Op made a mistake and I think it's sth we all do. I'd rather be single than be in an unhappy marriage. I also think the lady is deserving of someone, who truly loves her. As long as you continue being a dad to your child... .

ollins:
Let me cut the story short. Had a fling with this girl, along the line she got pregnant. You know all that talk of "if you could sleep with her, then you must marry her" "if you got her pregnant then you must marry her", Iooking back now, I wished I hadn't listened to all those voices.

I knew in my heart that I didn't love her, even she knew but the pressure from the family was too much, I had to marry her. On my marriage day I was practically crying within me.

Her character is just opposite of all I wanted in a woman, she's barely educated, loud and loquacious.

That's my cross I am carrying today, stuck in a loveless marriage.

The warmth and Romance is absent from our home, we have not had intimacy since beginning of the year till now, we just have no interest anymore in each other. We are just living together for the sake of our child.

My question now is how does one cope�? Is this how I am going to live the rest of my life?

That kind of woman you desire doesn’t exist anywhere in this world except in your head. If you must have such woman, you have to create her: “the woman of Proverbs 31” wasn’t a product of herself, but produced by the husband.

Ephesians 5:25-28 The Message (MSG)

25-28 Husbands, go all out in your love for your wives, exactly as Christ did for the church—a love marked by giving, not getting. Christ’s love makes the church whole. His words evoke her beauty. Everything he does and says is designed to bring the best out of her, dressing her in dazzling white silk, radiant with holiness. And that is how husbands ought to love their wives. They’re really doing themselves a favor—since they’re already “one” in marriage.

The moment your wife was escorted to the altar by her father/guardian to meet with you, there was a change in fatherhood (as she had been handed over to you), you’re to continue where her father/guardian stopped.


I pray you see it, or understand it

judedwriter:


Naturally, we fall in love with people we spend quality time with. It's natural, that's why friends are for life, we want to spend eternity together. It's the same with your wife, spend more time with her and love will grow.

But God is love. His love is far superior and He fills our hearts with His love when we fellowship with Him in Bible study, prayers and praises. When we are filled with God's love, it is easy to love unlovable people.

Forget that thing. If true can blossom in that affair, e for don dey grow by now. You people simply think getting married equals falling in love? Some ain't bothered with love but see marriage as a necessary duty to be fulfilled

I can't imagine sleeping with someone I don't love. You nkoor Anuoluwa1234?

ollins:
Let me cut the story short. Had a fling with this girl, along the line she got pregnant. You know all that talk of "if you could sleep with her, then you must marry her" "if you got her pregnant then you must marry her", Iooking back now, I wished I hadn't listened to all those voices.

I knew in my heart that I didn't love her, even she knew but the pressure from the family was too much, I had to marry her. On my marriage day I was practically crying within me.

Her character is just opposite of all I wanted in a woman, she's barely educated, loud and loquacious.

That's my cross I am carrying today, stuck in a loveless marriage.

The warmth and Romance is absent from our home, we have not had intimacy since beginning of the year till now, we just have no interest anymore in each other. We are just living together for the sake of our child.

My question now is how does one cope�? Is this how I am going to live the rest of my life?

Be kind to retrain your wife. How has the marriage improved her personality? Is she really a better person before you married her or after your married her?
If she is uneducated, send her back to school and make her educated.
There is nothing wrong in being loud and loquacious so long as she is communicating intelligently.

You don't really have a burden, you just need to be more responsible. If your wife gets educated and starts working with good pay, respect go dey for each other.

SexytorresE:
Go play away match na

Which one is away match, that's bad advice. Op try to make your marriage work by communicating with your wife cause it seems to me like you're not making much attempt to make the whole thing work cause your mind was never in it from the beginning.
So either try to make it work or save you both from further emotional trauma by
filing for a divorce

fieryy:
Op made a mistake and I think it's sth we all do. I'd rather be single than be in an unhappy marriage. I also think the lady is deserving of someone, who truly loves her. As long as you continue being a dad to your child... .

Thank you. They think this is romantic novels where d heroine falls in love with d handsome dude after initial hatred

HembaqMbk:
Bible says "Love your wife". It is a commandment. So just love her. It is the only way to cope.

If possible close your eye to fvck her.

50% of marriage is by "mistake" that is she is pregnant or marriage by pity.

Use that affection that attracted you to her in the first instance when you re wooing her.

ollins:
Let me cut the story short. Had a fling with this girl, along the line she got pregnant. You know all that talk of "if you could sleep with her, then you must marry her" "if you got her pregnant then you must marry her", Iooking back now, I wished I hadn't listened to all those voices.

I knew in my heart that I didn't love her, even she knew but the pressure from the family was too much, I had to marry her. On my marriage day I was practically crying within me.

Her character is just opposite of all I wanted in a woman, she's barely educated, loud and loquacious.

That's my cross I am carrying today, stuck in a loveless marriage.

The warmth and Romance is absent from our home, we have not had intimacy since beginning of the year till now, we just have no interest anymore in each other. We are just living together for the sake of our child.

My question now is how does one cope�? Is this how I am going to live the rest of my life?

