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Re: I Was Chosen As King: Should I Damn The Consequence Or Forget About It Entirely? by BluntNigerian: 9:17am On Jul 01, 2020 |
JONNYSPUTE:The deity allowed you to marry from another state in the first instance before choosing you? My guy, it wasn't the deity that chose you. Decline the offer if you are not interested.. Even if they come with the mantra of: “you don't question the gods”, tell them that you are already living the life which the Almighty God had destined for you, and it is full of peace and love and progress, and not filled with confusion and sleepless nights, and hurting loved ones. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: I Was Chosen As King: Should I Damn The Consequence Or Forget About It Entirely? by Ademoore07(m): 9:26am On Jul 01, 2020 |
JONNYSPUTE:I will advise that you go for spiritual consultation elsewhere outside the town or state. |
Re: I Was Chosen As King: Should I Damn The Consequence Or Forget About It Entirely? by JONNYSPUTE(m): 9:35am On Jul 01, 2020 |
....I sincerely thank you all for your comments on this thread. It has greatly taught me alot of things I was not looking at initially. Even though I can't fight my elders and the whole community,your advices have given me a kind of hope and ability to withstand them in any direction I choose to go inrespect of this topic. Once again,I thank you all. Remain blessed. 1 Like |
Re: I Was Chosen As King: Should I Damn The Consequence Or Forget About It Entirely? by osifred(m): 9:39am On Jul 01, 2020 |
I came late to the party. If the Eze stood is not a first Class stood and can't guarantee a better life for you and your family, jettison it right now without thinking twice. Again, there is a grand plot somewhere, in many African culture, it is almost a taboo for a man to be make an Eze (not a chief) when his father is still alive. Discuss with your extended family, let them also inquire from the gods if indeed you were chosen by them. Finally, don't delude yourself, being an Eze and a Christian doesn't go together. |
Re: I Was Chosen As King: Should I Damn The Consequence Or Forget About It Entirely? by BlueAir: 9:45am On Jul 01, 2020 |
i think the op should look his wife inside out and judge what kinda decision should would make if she comes across such life turning offer and treat her accordingly Macphenson: |
Re: I Was Chosen As King: Should I Damn The Consequence Or Forget About It Entirely? by kumulus(m): 9:58am On Jul 01, 2020 |
Righteousness89: Where in the post has the OP mentioned he's Christian I thought the throne had always been a TRADITIONAL STOOL...... This is an issue that has its resolve between the OP, his wife, family and community (Christians and non-Christians). Save him the religiousness abeg... -Lloyd |
Re: I Was Chosen As King: Should I Damn The Consequence Or Forget About It Entirely? by Monday60655(m): 10:02am On Jul 01, 2020 |
Since you said that your wife is aware of everything, what is her stand. Again and very important, does it affect your religion? That will be a sine qua non for you accepting the offer or not. |
Re: I Was Chosen As King: Should I Damn The Consequence Or Forget About It Entirely? by hahn(m): 10:29am On Jul 01, 2020 |
JONNYSPUTE: I assumed monarchs get paid salary by the government and that you will also have some political leverage. You can also use your power to impact your village positively. I understand that your major issue with this is the fact that you have to marry another woman. From the way you sound I feel you will be the right person to be King. The world needs humble leaders. Too bad you are in such a dilemma. 1 Like |
Re: I Was Chosen As King: Should I Damn The Consequence Or Forget About It Entirely? by atausenima(f): 10:36am On Jul 01, 2020 |
bukatyne: We need to ascertain some issues: 1. Are you interested in the Kingship? 2. What is your wife's opinion on the Kingship? 3. What leverage do you have in this situation? i.e. If you don't become the king, what happens? 4. What leverage does the village have over you? If you refuse their kingship, what can they stop you from achieving? 5. If you are interested in the kingship and have some sort of leverage, do you have the mental strength to insist it is done your way: kingship with no second wife? I CAN UNDERSTAND THIS DILEMMA,I EXPERIENCED THIS SOME YEARS BACK,THOUGH MY FAITH IS STRONGER THAN TRADITIONS KINDLY NOTE ONE MAN CAN NOT BE WISER THAN HIS VILLAGE,THE GODS OF YOUR LAND CHOOSE YOU FOR THIS HONOR. TELL THE GODS YOUR TERMS,U ARE STANDING WITH ONE WIFE,I BELIEVED THE RULES WILL BE BEND FOR YOU.RESCUE THIS COMMUNITY.
