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With all due respect, Naija girls or women have what I'd like to call: audacity of whoring. Their pussies are on loan and for sale only to the highest bidders.
Trust them at peril.

Nna, walk away from that lady simple.
She has no atom of love for you while you are infatuated with the idea of settling down with her.

Nna gba wa door.

Biafrareform:
Good morning all, for those still awake.

I think my relationship just ended. Something we both cherish.

Well, months back my ex and I came back together. We had a bliss relationship while in our final year, but I wasn't committed at all and she knew it and left. Back then in school she kept going to my phone and of course she do see things to talk about .

After 1 year of being apart, I needed a committed relationship cos I wanted to settle down. She came to my mind and the feelings was so strong even though I tried to resist it. We finally met and resolved all issues that led to her leaving .

Is been the sweetest memory we have had so far. Everything was going fine. She is a nice and sweet girl. Our agenda is marriage and she is aware. She fits perfectly to my ideal woman. Our emotional and spiritual connection is just perfect.

Well, things take a turn when I went to her phone and saw stuff that knocked me out. What really got me mad was her dating a married man. My emotion was dead. She said the relationship is in the past. She was forced to go into it after she left school. Her mum forced her into it when she stopped caring for her and asked her to go fend for herself. Then we weren't together. She confessed to becoming someone else from who I knew when I didn't tried to bring her back. But she is not a bad as I think , she concluded .

I also saw her chat with someone where she sent a bedroom pics she took in my house. She said she is just flirting with him (they have a fling) but that I should give her time, she is going to completely cut of tiers with them.

Well, I love her was ready to stay with her.
She was around again this Val and was tempted to check again and noticed she is still communicating with the married man. Infact I noticed they met lately in January. I locked up , and decided that is over. Didn't talk to her about it.

We went out for on Saturday. She is the type that hardly post on Facebook. Infact she has reduced my activities on Facebook. Her reason, our lives shouldn't be on social media.
I uploaded our outing on WhatsApp. She did too, but didn't upload the one we took together. Yea, she hasn't done that b4. I was angry and voiced out what I saw in her phone. Accused her of deliberately hiding us from her contacts.
She apologised and told me she isn't doing anything with the man again. Just the normal chat cos of the friendship they have had b4 . She even handed her phone to me to call him and end it if I want . I wasn't taking any of that cos I saw from her browsing history where she is been searching how to make a married man fall in love and spend on her but didn't let her know of it.
She pleaded that nothing is happening between them again. Then she begged that I should stopped going to her phone that is destroying us. That if I ended up destroying this relationship, where do I want her to start.

She is back to her base and we chatted last nite and she brought up the case of me going to her phone again and I was angry with that and told her about the browsing history too.

She was completely devastated with my findings.
Is lengthy right, sorry about that. This is a relationship we both cherished and I know she love me real good. Ohh, I forgot to tell you, she bought me a native dress and sent 6k to me from her 33k NYSC allawee. She is a good girl. She is nice and caring. I love this girl real good. Never loved anyone like this before.

But I don't know what has really gone wrong with her. I was determined to really make this right, but as it stand now, it seems dead to me and I am sure she also feels same too.

I should have stayed away from her phone. But guys, is not my fault, I love this girl and I am serious about it.

You are blaming yourself over her infidelity

You may blame yourself for insisting on a paternity test if the results are negatives

You are too caring and that is the weakness the 2faced young girl is exploring!!!

You are older, you should be wiser. .. Unfortunately, she has your mumu button!!!

Break up with her now... Tomorrow may be dangerous!!!

"How to make a married man fall in love with you"

stop lying to her, post her phone number here so we can verify your claims

This one is In a relationship with an unrepentant prostitute

I sorry for your life

this type of ladies always keep friends with benefits...she is not sincere and u better run...u will always have a heart ache from her...besides if u want to marry commit your ways to God and he will direct you, flee youthful lust it will derail you, repent and ask for forgiveness from God

ImaIma1:
Let me see if I get the facts right.

She has/had an affair with a married man; meaning she has no respect or regard for the institution of marriage. If she can sleep with a married man, would it be hard for her to sleep with someone else when you both are married?

