dayokanu:

I know you are fine, A fine girl like you deserves someone like me.

How can we work this out

isale_gan2:

A new word, Shade-ism. 

I don't know why people get so worked up over nothing.  So much self-esteem issues.  Just love yourself.  No one is better than you, eff them!  Anyway, lots of pretty girls in the video,  Shadeism or no shadeism.

http://vimeo.com/16210769

badgirlshn:

isale_gan2:

A new word, Shade-ism. 

I don't know why people get so worked up over nothing.  So much self-esteem issues.  Just love yourself.  No one is better than you, eff them!  Anyway, lots of pretty girls in the video,  Shadeism or no shadeism.

http://vimeo.com/16210769

AjanleKoko:

Dem just okay jare. I can understand the afro chicks complaining, but . . . Indian chicks?

Seriously though, I feel 'em. Quite dark myself, in fact I was nicknamed 'Esu Laalu' at some point in my high school days

OAM4J:

yes, there is a degree of blackness/shade-ism that is evil

isale_gan2:

Dude, I am not close friends with Indians, yet, even I know they are extremely color conscious.  When you were a barefooted soft-mango-eating snot-nosed naija boy watching those Indian movies, didn't you think all the men and women in India were as light-skinned as Rekha and the Kapoors?    

Listen up Brother, Indians are over-the-top color-prejudiced.  Ya better recognise!  

isale_gan2:

Is your name Shittu or Shitta-Bey (forgotten which) by any chance?  No joke. Went to school with such a boy. He was actually one of the smartest and most handsome boys, so all these obsession with skin tone is absurd. 

OAM4J:

^^ lets see some pictures and judge for ourselves.

yes, there is a degree of blackness/shade-ism that is evil

". . .for, in regard to complexion, ideas of beauty are wholly relative. I remember while in Africa to have seen three negro children, who were tawny, and another quite white, who were universally regarded by myself, and the natives in general, as far as related to their complexions, as deformed."   - Olaudah Equiano   

." .When I recovered a little I found some black people about me, who I believed were some of those who brought me on board, and had been receiving their pay; they talked to me in order to cheer me, but all in vain. I asked them if we were not to be eaten by those white men with horrible looks, red faces, and loose hair" - Olaudah Equiano ( Narrative of the Life of Olaudah Equiano Chpt 2 par. 20 )

"Does not slavery( racism, colorism and shadims?) itself depress the mind, and extinguish all its fire and every noble sentiment"? -Olaudah

OAM4J:

Would he prefer having a hideous witch during the day?
But by night a beautiful woman for him to enjoy wondrous, intimate moments with?

(If you are a man reading this, ) What would YOUR choice be?

(If you are a woman reading this) What should YOUR MAN'S choice be?

Noble Lancelot, knowing the answer the witch gave Arthur to his question, He said that he would allow HER to make the choice herself. Upon hearing this, she announced that she would be beautiful all the time. Because, he had respected her enough to let her be in charge of her own life.

The moral is,

1) There is a witch in every woman no matter how beautiful she is!

2) If you don't let a woman have her own way, things are going to get ugly.


So, always remember:


IT'S EITHER 'HER WAY' OR IT'S 'NO WAY'.

Kilode?!:

^--Even the "noble" Kilode?! HAD that sentiment because his mind was once stuck in a period when dark skin was the real ish and an overly-light skin tone was considered sickly, weak and unattractive.

Kilode?! is now liberated (hopefully)

Hopefully Caucasians will break free one day, Not sure about white-struck Black Africans, doubtful those Indian-Mongolians ever will. Willing/unwilling victims are the hardest to save.

OAM4J:

^Interesting!

But 1st, do you agree with the witch's answer on what a woman really wants?

isale_gan2:

The answer that: 'What a woman really wants?' =  'Is to be in charge of her own life.' ?

I can't answer what all women want.  And I don't know why that question gets asked as if women are any different from men or that they are a monolithic group.  How do I know what Rita or Lisa or Kemi or Yetunde wants.  The question is one of those oft-repeated phrases from the reaction to the womens movement, I think.

I only know what I want.  Does that include, being allowed to make my own decisions and be in charge of my own life?  Well, no one's tried to stop me yet, so. . .    But it's not written in stone.  Sometimes you have to compromise when other lives are involved. 

OAM4J:

Yeah! thought as much. Complex!

A friend told me of his visit to a woman some years ago in her lovely home at Ikeja G.R.A. After some time he had to make use of the restroom, he got there and was quite impressed with what he saw, very NICE! He picked up a book in her restroom titled 'ALL that men know about women'. To his surprise, all the pages were blank!

Do you get the joke?

OAM4J:

A friend told me of his visit to a woman some years ago in her lovely home at Ikeja G.R.A. After some time he had to make use of the restroom, he got there and was quite impressed with what he saw, very NICE! He picked up a book in her restroom titled 'ALL that men know about women'. To his surprise, all the pages were blank!

Do you get the joke?

AjanleKoko:

Why do you women always need to have moods and idiosyncracies?

AjanleKoko:

Why can't y'all just be yourselves?

