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Re: My Girlfriend Told A Guy She Is Not In A Relationship by OhGeeBee: 10:48am On Apr 02, 2020
CsRockefeller:
In Philosophy, it is said that Objectivity means talking from the view of the object.

Thats what I am going to try to do, no pity party, no emotions.

Sometime this year, I went for an interview and also met a host of other prospective candidates around, some of us were jobless, some already had jobs.

We began discussing about d pay, we speculated between 70 to 100k, I told them that it cant be more than a 70k given its the Chinese (very stingy persons). Amongst us was a guy already earning 150k somewhere, we scolded him, how can one attempt to leave a good paying job for peanuts, we warned him about the consequence of loosing his good job. He had his interview and quickly left, I felt he was so greedy, even if u want to leave a 150k job, it should be for a higher pay, his friend said he's fond of jumping from one interview to the other. With a pay of 150k, a lot of people would seat at that place for at least 2 years.

Man, the ordinary man has always been selfish, he seeks himself alone, remember Cain and Abel, Jacob and Esau, Absalom and David, David and Saul, the list is endless.

For a long time, I tried to convince myself that everything on earth doesnt revolve around Economics/Money/Status/Financial stability but I was wrong, as I get older I know better.

I dont want to make this longer than necessary, but if your financial position as they say in Accounting is not where your lady wants it to be enough for her to commit to u then, she is still in the market and when that guy comes with her bag of expectations, she will jump.

It is what it is, call them gold diggers, hoes, sluts, it is what it is, man seeks himself first, and don't forget that your country is the poverty capital of the world, everyone wants to escape it.

The 20k is something, there's a lady who would be happy with it, but not this one. People will continue to search for jobs, and partners that meet their financial expectations.

It is not ideal, it is not fair, it is not right in a suituation where human emotions are involved but is the World fair itself?

Cc: Primesoccer
Re: My Girlfriend Told A Guy She Is Not In A Relationship by ibiba55(m): 11:02am On Apr 02, 2020
primesoccer:
I met my girlfriend about 2yrs ago and we've been doing pretty fine. Before we met, she was in an abusive relationship and she had to quit.

In trying to understand ourselves, we've had to agree and disagree on some things, which I believe is normal. I love her and she loves me too.

I won't say I have the cash, but I'm always there to support her when she has a very pressing issue. Aside that, I take her out, we go shopping, and lots more...

She is this type of lady that if you try to correct her (in a very respectful manner) she will just get angry and may not even talk to you for even 2 days. Anger is a big part of her life. I respect her a lot and have never used abusive words on her.

When we just met, she was kind. She hardly comes to see me without buying something, even if it's N50 corn...a gesture that I appreciate so much. About a year into the relationship, her character changed. She became somewhat stingy. But I didn't take it to mean anything because I hate to even depend on anybody for anything. It didn't stop me from supporting her and doing the much I can for her.

She doesn't ever allow me touch her phone. What she does now is that whenever I'm to see and spend time with her, she turns off her data. She rejects some calls when we are together. As someone who wants peace at all times, I've sat her down to tell her my observations and ask what the matter was. But she told me nothing was the matter.

So, I decided to buy a new SIM card. I started chatting her as a stranger. She chats with me (the stranger) till even 2am. She has opened up everything about herself to the stranger. Her name, where she's from, what she does, where she lives and lots more. I'm just wondering why someone who just chatted you today is already getting to know everything about you.

Now to the reason I opened this thread: she told the stranger guy that she isn't in any relationship. Though, she added that she just met a Guy last week through her friend and they are both trying to work things out. She even sent the picture of the new guy to this stranger.


I'm still wondering why she will do a thing like that. I'm not in her life to waste her time. She is very aware of that. I told her last December that we shall go see her people this year and seal everything, but she told me that we still have time and no need for the rush.

Personally, I had no reasons to suspect her of possibly cheating, but her actions when we are together made me get a new SIM card and started chatting her up anonymously.

On my part, I'm a guy that ladies even open up to me that they like me. They also say I'm very intelligent and all that. I'm very transparent to her. I don't hide nothing from her. I can leave my phone with her without any fear because I don't have anything to hide.

I've never had anything to do with any lady since I met her. I so much believe in keeping your body and soul to just the person you are with...whether relationship or marriage. If you can't do that, why not just tell the person that you are not interested again than going your way to deny the person before another guy.

Ladies and gents, why on earth will a man or woman do this to someone who had dedicated his or her all to you?

I will gladly welcome your contributions, including bashing...

