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Re: Nigerian Parents Have Failed In Raising This Present Generation Of Men by wrose(m): 6:09pm On Mar 25, 2020
Martinez39s:
The desire for "get rich quick" schemes, and the desire to flaunt wealth— or at least show that one is doing well— are characteristics of youth; it's not limited to males. It's also why many male and female youths live fake lives on social media. There is an increase in "yahoo boys" as well as an increase in girls eagerly treading the slutty path for any manna from rich men and Yahoo boys. The laziness and lack of ambition, also being characteristic of today's youth, are also not limited to males. The abject reading culture and the aversion toward activities that are intellectually demanding are also not a male problem; they plague both male and female youths. Though not an excuse, such deplorable state of youth in Nigeria is mainly due to the broken system they have found themselves in.

From your write-up, one would erroneously conclude the following:
1) females are the ones making all the money while males are rotting in poverty.
2) Females are the geniuses while males are inept in intellectual endeavors. Males cheat in exams while females don't.
3) Females are avid readers while the males are not.
4) Females are the breadwinners of their families.
5) Females are not lazy, but males are lazy.

Such bias and erroneous inferences are not surprising since you, just like other feminists/females, will operate from the natural feminine hubris of female superiority and indispensability, and the natural feminine loathing and envy of men and masculinity. In fact such talking points in the op and the bleating on male ego (as if females don't have ego) as textbook feminist talking points.

As for the redpill, haters are welcome. grin


Omar09, emmaodet, pansophist, CAPSLOCKED, JONNYSPUTE,
well articulated. Apt!!
Re: Nigerian Parents Have Failed In Raising This Present Generation Of Men by Kiddllc: 7:46pm On Apr 27, 2020
crackkhaus:
The ironic thing about the OP's rant regarding laziness and hardwork is that after all is said and done, she will not be able to use an iPhone in her life if a man doesn't buy it for her.
Why so heartless shocked
Re: Nigerian Parents Have Failed In Raising This Present Generation Of Men by Emekaossai(m): 8:36pm On Apr 27, 2020
OP by saying this generation of men, hope your husband is included? It's like you voicing out your pain. What happened with the words " some, most, many"

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Re: Nigerian Parents Have Failed In Raising This Present Generation Of Men by Nobody: 5:18am On May 02, 2020
ladyGKilaBCrueD:
I don't have anything against it. I think it's a good idea if you're genuinely sick and tired of women and their shenanigans. But most Naija men that jumped on the train of red pill do it due to REJECTION from women. They hide under the pill to claim they're moving away from women when in reality, they can't even get them in the first place. It's just a way to boost their ego. Keanu Reaves and Jake Gyllenhaal....

Well, my dear lady, sorry if this is long but I think it's worth your time at least for your own future son's sake. At first glance, you've obviously made valid points about the degenerating masculinity. But on deeper inspection, you'll see that women share in the blame.

But before I get into that, the truth is the upbringing thing affected both male and female youths. Both are mostly lazy towards building a sustainable, fulfilling career and plagued with untapped intelligence cum skill potentials and lack of resilience to push past the hurdles on the path of great success leaving us with slay queens and yahoo boys. I wouldn't totally blame parents for that too. There was a massive societal evolution that took place between theirs and our generation. In other words, what they had been raised with couldn't be adapted to the rapidly evolving societal structures under which they were to raise today's youths.
So many examples but take for instance musicians like WizKid and the likes who add no value to our generation but make lots of money and are celebrated all over the media. They have greater influence on any youth than his parents would. That's the kind of inspiration our young men are exposed to. So, no matter what their parents teach them, they subconsciously grow up thinking they can just gather ladies to dance to nonsense and make a living off of that or anything else they see on TV. How sad.


