Zane2point4:
My broda you're not alone o.
And thats why they bill too much, blc of lack of family support

Most of these girls dont have a proper home thats why they display nyash and booby for social media without discretion, blc no one cares.

Tasking innocent men like "task force. "

Task force?? Lol

HisSexcellency:
This is simple, it is a natural law known as automaton conformity. You're drawn to that which you feel comfortable with, it is an involuntary action. Same reason intelligent students in school gets drawn to one another, while the less intelligent ones do likewise.
Same reason it's easier for a smoker to make friend with another smoker in a new environment. Why a poor man easily makes friends with a fellow poor man and the rich with the rich.
Op, it is your personality that attracts them. It will require effort and determination on your part to break this attraction.
Work on this mentality of settling with what you feel comfortable with, and watch how things will change.

This is not the meaning of automaton conformity. What you have described is the basic law of attraction.

They're mostly likely attracted to you because something about you may make them feel whole, safe, and more loved than other men.

Or, maybe they have abandonment issues and you seem like someone who will maintain distance in a relationship. Maybe they're scared to love someone, and you seem like someone that never gets attached.

In other words;

O di ka O di kpoba ahia, O di ka O di a zuru

@ayobamiJR. Also commending your submission and I learnt from it as well

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You are very intelligent. I commend your comment.[/quote]

It seemed the death of their parents is also a trouble to you,then start looking for parents before their daughters.
For me the things you listed as troubles,are just normal poverty Nigerian problems.
Go for the highly rich then,but before you know anything, you must have gone far no going back.
Good luck

creolehunt:
I just thought about the girls I've been with and noticed a certain trend. This isn't even about the girls themselves who are excellent human beings, but their families.

First girl I dated revealed to me that the dad died of suspected poisoning and her family were chased out of the family house. Her eldest brother is an area boy while it seems things aren't working out for her other siblings.

The next ones dad was late too, one of her sisters is separated from her husband while the first son of nearly 40 has nothing doing.

The other ones history is that her dad is late too. The eldest sister is cohabiting with a man. They have 2 kids already without being married. Her other sisters bride price was just paid after having 3 kids with a man.

For the other one, her dad is late too, died quite early. The eldest sister is in her 30s and unmarried. Her other sister has 3kids for a man who she isn't married to and now they are separated. Things aren't just working for her people.

The one I just met recently told me her parents are late. Lost both of them to suspected poisoning within the space of one year.

I keep wondering if this is some sort of coincidence.

na your destiny

Tripitaka:
Have you dated a girl who is a product of incest?
Have you dated a girl whose brother raped the mother for ritual purposes?
Have you dated a girl who grew up to find out that her actual dad is the family driver, but the pregnancy was passed on to the "willing dad"?
Have you dated a girl whose own father has been sexually abusing?
Have you dated a girl whose mother's nude pictures are all over the internet because she was caught shoplifting?

I believe your answer would be "No", as you would have included these in your narrative.

The families in your narrative can hardly be classed as "troubled" as I would like to think that your experiences are the peculiarities of your average Nigerian family. The average Nigerian family where diabolism and fetishism is real; where cohabitation is in vogue because the government outlaws abortion and your parents would insist on you living with the man who impregnated you even if he has no interest in marrying you; where young widows are still oppressed by their late husband's relatives; where poverty and unemployment is the norm hence a 40yr old unemployed man is nothing out of the ordinary.

The women you have been with are not from troubled families, at least in my opinion. They are simply from Nigerian families.

I need people like you in my life .

HisSexcellency:
This is simple, it is a natural law known as automaton conformity. You're drawn to that which you feel comfortable with, it is an involuntary action. Same reason intelligent students in school gets drawn to one another, while the less intelligent ones do likewise.
Same reason it's easier for a smoker to make friend with another smoker in a new environment. Why a poor man easily makes friends with a fellow poor man and the rich with the rich.
Op, it is your personality that attracts them. It will require effort and determination on your part to break this attraction.
Work on this mentality of settling with what you feel comfortable with, and watch how things will change.

so much wisdom for one person.

24kmagic:
I visited my sister recently and where she lives, there's this couple. The husband of that lady is the most useless husband alive. From sunrise to sun set, he'll be inside the room with this heat lying down like a log of wood. The wife will be the one to go out and hustle. This woman takes every rubbish this man throws at her and none of her siblings is aware. She praises him among her siblings and they respect him. But the man is an asshole. The only thing is that he's not violent. He's just useless. When I inquired about this lady to understand why she's enduring all these, I got to understand that she's from a troubled family. Her parents kept breeding children without plans for them. The father gave birth to ten children although two died. They didn't have the best of lives growing up. Their family house is nothing to right home about. In fact, the sisters are also hoping to get married in order to leave that house. This lady can't go back to face the troubles her sisters are trying to run away from. In fact, they are looking up to her. This is just one example out of many in this part of the country. There are so many of such troubled families across 9ja.

Marrying a girl from that family will be of great advantage to you I swear. The reason is because she'll do everything possible to remain married in order not to end up like her siblings. She'll endure every rubbish you throw at her because if she remembers that her father's house is not any better, she'll mellow. She'll want to be the only difference among the girls in the family.

OP, if the present one is a good girl, marry her. She'll make sure your children dont end up like her siblings.

There are some families you marry from and you can't tell the girl rubbish cos you know where you took her from. Whereas there are other families where you'll insult your father-in-law and your wife will still be the one to beg you just to stay in your house.

I find almost every word on your post offensive, yet I can't explain it very well, I know you might not mean for it to sound offensive to ppl who come from damaged families and you're simply trying to make a point but saying that a woman from poor or damaged homes can take rubbish is underestimating, usually when someone experiences something unpleasant they either work really hard to avoid the situation in the future or they use it as a sob story to remain miserable ,however let's look at the ones that learn from these experiences , they won't stoop low to suffer after escaping from their previous sad lifestyle, they won't tolerate people who would insult them or devalue them , they are far more stubborn because they know at least at some point in their life they deserve to be happy, they know they deserve something , so yoy can't just be useless in his or her life , the other woman you're referring to has given into fear , her family situation may have influenced her poor decision but it is a choice to remain that way , she has options but she's refused to make a move, I pray she does , she's not a coward , I pray she can move sooner and leave her fear, anyone can be in her shoes and still have a perfect marriage , it was her CHOICE ,not because of her family , lastly I know a lot of us don't mean some stuff here but let's try to be cautious when discussing sensitive matters( family, deaths, etc)