Addition: I am business oriented. To make her depend less on any man for money, I have created a passive income source for her that generates about 20k for her monthly
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Oga!! It's obvious that she no longer has feelings for you. My suggestion is that you stop calling her. Shift your priorities else where. Give her reason to know that she's not indispensable. Someone who sees your worth will come.[[/b]color=#990000][/color]
Re: My Girlfriend Told A Guy She Is Not In A Relationship by nathpope(m): 11:13am On Apr 02, 2020
primesoccer:

Addition: I am business oriented. To make her depend less on any man for money, I have created a passive income source for her that generates about 20k for her monthly

You dont av a gf bro.
You only have a leech.
Best you discard the leech b4 sh3 sucks you dry.

I am interested in the quoted section above. Can you also teach on how man can get a passive income as well?

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Re: My Girlfriend Told A Guy She Is Not In A Relationship by XshegzzyeeiX: 11:22am On Apr 02, 2020
MYHUBBY:
she played you


guys make this mistake concurrently but I don't know why they do it. why would you allow a lady hijack the relationship Ctrl in your hand?


if you allow hijack the relationship Ctrl in your hand; you will be weakened, be restless, you will lost your self esteem, she will exploit you financially and emotionally


imagine she doesn't allow you to touch her phone and you don't take it up with her? my guy that's not maturity but stupidity.


you pushed the lady outside with your peaceful acclaimed character that's not necessary in a relationship. you made her to be vulnerable to other guys, 99% of ladies love men/guys with gut


if you're a man/guy and you're reading this, if you don't have gut, your woman will always be someone else bed satisfier no matter how holy she claimed to be
Re: My Girlfriend Told A Guy She Is Not In A Relationship by biggy26: 11:31am On Apr 02, 2020
primesoccer:
I will definitely meet her with the evidence. But I still want to continue chatting with her to get more info from her before I make the move.

Exactly what you should do. She might just be flirting. So ask her deep questions about the other guy, including about marriage, then you conclude. Don't be in a hurry.
But as you do this, keep your blood pressure in check.
Re: My Girlfriend Told A Guy She Is Not In A Relationship by cassyrooy(m): 11:48am On Apr 02, 2020
primesoccer:
I met my girlfriend about 2yrs ago and we've been doing pretty fine. Before we met, she was in an abusive relationship and she had to quit.

In trying to understand ourselves, we've had to agree and disagree on some things, which I believe is normal. I love her and she loves me too.

I won't say I have the cash, but I'm always there to support her when she has a very pressing issue. Aside that, I take her out, we go shopping, and lots more...

She is this type of lady that if you try to correct her (in a very respectful manner) she will just get angry and may not even talk to you for even 2 days. Anger is a big part of her life. I respect her a lot and have never used abusive words on her.

When we just met, she was kind. She hardly comes to see me without buying something, even if it's N50 corn...a gesture that I appreciate so much. About a year into the relationship, her character changed. She became somewhat stingy. But I didn't take it to mean anything because I hate to even depend on anybody for anything. It didn't stop me from supporting her and doing the much I can for her.

She doesn't ever allow me touch her phone. What she does now is that whenever I'm to see and spend time with her, she turns off her data. She rejects some calls when we are together. As someone who wants peace at all times, I've sat her down to tell her my observations and ask what the matter was. But she told me nothing was the matter.

So, I decided to buy a new SIM card. I started chatting her as a stranger. She chats with me (the stranger) till even 2am. She has opened up everything about herself to the stranger. Her name, where she's from, what she does, where she lives and lots more. I'm just wondering why someone who just chatted you today is already getting to know everything about you.

Now to the reason I opened this thread: she told the stranger guy that she isn't in any relationship. Though, she added that she just met a Guy last week through her friend and they are both trying to work things out. She even sent the picture of the new guy to this stranger.


I'm still wondering why she will do a thing like that. I'm not in her life to waste her time. She is very aware of that. I told her last December that we shall go see her people this year and seal everything, but she told me that we still have time and no need for the rush.

Personally, I had no reasons to suspect her of possibly cheating, but her actions when we are together made me get a new SIM card and started chatting her up anonymously.

On my part, I'm a guy that ladies even open up to me that they like me. They also say I'm very intelligent and all that. I'm very transparent to her. I don't hide nothing from her. I can leave my phone with her without any fear because I don't have anything to hide.

I've never had anything to do with any lady since I met her. I so much believe in keeping your body and soul to just the person you are with...whether relationship or marriage. If you can't do that, why not just tell the person that you are not interested again than going your way to deny the person before another guy.

Ladies and gents, why on earth will a man or woman do this to someone who had dedicated his or her all to you?

I will gladly welcome your contributions, including bashing...