Now to you women, the greatness of a man, believe it or not, is tied to his sexuality. That's why our brains and d*cks are hardwired to work alternately. Let ANY man get aroused, and he begins to get stupid. The smartest man is the one yet to be sexually aroused. This is the brutal law men met not what they planned and only one who has a d*ck will ever understand. Except men are trained to go through extreme measures to curb this, they'll always be victims.
If the society can be honest about this, then, apart from restricting access to porn, women should be made to dress modestly to limit the stimulant images cast on the male brain. The nudity of women is an assault on males who are by nature wired this way like every other mammal in the animal kingdom. Men's eyes are the gates to their d*cks. One might say: "can't they look away?". The reason they can't is it seems harmless first and all too pleasurable the same time, and it defies their logic that in that domain, they can actually be overpowered by seemingly harmless creatures(women) except they turn away. Not to mention that there's nowhere to hide. The attack is everywhere.
Also with each arousal and orgasm, the grip on the brain becomes harder to untangle from. Not to mention that the urge is stronger than hunger's after not eating for two days and having juicy burger dangling in your face. That's what you women are like when you dangle your assets before their eyes in your hope to get the attention of your dream suitor.
Something that could easily be achieved without all that exposure. This right here is part of what attacks the masculinity of men and they don't even know it cos they've hardly been told neither have they been trained on how to take the necessary extreme measures to gain control. I often have to do this for many men I meet, teaching them mastery that the system failed to teach. Btw quit with the Keanu reeves...ish. Nothing against him but its not too smart if you ever believe what you cannot personally verify.
Our fathers had the chance to develop their mental faculties and acquire skills, build their lives and get married before women went on a nudity rampage. They learnt everything necessary for life and stabilized before their sexual faculty was stimulated.
But young men today right from their childhood are exposed to nudity on the streets and on the net. Before they can explore their potential, they are forced to explore their sexuality and the lunge into the bottomless pit begins

I could go on to mention the Nigerian system quagmire that ruins the chances of youths but that's prolly overstressed.

Finally, this whole thread loses its validity if you happen to be just another woman who has greatly benefited on what some of these men offered you solely for physical attraction and if you yourself cannot boast of a portfolio solely from your developed skills exclusive of male victims. It will also mean, with all due respect, that you will never have what it takes to raise better men.

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Re: Nigerian Parents Have Failed In Raising This Present Generation Of Men by ladyGKilaBCrueD(f): 5:30am On May 02, 2020
Honey you know very well I ain't reading that epistle, TF
Re: Nigerian Parents Have Failed In Raising This Present Generation Of Men by Nobody: 7:15am On May 02, 2020
ladyGKilaBCrueD:
Honey you know very well I ain't reading that epistle, TF
Lol. Thought you was the brainy bookworm type like the girls you described from your school. Don't fall me hand now. You just talked about the laziness of this generation. C'mon now, don't be like that, sweetie. At least start with the bolded part.

What if I told you the secret to landing your dream man is somewhere in the middle? And the secret to a million dollar business idea is towards the end? C'mon now, just give it a try, maybe when you're well relaxed, Lol. grin

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Re: Nigerian Parents Have Failed In Raising This Present Generation Of Men by Savagethe21st(m): 9:36am On May 09, 2020
ladyGKilaBCrueD:
Now, before you attack me or go into fits of hateful convulsion, hear me out first please and perhaps you'd agree with what I'm saying.

This present generation of "men" are an utmost disaster. I am going by what I see mostly on social media and the sordid stories I hear around me.
They do not have the drive, ambition, intelligence and confidence of our fathers. For one, a lot of new generation guys are extremely lazy. They do not want to work hard, they'd rather look for the next "get rich quick" scheme than to actually use their brains in a productive manner. This is evidenced by the proliferation of [i]yahoo boys[/I] in recent times. No one wants to put in the work, they want to be the next Mompha or Hushpuppi, stunting on the gram. It's not a bad thing to like money neither is the desire to be rich despicable. Infact, I think it's a noble desire. But these men would rather spend their entire day daydreaming about getting rich or looking to dabble into nefarious activities instead of actually working hard legitimately. How many of you can boast of a study monthly income of at least N350K?(Which is still very small IMO)

