Mstick:
Mr shut the FUÇK UP! if you’ve an issue with your spouse take it to your spouse or a counselor!


Nairaland is a site overrun with kids and never do wells and this thread will not go on without his wife being called names and idiôts will fill OPs head with crazy ideas just watch!


If nairaland stop existing then where will you and your kind take their issues to?!


You’re not wise no wonder you came to nairaland to look for advice, he said his wife forgets their anniversary so what brought about sex,money, househelp and her not working?!


I don’t know how grown adults can bring topics about their spouse to this site knowing fully well how rude people are on here. How do you feel when you read insulting posts and names directed at your spouse?!

How the hell am I pulling him down?! So because I ask him not to bring his family matter on here that’s pulling down?! You need to get wise.

Based on your reaction, let me describe your person: A single of about 35 or over without any serious date or a divorcee (kicked out by her ex), have been heartbroken serially, perhaps without any tangible means of livelihood, nursing a deep feeling of being cheated by life (no thanks to your unstable and unreasonable life outlook) and above all very BITTER. Run to Jesus for succour before you run mad or become suicidal.

That does not mean she does not love you. My wife has forgotten my birthday more than once.

We both forgot our wedding anniversary last year until after a month.

It could be you tomorrow... So, be gentle in your reaction.

Every other stuff you mentioned are serious issues, obviously.
But she remembering the wedding anniversary of YOU BOTH?
Fvck that
that's not an issue

cRobo:
I just pity you

You are in serious bondage

Take away her privileges

Close that her business so she remain at home

Things will fall into place with time

Lastly hack her social media account so she will be bored until you are the only source of joy she has

Social media influence so much with statement like " she deserves more" she keeps hearing

Lastly, don't take advice from most females on this platform they are home breakers with no husband to call their own, extreme feminist, very stupid and useless breed of people

My one cent

Lol! Too much stress. This will later grow into domestic violence. One will probably endup 6feet underground and the other in kirikiri. God4bid. Better to leave!

klap4gbens:
That does not mean she does not love you. My wife has forgotten my birthday more than once.

We both forgot our wedding anniversary last year until after a month.

It could be you tomorrow... So, be gentle in your reaction.

Read the whole thread. Not just the headline.

Expensiverichyb:
I never knew men take little thing like this serious.
What happened to dialogue instead of all this complain here?

Are u sure u read what the op wrote down... The wife is deliberately driving him to the edge and all u can say is its a little thing Na wah for u oo

I can send you an ebook about women, it will change your perception about them, I will advise you to change your cologne, start dressing nice and ignore her totally, get a side chick if possible. Women hate men that ignore them and don’t ever beg for sex again, she’s using that to manipulate you. Have sex outside and use protection if need be bro. She will be the one coming back to her senses if you can try and ignore her for long.

makydebbie:

I'm even shocked.

My sister, some people are depressed and they have no idea they are.
All they need is a slide opportunity to vent it.

See idiot

crackkhaus:
Your problem is lack of sex and the power you've given her to use it against you.
Forgetting your anniversary is just a by-product of the real issues in your marriage.

The day you start begging a woman for sex, you start losing your self-worth and she will gradually start believing she can get away with anything since you will still meet her at night to beg for punny.

Just let her be sexually.

Continue with your duties as financial provider of the home generally, but reduce whatever she personally gets from you in a noticeable way.

As for your sexual needs, I won't hold it against you if you get it outside. That's exactly what I'd do in this scenario.
Sex is too easy to get for one person to use it to imprison me.

By the time you don't kiss, touch, or even breath on her neck for the next 5months, no one will remind her to receive sense.

Nah man you be.

Might just be she forgot it honestly, now you wanna take it to another new level by asking 1000 of kids in nairaland who not even married yet, neither do they have responsibility. Go and ask your spouse that question. ''Do you love me''?

cRobo:
I just pity you

You are in serious bondage

Take away her privileges

Close that her business so she remain at home

Things will fall into place with time

Lastly hack her social media account so she will be bored until you are the only source of joy she has

Social media influence so much with statement like " she deserves more" she keeps hearing

Lastly, don't take advice from most females on this platform they are home breakers with no husband to call their own, extreme feminist, very stupid and useless breed of people

My one cent

See kettle calling pot black. So the rubbish you wrote up there is 'advice'?

My advise judging from your own side of the matter, t pray to the one who created marriage (God) and lay your complaints before Him. Next, take a weekebd off together and have a heart to heart discussion with her. Could be a hotel not far from the house. Just the of you, pour out your concerns and get her feedback. There must be a reason why she's acting up. The Lord keep your Union.

What I see here is that your life is being ruined by your wife depriving you sex. If she gives you quality sex every other thing will fall into place. Trust me.

But mind you, she may not be enjoying sex like that again. So have a heart to heart talk with her. Know the reason why she deprives you and let her know how you feel, how your personality is being affected. Hear her out too.

Buy her gifts without requesting. Be caring and see if it helps.
Visit here for more advice for married couples:

https://www.jw.org/en/bible-teachings/family/

Rapecase:
Ignore the title. Read the whole thread.