Addition: I am business oriented. To make her depend less on any man for money, I have created a passive income source for her that generates about 20k for her monthly
Please, quickly withdraw all benefits provided they're not formally signed over to her.


If she ghost you, let her be bold enough to walk away from everything that has to do with you, including financial and other benefits.

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Re: My Girlfriend Told A Guy She Is Not In A Relationship by boomssey(f): 11:53am On Apr 02, 2020
primesoccer:
I met my girlfriend about 2yrs ago and we've been doing pretty fine. Before we met, she was in an abusive relationship and she had to quit.

In trying to understand ourselves, we've had to agree and disagree on some things, which I believe is normal. I love her and she loves me too.

I won't say I have the cash, but I'm always there to support her when she has a very pressing issue. Aside that, I take her out, we go shopping, and lots more...

She is this type of lady that if you try to correct her (in a very respectful manner) she will just get angry and may not even talk to you for even 2 days. Anger is a big part of her life. I respect her a lot and have never used abusive words on her.

When we just met, she was kind. She hardly comes to see me without buying something, even if it's N50 corn...a gesture that I appreciate so much. About a year into the relationship, her character changed. She became somewhat stingy. But I didn't take it to mean anything because I hate to even depend on anybody for anything. It didn't stop me from supporting her and doing the much I can for her.

She doesn't ever allow me touch her phone. What she does now is that whenever I'm to see and spend time with her, she turns off her data. She rejects some calls when we are together. As someone who wants peace at all times, I've sat her down to tell her my observations and ask what the matter was. But she told me nothing was the matter.

So, I decided to buy a new SIM card. I started chatting her as a stranger. She chats with me (the stranger) till even 2am. She has opened up everything about herself to the stranger. Her name, where she's from, what she does, where she lives and lots more. I'm just wondering why someone who just chatted you today is already getting to know everything about you.

Now to the reason I opened this thread: she told the stranger guy that she isn't in any relationship. Though, she added that she just met a Guy last week through her friend and they are both trying to work things out. She even sent the picture of the new guy to this stranger.


I'm still wondering why she will do a thing like that. I'm not in her life to waste her time. She is very aware of that. I told her last December that we shall go see her people this year and seal everything, but she told me that we still have time and no need for the rush.

Personally, I had no reasons to suspect her of possibly cheating, but her actions when we are together made me get a new SIM card and started chatting her up anonymously.

On my part, I'm a guy that ladies even open up to me that they like me. They also say I'm very intelligent and all that. I'm very transparent to her. I don't hide nothing from her. I can leave my phone with her without any fear because I don't have anything to hide.

I've never had anything to do with any lady since I met her. I so much believe in keeping your body and soul to just the person you are with...whether relationship or marriage. If you can't do that, why not just tell the person that you are not interested again than going your way to deny the person before another guy.

Ladies and gents, why on earth will a man or woman do this to someone who had dedicated his or her all to you?

I will gladly welcome your contributions, including bashing...

Addition: I am business oriented. To make her depend less on any man for money, I have created a passive income source for her that generates about 20k for her monthly
now u see the writing on the wall
Re: My Girlfriend Told A Guy She Is Not In A Relationship by iknopro(m): 11:59am On Apr 02, 2020
Maybe you don't f**k her well bro, maybe she doesn't enjoy it with you or you don't satisfy her period. That's women for u they are not always satisfied

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Re: My Girlfriend Told A Guy She Is Not In A Relationship by sleeknaija(m): 11:59am On Apr 02, 2020
Obaman12:
Bro! You see?

You goofed up big time by showing her all your cards bro. Relationship these days are like card games. You don't display all your cards to your opponent to avoid being kicked off the game. You play it smartly with your head not with your heart.

Now, you're outta of the game & you're of no relevance to her again. There's nothing you'll do to gain that back from her. To her, she's just using u as a step up plan until she lands her target man.

In otherwords, you're on your own

All, I'll say now is, start searching for another girl that would keep ur hrt occupied at the moment, after that dump her and move on. That's d only way to mk her feel d break up, don't let her break ur hrt, break hers first that's how you'll get to win on this bro. Outside it, it'll be an all-round win for her. So be smart and act fast.


Note: all these should be on code. Don't let her notice anysh*t as regarding ur intention towards her. Oya go win this bro grin

I made this same mistake bro, and now am a rebranded person.

Read on miseducation by Ubanja

So many ladies are fond of this dastard act, they will keep having relationship with 2 or 3 guys at the same time.. Always using guys as step up plan until they meet their preferred man, is it supposed to be like that?