She still communicates with him and he probably still sends her money. What does she do for him to get this money? Is she willing to let go of the monetary benefits?

She took a picture in your bedroom and sent to another guy? While you guys are dating?

She has no regard for you. You are the nice broke guy (she sent you money) that will be there for her to settle down with. She will probably be doing her runs and giving you money from it.

If you still want to go ahead, stop checking her phone because you will continue seeing things

ladies like you that think right are rare

Give her the yoruba demon treatment. Promise her marriage and be using her for sex. Use her until you build house. After building your house, start treating her like trash. Na she go frustrate and dump herself.

This is how yoruba guys treat unfaithful women. Nai make he nor good to date or marry Yoruba girl when done reach 30 years because most of the time, she has been given the yoruba demon treatment. After such treatment, the babe dey turn fetish instantly.

Run oh

Biafrareform:
Good morning all, for those still awake.

I think my relationship just ended. Something we both cherish.

Well, months back my ex and I came back together. We had a bliss relationship while in our final year, but I wasn't committed at all and she knew it and left. Back then in school she kept going to my phone and of course she do see things to talk about .

After 1 year of being apart, I needed a committed relationship cos I wanted to settle down. She came to my mind and the feelings was so strong even though I tried to resist it. We finally met and resolved all issues that led to her leaving .

Is been the sweetest memory we have had so far. Everything was going fine. She is a nice and sweet girl. Our agenda is marriage and she is aware. She fits perfectly to my ideal woman. Our emotional and spiritual connection is just perfect.

Well, things take a turn when I went to her phone and saw stuff that knocked me out. What really got me mad was her dating a married man. My emotion was dead. She said the relationship is in the past. She was forced to go into it after she left school. Her mum forced her into it when she stopped caring for her and asked her to go fend for herself. Then we weren't together. She confessed to becoming someone else from who I knew when I didn't tried to bring her back. But she is not a bad as I think , she concluded .

I also saw her chat with someone where she sent a bedroom pics she took in my house. She said she is just flirting with him (they have a fling) but that I should give her time, she is going to completely cut of tiers with them.

Well, I love her was ready to stay with her.
She was around again this Val and was tempted to check again and noticed she is still communicating with the married man. Infact I noticed they met lately in January. I locked up , and decided that is over. Didn't talk to her about it.

We went out for on Saturday. She is the type that hardly post on Facebook. Infact she has reduced my activities on Facebook. Her reason, our lives shouldn't be on social media.
I uploaded our outing on WhatsApp. She did too, but didn't upload the one we took together. Yea, she hasn't done that b4. I was angry and voiced out what I saw in her phone. Accused her of deliberately hiding us from her contacts.
She apologised and told me she isn't doing anything with the man again. Just the normal chat cos of the friendship they have had b4 . She even handed her phone to me to call him and end it if I want . I wasn't taking any of that cos I saw from her browsing history where she is been searching how to make a married man fall in love and spend on her but didn't let her know of it.
She pleaded that nothing is happening between them again. Then she begged that I should stopped going to her phone that is destroying us. That if I ended up destroying this relationship, where do I want her to start.

She is back to her base and we chatted last nite and she brought up the case of me going to her phone again and I was angry with that and told her about the browsing history too.

She was completely devastated with my findings.
Is lengthy right, sorry about that. This is a relationship we both cherished and I know she love me real good. Ohh, I forgot to tell you, she bought me a native dress and sent 6k to me from her 33k NYSC allawee. She is a good girl. She is nice and caring. I love this girl real good. Never loved anyone like this before.

But I don't know what has really gone wrong with her. I was determined to really make this right, but as it stand now, it seems dead to me and I am sure she also feels same too.

I should have stayed away from her phone. But guys, is not my fault, I love this girl and I am serious about it.

She is restless and looking for adventure. These are things that make women cheat.

She gave me 6 K and bought native wears for me.......blah,blah,blah...SHE IS A GOOD GIRL
Bros you must be a comedian on sabbatical leave

Ok

G

After they would marry and he would come here complaining that she did this and did that

Where is your senses, young man?

To whom a brain is given, sense is expected

You have seen veritable proof that your fiancee is dating several men and lying all over the place to you and you are here talking about love

Abeg shift

Biafrareform:
.

