her sha... |
Re: Car Issue: Am I Being Fair To My Wife? by golddare: 5:03pm On Feb 03, 2020 |
Opeyemiebun: Get one car for now, let her have it while you make the sacrifice, both of you can even be sharing it, I know after awhile she will understand the challenges in managing it. 1 Like |
Re: Car Issue: Am I Being Fair To My Wife? by U2ice(m): 5:05pm On Feb 03, 2020 |
Let her get hers and you chill for now 1 Like |
Re: Car Issue: Am I Being Fair To My Wife? by FreshestManny(m): 5:07pm On Feb 03, 2020 |
First off, I would say kudos in recognizing the efforts of ur wife many men would love to have that kind of supportive wife. Cutting to the chase, I would advice u to let her have a car; let her stress be eased up which in turn can make for a happier wife and like a popular adage says "a happy wife, a happy home". I wish u all the best. |
Re: Car Issue: Am I Being Fair To My Wife? by brightfame: 5:09pm On Feb 03, 2020 |
Oga... You don't have problem at all.. you are so lucky to have that kind of supportive wife. If you want to buy only one car, let the car be for her. Try and buy a strong, nice car for her because she deserves it. |
Re: Car Issue: Am I Being Fair To My Wife? by Bbbwings: 5:09pm On Feb 03, 2020 |
awakeuche:Na so o Coronavirus is in town |
Re: Car Issue: Am I Being Fair To My Wife? by proudly9ja(m): 5:09pm On Feb 03, 2020 |
Bro, I will be honest with you. Even if you end up buying only one car now, please give it to your wife. I live outside Nigeria where the roads are good and the transport network is also good i.e. you have access to taxis, efficient bus routes, train, etc. Despite this, IT IS VERY DIFFICULT for a woman (or man) to move around with a child(ren)! Pushing prams is HARDWORK. Now compare this to Nigeria where you will compete with Okada, buses, etc and pedestrian pavements are almost non-existent. Please I beg you, either buy the two cars and let her have one (and if possible, hire driver for her) or buy one and give her that one. My piece of advice 6 Likes |
Re: Car Issue: Am I Being Fair To My Wife? by mzvyne(f): 5:10pm On Feb 03, 2020 |
Opeyemiebun: Get two cars or you sacrifice yours for her to buy hers. What were you expecting to hear? |
Re: Car Issue: Am I Being Fair To My Wife? by WeRblessed(f): 5:12pm On Feb 03, 2020 |
Opeyemiebun: One thing I like about your tread is that your 'being' is not spelt as 'been'. Thank you for that. 1 Like |
Re: Car Issue: Am I Being Fair To My Wife? by tranxo(m): 5:13pm On Feb 03, 2020 |
2sexycom:Lol. Vested interest? |
Re: Car Issue: Am I Being Fair To My Wife? by Udi2020: 5:13pm On Feb 03, 2020 |
Opeyemiebun:my dear I currently run two homes. My husband stays in another state while I stay in another state. He had to give me a car while he had to buy another for himself. Is not easy staying separetly but the lady Worth's it more than u cos she has a dependent on her. Me I have four kids. So please get her the car for now. You can be transporting yourself for now till u get enough money to buy urs |
Re: Car Issue: Am I Being Fair To My Wife? by victorian(f): 5:15pm On Feb 03, 2020 |
steppin: Na so! Married men behaving like kids It's her money, she plan to use on buying herself a car. She knows her husband won't lift a finger to pay for a car except for himself . Newsflash: if he must know, I have a young cousin who bought a Mercede Benz cars for himself and an extra for his 30 years old wife. He didn't come online to ask strangers if he should gift his wife a car. And he didn't seek for our approval. He simply did it, out of his own free will and knowing fully well he doesn't have the patience to always drop his kids at school, then branch and drop his wife at her shop while he heads to work. My cousin is an inspiration to me, he's meticulous, family oriented, doesnt over labour his wife with house chores. While shes cooking, he's either tending to the kids or washing their curtains or thick duvee. Sometimes he comes back home with take away packs from Spar. Such an easygoing guy. So Steppin if u guys deserve accolades as married men, be wise enough to handle your homes and family without seeking approvals from faceless strangers. I'm not married ,but I'm In a relationship and I don't bring my relationship issues here for people to talk about. It doesn't show maturity as married men. If u don't want any dik and Harry say how u should run your home? Keep quiet and manage your home appropriately without third parties involved. Protect your home! Even me wey never marry know such golden rule. Can u imagine? 2 Likes |
Re: Car Issue: Am I Being Fair To My Wife? by stubbornman(m): 5:15pm On Feb 03, 2020 |
Opeyemiebun: See ehn.... dont create a thread if you aint gon take people's advice............... you're far and dont know what she goes through. |
Re: Car Issue: Am I Being Fair To My Wife? by mzvyne(f): 5:20pm On Feb 03, 2020 |
Opeyemiebun: Ndi head of the family have come again. Ok head of the family why aren't you bearing responsibilities alone as Bible God intended? 3 Likes |
Re: Car Issue: Am I Being Fair To My Wife? by Djsylar(m): 5:22pm On Feb 03, 2020 |
My simple advice to you is to get a car for your wife. You don't expect the mother of your kids be getting to stressed out trying to get to work and dropping off your child at a creche. She needs the car most you can always survive. As for customers looking at you and charging you less i think that's where your negotiation skills comes in. Having a car doesn't stop a customer form charging you what they want to. So please remember women are to be treated as jewels must especially your wife. 3 Likes |
Re: Car Issue: Am I Being Fair To My Wife? by Afrikween(f): 5:26pm On Feb 03, 2020 |
Opeyemiebun:but you need advice now...... this arrogance nawa.... ogbeni she needs the car more than you do... let her have hers first. 1 Like |
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