Forget love, there is nothing like romantic love, the truth is, she is not your spec when it comes to physical beauty.

But I want to advice you as a guy that married one of the most beautiful career lady with amazing character who happened to be my friend before we married.


Brother, after few years of marriage or even few months, your wife's body will not be tempting and inviting to you like before when you first met her.

So its not about love or anything, it is how most if not all men are wired, but men love to tell lies to women and to themselves to make them feel good, they will pretend like their wife is still appealing to them like when they first met, na lie!!


Marriage is not about sex or romance, don't let people deceive you with their lies of how they still have sex or romance with their partners na lie!!


After few years of marriage, most marriages no longer rely on sex, couple might go months without sex no matter how sexy the wife maybe, its normal for most exposed and balling men not to feel the urge again because if your game is tight as a man, you easily get bored of things - be it food, woman, etc....u get tired of one thing too easily, unless your game is not tight then u stick to one thing out of no choice.

Haven't you wondered why almost all rich men have mistresses and concubines Haven't you ever wondered why Bible said it will be easier for a camel to pass through the eye of a needle than for a rich man to enter heaven Women matter is one of the reasons.

What am I saying

Even if u married your dream woman like me, believe me, u wouldn't have been fvcking her every now and then like u feel right now, u will be bored of her, she would be naked and u won't feel anything.


What will keep u guys going are your lovely kids, your life goals; financial goals being chased together and met, projects, career and business growth targets and discussions.


Only poor people sustain their marriage with sex! Reason they make too many babies!!


Only poor men fvck their wife everyday or every week because they have no other job or option....that their ekuke mgbeke wife they see everyday is their only diamond, they don't travel much to see sexy supermodels, so their wife remains their supermodel that once they see her they spread her legs like Aboki mat


Focus on your life goals, help your wife develop a career path or a business or sellable handwork and start planning and executing together action plans to help her grow in her career or business or handwork and you will begin to cherish her.


Remove your mind from sex. Even if u married Kim Kardashian, u will still get tired of fvcking her and will most likely cheat on her with one village chick or lower class girl, that's how men are.



If you feel the urge to fvck, u are free to get a mistress that meets your sexual and physical spec but make sure u are buoyant financially.

, Danny u hennn .. its okay.
Btw why will u marry someone u don't love, oh ok some do it cuz of money sha.

Dannyfan:
I can't imagine sleeping with someone I don't love. You nkoor Anuoluwa1234?

My brother. You die there oo

No escape for you.

ollins:
Let me cut the story short. Had a fling with this girl, along the line she got pregnant. You know all that talk of "if you could sleep with her, then you must marry her" "if you got her pregnant then you must marry her", Iooking back now, I wished I hadn't listened to all those voices.

I knew in my heart that I didn't love her, even she knew but the pressure from the family was too much, I had to marry her. On my marriage day I was practically crying within me.

Her character is just opposite of all I wanted in a woman, she's barely educated, loud and loquacious.

That's my cross I am carrying today, stuck in a loveless marriage.

The warmth and Romance is absent from our home, we have not had intimacy since beginning of the year till now, we just have no interest anymore in each other. We are just living together for the sake of our child.

My question now is how does one cope�? Is this how I am going to live the rest of my life?

To your question; the answer is yes.


Now you have her all to yourself.

Oya now is the time to "chop" her in confidence instead of the "rush rush" weh you dey do before.

Let me sing you a song by TuBaba; in his voice:

"Just like rain drops falling from my eyes
Just like tear drops falling from the sky
It is like a blessing, a blessing in disguise
That we fail to realize
Now I have to pay the price, pay the price

See, young man, be careful and think it twice
Before you choose to use, before you choose to use, to use your device
So you don't have rain drops falling from your eyes
When you see your blessing in disguise
Oh what a sacrifice, a sacrifice"


Just download the song and listen to it �

Look for d beautiful things about her and don't focus on d ugly and negative part she exibit.blive me u you di*k will come around

baby124:

He is like that because he thinks he was forced against his will. If this girl had aborted he will go back and be bleeping her. He just does not want to be responsible or did not see himself getting married so soon. He can make the decision to make it work. He’s just resentful that all. The crying inside on his wedding days speaks clearly of that .

Sex comes with a lot of responsibilities and our young men need to know that. If you don’t want a lifetime of sorrow from STD or a lifetime of expense of a child, use a CONDOM! Will you be happy if someone did this to your daughter and comes up with these useless excuses? He could has escaped his self created problem with a 100 naira condom pere! Do you realize how cheap that is?

Sex is for adults willing to take responsibility of whatever comes out of their sexual encounters. He has shown us he’s a big boy and a man that can even impregnate. He should make the effort to make his marriage work. I have not seen anything bad about the woman that they cannot work together to have a good marriage.

I get you. But I must point out that in as much as we have the word “responsible”, we also have a word “over-responsible”.
A man who impregnates a girl is responsible for the pregnancy(During the stage), and the child when he/she is born. He has the responsibility of playing a fatherly role on the child. Getting married because one impregnate a girl is too much of a log to carry. And I feel it is nothing than BlackMail.

