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Re: Do I Tell My Boyfriend He's Not Smart ? by Ybaby: 8:53pm On Jun 07, 2020 |
AfroKnight: Thanks. I am not worried about insults I have a very sharp mouth myself. Happily married 19 years My thoughts are from observation of the imbalance in the society between men and women especially in Nigeria. At least in the UK or USA if you choose to build Amazon with a Bezos, you get to walk away with 25% of the wealth you quit your job to build - but if you try this nonsense in Nigeria as a woman .... you get to open a thread on NL and recieve some sympathy and some sneers I study people, culture and make an logical conclusion plus I have a calling to help women choose a better mate so kids donot hawk or beg or suffer. I hope I have satisfied your curiosity. 1 Like |
Re: Do I Tell My Boyfriend He's Not Smart ? by visi123: 8:54pm On Jun 07, 2020 |
favour32:Abi o 1 Like |
Re: Do I Tell My Boyfriend He's Not Smart ? by Olakunleyakub(m): 8:55pm On Jun 07, 2020 |
I think you are correct. Hathor5: 1 Like |
Re: Do I Tell My Boyfriend He's Not Smart ? by ibinaboonline: 8:56pm On Jun 07, 2020 |
Ah swear. I have learnt the hard way what the Americans say; no one likes a smart ass. Now this one is turning it upside down- again. Snipespeter: 1 Like |
Re: Do I Tell My Boyfriend He's Not Smart ? by eenai(m): 8:57pm On Jun 07, 2020 |
Who your 'intelligent' conversation epp? Abeg leave the young man alone With your busy body. He is just an extreme introvert, and absolutely nothing is wrong with him. They do not like talking and that doesn't mean they are not intelligent madam. 4 Likes |
Re: Do I Tell My Boyfriend He's Not Smart ? by Robotboyy(m): 8:58pm On Jun 07, 2020 |
cynosuree:The thing darling via that your bf is a theoretical guy and you just happen to like practical guys.. it’s that simple |
Re: Do I Tell My Boyfriend He's Not Smart ? by ibinaboonline: 8:59pm On Jun 07, 2020 |
You don rest the case. Amotolongbo: |
Re: Do I Tell My Boyfriend He's Not Smart ? by Patoski7(m): 8:59pm On Jun 07, 2020 |
This life no balance at all |
Re: Do I Tell My Boyfriend He's Not Smart ? by BrainRider: 8:59pm On Jun 07, 2020 |
No Adam's offspring is 100%. Weigh your options.... |
Re: Do I Tell My Boyfriend He's Not Smart ? by Ellie01: 9:00pm On Jun 07, 2020 |
Snipespeter: LOL r u playing semantics? |
Re: Do I Tell My Boyfriend He's Not Smart ? by salt1: 9:01pm On Jun 07, 2020 |
Interesting discussions here |
Re: Do I Tell My Boyfriend He's Not Smart ? by LKTJ123(m): 9:02pm On Jun 07, 2020 |
Wetin Women Really Want Abeg? |
Re: Do I Tell My Boyfriend He's Not Smart ? by Nobody: 9:03pm On Jun 07, 2020 |
Snipespeter: Mad oooookk |
Re: Do I Tell My Boyfriend He's Not Smart ? by Acidosis(m): 9:03pm On Jun 07, 2020 |
Physika: My Nairaland girlfriends ke? Lmao! 2 Likes |
Re: Do I Tell My Boyfriend He's Not Smart ? by phyiktor(m): 9:05pm On Jun 07, 2020 |
Snipespeter: God bless you abundantly...you just said my mind. ur first to comment worth am |
Re: Do I Tell My Boyfriend He's Not Smart ? by micflo28(m): 9:07pm On Jun 07, 2020 |
it means you dont initiate interesting topics and he hasnt much of cool dudes as friends. another pointer is that he is attached to his mobile phone and only sounds interesting in chats over the phone. right or wrong? take him to parties, give him mad sex and chat about it, visit friends with him, bring him gradually out of his cocoon and let him experience the world. make him more outgoing and extrovert in nature. |
Re: Do I Tell My Boyfriend He's Not Smart ? by Ezennwa(m): 9:08pm On Jun 07, 2020 |
hmm! What can I say.