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Re: My Girlfriend Told A Guy She Is Not In A Relationship by wiseGD: 12:00pm On Apr 02, 2020
primesoccer:
I met my girlfriend about 2yrs ago and we've been doing pretty fine. Before we met, she was in an abusive relationship and she had to quit.

In trying to understand ourselves, we've had to agree and disagree on some things, which I believe is normal. I love her and she loves me too.

I won't say I have the cash, but I'm always there to support her when she has a very pressing issue. Aside that, I take her out, we go shopping, and lots more...

She is this type of lady that if you try to correct her (in a very respectful manner) she will just get angry and may not even talk to you for even 2 days. Anger is a big part of her life. I respect her a lot and have never used abusive words on her.

When we just met, she was kind. She hardly comes to see me without buying something, even if it's N50 corn...a gesture that I appreciate so much. About a year into the relationship, her character changed. She became somewhat stingy. But I didn't take it to mean anything because I hate to even depend on anybody for anything. It didn't stop me from supporting her and doing the much I can for her.

She doesn't ever allow me touch her phone. What she does now is that whenever I'm to see and spend time with her, she turns off her data. She rejects some calls when we are together. As someone who wants peace at all times, I've sat her down to tell her my observations and ask what the matter was. But she told me nothing was the matter.

So, I decided to buy a new SIM card. I started chatting her as a stranger. She chats with me (the stranger) till even 2am. She has opened up everything about herself to the stranger. Her name, where she's from, what she does, where she lives and lots more. I'm just wondering why someone who just chatted you today is already getting to know everything about you.

Now to the reason I opened this thread: she told the stranger guy that she isn't in any relationship. Though, she added that she just met a Guy last week through her friend and they are both trying to work things out. She even sent the picture of the new guy to this stranger.


I'm still wondering why she will do a thing like that. I'm not in her life to waste her time. She is very aware of that. I told her last December that we shall go see her people this year and seal everything, but she told me that we still have time and no need for the rush.

Personally, I had no reasons to suspect her of possibly cheating, but her actions when we are together made me get a new SIM card and started chatting her up anonymously.

On my part, I'm a guy that ladies even open up to me that they like me. They also say I'm very intelligent and all that. I'm very transparent to her. I don't hide nothing from her. I can leave my phone with her without any fear because I don't have anything to hide.

I've never had anything to do with any lady since I met her. I so much believe in keeping your body and soul to just the person you are with...whether relationship or marriage. If you can't do that, why not just tell the person that you are not interested again than going your way to deny the person before another guy.

Ladies and gents, why on earth will a man or woman do this to someone who had dedicated his or her all to you?

I will gladly welcome your contributions, including bashing...

Addition: I am business oriented. To make her depend less on any man for money, I have created a passive income source for her that generates about 20k for her monthly
With all you've written here, ARE YOU SERIOUSLY WAITING FOR AN ADVICE from anyone here?? If you are, you must be the funniest, most unbelievable jokester in the world.
Aside the uncultured attitude, you seem to care less about having a wife who never listens to correction. Well, you better ask your predecessors with such wives how they're coping. You seem to be immature for marriage yourself since you want to hang on your neck a lifelong headache. If you don't pity yourself, spare your family.

As for the other side, You already have confirmed FOR YOURSELF(no friend told you) what the lady is all about..and all you could come up with is asking us(or is it me) what I think?
OK...I'll tell you what I think. "He who is forewarned/fortunate to foresee a pending doom but acts like the proverbial 'pigs drowned in the sea', should not blame his Chi when disaster strikes.
Re: My Girlfriend Told A Guy She Is Not In A Relationship by Sammy0787: 12:02pm On Apr 02, 2020
Bro I have been there too. Women these days play on men's weakness, love, emotions,
and kindness. An average lady is online to look for a guy even when she has 5 boyfriends. Everyone that has advised, has really done well to tell you a lot of truth, though bitter.
My advice is that by the time u sit her down to complain, she will outsmart you and you will end up begging her even when u have the evidence
Re: My Girlfriend Told A Guy She Is Not In A Relationship by Cloud007: 12:04pm On Apr 02, 2020
wizkidblogger:


Yes, we will only take you serious when you marry her. You need to grow up pls!
just reminded my children to watch out for your type of family. Your orientation reeks of profound immorality. You guys will definitely meet your type.

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Re: My Girlfriend Told A Guy She Is Not In A Relationship by Clinghton: 12:12pm On Apr 02, 2020
Her character shows she is not ready for marriage.