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Re: I Was Chosen As King: Should I Damn The Consequence Or Forget About It Entirely? by Stubborn82: 11:08am On Jul 01, 2020 |
From your post, it's like your current wife is not from your place, if that is the case you need to take another wife!. Kingship position is an invitation to leadership with benefits, if you reject this opportunity of leading your tribe's people, one of these things will happen to you. One: except your village deity and the herbalist in that village were born again Christian, you will become useless to your generation that your wife you are afraid of, will leave and remarry and gossip about you to her new husband while they are having sex. Two: except your village people doesn't give a Bleep about kingship and they are not interested if they king go to another village, if not your entire family going to have big problems staying in ther village, because your village people will always drag them to insult, they will say that the benefits that should be given to their village has be diverted to another village because of your stupidity. Thirdly: your wife and children will always not welcome in that village, and when you die your corpse will be rejected to be buried in that village. Fourthly: except your wife is a pastor, if not she will be attack and suffer great afflictions, if she refuse to let you she might loose her life. Why did I say this? When I was in school, a friend of my that his father was in ogboni fraternity died and my has to replace his father's position, my friend as a brilliant tech guy see that as distraction to his dream and rejected and run to another state to another country, from where he ran to, his body started rotten until he loose his life. Also, my brother as brilliant Road Safety officer was attacked by some senior officers making him to become drunkard, my brother has lost his job, his wife packed out with his children and when to remarry to another man, we the entire family has bn spending our money, time to help my brother get well, what am saying is that if you refuse to accept the kingship and the worst thing come, your wife that you are afraid off will leave you for another man. Take my advice take another wife if that is a requirement for the king position and enjoy your long life, Solo has 300 wives and 700 concubines and he was rich and leave a full good life. |
Re: I Was Chosen As King: Should I Damn The Consequence Or Forget About It Entirely? by sirp9898(m): 11:10am On Jul 01, 2020 |
Now is when to test your man hood
be a man and take your decision
every decitions have is own good and bad
thats nature |
Re: I Was Chosen As King: Should I Damn The Consequence Or Forget About It Entirely? by biggy26: 11:11am On Jul 01, 2020 |
JONNYSPUTE:Does it involve other gods? If it does and you are a Christian, dump it, no sentiment. It should be first about your beliefs before your wife. 1 Like |
Re: I Was Chosen As King: Should I Damn The Consequence Or Forget About It Entirely? by ogbonnachrys: 11:24am On Jul 01, 2020 |
Sounds like a home movie |
Re: I Was Chosen As King: Should I Damn The Consequence Or Forget About It Entirely? by Neddyogu(m): 11:38am On Jul 01, 2020 |
Tell'em to go to hell with their diety and kingship if u really do not nurse any desire to be a trad ruler. Brace up for the physical and spiritual battles. Godspeed. |
Re: I Was Chosen As King: Should I Damn The Consequence Or Forget About It Entirely? by Samtob90(m): 11:44am On Jul 01, 2020 |
You need to determine what exactly you want. Is it part of your dream to be or being forced to, if being forced, you may be unable to fulfill your own ambition in life , you will remain unhappy which is not too good. Is it your wife that is holding you back or it just does not fit into your mission in life, if that, reject vehemently but be strong in God and prayer, you will conquer |
Re: I Was Chosen As King: Should I Damn The Consequence Or Forget About It Entirely? by ninocia18(m): 12:12pm On Jul 01, 2020 |
JONNYSPUTE: Wow. My brother, tell your pastor sharperly nah. Wetin you dey wait. |
Re: I Was Chosen As King: Should I Damn The Consequence Or Forget About It Entirely? by kolade560: 12:22pm On Jul 01, 2020 |
Your elders picked u maybe cos u are well to do not oracle or deity. Do personal spiritual consultations on your own, and follow the proceeds. If u decline the throne of ur forefathers cos of woman, u are not brave. 2 Likes |
Re: I Was Chosen As King: Should I Damn The Consequence Or Forget About It Entirely? by peeps4u: 12:47pm On Jul 01, 2020 |
JONNYSPUTE: For this bolded, if you love your wife, reject the kingship. Your wife will be relegated by the community and the chiefs because she isn't from your community while the last wife will be more welcome, loved and recognised by the chiefs. Your wife might constantly face humiliation |
Re: I Was Chosen As King: Should I Damn The Consequence Or Forget About It Entirely? by arcnomec(m): 1:36pm On Jul 01, 2020 |