I don't know why you are wasting your time coming here to disturb us. Marriage is not by force and it is meant to be enjoyed. If you know you do not love the girl and you are no longer enjoying the relationship, call it quits and take a walk. Forget about the child that is tying you down, your child will survive and your happiness matters too. You can't continue to live in bondage for the rest of your life. Get out now before the devil will push you to do what you will forever regret for the rest of your life. Vickyrotex iya wa abi kini mo wi?

I think you dwell more on her bad habits; things that she does to hurt you, things you dislike about her and all you consider to be her imperfections. It's really tough being cought up in the web you are entangled in right now. I will suggest you don't see divorce as the only and the best available way out. As long as she's not abusive to the extent of engaging you in physical combat, you can still help the situation.

Just try and know her. Relate with her as a husband that you are to her and respect her. While it is possible and easy for one to fall out of love with someone one dearly loves.it is also possible for one to fall in love with someone one never loved or ever dreamt of loving.

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gudvibz:
Try and get to know her, try understanding her and get all to her. Both of u need to sit down and talk about you (both) and ur likes and dislikes, virtually about everything, if nothing changes well separation or u bear it till the end.

You know love is grown

why can't him just divorce her!

U slept with a lady u didnt love without protection, what were u expecting? An Iphone...

U need slap

donbachi:
I rather marry 10 times,than die in one..their is no coping in hell,no amendments,no repentance...u just stay there and burn.

You are quite funny but I love your sincerity , bluntness (if there is any word such as this) and for being too realistic

stanliwise:
I get you. But I must point out that in as much as we have the word “responsible”, we also have a word “over-responsible”.
A man who impregnated a girl is responsible for the pregnancy(During the stage), and the child when he/she is born. He has the responsibility of playing a fatherly role on the child. Getting married because one impregnate a girl is too much of a log to carry. And I feel it is nothing that BlackMail.

I concur. No one can use pregnancy to tie me down, not even mynd44, Vickyrotex, seunmohmoh,Bola146 or notoriousbabe

hehehehehehehehehehehehe

Have you tried to bring her to your level. Like upgrade her, bring her to your class, give her the necessary exposure, etc?

How did your prick manage to raise n do the do with a woman or lady, you got no chemistry with hmmmm? Whatever happens then, let it come bk then u guys r cool

ollins:
Let me cut the story short. Had a fling with this girl, along the line she got pregnant. You know all that talk of "if you could sleep with her, then you must marry her" "if you got her pregnant then you must marry her", Iooking back now, I wished I hadn't listened to all those voices.

I knew in my heart that I didn't love her, even she knew but the pressure from the family was too much, I had to marry her. On my marriage day I was practically crying within me.

Her character is just opposite of all I wanted in a woman, she's barely educated, loud and loquacious.

That's my cross I am carrying today, stuck in a loveless marriage.

The warmth and Romance is absent from our home, we have not had intimacy since beginning of the year till now, we just have no interest anymore in each other. We are just living together for the sake of our child.

My question now is how does one cope�? Is this how I am going to live the rest of my life?

put her to school and learn to love her.

Bros kpele.

gudvibz:
Try and get to know her, try understanding her and get all to her. Both of u need to sit down and talk about you (both) and ur likes and dislikes, virtually about everything, if nothing changes well separation or u bear it till the end.

You know love is grown

This case is very different my dear..

sylve11:
You're in for a long thing.
In the hay days when you're telling her you loved her just to spread her like bedsheet on top a sheet, so you're telling lies, isn't it?

I will not say much because If you nor know how song take start make you no go hurry dance put, before you go dance GARALA inside ASONTO....

What's the name of the song

ollins:
Let me cut the story short. Had a fling with this girl, along the line she got pregnant. You know all that talk of "if you could sleep with her, then you must marry her" "if you got her pregnant then you must marry her", Iooking back now, I wished I hadn't listened to all those voices.

I knew in my heart that I didn't love her, even she knew but the pressure from the family was too much, I had to marry her. On my marriage day I was practically crying within me.

Her character is just opposite of all I wanted in a woman, she's barely educated, loud and loquacious.

That's my cross I am carrying today, stuck in a loveless marriage.

The warmth and Romance is absent from our home, we have not had intimacy since beginning of the year till now, we just have no interest anymore in each other. We are just living together for the sake of our child.

My question now is how does one cope�? Is this how I am going to live the rest of my life?

You have to carry your cross. Your case will teach others lesson not to engage in premarital sex.

genq:



One thing you women don't understand is a man can sleep with a lady he detests! As long as there's the desire to bust a nuut .. once a hole is available, that it.

OP, love cannot be forced. If y'all ain't feeling each other, call it off abeg. She's probably just as miserable so what's the use of hanging on

don't mind their(WOMEN) HYPOCRISY. they(WOMEN) know. she's just trying to form SAVAGE and the "YOU GOT WHAT U DESERVED CREW"

99.99% of Women are wicked and MEAN only after REVENGE AND PAYBACK.

they don't know,
how come they have 2-3 boyfriends ( LOVE, SEX AND ATM)?
How come they date SUGAR DADDIES when they have a real boyfriend?