Am interested in the "passive income" stuff, chat me up thanks
Re: My Girlfriend Told A Guy She Is Not In A Relationship by wizkidblogger(f): 12:14pm On Apr 02, 2020
Cloud007:
just reminded my children to watch out for your type of family. Your orientation reeks of profound immorality. You guys will definitely meet your type.

Pls, tell them not be matured enough before going into serious relationship and should also be ready to marry asap instead of wasting someone's time with childish attitude. Bye!
Re: My Girlfriend Told A Guy She Is Not In A Relationship by Obaman12: 12:27pm On Apr 02, 2020
sleeknaija:


So many ladies are fond of this dastard act, they will keep having relationship with 2 or 3 guys at the same time.. Always using guys as step up plan until they meet their preferred man, is it supposed to be like that?

Nay my brother!
Only when you make it known to them that they're so important to you.

In other words, when you over express your love to a girl, she tend to take it for granted by making herself vulnerable for any random guy to get. That's why u see some rich men's wife fcking sm random guys outside. Not that the husband isn't good at bed nor is he not taking good care of her. Its just that she doesn't really value the man's love again. Cos he's being too over expressive. So that's it. As a man, it's very important to keep your emotions regularly at check, especially when dealing with girls.

There's this friend of mine, girls so much loved this guy eh, even the once with boyfriends didn't care whatever would happen to their relationship just to be around this guy. This guy had girls to his dispositions. What was his code? He doesn't put his cards out by over expressing himself. Rather they're the once that do the expression thing by going after him with words like Joe, you're very gentle, calm and lovely grin

Na girls dey toast d guy.
Even upto date. My guy still dey ball hard.

So that's it man

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Re: My Girlfriend Told A Guy She Is Not In A Relationship by snilyung(m): 12:28pm On Apr 02, 2020
Before u take actions
Check if true caller is actually showing ur name in the said new sim
Because she is acting so fast on the chat and open to u which am suspecting here
Try observe well before u go confront innosenr gal

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Re: My Girlfriend Told A Guy She Is Not In A Relationship by sleeknaija(m): 12:33pm On Apr 02, 2020
Obaman12:


Nay my brother!
Only when you make it known to them that they're so important to you.

In other words, when you over express your love to a girl, she tend to take it for granted by making herself vulnerable for any random guy to get. That's why u see some rich men's wife fcking sm random guys outside. Not that the husband isn't good at bed nor is he not taking good care of her. Its just that she doesn't really value the man's love again. Cos he's being too over expressive. So that's it. As a man, it's very important to kind your emotions at check at all times, especially with girls.

There's this friend of mine, girls so much loved this guy, even people with boyfriends didn't mind whatever would happen to their relationship just to be around this guy. This guy had girls to his dispositions. What was his code? He doesn't put his cards out by over expressing himself. Rather they're the once that go after him by always saying that he's gentle, calm and all that grin

Na girls dey toast d guy.
Even upto date. My guy still dey ball hard.

So that's it man

True talk bro

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Re: My Girlfriend Told A Guy She Is Not In A Relationship by xdunamis(m): 12:34pm On Apr 02, 2020
My guy, I hope u read this comment.

I read your post and I can understand your pain because this is exactly the same way my relationship with my separated wife began. THE EARLIER YOU DISPOSE HER OFF, THE BETTER FOR YOU. It is the simple and bitter truth.

When i was younger I thought "all girls are the same, treat her nicely and you will have a good home" VERY WRONG! (This is why some people are of the opinion that bad guys end up marrying the good woman, which is also not 100% true)

Majority of girls nowadays are demons with human flesh. Sorry to say this, few of them are good hearted, but very few. Chances of meeting a good woman nowadays is less than 5 percent.

You said she was in an "abusive relationship," this is the problem. Do you know what that previous guy endured? You judged him easily and took the demonic bi*ch in, now you are complaining.

A bad woman will gradually lead any man to his early grave. First she wipes off every source of happiness from your life and replace it with sorrow, the man becomes bitter and reacts to every little thing, then he dreads going home, he begin to realise that the woman is the cause of his sorrows, he tries as much as possible to ensure peace in his home, nobody understands what is going on with him.

Every man knows, when everything have been sacrificed to invite peace and still she won't come, you learn to trust your fist.

The woman has nothing to loose, she keeps tormenting you (my brother, when you start living with a woman you are not the boss of your life anymore) she keeps her legion of boyfriends that are ready to satisfy her sex demands at any moment even in your matrimonial home, she is always stingy towards you because you are just a tool that provides her financial needs. She don't mind shedding out your money to those guys.

You look at your kids and you know there is a good chance they are not yours. Then you secretly start to research for the nearest dna testing center. You begin to die slowly and gradually. At this stage you can easily sacrifice your half a million monthly job and jump into a band of travellers that are heading towards the Mediterranean sea.