You should change the title. Alot of Nairalanders can't read

Shameless man fighting his wife over a mere wedding anniversary when men like him are doing better things with their time

abescom:
You and your kind should learn not to comment on issues on nairaland if you have nothing tangible to say on the issue.

Many people who come here ( and I have had to at some point ) do so because they need help and want to get it without revealing their identity. The fact that you don't need such at the moment doesn't mean others are petty.

And he adding the money and work aspect is quite justifiable. He obviously is trying to make people see work isn't an excuse.

And if you give someone as much as he has said he gave and you still get called names because you help someone in genuine need you surely will be angry too.

Let's stop pulling others down because you have a way of belief that's different from theirs.

Lmao! You dey mind am

Mstick is a well known yabaleft escapee with severe daddy issues who hides under the cloak of "feminism", spending hours ranting in the family section like a mad dog!

She only regurgitated that stupiid post in a desperate attempt at garnering 'likes' ... funniest part is the simpleton actually thought her usual cohorts will join the bandwagon to hurl insults at OP.. but unfortunately only ended up exposing how idiotic and frustrated she is right on the front page.. smh

Ko matter bro.When you are mostly busy and occupied you tend to forget things easily but tbh women tend to remember things especially when it’s lover/relationship matters compare to men

All these bloody liars intetionally creating false threads to paint Marriage as bad decesion.

Rapecase:
Edit - to those who may be wondering about my username, I created this account whilst trying to help two kids who were victims of rape.

Our 4th anniversary was few days ago, as I thought she would , my wife forgot the date.

I am beginning to think maybe I am a mental health patient who doesn't know yet. Maybe something is wrong with me and I am just reacting based on that?

well She remembered your anniversary but really not happy she settled with you so it's not worth celebrating to her. She's not into you but your finances, probably you were the richest among her boyfriends back then, Well she might even be using your money to take good care of who she truly love. There are things that ain't open to you. Stop initiating sex anymore and face front. Look for happiness elsewhere, hangout with your friends and free your mind. Just free her and start thinking straight. Don't let her shun your opinions, it's really your house so control it. Don't let what you are going through reflect on your kids, love them.

Rapecase:
Edit - to those who may be wondering about my username, I created this account whilst trying to help two kids who were victims of rape.

Our 4th anniversary was few days ago, as I thought she would , my wife forgot the date. It ordinarily would not have hurt me so much but I have always had this feeling that she doesn't love me.

When we were dating she was all over me. But nothing I do ever since we got married gets appreciated. Few months ago she hurled abuses on me for helping a sister, a friend of hers, who lost a child and are homeless. And what's the help? Just 100k. Apparently I enjoy abandoning her need for others. And this
coming from a woman who few days earlier was saying I had invested over 2m on her business in a short while ( by her own calculation, as I don't take note when giving her money ).

I told a mother figure in church who is close to both me, her and the family I helped who corrected her. Expect if she will apologise tomorrow.

Off course the lady I helped in question is idiotic but I can't bear her and house and kids being homeless especially after losing a child.

My wife will never apologise when she does sometime I object to. Her apology which is often done in the most demeaning way is only tendered if I take the issue over board.

Our sex life since we got married has been poor to the extreme. I have ensured I do not cheat, not for a single day but I constantly have to beg for sex or masturbate to relieve myself.

Laying our bed is always a war for her. She does it only when she wants. Mind you we have two kids and a maid who helps with virtually everything.

The maid in the morning ( 90% of the time ) makes the breakfast, clean the house while she only baths our first child and get her ready for school, I take her to school most of the time.

Am I overreacting to expect my wife to

1. Properly apologise when she does something I do not like and ensure she doesnt repeat it? For instance few days ago she was planning on traveling outside our base, I only got to know through her phone conversation with her sister although she didn't eventually travel, I felt I should have known before hand as I got to know a night before. Till date what I got in form of apology is, "I would have told you". She was planning to travel by 5am, I heard her conversation by 10pm a night before and we slept on the same bed.

2. Sex at least 3 times a week? I stopped trying to initiate it after so many rejections.

3. Not to forget important dates such as our wedding anniversary?

4. To at all time be the one making my meal.

Please note she practically doesn't work now. We are setting up a fashion house for her she has taken over 3m from me as of the time of writing this. Note my cloths go to dry cleaners. Only thing she does is cook my meal ( when she wants ).

I am beginning to think maybe I am a mental health patient who doesn't know yet. Maybe something is wrong with me and I am just reacting based on that?

Oga I saw ur story and I feel for you.
pls help me me with 20.000 I'll will send it back if u need, I need to pay my my shop rent before month end.
UBA 2117391318 OKEKE EMMANUEL

That picture fit him na wayo alufa Male bros dey do

Na crackhaus type dey full tub with roses and scented oil to get access.
I agree with him minus the looking outside for sex part.

sassysure:

So u won't beg your woman for sex?

But you want her to beg you?

Iffahia

( I no get strength o)

sassysure:

So u won't beg your woman for sex?

But you want her to beg you?

Iffahia

( I no get strength o)

who is this kid?