Most of our present men are very unintelligent. Ask the average man you meet the last book he read and it'd probably be a book that he read during his university days as part of his coursework. Speaking of the university, I just want to highlight my point by talking about my own experience back in the higher institution. In a class of about 120, we were evenly split between both genders. There was a stark difference in performance between the female students and the male students. While the girls were doing extremely well, the males on the other hand were failing woefully. They had no interest in academics, they barely attended classes, they relied on "expo" to get through tests and exams. Only a handful of them were doing well. The girls in my course were truly something else, very studious, serious minded and focused. I usually shook my head in disbelief at this unsavory trend. And these are future men who would grow up to be the "head of the home" but they were living life so carelessly. The only thing must Nigerian men are educated about is sex. This is all what they always dream and talk about, busting the next nut. Go through their social media posts and it's always something about big breasts, or big ass or something sexually related. I wish they'd focus all that energy on something more profitable.

I could go on and on about this unfortunate generation of men. They lack any form of drive and ambition, they are not forward thinking, very lackadaisical towards life. A real man should be ambitious. A real man should be a planner. A real man should be a provider. But our weak men of today just take the days as they come with no solid goals or aspirations. Most of them even now rely on their wives as the bread winners. You won't hear much about this because most women keep this a secret so as to not "emasculate" their husbands. A lot of women are now the providers but they'd rather make it seem like it's their husbands that do the providing just to assuage his stupid ego... which brings me to the next point.

The biggest Achilles heel of the Nigerian man is his ego. The average Nigerian man is extremely domineering and controlling, this is why he cannot stand having a successful wife because he feels he would not be able to control her. Thankfully, a lot of Nigerian women are waking up to realize their worth and their power and this has threatened Nigerian men so much grin They have this deep hate for feminists and feminism; they cannot stand the thought that women have come to realize that they are much more than housemaids and that they shouldn't be considered inferior to any man because they can do just as much as men can do. The little thread of "manhood" they were desperately clinging onto to give themselves any form of validation has been rudely snatched away by these pesky feminists! There is nothing left to boost their now dwindling ego so what do they now resort to? Becoming [i]alfa[/I] males and taking the red pill grin grin They try to delude themselves into thinking that they are red pillers and thus will not chase women when deep down inside they know they are failures and that no correct women would look at them twice grin

One last thing I want to talk about before I sign off is about the current trend of these delusional males shaming women for being single grin grin grin I keep on seeing "insults: like[i] evening newspaper[/I] and claims that most feminists need their wrinkled joysticks. These men accord so much importance to themselves that they see a single woman as an anomaly grin These group of men are obviously still sleeping. A lot of Nigerian women are now doing things to make themselves happy. They have come to realise that these men are not worth making any sacrifices for and they'd rather focus their energy on their businesses, careers and themselves. An increasing number of Nigerian women have expressed their desire not to get married and would you blame them? Marriage in Nigeria is like a bondage especially with this low-value men milling around. So my dear Nigerian men, you are not that valuable. When next you see a single girl, just know that it is out of choice or because you all aren't worth anything and don't assume she needs a man. Nobody needs you. You aren't that great tbh.

In conclusion, if I ever have a son, God knows I will raise him right. He will not be a lazy, entitled mess of a man that most of y'all are. I hope my post hasn't offended you in any way.

Next topic: The Redundancy of the Red Pill and MGTWOW movements in Nigeria.

If you're too lazy to read, read the bolded. Thats the most important part of this article.
i know u will raise your son to be a simp so other women can manipulate. Well from your post i can deduce u to be a frustrated old cargo so i would waste much time on you. U say a women can do whatever a man can,pls get back to me when u see a female navy seal.
Re: Nigerian Parents Have Failed In Raising This Present Generation Of Men by wizdomnzube(m): 11:09am On May 09, 2020
sexylassie2:


but you know that money worship is common among Nigerian men

i have seen Nigerian men sell their brothers and sisters for cash,

kill their brother for cash.

i watched a video of davido telling a man to bark like a dog for cash and he did it, atleast, we women still have self respect unlike many men who will do anything for cash
You women still have self respect you say?? Oh you mean those women twerking and fingering their pussies live on instagram for just 20k abi?? Make una dey full una sef. Na the self respect be that shey??

Should we talk about the oloshos selling their body for 2k nd those going to Jaruma for stupid substance just to trap men you women call "lazy"??