Let me stop here, I hope every man could learn the bitter lessons of a woman earlier in life. You will live a happy and healthy life, and age peacefully.

My brother, make your decision now. Gradually fall into a life of depression or cut it off right now and recover within a few weeks.



primesoccer:
I met my girlfriend about 2yrs ago and we've been doing pretty fine. Before we met, she was in an abusive relationship and she had to quit.

In trying to understand ourselves, we've had to agree and disagree on some things, which I believe is normal. I love her and she loves me too.

I won't say I have the cash, but I'm always there to support her when she has a very pressing issue. Aside that, I take her out, we go shopping, and lots more...

She is this type of lady that if you try to correct her (in a very respectful manner) she will just get angry and may not even talk to you for even 2 days. Anger is a big part of her life. I respect her a lot and have never used abusive words on her.

When we just met, she was kind. She hardly comes to see me without buying something, even if it's N50 corn...a gesture that I appreciate so much. About a year into the relationship, her character changed. She became somewhat stingy. But I didn't take it to mean anything because I hate to even depend on anybody for anything. It didn't stop me from supporting her and doing the much I can for her.

She doesn't ever allow me touch her phone. What she does now is that whenever I'm to see and spend time with her, she turns off her data. She rejects some calls when we are together. As someone who wants peace at all times, I've sat her down to tell her my observations and ask what the matter was. But she told me nothing was the matter.

So, I decided to buy a new SIM card. I started chatting her as a stranger. She chats with me (the stranger) till even 2am. She has opened up everything about herself to the stranger. Her name, where she's from, what she does, where she lives and lots more. I'm just wondering why someone who just chatted you today is already getting to know everything about you.

Now to the reason I opened this thread: she told the stranger guy that she isn't in any relationship. Though, she added that she just met a Guy last week through her friend and they are both trying to work things out. She even sent the picture of the new guy to this stranger.


I'm still wondering why she will do a thing like that. I'm not in her life to waste her time. She is very aware of that. I told her last December that we shall go see her people this year and seal everything, but she told me that we still have time and no need for the rush.

Personally, I had no reasons to suspect her of possibly cheating, but her actions when we are together made me get a new SIM card and started chatting her up anonymously.

On my part, I'm a guy that ladies even open up to me that they like me. They also say I'm very intelligent and all that. I'm very transparent to her. I don't hide nothing from her. I can leave my phone with her without any fear because I don't have anything to hide.

I've never had anything to do with any lady since I met her. I so much believe in keeping your body and soul to just the person you are with...whether relationship or marriage. If you can't do that, why not just tell the person that you are not interested again than going your way to deny the person before another guy.

Ladies and gents, why on earth will a man or woman do this to someone who had dedicated his or her all to you?

I will gladly welcome your contributions, including bashing...

Addition: I am business oriented. To make her depend less on any man for money, I have created a passive income source for her that generates about 20k for her monthly

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Re: My Girlfriend Told A Guy She Is Not In A Relationship by Cloud007: 12:38pm On Apr 02, 2020
wizkidblogger:


Pls, tell them not be matured enough before going into serious relationship and should also be ready to marry asap instead of wasting someone's time with childish attitude. Bye!
end time family. Bye.
Re: My Girlfriend Told A Guy She Is Not In A Relationship by Ginalex(f): 1:27pm On Apr 02, 2020
primesoccer:


Addition: I am business oriented. To make her depend less on any man for money, I have created a passive income source for her that generates about 20k for her monthly
Kindly throw more light... I'm interested...

Kind regards,

Gina
Re: My Girlfriend Told A Guy She Is Not In A Relationship by CORRECTMAN78(m): 1:55pm On Apr 02, 2020
dawnomike:
Well, she simply ghosted you... The earlier you put your acts together and walk away the better.
Confront her with the truth and do well to walk out for your own good.

It's very obvious she doesn't love the guy and as such, not interested in whatever marriage rhetorics he nurtures.
She has been scanning for a boy friend and would have gently walk away if she had found one.
Re: My Girlfriend Told A Guy She Is Not In A Relationship by twatty: 2:07pm On Apr 02, 2020
What tribe is she from? If Igbo girl my guy na their way be that .
Re: My Girlfriend Told A Guy She Is Not In A Relationship by bethyz(m): 3:04pm On Apr 02, 2020
24kmagic:
As a man, once you're able to fvck any girl you approached, you already won. All the calls, the efforts, the outings and the shoppings are all aiming towards sex. Shey you don fvck her? Oya breakup.