Let me bore my mind as it pertains to this discuss at hand.Firstly, if your community deity choose you to lead your people, it one call you can't run away from. Because I have seen from experience where one tends to manoeuvre his way when such a call was place on his head.If truly your community deity chose you,then the deity should know that your father is still alive and it is an aberration for a son to be crowned king when his father is still alive.You need to go extra length to inquire if it is truly the deity that made such proclamation. secondly,it is true in most part of Southern southern and Eastern communities that a truly king must marry from his kind,so as to produce a true blood.If you hadn't married before, I believe you can take another wife from another tribe outside your paternal home.So please kindly go to an elder who you know knowns about history and facts about your community and ask questions regarding this issue. Thirdly,bear it in mind that if you eventually cave in now and get a new wife,her first son will automatically becomes the crown prince in place of your other son's, bro think very well before you leap. I know it is an honour to serve your people,but don't do it at the detriment of your first family. Lastly,do a wide consultations regarding this issue,because it is a make or mar situation that you find yourself. Go and meet the chief priest of your community to summon the god's so that you will hear from them directly or better still ................................................ I so submit,my brother. |
Re: I Was Chosen As King: Should I Damn The Consequence Or Forget About It Entirely? by mindtricks: 1:40pm On Jul 01, 2020 |
JONNYSPUTE: Make I go come. |
Re: I Was Chosen As King: Should I Damn The Consequence Or Forget About It Entirely? by Gurumalachi: 1:46pm On Jul 01, 2020 |
Don't even think of accepting such satanic appointment... From a deity? Marry another wife? This is idolatry. Just go on with your life but make sure u are a Christian ooo (born again Christian) |
Re: I Was Chosen As King: Should I Damn The Consequence Or Forget About It Entirely? by Chinny024(f): 1:49pm On Jul 01, 2020 |
Write to them through the office of the governor through a lawyer declining the offer for personal reasons... Also,let them no that since your father is alive, that he can take the kingship.. Governor should sign,then your lawyer signs on your behalf... Shikina |
Re: I Was Chosen As King: Should I Damn The Consequence Or Forget About It Entirely? by Vikelo1212: 1:54pm On Jul 01, 2020 |
[quote author=JONNYSPUTE post=90982909]...Don't even know how to go about this. So many sleepless nights and worries.Im becoming a shadow of myself. Can't even think straight at all. The two options they gave is like telling you to choose between leprosy and small pox. Why is Op worried about this issue sef? The trouble or wahala that might follow this type of leadership may be greater than the advantages that he will get from it. This is how one young prominent man that has achieved a lot for his life was lured by his village people to go and become Chief/Eze. He accepted and descended to do those their spiritual deity things (promising him protection from God knows where). He was crowned, did the coronation but did not last 3 or 4 years, he became very sick that lab could not identify what was wrong with him. He was sent abroad for treatment, yet wasn't cured until he died, just like that. Am not saying that this might be your lot (God forbid), but for you to think it all round before taking your decision. The offer might be glittering from outside but have you check how it will look or turn out deep inside? May God give you the grace and wisdom to choose and decide wisely. |
Re: I Was Chosen As King: Should I Damn The Consequence Or Forget About It Entirely? by Vikelo1212: 1:57pm On Jul 01, 2020 |
ostarlink: Well said! Exactly what I mean to say too. |
Re: I Was Chosen As King: Should I Damn The Consequence Or Forget About It Entirely? by Vikelo1212: 2:00pm On Jul 01, 2020 |
Sunnyja: Very true. On point. |
Re: I Was Chosen As King: Should I Damn The Consequence Or Forget About It Entirely? by aalangel(f): 3:27pm On Jul 01, 2020 |
Emyogalanya: Okay...there's always 3 sides to A story. |
Re: I Was Chosen As King: Should I Damn The Consequence Or Forget About It Entirely? by maldino: 3:42pm On Jul 01, 2020 |
What will be the name of this movie? |
Re: I Was Chosen As King: Should I Damn The Consequence Or Forget About It Entirely? by ajl: 3:55pm On Jul 01, 2020 |
JONNYSPUTE: You may be wrong on this. If it's a deity that selected a candidate, it has nothing to fo with hierarchy or whether the person chooses has a father or elder brother. The "Ori" (i.e. destiny) determines this. Yours may be what pleases the deity as the tight person for the kingship. |
Re: I Was Chosen As King: Should I Damn The Consequence Or Forget About It Entirely? by AuroraB(f): 3:59pm On Jul 01, 2020 |
ecolime:...overused storyline, you must know 1 Like |
Re: I Was Chosen As King: Should I Damn The Consequence Or Forget About It Entirely? by kratosemeritus(m): 4:11pm On Jul 01, 2020 |
If you can be crowned King while your father is still alive,then you can be king without a wife from your village. |
Re: I Was Chosen As King: Should I Damn The Consequence Or Forget About It Entirely? by Talkingoil(m): 4:22pm On Jul 01, 2020 |
JONNYSPUTE: Follow your heart and damn the consequences, if there's any |
Re: I Was Chosen As King: Should I Damn The Consequence Or Forget About It Entirely? by oyetpel(m): 5:16pm On Jul 01, 2020 |
You are King David and Joseph son of Jacob combined. |
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