I believed we all have past. Even myself have got a past. Same as you .

I believe everyone deserves a chance . A willing heart ready to change though.

And I also believed no one is perfect . The only bad girl out there is the one you have discovered her past .
There are many who we see as good , but undiscovered bad side .

Pasta
Go and pay the bride price na

Of what use are you to her OP. She gave you 6k from her hustling not nysc, slowpoke.

Just having a dick is not enough. Dont you rhink marrying you will be a curse to her.

I strongly recommend she leaves you

Biafrareform:
Good morning all, for those still awake.

I should have stayed away from her phone. But guys, is not my fault, I love this girl and I am serious about it.

You did the right as far as I'm concerned. At least, you knew what you are getting yourself into should you continue with her. If you eventually marry her after seeing all these, you will only have yourself to blame, not her.
Some people would say it is wrong to be going through your partner's phone, that it means that there is no trust. I would ask them, is the partner hiding something?

Op you are on a long thing!!!

Biafrareform:
Good morning all, for those still awake.

I think my relationship just ended. Something we both cherish.

Well, months back my ex and I came back together. We had a bliss relationship while in our final year, but I wasn't committed at all and she knew it and left. Back then in school she kept going to my phone and of course she do see things to talk about .

After 1 year of being apart, I needed a committed relationship cos I wanted to settle down. She came to my mind and the feelings was so strong even though I tried to resist it. We finally met and resolved all issues that led to her leaving .

Is been the sweetest memory we have had so far. Everything was going fine. She is a nice and sweet girl. Our agenda is marriage and she is aware. She fits perfectly to my ideal woman. Our emotional and spiritual connection is just perfect.

Well, things take a turn when I went to her phone and saw stuff that knocked me out. What really got me mad was her dating a married man. My emotion was dead. She said the relationship is in the past. She was forced to go into it after she left school. Her mum forced her into it when she stopped caring for her and asked her to go fend for herself. Then we weren't together. She confessed to becoming someone else from who I knew when I didn't tried to bring her back. But she is not a bad as I think , she concluded .

I also saw her chat with someone where she sent a bedroom pics she took in my house. She said she is just flirting with him (they have a fling) but that I should give her time, she is going to completely cut of tiers with them.

Well, I love her was ready to stay with her.
She was around again this Val and was tempted to check again and noticed she is still communicating with the married man. Infact I noticed they met lately in January. I locked up , and decided that is over. Didn't talk to her about it.

We went out for on Saturday. She is the type that hardly post on Facebook. Infact she has reduced my activities on Facebook. Her reason, our lives shouldn't be on social media.
I uploaded our outing on WhatsApp. She did too, but didn't upload the one we took together. Yea, she hasn't done that b4. I was angry and voiced out what I saw in her phone. Accused her of deliberately hiding us from her contacts.
She apologised and told me she isn't doing anything with the man again. Just the normal chat cos of the friendship they have had b4 . She even handed her phone to me to call him and end it if I want . I wasn't taking any of that cos I saw from her browsing history where she is been searching how to make a married man fall in love and spend on her but didn't let her know of it.
She pleaded that nothing is happening between them again. Then she begged that I should stopped going to her phone that is destroying us. That if I ended up destroying this relationship, where do I want her to start.

She is back to her base and we chatted last nite and she brought up the case of me going to her phone again and I was angry with that and told her about the browsing history too.

She was completely devastated with my findings.
Is lengthy right, sorry about that. This is a relationship we both cherished and I know she love me real good. Ohh, I forgot to tell you, she bought me a native dress and sent 6k to me from her 33k NYSC allawee. She is a good girl. She is nice and caring. I love this girl real good. Never loved anyone like this before.

But I don't know what has really gone wrong with her. I was determined to really make this right, but as it stand now, it seems dead to me and I am sure she also feels same too.

I should have stayed away from her phone. But guys, is not my fault, I love this girl and I am serious about it.

You suppose dey work with efcc or DSS...anyway she sent u her sugar daddy's money not allowie.. If u let her deceive u... Na u go lose Las Las cos when u marry her.. Her sugar daddy go even come wedding, donate money n after wedding he go still dey cut cake.. I would advice u let her be go be a second wife to her sugar daddy oo.. Make I jaapaa

RisenPhoenix:
You are weak. What is there to analyse again? She's having an affair, wrecking a marriage, yet you are the one to blame for not trusting her? She wants to turn you to mumu; trusting the untrustworthy. Nice girl my backside.