It's either you're damaging her kpekus or breaking her heart. If you're not doing any of these two things, you're the woman in the relationship.

For God's sake which man leaves his phone with a b!tch just because he wants to prove that he's faithful? What rubbish is that? It's a sign of "weakness." She should be the one doing that to prove that she's a wife material. Even if you don't have any side chick, you dare not let her know. In fact, you'll need to pretend that you have many girls disturbing you, if not she'll just rubbish you. Girls? Hmm

Again, I can bet my left ball that money was the key factor you used in getting her. The way you kept stressing how you buy her this and that, shopping for this and that, I can say money was a major factor in getting her. Shey you don fvck her? Oya, leave her.

She's in for the cash, she doesn't like you like you think. Reason why I don't always succumb to the "make money and girls will follow you notion." Money will get you girls but it won't get you their loyalty. No girl turns down the idea of a man coming to meet her people except she doesn't love him, which is the case here.

Finally, I want you all reading this to know that "NO GIRL DESERVES A GOOD THING" and the earlier guys realise that, the better. That good thing you think she deserves, she doesn't deserve it because she doesn't want it.

What she wants and deserves are pain, cry, games, cheating, lies, manipulations, STDs, and every form of one discomfort or the other.

If you can do all these without laying a finger on her, you're EVERY GIRL'S DREAM MAN.

Forget what they say online


Hmmm. You as a person deserve good thing? Like as you dey talk now you deserve better thing? As in if a person reads all the things you just wrote down it shows you deserve anything? Sorry is your name. If you go on with this mentality you will sit down at 70 alone and rejected.
Re: My Girlfriend Told A Guy She Is Not In A Relationship by eziezi90(m): 3:29pm On Apr 02, 2020
Bruhhh


Just walk away


It's a clear picture
Re: My Girlfriend Told A Guy She Is Not In A Relationship by KELV1n: 3:32pm On Apr 02, 2020
Please just keep me updated I’d like to know the outcome..
Might help in handling future cases
Re: My Girlfriend Told A Guy She Is Not In A Relationship by Housing(m): 3:56pm On Apr 02, 2020
primesoccer:
I met my girlfriend about 2yrs ago and we've been doing pretty fine. Before we met, she was in an abusive relationship and she had to quit.

In trying to understand ourselves, we've had to agree and disagree on some things, which I believe is normal. I love her and she loves me too.

I won't say I have the cash, but I'm always there to support her when she has a very pressing issue. Aside that, I take her out, we go shopping, and lots more...

She is this type of lady that if you try to correct her (in a very respectful manner) she will just get angry and may not even talk to you for even 2 days. Anger is a big part of her life. I respect her a lot and have never used abusive words on her.

When we just met, she was kind. She hardly comes to see me without buying something, even if it's N50 corn...a gesture that I appreciate so much. About a year into the relationship, her character changed. She became somewhat stingy. But I didn't take it to mean anything because I hate to even depend on anybody for anything. It didn't stop me from supporting her and doing the much I can for her.

She doesn't ever allow me touch her phone. What she does now is that whenever I'm to see and spend time with her, she turns off her data. She rejects some calls when we are together. As someone who wants peace at all times, I've sat her down to tell her my observations and ask what the matter was. But she told me nothing was the matter.

So, I decided to buy a new SIM card. I started chatting her as a stranger. She chats with me (the stranger) till even 2am. She has opened up everything about herself to the stranger. Her name, where she's from, what she does, where she lives and lots more. I'm just wondering why someone who just chatted you today is already getting to know everything about you.

Now to the reason I opened this thread: she told the stranger guy that she isn't in any relationship. Though, she added that she just met a Guy last week through her friend and they are both trying to work things out. She even sent the picture of the new guy to this stranger.


I'm still wondering why she will do a thing like that. I'm not in her life to waste her time. She is very aware of that[b]. I told her last December that we shall go see her people this year and seal everything, but she told me that we still have time and no need for the rush. [/b][/i]

Personally, I had no reasons to suspect her of possibly cheating, but her actions when we are together made me get a new SIM card and started chatting her up anonymously.

On my part, I'm a guy that ladies even open up to me that they like me. They also say I'm very intelligent and all that. I'm very transparent to her. I don't hide nothing from her. I can leave my phone with her without any fear because I don't have anything to hide.

I've never had anything to do with any lady since I met her. I so much believe in keeping your body and soul to just the person you are with...whether relationship or marriage. If you can't do that, why not just tell the person that you are not interested again than going your way to deny the person before another guy.

Ladies and gents, why on earth will a man or woman do this to someone who had dedicated his or her all to you?