She loves you. But there is a question mark!

I can only pick about 3 or 4 sensible comments from page 1 to this point. The rest are NONSENSE. RUBBISH. SENSELESS

Mr Rapecase, it is my earnest hope that God will grant you Solomonic wisdom on how to handle your marital challenges because if you follow what many of the posters are 'advising' you to do, you will wreck your marriage by yourself for yourself.

I feel for you bro,will be praying for you.i am not married but I feel too bad going through this your write-up. your health is important to us. Talk to her and if you think it's not working out please Walk away from that marriage

you don't actually need to do much to get a woman's love if she really likes or loves you. I've been with girls that always want to do things to make me happy because they were truly into me and the ones that you will have to talk or some times beg first before they will even start considering whatever it is that you want them to do because them no send me that much. it's very obvious that your wife doesn't send you any more.

marriage stops becoming interesting and starts going downhill when both partners stop working for each other's happiness. you have to find out what you've done wrong for your wife to dislike you this much.

if you're truly doing what you said you're doing for her and she still treats you this way, imagine how she would treat you if you could no longer provide what you're currently providing.

it's obvious your marriage lacks consideration and maybe love. and you have to sit up and demand from your partner how you deserve to be treated.

Don't ever beg for love or sex weda in a mere gf and bf relationship or in marriage because it depicts you as weak and you start losing your worth in the eyes of your partner when you do that.
just saying!

Rapecase:
She never apologises from the onset. But affront has now been added to it.

your marry another man. she need counselling, take her to a counsellor or involved her parent or close relative that she respect

I'm sure you haven't married. May God give you such a woman for a wife, and see how you would react. Your type is the one that beat up his wife or go outside to satisfy himself.

Mstick:
Oga if you’re running nuts like you claimed you wouldn’t add all the flimsy details about giving your wife money knowing fully well how much it triggers the boys on this forum, after all if you don’t give your wife money who will?

I don’t understand why you need to add the “she practically doesn’t work” part if you really don’t want your wife to be insulted by kids on this forum.

Your sex life is NOT anyone’s business and it’s also not for public consumption so why do you need to add that detail?

If you feel your wife doesn’t love you, don’t you think she’s on the best position to answer that instead of exposing your family to ridiculous advice from never do wells?

meeky007:

Oga I saw ur story and I feel for you.
pls help me me with 20.000 I'll will send it back if u need, I need to pay my my shop rent before month end.

Op is asking for one thing, you are saying another. Nawa for Nigerians

Did you married because of remembering your wedding anniversary? Stop making a case out of nothing

I hope the fashion house both of you are setting up doesn't include male stuffs?if yes, then I smell more troubles ahead. For your own good, don't open any business that will attract male customers to your wife unless you want to die Young.

Rapecase:
Edit - to those who may be wondering about my username, I created this account whilst trying to help two kids who were victims of rape.

Our 4th anniversary was few days ago, as I thought she would , my wife forgot the date. It ordinarily would not have hurt me so much but I have always had this feeling that she doesn't love me.

When we were dating she was all over me. But nothing I do ever since we got married gets appreciated. Few months ago she hurled abuses on me for helping a sister, a friend of hers, who lost a child and are homeless. And what's the help? Just 100k. Apparently I enjoy abandoning her need for others. And this
coming from a woman who few days earlier was saying I had invested over 2m on her business in a short while ( by her own calculation, as I don't take note when giving her money ).

I told a mother figure in church who is close to both me, her and the family I helped who corrected her. Expect if she will apologise tomorrow.

Off course the lady I helped in question is idiotic but I can't bear her and house and kids being homeless especially after losing a child.

My wife will never apologise when she does sometime I object to. Her apology which is often done in the most demeaning way is only tendered if I take the issue over board.

Our sex life since we got married has been poor to the extreme. I have ensured I do not cheat, not for a single day but I constantly have to beg for sex or masturbate to relieve myself.

Laying our bed is always a war for her. She does it only when she wants. Mind you we have two kids and a maid who helps with virtually everything.

The maid in the morning ( 90% of the time ) makes the breakfast, clean the house while she only baths our first child and get her ready for school, I take her to school most of the time.

Am I overreacting to expect my wife to

1. Properly apologise when she does something I do not like and ensure she doesnt repeat it? For instance few days ago she was planning on traveling outside our base, I only got to know through her phone conversation with her sister although she didn't eventually travel, I felt I should have known before hand as I got to know a night before. Till date what I got in form of apology is, "I would have told you". She was planning to travel by 5am, I heard her conversation by 10pm a night before and we slept on the same bed.

2. Sex at least 3 times a week? I stopped trying to initiate it after so many rejections.

3. Not to forget important dates such as our wedding anniversary?

4. To at all time be the one making my meal.

Please note she practically doesn't work now. We are setting up a fashion house for her she has taken over 3m from me as of the time of writing this. Note my cloths go to dry cleaners. Only thing she does is cook my meal ( when she wants ).

I am beginning to think maybe I am a mental health patient who doesn't know yet. Maybe something is wrong with me and I am just reacting based on that?