You guys should keep fooling yourself and thing you're wise.

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Re: Nigerian Parents Have Failed In Raising This Present Generation Of Men by LadyGCrueDKilaB(f): 5:01am On May 20, 2020
lalasticlala push this to front page na


I'd like to see a wider view on this
Re: Nigerian Parents Have Failed In Raising This Present Generation Of Men by davien(m): 5:39am On May 20, 2020
Sad to say but this thread is just a rage fueled rant. Were some points raised? Yes. Passed across well? No. The pinning of certain Nigerian male characters to lack of good home training solely is meant to insult.

The op is emotionally invested for some reason, my guess is she'd been so trolled on this forum that this is her response, the frustration is obvious, and replies deliberately scathing.

LadyGCrueDKilaB, the battle of the sexes has no clear winner as new strategies emerge to manipulate the other. You try to shame men, men shame women back, what can you bring to the table other than rant along?

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Re: Nigerian Parents Have Failed In Raising This Present Generation Of Men by CAPSLOCKED: 7:08am On May 20, 2020
davien:

LadyGCrueDKilaB, the battle of the sexes has no clear winner as new strategies emerge to manipulate the other. You try to shame men, men shame women back, what can you bring to the table other than rant along?

AFTER RANTING EVERYBODY GOES AWAY TO SUBMIT TO THEIR PARTNERS, BEG FOR FAVOURS FROM RANDOM MEN, OR FILE IN THE QUEUE IN WOMEN'S DM'S LIKE THEY ALL DO. ALL THIS TALK, ALL THIS AGITATION ENDS HERE. THESE PEOPLE CANNOT ESCAPE THE REALITY THAT WE DEPEND ON EACH OTHER AND ALL THESE NOISES ARE USELESS.

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Re: Nigerian Parents Have Failed In Raising This Present Generation Of Men by Oyadorf(m): 11:55am On May 20, 2020
I would have loved this thread if you OP hadn't been bias with your post. All the things you said happened not only to the males but also their females counterpart and you cant put the blame only on parents,the country has it own share of the blame. Cogitate over this and open another thread with the title HOW PARENTS AND THE COUNTRY HAVE FAILED IN RAISING THIS PRESENT GENERATION

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Re: Nigerian Parents Have Failed In Raising This Present Generation Of Men by onyegwu(m): 5:32pm On May 20, 2020
sassysure:

Actually, humans are wired to think about sex.
It's like that all over the world.
We dey try.
In some developed countries, sex is like drinking water.
Two people that met in a pub will end the night together and continue with their lives.
It's because we have internet and social media etc, it was the same during the olden days.
Our grannies told us stories of their sexual exploits.
The same thing happening now.
The difference is that some women are using it to exploit men and body shaming isn't as rampant as it was that time.
As long as you have sex hormones in your system, u must think of that.
Sex is not meant for procreation only.
And that people have sex doesn't mean they are not productive.
Life goes on.
The only achievement Africans can boast of is only sexual exploit nothing more. U can also ask President Trump

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Re: Nigerian Parents Have Failed In Raising This Present Generation Of Men by soulstar09(m): 8:33pm On May 21, 2020
Oshey OP !
Well, I'm only agreeing with your write up partially and not your personality. It's either you are a m'fuckin hypocrite or a pained stale feminist.

Why would you attack only male in fall instance, Shows how biased you are.
And I actually don't know why you'd have to write this bulky shii cos of men. Thought y'all said you're enough for yourselves.

You can start hustling and taking for yourself, refuse to get married, stop caring about how men live their life and patch yours, orientate your counterpart to do same and continue life.

Your write up shows you're partial and irrational with your thinking cos you're probably outraged when creating it.

However, if you'd like to be even and rational, talk about the cons of these females generation and focus on empowering them.
Good luck !
Re: Nigerian Parents Have Failed In Raising This Present Generation Of Men by DonMekino(m): 9:33pm On May 21, 2020
No matters how good or bad a child is raised, time will come when u have to make ur own decisions, your indecisions, inclining to what ppl say, taking a personal stand.....are all part of that ur overall decision.

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