OAM4J:

Yeah! thought as much. Complex!

naijababe:

@ OAMJ, this your story na something else 

The answer to your question is none of the above. Why would I (the woman) even wanna be a witch at any time . Life's hard enough being a beautiful maiden  .

What do i want? I haven't the foggiest idea. The simplest answer I can think of is for a man to make an effort to know enough about me to know  my moods and idiosyncrasies. I can't possibly want the same things all the time, afterall a very wise man once said 'man shall not live by bread alone'.

isale_gan2:

Yeah! We're alike alright. Like water and fire.

We = naijababe and IsaleGangan (visionary souls)
We = all women

isale_gan2:

Whatever!  I won't answer which is water and which is like a raging fire consuming all that comes near her. hahahaha.

But I only said water or fire cos I was trying to juxtapose opposites!  Get it?!

I could have picked any number of nouns: bread or milk; mr.cork or katsumoto; sun or moon; naijababe or isalegangan; coke or fanta; doctor or lawyer; taiwo or kehinde; NIGHT or DAY!!!  pfft! 

Note: Isale gangan is exempted from answering this question

naijababe:

I must be married to a woman cos he has moods and plenty idiosycrasies too .

isale_gan2:

If you were asked, "What do men want," what would your answer be?  And don't give me a simple response like, "men want sex and women are the way to get it." lol.  Or maybe you all are that simple. 

isale_gan2:

I wanted to ask you, what is complex about my answer that, "I only know what I, Isale, wants and do not know what other women want since we are not a monolith"?

If you were asked, "What do men want," what would your answer be?  And don't give me a simple response like, "men want sex and women are the way to get it." lol.  Or maybe you all are that simple. 

naijababe:

@ OAMJ, this your story na something else 

The answer to your question is none of the above. Why would I (the woman) even wanna be a witch at any time . Life's hard enough being a beautiful maiden  .

What do i want? I haven't the foggiest idea. The simplest answer I can think of is for a man to make an effort to know enough about me to know  my moods and idiosyncrasies. I can't possibly want the same things all the time, afterall a very wise man once said 'man shall not live by bread alone'.

AjanleKoko:

^^
varium et mutabile semper femina.

Why do you women always need to have moods and idiosyncracies?

Ever thought about the fact that, just maybe, there's really nothing men need to know?

Outrageous, I agree.

isale_gan2:


If you were asked, "What do men want," what would your answer be?  And don't give me a simple response like, "men want sex and women are the way to get it." lol.  Or maybe you all are that simple. 

AjanleKoko:


Money is it.

I think what men really want is money. Definitely not sex, maybe more sex than normal , which of course comes with having money.

I can't even say power, cos not too many men like responsibility. Responsibility usually comes with power. Women seem to do better with the responsibility thang.

Most men just use power to get money jare. Imagine even Ghadaffi has some cash stashed in Switzerland, after all the graggs. Revolutionary my azz!

See what I mean. Now how does a man try to understand what Naijababe wants without solving complex equations?

Maybe he's just being himself, but you think his xteristics are moods and idiosyncracies , considering that you're a woman, and as such assume that everybody's got moods.

OAM4J:

Because there is no one straight forward answer, so it is complex. Some don't even have an idea of what they want, and some what they want yesterday is different from what they want today and will be different from what what they'll want tomorrow

OAM4J:

With money, 99% of men's tangible needs are met.

With money comes luxury, fun, women, power, cars, holidays etc, etc. Some Pastors, Imams and Babalawos can even be bought with money.

Even the Bible says money answereth ALL things.

AjanleKoko:


Maybe he's just being himself, but you think his xteristics are moods and idiosyncracies , considering that you're a woman, and as such assume that everybody's got moods.

Men's moods:'I'm hungry/thirsty', 'I want some ', 'Dang! Arsenal lost again, that sucks!', 'Please scram, I'm watching the game, and don't want to talk about your hair, '. Along those lines sha

Women's Moods:   

Money is it.

I think what men really want is money. Definitely not sex, maybe more sex than normal , which of course comes with having money.

I can't even say power, cos not too many men like responsibility. Responsibility usually comes with power. Women seem to do better with the responsibility thang.

Most men just use power to get money jare. 

isale_gan2:

We have complexity and simplicity all in a jumble here.

So, am I to understand (1) that men know what other men want, and are united in the response (2) that what men want is money?   

OAM4J, is this why you think women are complex?  You expect any woman to be able answer this vague question, "what do women want?"

I really didn't expect you to be able able to answer for all men.  Mine was a rhetorical question where i expected you to concur that you have not a clue what other men want but you are confident in your wants and needs. LOL

Anyway, I reiterate that I know what I want, every day, every season.  Always have, always will.  The specifics (of those wants) are revealed only on a need-to-know basis.   

Now, all you have to do is pose the question to 3 billion more women.

To simplify somewhat, maybe just accept that each person (woman) is an individual with unique life experiences, moods, hopes and wants.  That is what I do - with everyone, male or female. 

What are you planning to do in the future, OAM4J unpronounceable name?!