Any woman that you wany to marry should be <21 years old. Anything more than that and having passed through university, is bound to have an odorous history that will haunt her and whoever marries her for the rest of their lives. Be warned.

Wrong! at 21 girls are still at the discovery stage trying to understand themselves. At 25 they have attained a level of maturity to handle critical issues

*my mother pushed me into it*
Almost all the nigerian girls this days give this excuse and claim bankrupt immediately you ask them out you'll start paying for accommodation,schl fees,etc.
My big question is,why are they so many poor girls roaming,especially the fine ones,they dont wana melow down swallow there pride and work.
They believe there beauty is there market.

Biafrareform:
Okay she is 20.

she is 20 and her mum already said she is no longer her responsibility?

how are you sure that is not her academic age?

If you love her, fight for your love. People make mistake. Tell her to decide who she wants. If she chose you then she should cut the string with others immediately.
A year break in your relationship may have given room for all of this but you know her better and also understands the situation better than us.
Go with your mind but not until you have prayed about it.

So bobo, you don't have money and you are still being aggressive, alaye calm down jur

Hello Oga Ade, listen nothing ever remains same. You have seen the hand writing now don’t wait to see your own memo. A lot is happening this days that I fear the worst for the next generation. Nothing bothers them neither do they consider the word called repercussion!
After 15 years of marriage a man found out at the embassy that none of the kids his wife claimed they were his are is own.
My brother move on!

Biafrareform:
Yea. I have always done that . I am willing to stand by her and correct her . I sees it as her past.

I just realised it takes a second for someone to change . I wasn't expecting her to remain the same after I left .

My issue is, will things remain the same after I told her my findings ?

Gentlemen,

Let’s not get over ourselves here... Except for a few really bad escapades, what a woman has done in the past is mostly in the past.

That said, I find it completely pathetic that this man is even seeking opinions when she has already taken a self serving stance..

1- she dated a married man, not the problem.. problem is that u now know and she hasn’t cut him off. She is still dating him.

2- she claims she is flirting with a guy whom she sends pics taken in your apartment.. she also hasn’t disconnected completely from him.. No disrespect can be further from this..

3- she has the effrontery to tell u that u don’t know or trust her.. she also has the effrontery to tell u that you have gone beyond what u need to know... for a woman u plan to settle with and spend the rest of ur life with, this is crazy and unbelievable talk..

Finally, let it be known to you that you haven’t found a wife, what you have is a part time babe whom you are sharing with other people including married men.. The 6k she sent you could even be from the married man..

Please review your relationship, she is actively cheating and painfully so, she doesn’t plan to quit for you, at least, not yet!! A word is enough for the wise..

My 2 cents...

Mutemenot:
You have time to build the relationship . You guys haven't really come together, prove to her you are willing and ready for the relationship . Women always have options most especially when dealing with men they think can t meet their demand .
..knowing that she has everything you want in a woman, I suggest you give her more room for repentance ...

Women always have options...?

And married man suppose to be the option?

If she’s truly 20yrs old and has an enterprise already in whoring my brother, it will take 6 or more years for her to close that enterprise oh. If you can wait for 6yrs when she’s tired of all the fun and this olosho work, then you’ll have your remnant waiting for you and ready to be loyal. For now, don’t waste your time on her. You were supposed to catch her young, but then, she’s now exposed and she’s hardwired for a sleeping-around lifestyle, I am sorry, there’s nothing you can do again.

Biafrareform:
Lol. Btw she is 20. And she love me, I know it .

She isn't even desperate for marriage .

I am not even bothered with her past . I am just concern about her present hence my reaction .

I love her I won't lie , but I am willing to cut it off and move on

There is nothing bad in digging deep, but digging deeper can cause you heart break, guy we all have our past and if we don't let go of it, it will keep hurting our today, please forgive her and both of you should always pray together. But honestly you need to seriously work on her if you are to marry her or else heart attack may set in. God will help you