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Re: Do I Tell My Boyfriend He's Not Smart ? by abimic(m): 9:10pm On Jun 07, 2020 |
holysaint1:You made good sense, what I intended to put down, but I guess her mind is made, and not ready to even help him at all. If he says things off point, identify the correct point yourself, focus on it, while they both deliberate on it, that way you know a partner truly interested and can stand the challenge no matter what. All these relationships of Nowadays that can't stand near experience of Titanic ship love experience sef. She even said she's chopping for a replacement already while in this one, like imagine!! Why not quit to look for a replacement instead. Any thing one sows he reaps. |
Re: Do I Tell My Boyfriend He's Not Smart ? by athaliya(f): 9:10pm On Jun 07, 2020 |
HarunaWest: I faced the same thing with the op, I think I'm smart and vast but my ex isn't smart at all. He embarrassed me severally in presence of my family and friends, he is only good at issues concerning witches and he sees everything as a witch. We were once having a chat and he got up to chase a lizard saying it's his village people. He used cane to flog a rat to death one day cus the rat was "listening" to his conversations. He moved out of his master bedroom and called his friend over to his place for vigils after he heard a "spiritual snake" hissing. While I love to talk about anything intellectual, from the Van Allen belt, to horse riding, to quantum physics shown in the flash to Auguste Picard's adventures to even scientific explanation for hypnosis, human psychology bla bla bla. I stayed with him because he loved me for me, was loyal to a fault and he loved to pamper me but I couldn't bring myself to love him equally. At best I pitied him. I won't add him on social media because I didn't want him to drop embarrassing comments on my timeline. He calls like 15 to 20 times a week just to check up on me and if I have a headache, he will panic. I started teaching him everything from how to operate a phone, dress smart, throw away dead underwear, correct spellings. I even helped to regulate what kind of pictures he posts on Facebook and the way he poses in the pictures. I decided to leave when he said I was ashamed of him despite everything he did for me and I was sleeping with my male friends. He said I don't call more than 3times a month which is true because he already calls too much and even if I call, he can't hold a conversation. He's caring to a fault. Should I have stayed with him? 7 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Do I Tell My Boyfriend He's Not Smart ? by michaelponle(m): 9:11pm On Jun 07, 2020 |
Lol, it can be very frustrating, from your words you are the hype active type. Now talk to him, get interested in his own things too, n challenge his intellectual if he beats you, then he isn't just interested in things u are interested in. If u he doesn't change n u cnt cope move on |
Re: Do I Tell My Boyfriend He's Not Smart ? by mrblessed(m): 9:11pm On Jun 07, 2020 |
I am just worried about the degree of harm you have done to the word "smart." Next time when attempting to describe your guy who has poor and inanimate communication skills, use the word "conversationalist." That is, "Help, my guy is not a good conversationalist. " 1 Like |
Re: Do I Tell My Boyfriend He's Not Smart ? by Kaxmytex(m): 9:15pm On Jun 07, 2020 |
You don dey chat with another guy, and you feel the guy is super intelligent like he is the best thing that ever happened after isaac newton.. I no get advice sha coz u already made up ur mind.. E go clear for ur eye very soon.. |
Re: Do I Tell My Boyfriend He's Not Smart ? by Stephenomozzy(m): 9:18pm On Jun 07, 2020 |
Amotolongbo: Very insightful comment!! Nicely put |
Re: Do I Tell My Boyfriend He's Not Smart ? by lloyds(m): 9:19pm On Jun 07, 2020 |
yenereal: God bless you bro. They say trash most times. I find it hard to connect with those flows with my girl also. Everytime I try to initiate intelligent and intellectual grills, she has nothing to say. |
Re: Do I Tell My Boyfriend He's Not Smart ? by Sadteen: 9:19pm On Jun 07, 2020 |
Spiff20:Being dumb is not necessarily a choice. Just because learning comes easy to you doesn't mean it comes easy to everyone. There are people who want to learn but because they find it too difficult or impossible, they give up. Intelligence is trait. Some of us are lucky to inherit it, others are not. I imagine saying being dumb is a choice must be as hurtful to people who are dumb and can't help it, as saying homosexuality is a choice, is hurtful a lot of us that didn't choose to be gay. |
