freeman131:
I have noticed for about a year now that my Elder brother(age 29) who's a doctor masturbates for a living.

I started living with him in Abuja since April last year.

One night I had a strange nightmare so I decided to tell him about this but to my utmost surprise I caught him masturbating using a porn video in his laptop.

I was really shocked and as a caring younger bro I tried to confront him.

He told me that he's been battling with this act since his University days.

The surprising thing is that he's got a pretty girlfriend who loves him so much.

I had already advised him on seeking spiritual cleansing from our pastor, all to no avail.Now I feel really guilty knowing this and confused about how to make him stop this.

Should I inform my parents, pastor, siblings or his girlfriend?

Please I need constructive advice thanks.

your brother's girlfriend is just not giving him the way he wants.
doggy, cowgirl, reverse cowgirl, missionary, blow,job, hand job, tit job, face sitting, p***y licking and the most important the money shot
sometimes it's depressing watching porn because it is only a fantasy and you can't get something so good in real life
except with a porn star

Jaapu:


Why bring a Christian family issue to a non Christian platform like nairaland.

Indeed,Mr Christian..

He should go and rat on his brother to his Pastor..

freeman131:
I have noticed for about a year now that my Elder brother(age 29) who's a doctor masturbates for a living.

I started living with him in Abuja since April last year.

One night I had a strange nightmare so I decided to tell him about this but to my utmost surprise I caught him masturbating using a porn video in his laptop.

I was really shocked and as a caring younger bro I tried to confront him.

He told me that he's been battling with this act since his University days.

The surprising thing is that he's got a pretty girlfriend who loves him so much.

I had already advised him on seeking spiritual cleansing from our pastor, all to no avail.Now I feel really guilty knowing this and confused about how to make him stop this.

Should I inform my parents, pastor, siblings or his girlfriend?

Please I need constructive advice thanks.

Na your family problem...GO DEY SETTLE AM! God will see you thru...No dey bring family issues here

fulaniHERDSman:
Mumu talk. If na me, the slap U go receive, teeth no go remain U for mouth again. Na your priick
No respect again for this world.

Abi

Like say that dey affect hin own life.


At OP, nah your brother decision to self-service o and only him can fight the addiction.

Babatunde40:
You are living with someone and judging him for masturbating. Have you thought maybe your presence hinders him from bringing girls home. Pack and let him be

You have sense, that could even be the reason.

freeman131:


But the act is a sin and it's already an addiction and mind you we're from a Christian family,my parents would really be disappointed if they get to find out.

"The act is a sin", support your position with a biblical authority or shut up.Don't so much believe in what your pastor told you,read your Bible, your pastor is a businessman.

FatherBona:
Free the guy jhor.
Which would you prefer, he keeps one girlfriend and self-services himself anytime he has the urges which is not an offence or a sin (debatable), or he stops wanking and keep strings of girlfriends?!?
Choose the lesser evil





That will be doing more harm than good, drop the idea immediately. He's 29 years for Christ sake. His wife will take Care of his problem when the time comes. That your brother jerks of is a clarion call for his girlfriend to step up her sex game, or maybe your brother is the busy type, (as expected of Medical workers). Hence, they may be a clash in their schedules, that is understandable. Allow them to work it out, and focus your attention on more serious issues.



My peace I leave you

the one thing about self servicing I don't know if it is good or bad is that you no longer believe in love

Seandisputed:

Lol you people will not kill me.
Masturbation is a sin but having premarital sex with the girlfriend is not? Some people are just confused in this life.

they are not confused, they are all mad people

Seandisputed:

Lol you people will not kill me.
Masturbation is a sin but having premarital sex with the girlfriend is not? Some people are just confused in this life.

Don't mind them,they don't read their Bible, they depend on the trash their businessman sorry pastor feeds them.

Why not inform your village head instead!

Iyiataata92:
He ''masturbates for a living''?
As in he masturbates and people pay him?
What a noble profession!!!

Lol...
I laugh in Spanish.

Iyiataata92:

She's seeking constructive advice from Nairaland, the home of masturbators.

Hahaha

what proof you you have that self servicers are all over nairaland

Adakintroy2:


Actually masturbatuon is a far more dangerouse sin because it leans more towards the unatural. If one continue in this, he or.she may loose interest in natural sex as with most addictions.