I will gladly welcome your contributions, including bashing...

Addition: I am business oriented. To make her depend less on any man for money, I have created a passive income source for her that generates about 20k for her monthly


I told her last December that we shall go see her people this year and seal everything, but she told me that we still have time and no need for the rush.
[i]


The bolded in italics is a big red flag but, you are not mature emotionally enough to understand. If you make a move to seal relationship and your partner (lady) politely swerve it. What she telling you is I AM STILL SEARCHING.

Do yourself a big favour and walk away.

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Re: My Girlfriend Told A Guy She Is Not In A Relationship by Finemanas(m): 4:22pm On Apr 02, 2020
Sorry bro, from experience I know how u feel right now
Just let her go and move on
Fine girls yapka for town
Re: My Girlfriend Told A Guy She Is Not In A Relationship by Olatenten(m): 4:23pm On Apr 02, 2020
Bro run for your life,she has nothing to offer,am talking from experience.
Re: My Girlfriend Told A Guy She Is Not In A Relationship by oseneh: 4:31pm On Apr 02, 2020
BiafranBushBoy:
Lol... Why crying...

Are you married to her?

Have you promised her marriage?

You time wasters...

What if she admits she has a guy to every toaster and you end up not marrying her?

Cry Cry baby... Lol


God save us from your type
Re: My Girlfriend Told A Guy She Is Not In A Relationship by biggy26: 5:02pm On Apr 02, 2020
primesoccer:
I met my girlfriend about 2yrs ago and we've been doing pretty fine. Before we met, she was in an abusive relationship and she had to quit.

In trying to understand ourselves, we've had to agree and disagree on some things, which I believe is normal. I love her and she loves me too.

I won't say I have the cash, but I'm always there to support her when she has a very pressing issue. Aside that, I take her out, we go shopping, and lots more...

She is this type of lady that if you try to correct her (in a very respectful manner) she will just get angry and may not even talk to you for even 2 days. Anger is a big part of her life. I respect her a lot and have never used abusive words on her.

When we just met, she was kind. She hardly comes to see me without buying something, even if it's N50 corn...a gesture that I appreciate so much. About a year into the relationship, her character changed. She became somewhat stingy. But I didn't take it to mean anything because I hate to even depend on anybody for anything. It didn't stop me from supporting her and doing the much I can for her.

She doesn't ever allow me touch her phone. What she does now is that whenever I'm to see and spend time with her, she turns off her data. She rejects some calls when we are together. As someone who wants peace at all times, I've sat her down to tell her my observations and ask what the matter was. But she told me nothing was the matter.

So, I decided to buy a new SIM card. I started chatting her as a stranger. She chats with me (the stranger) till even 2am. She has opened up everything about herself to the stranger. Her name, where she's from, what she does, where she lives and lots more. I'm just wondering why someone who just chatted you today is already getting to know everything about you.

Now to the reason I opened this thread: she told the stranger guy that she isn't in any relationship. Though, she added that she just met a Guy last week through her friend and they are both trying to work things out. She even sent the picture of the new guy to this stranger.


I'm still wondering why she will do a thing like that. I'm not in her life to waste her time. She is very aware of that. I told her last December that we shall go see her people this year and seal everything, but she told me that we still have time and no need for the rush.

Personally, I had no reasons to suspect her of possibly cheating, but her actions when we are together made me get a new SIM card and started chatting her up anonymously.

On my part, I'm a guy that ladies even open up to me that they like me. They also say I'm very intelligent and all that. I'm very transparent to her. I don't hide nothing from her. I can leave my phone with her without any fear because I don't have anything to hide.

I've never had anything to do with any lady since I met her. I so much believe in keeping your body and soul to just the person you are with...whether relationship or marriage. If you can't do that, why not just tell the person that you are not interested again than going your way to deny the person before another guy.

Ladies and gents, why on earth will a man or woman do this to someone who had dedicated his or her all to you?

I will gladly welcome your contributions, including bashing...

Addition: I am business oriented. To make her depend less on any man for money, I have created a passive income source for her that generates about 20k for her monthly
Keep chatting her up, she might just be flirting. Ask her about her getting married to her main guy, what she says should decide your next line of action.
Re: My Girlfriend Told A Guy She Is Not In A Relationship by Brosbeforehoes: 5:13pm On Apr 02, 2020
My Guy, If she says that she's not in a relationship with anyone. Ask her if there's anyone in a relationship with her cheesy
Re: My Girlfriend Told A Guy She Is Not In A Relationship by Kolping: 5:45pm On Apr 02, 2020

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