Re: Do I Tell My Boyfriend He's Not Smart ? by FutureIG: 9:21pm On Jun 07, 2020 |
Console yourself with this: you can't find everything you want in your ideal man/woman in one person. |
Re: Do I Tell My Boyfriend He's Not Smart ? by Lionofdjungle: 9:21pm On Jun 07, 2020 |
Tell him that you will like him to be contributing meaningfully to the discussions and suggest what he can do to help him become more informed. If he doesn't change after your suggestion, then, you can move on. |
Re: Do I Tell My Boyfriend He's Not Smart ? by callmeRichie(m): 9:21pm On Jun 07, 2020 |
[quote author=cynosuree post= Do u flow normally when you are together? As in, your conversations in real life now is OK?? Your answers to this matters though. Some people are chats sick, as in don't really derive much joy on it. Buh as long as u guys are well to do physically now when u are together, it's nothing to worry about! since you won't be talking on Whatsapp when u marry, nah face to face!! Conversations is important oo! buh in reality now, that's d deal of it not one online chats you call conversation. |
Re: Do I Tell My Boyfriend He's Not Smart ? by Study4life: 9:22pm On Jun 07, 2020 |
Here are the advice I will give u. But first Are u guys in the same country or in a distance relationship? (1) you can help ur guy to grow in the area(s) of his weakness(es) cuz nobody is perfect. There are women that got married and encouraged their husbands to enrolled into universities to obtain degrees. I dont think this is enough reason to stop loving your guy or write him off or be tired of the relationship or move to another guy. The guy u wanna leave him for are u sure tomorrow you wouldn't get tired of him too? (2) I think you want him to talk like your ex(es) or to talk like a man u admire so much but u can't be with that particular man. You forget people are created in different ways but you just wanna change him by force. Since both of u loves each other, things can work out for both of u. Dont lose ur man cuz of this. (3) Maybe during conversations you usually keep quiet and want only him to talk. And you want him to answer your questions the same way ur ex(es) or your colleagues does or to use the same approach ur ex or friends used. Why should u be comparing his chats responses with those of ur friends since u claimed to love him? (4) Maybe he is passing through alot but you have not given him a listening ear to find out what he might be going through rather u are after his approaches of engaging with u in discussions. (5) Do you even bothered to find out how things are going with him? (6)Is also possible that your friends might have started influencing u or telling u to leave him. But don't forget that in life you dont compare cuz those ur friends may not be happy that u have a good guy. (7) Are you sure u are open to this your guy or you are hiding things from him? Is funny how most women behave , if a guy asked u have eaten is it a crime? It shows that he cares. ( Maybe you are hard on this your guy, maybe you want to push him away then u are seeking the opinion of people to justify your plans or reason(s) . Dont push this guy aware cuz of his approaches of answering questions or not holding conversations for too long. I hope you didn't hurt him or made him to switched off. Find out what he likes or two of u can read books together and discuss about it. From the look of things this guy really loves you cuz I can imagine the attitudes you must have been giving him and disrespect he must have been getting from u and still he had not complained or published ur attitude on a social media seeking opinions from people. Love is patience. From the look of things I think this might be a long distance relationship. 2 Likes |
Re: Do I Tell My Boyfriend He's Not Smart ? by Abbeylanre15(m): 9:22pm On Jun 07, 2020 |
U will still go and build a Man for yourself. Because he isn't interested in unproductive arguments now,he is not smart. My dear, you too should learn how to be quiet, you can't bend everyone to your taste. Who knows,ur talkative attitude do piss him too off,buh he chose to tolerate it due to the love he has for u. |
Re: Do I Tell My Boyfriend He's Not Smart ? by Spiff20(m): 9:26pm On Jun 07, 2020 |
Sadteen:we are in the 21st century where information is rampant and easily accessible if you hold a smartphone. Why will anyone be determined to be dumb? As for your sexuality, that's a different scenario entirely. |
Re: Do I Tell My Boyfriend He's Not Smart ? by Spiff20(m): 9:27pm On Jun 07, 2020 |
Abbeylanre15:keep promoting mediocrity and wonder why we have mediocre leaders. |
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