But if that girl is his girlfriend and they both agree to marry in spirit he is free to have sex wit her the rest outward marriage is but " ceremony"


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How did you concoct all these and it still made sense to you?

If a man and a girl agree to marry in spirit?

Dude,like what the furck is that suppose to mean?

Techsupport:


you are an asshole..... plain and simple
get that fucking log out of your eye before you look for the speck in your brother's eye
in your mind, you are holy and righteous, you are the golden child of your parents and the need to bring him down to elevate yourself even higher is the drive behind this.
people like you i love to Bleep over just to see the look in your eye when you know that jesus is not gonna save you from the torment i unleash on pukes like you.

Hahah.....you are crazy man.....Jesus saves

donbachi:
him no sabi sey,some nairalanders don already enter "masturbation hall of fame".

show me the list of hall of famers
mannabqgrills
tosyne2much
omenka
lala

all of them follow abi?

Seandisputed:

My brother i weak like mad.
Some so called Christians with their high level of hypocrisy.
One na sin but he sees nothing wrong in the other.

sinners judging sinners for sinning differently

Babatunde40:
You are living with someone and judging him for masturbating. Have you thought maybe your presence hinders him from bringing girls home. Pack and let him be

collect

bigcee:

Baba, abeg manage am...

i support

Mmmttsshheeww. Face ya work.

emddi:
Me I don't use the word sin?
I better use the word "ignorance".masturbation is ignorance at it peak

Then sex is ignorance at it peak too

....should I inform the pastor or our parents?

OP, are there no olosho on your street to take the matter to? They will intervene and resolve his issues.

kiddkash:

what proof you you have that self servicers are all over nairaland

Take out time to go through the comments and you won't have to ask the question again

DarkJeddi:
How did you concoct all these and it still made sense to you?

If a man and a girl agree to marry in spirit?

Dude,what the furck is that suppose to mean?

If you want to ask a question ask like a curious mind. Not like a belligerent mind trying to subvert authority. There are things a out there you are ignorant off. even the common sense things.

A man and a woman can take their vows in a narrow space with no one in sight there conscience alone baring them withness as to the truth of their confessions.

So even without the ceremonies they will be married before God. ( true state of the heart)

We fornication when we have sex with another with not the promise of the heart to keep the body and soul all unifield. A loose arrangement is what fornicating means more or less.

FatherBona:

I owe you a plate of isiewu for this reply

help me giam

freeman131:


But the act is a sin and it's already an addiction and mind you we're from a Christian family,my parents would really be disappointed if they get to find out.

A sin? How ? That's the most natural thing. Btw there's prolly a whole lotta sin, technically speaking, in both ur lives if u want to go full 'Nun'.

Let him be. He's a doctor and generous enough to let u be around his place. Sounds like a decent guy

Everybody masturbates... except maybe u.

Meedon:


Then sex is ignorance at it peak too

Yes!SEX with multiple partners

Iyiataata92:

Take out time to go through the comments and you won't have to ask the question again

is it because of the people always displaying vaseline?

I think that telling your state governor and your representative to the house of reps is the best bet. You can also report him to the UN criminal court if you are not satisfied with theit response.

Olofofo oshi..,u want to report a grown man to your parents cos he masturbatesi personally think you should move out and give the man some space...ode

People masturbate at 70 but God forbid.
U want to tell ur parents.
Do u know whether ur elder brother would have had more elder brothers if ur dad didn't a masturbate?


My advice is simple. Ur brother, like most of the masturbators in this life need help. And to help him is, first: to shut up ur damn mouth. Second: to look for a way to let him allow u to be sleeping with him in his room. Masturbation needs privacy but with u appearing where he is will reduce his engagement. Then third: u convince him to settle down. I tell u something. Masturbation makes aan not too confident to have a wife. Because masturbation arose from many reasons which one is women disrespect and waywardness.

Follow my advice and win ur brothers trust for helping him out.

Iyiataata92:

She's seeking constructive advice from Nairaland, the home of masturbators.

Hahaha

Hahahhaahhahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahaha most nairalanders masturbate for a living